This.
A handful of messages, maybe 3-5 is enough to establish you're not a creep. There is literally no point in wasting time after that, the only way to establish compatibility is in person. Also, some other guy is pushing for a meet sooner, and if he captures her interest.. guess what, you're getting ghosted.
You will save yourself a lot of time and frustration if you get to the point quicker. A girl I talked to recently said she couldn't meet until like 10 days in the future, well there's no chance I'm gonna keep messaging her for 10 days lol - will send her a message in a couple weeks if I remember. That's an eternity on these apps, I treat it like she's completely gone.
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07-01-2019, 04:28 PM #92
Not all women are the same though. I have met people who told me they found their bf/gf online and that they chatted for weeks before finally meeting in person. I don't think it's that uncommon.
I totally get the approach where you cut right to the chase and see whose interested and serious right away. But you can't honestly believe that there aren't conservative and modest girls who just want to talk for a bit until they feel comfortable enough with you. Idk man, patience is a virtue. When I match, screen, and immediately filter out girls who don't express interest I feel like I'm going 100mph and passing up opportunities. Who knows, maybe she doesn't intend to meet but then changes her mind.
I agree that it's generally a good rule of thumb to cut to the chase and filter out those who aren't serious, but I also think its ok to make exceptions when you feel like it and you shouldn't feel like a fool for doing so.
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07-01-2019, 05:24 PM #95
Yep. Any girl from online dating is a **** and chuck, for the right dude of course. If sheโs wont meet up with you that night or the very next day youโre wasting your time.
I aim to convert chatting to a meetup in 10 messages or less. If sheโs not down it just means sheโs not down with you. You think sheโd give Ryan Reynolds the โonce the bra is off the night is over and I canโt meet youโ excuse? Yea right. 10 messages. Meet up or next. Thatโs my game now.
(I just got that โbra off, night overโ excuse 5 minutes ago) Theyโll say anything to keep you on for attention but not to take action. Deleted. Blocked. Next.
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07-02-2019, 07:53 AM #99
Yeah, that's how it goes, online or in real life. It would be great if the sloot would just be honest and say "I got cold feet and don't want to meet you anymore" or "I didn't actually want to go out with anyone, just doing this for self-esteem reasons." You would think that most guys would respect her much more and say "OK, have a nice day."
Bishes have this idea that we they just lie and throw in the bonus lie of saying "sorry, [insert excuse]" is better then just being honest. Oh well
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07-02-2019, 08:13 AM #100
Steps 1-7 takes at most 60 minutes of your time over the course of the week. It takes so little effort, that you should be doing the exact same thing to 4 other chicks at the same time. Lay the groundwork and your date will be 10x better than if you didn't. If you do it right, she's already thinking about hooking up with you on your first date.
If you can't keep a chick interested for a week, how are you going to keep her interested for the rest of her life?
I have never had a chick not want to meet me after a few days of texting. If it doesn't click, it's usually within the first few msgs.
If you are texting a woman for an extended period of time and she decides she doesn't want to meet you or ghosts, she was giving you negative IOI's long before that point and you didn't pick up on it.Last edited by pondus_levo; 07-02-2019 at 08:20 AM.
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07-02-2019, 12:03 PM #102
This makes a lot of sense.
There are exceptions to every rule but by when you don't follow the rules and waste time and effort accordingly, it's partly your own fault for not following the rules in the first place.
For the record, the 2 girls I met off bumble (both quality women) took quite some time to respond to messages (usually no more than 2 messages per day, and sometimes took a few days to respond) so I matched their frequency and put effort into the messages (pretty quickly became multiple sentences per message) and it took 2+ weeks to establish an in person meeting. One was a single mom who was just toying with getting back into dating about 8 months after her engagement ended (didn't work out and despite the single-mom stigma's I thought she was solid) and the other had some walls up when it came to dating and really didn't prioritize it much but was actually quite social and outgoing and it moved slow but we ended up dating and have been going strong for ~9 months now.
These might be "exceptions" to the rule but I will say I never invested much into either of them early on and kept being open to meeting other women as well until things finally turned more serious with the 2nd one after ~6 dates or so. As much as people don't like the thought of dating multiple people at once, for some it helps keep them grounded so they don't get too pushy/needy trying to ramp things up with any one woman. Just important to at the same time recognize when it's time to end things with others and focus on one if you think they're someone with whom a legit relationship might be worth pursuing.
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07-02-2019, 09:14 PM #108
Women rarely message first. It happens, but usually it's either a really weak opener (if the girl is reasonably cute), or a decent opener from a women that's unattractive. I guess you don't match with women you find unattractive though due to your careful selection.
Women that are attractive simply just don't have to bother opening. And won't unless you really stand out to her.๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ถ, ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐๐
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07-02-2019, 11:10 PM #109
Online dating is super low investment so donโt expect a lot of girls to be keen on meeting.
I get the feeling youโre taking this too seriously and rushing things. Move the ball, but understand that these women have no idea who you are and are dealing with hundreds of thirsty ass dudes all day so itโs in their best interest to screen the **** out of every guy they match with.
Relax, have a fun chat, move it to text and build rapport. Once rapport is built ask them out. Youโre trying to close the sale too early. Make them agree to multiple small asks first so that them meeting up with you to grab a drink doesnโt seem like a big deal.
I personally do not do online dating much anymore due to the unbalanced power dynamic on it. I much rather talk to girls in person.Union Strong. Workers are stronger together.
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07-03-2019, 03:20 PM #110
Low interest. #next
Repeat till dead or D stops working. Man, you're 33. You should know better by now lol.
Use apps but they're for women. If you get a girl you like, she's not been waiting to meet you and only you. She's been jumping off the dick and going nuts.
I'm game. Just begin trolling when they talk cereal relationships and leaving bridal magazines around.
At your age, look up the hottest chicks you went to college or high school with. Dumpster fire lol
Ive said it for ages man. Men peak late. Women peak mad Early. In the time she could be locking down a man, she's running through dudes and having kids out of wedlock.
There's nothing funnier than running into women from the past. Fat as ****kkk, multiple kids, diff baby daddy. Lulz good riddance.
Even better when running into a train wreck when you're with a girl late teens or early 20s. No better feels.
Life trolls women harder than you ever could.
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07-05-2019, 11:25 AM #117
Except there are many people in happy, stable marriages with loved kids. Which beats empty sex with Tinder sluts.
Classifying women the way you do (fat, divorced, unhappy) is cope, and probably a way to make yourself feel better for lack of success when younger. But I can see why miscers like you, you say the type of stuff that makes them feel better.
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