Girlfriend and social media

[tillIDrop]

Hello.
I'm 22 and my girlfriend is 21. Been together for a month and a half but plowin her for maybe 8 months. I really like her and our relationship has had some problems in the trust department...nothing serious like cheating though.

She posts pics on IG and loves social media. She has pics with her guy and girlfriends (and I'm ok with her having guy friends as I am not a controlling *******) but she never bothered to post one picture of us. She might have had me on snapchat once all this time but that's it. When I asked her about it , I was upset that she uploaded another pic with a guy friend. She says she looks bad in the pics we have taken before. And that she doesn't want her family becoming involved in her dating life which I agree is okay. I told her she didn't have to call me her boyfriend on Instagram where her family could see but to atleast have a picture up. She says she has one of dinner she was gonna post after she had finished posting a graduation picture and another picture with her friends again (guy included) which leaves my picture to be posted coincidentally at the time of graduation. I have zero pics with her on IG.

I don't care for social media nor do I care to be in the publics eye because our relationship is between us. But is this okay? The underlying message here is what bothers me. What should I do?

I asked here instead of the Tmisc section hoping to get a more mature response lol. Thanks guys.

[jesteraq]

NC is that way --->

[tillIDrop]

Sorry I don't follow

[peterj1994]

lol

[Maximus93]

Stop being such a ******* for starters. I don't have social media so my opinion might be a bit skewed but the bigger issue is you giving a chit, not that she's not putting you in her pictures. If she wasn't meandering away from you before then being a whiny cuck about not being in pictures seems like it would do the trick.

Do you plow her on the regular and are exclusive? Seems like there's your answer right there.

[run_lola_run]

She posts pics on IG and loves social media. She has pics with her guy and girlfriends
She posts pics on IG and loves social media. She has pics
She posts pics on IG
She posts pics
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she posts pics. you do not

[Nelly87]

"I'm 22"...

Stats: Age 23.

What is this?

If srs - bro you're both young. You banged for 8 months without a title. Obviously she is more into her outward projection on other people. Just continue to bang and have fun but don't have expectations at this point. You both are young and probably dating/banging around. It's normal.

Honestly, outside looking in. To me, she would just be a fuk buddy and nothing more, nothing less. I would even venture out to see about bangin other people due to her not wanting to label you guys anything. If she gets mad it's cause she is gettin jelly you're gunna be chattin/bangin other chicks while she has been with other guys, you'll no longer be her safety net emotional tampon.

[roko79]

if she isn't proud to show you off in pictures to those she feels closest to, then she isn't your girlfriend.

[Zackad]

since you guys have trust issues...she's either cheating or leaving her social media open so jumping back into her slooting ways is an easier transition.


but then again, it's only been a month and a half.




moral of the story, don't stress so much until you think/are sure that this will turn into something more serious. although if she really liked you, she'd want to put up a pic of you and her, or at least would stop putting up pics of her with other straight dudes

[tillIDrop]

Don't get me wrong guys I hate social media, I still use it but I could give a chit less for it. Again its her motivations that worry me. Yeah we're exclusive but why would she rather post pics with other guys in it and here I am kept a secret?

[dbluevette]

pics of gf?

[imrocksolid]

she posts pics. you do not

this.

[tillIDrop]

So what's the ultimatum here guys? I think she's trying to keep an open end here just incase. she gave her reasons yesterday but i didn't put an ultimatum on her (not that I want to or should)

[DeltaI80]

I don't think you are really her boyfriend....you're more like contingency plan B or C

Source: the 500+ other threads just like this one.

[Illuminatty]

don't delay the inevitable

[TrueForester]

She wants to live the single life but have a boy friend at the same time.

AKA if Chad comes along she can play single and try bagging him, but you spend money on her for holidays/dates in the mean time.

[Ruban90]

You got five mins to post pics of gf or negs

[UnclRuckus]

Don't get me wrong guys I hate social media, I still use it but I could give a chit less for it. Again its her motivations that worry me. Yeah we're exclusive but why would she rather post pics with other guys in it and here I am kept a secret?

If you've only been seeing her for a couple months I dont think it's that weird. I personally think it's a little tacky to plaster your relationships all over social media since it's so permanent. I don't want a public record of all my exes made available for anyone with Google mang. Not gonna put up any pics with any girl unless we've been dating for a decent while and I know she's not batchit srs.

Maybe she's just giving it some time to see if it'll work out before she adds you to her permanent online presence nomsayin brah?

[JyzzMagnet]

i dont advocate for reading into the little things, but yea doesnt sound like shes proud of showing you off and/or her family would disapprove of you.. are you a ethnic brah slamming her tight pink sugar walls? otherwise, if on paper u guys would work out then that means you and her aren't looksmatched and so u should start shopping around for other honeys

[spurz89]

Let me get this straight...
- Refuses to post pics with you
- Claims every pic she happens to take with you "looks bad"
- Has no problems posting pics of her with EVERYONE else, especially guys
- Doesnt want her parents to know about you

and youre asking if there might be a problem? lol
Sounds like she thinks you arent attractive or popular enough.

Do you spend a lot of money on outings/gifts for her OP? You might be getting used.

[tillIDrop]

She does love me guys and is faithful she just likes the image I guess. She says she was gonna post a pic of us but then says its in line with other pics and will happen prolly around graduation. Why that day? The day where she goes home and leaves the fun college life and doesn't have to worry about how she looks with me as a part of her image? That's why I was cool with her posting a pic later till I realized its BS unless she were to post it before grad.

[run_lola_run]

I don't care for social media nor do I care to be in the publics eye because our relationship is between us.

Maybe you answered your own question here. If you want to be on her IG then start taking pics with her. Then post them here. Seriously, OP, this is the misc. We don't have girlfriends of our own we need to live vicariously through you.

EDIT: OP you are giving us mixed messages. You don't like to take pics or be on social media and wonder why there are no pics of you on her IG?

EDIT 2: And if you don't want to be on social media then why do you care?

[Evolutionary1]

She wants to live the single life but have a boy friend at the same time.

AKA if Chad comes along she can play single and try bagging him, but you spend money on her for holidays/dates in the mean time.

this, her excuse is bs

[EnforcerOTF]

lol my ex would post pics of us everyday and pics of just me saying how lucky she is

ur with the wrong girl bruh

[RoycaDa511]

Good night sweet prince few posts up.


Also negged for no pics.

[PisseninMisc]

Do I think what she's doing is inherently sketchy? Maybe, depends a lot on further detail. That's besides the point though.

If you want a serious relationship, your feelings matter. A healthy relationship isn't built on trying to give each other ultimatums and playing games. If she cares about you, she would stop if you asked her; it doesnt sound like she's willing to do that.

Now the balls in your court. You're 23 bro so what are you going to do? Keep going with her and try to grow together is one option. Going NC and moving on to the next is the other extreme end of your options. Somewhere in between would be just dating while you both monkey branch, or have the talk with her and reduce back to fukbuddy.

All options could be viable, but you're the one making the decisions because it's your life.

[mikenorwood961]

if she isn't proud to show you off in pictures to those she feels closest to, then she isn't your girlfriend.

this

sorry OP, she's embarrassed of you

[spurz89]

Also if she was been fukking OP for 8 months and not been exclusive until recently making she doesnt want to answer questions about how long they have been involved. Maybe had a different bf/fukk buddy during that time as well

[RollingStones]

Srs response

I was with a girl exactly like this, she told me she never uploded pics to her insta of her boyfriends before either, was with her one day and told her lets take a pic on snapchat and she didnt want to do it, "i dont do that" i believed her. Never had a pic of us on her social media.

Shes now my ex and i still have her on snaphat, SHES ALWAYS UPLOADING SNAPS WITH HER CURRENT BOYFRIEND, yea it feels bad but **** her, oh her insta also has pics of her and her new boyfriend.

So OP dump her now and save yourself any more time you are going to waste in this relationship, fukkng listen to me dont be a retard

[m1n2v5]

She's uploading all these pics, yet I see none ITT...