How to make friends (srs)

[DontSpankMe]

I open up snapchat and see all of my "friends" having fun and hanging out then there's me who woke up from a nap on a Saturday night. No one ever invites me anywhere so I guess its time to make new friends. How do you make friends?

[kalvinmc]

school

[Tune5k]

school

this is how i made new friends at 26...fuark misc is on that depressed time today.

[ineed$]

go to the hood and approche a bunch of blacks with bandannas on

[DontSpankMe]

school

How do you make friends in school?

[AcetylCoA]

i also want to know

[Ironmanlet]

the only way to make friends is to have a common interest and exploit it.

I make friends at work because we share that. i make friends in astronomy because we share that. go out and do things, find interests and interact with people. It is the greatest thing we can do.

start at the gym.

[toodieselbro]

the only way to make friends is to have a common interest and exploit it.

I make friends at work because we share that. i make friends in astronomy because we share that. go out and do things, find interests and interact with people. It is the greatest thing we can do.

start at the gym.

Yes to everything but the gym part lol I honestly feel like that's the worst place.
Usually when I go, I dont Want to talk to anybody. I just want to train. Hate when ppl try to small talk with me there.

Maybe it's just me

[Ironmanlet]

Yes to everything but the gym part lol I honestly feel like that's the worst place.
Usually when I go, I dont Want to talk to anybody. I just want to train. Hate when ppl try to small talk with me there.

Maybe it's just me

I get that there is a purpose and we should not lose focus. But it is possible to develop relationships with people and maintain that focus. I love sharing and receiving information about experience and different ways to do things in every task I attempt. The gym is no different.

don't get me wrong, I don't just walk up to people and interrupt them. It is not awkward or anything, but conversations and relationships just happen.

[Succeeded]

I lost most of mine but have tons of acquaintances

[artDDP]

I'm able to interact with people but it stops dead at taking it to the friendship level. I have reasoned that I'm a completely repulsive person and live and do everything alone (100% srs).

[Ironmanlet]

I'm able to interact with people but it stops dead at taking it to the friendship level. I have reasoned that I'm a completely repulsive person and live and do everything alone (100% srs).

I can empathize bro. I am pretty awkward IRL (well on here too) but I have recently started focusing on and taking specific action to develop personal relationships. What we are lacking here is definitions.

How do you define friendship and can you identify exactly what prevents that from happening?

[kissmyasthma]

u gotta give in at first, be almost beta but once you establish that relationship you can give or take
that's friendship

[itsggmg]

Damn. Misc really is lonely I met my best buds in elementary and college. Common interests really help

[Mcfreako]

Just be really cool like me

[Ironmanlet]

Just be really cool like me

you spelled potato wrong

[artDDP]

I can empathize bro. I am pretty awkward IRL (well on here too) but I have recently started focusing on and taking specific action to develop personal relationships. What we are lacking here is definitions.

How do you define friendship and can you identify exactly what prevents that from happening?

Friendship to me is someone who will listen to you, go out with you, at least return your calls and texts. I have none of those. I listen to people all day long and make myself available to anyone and everyone although I'm starting to pull back lately. But when I'm going through something I get a typical "that sucks, you'll be okay" with a quick pat on the back and they are desperate to change the subject.

If I could answer the second question I wouldn't be here right now. I try to be a nice, approachable guy who treats himself with respect but somehow I just can't progress beyond that acquaintance level with anyone.

[Partymonster]

All of my close friends are from school, but I move around a lot so my regular friends come from my job and common interests.

[MrStealYoGrill]

I made a friend in one of my classes because we had no idea how to do chit and worked together/****ed around. He was cool and stuff so we became friends.
My other partner was shy/quiet like me so it went nowhere. Just try to not be a weirdo and you'll find a friend eventually.

Edit: Also what IronManlet said

[Sinan09400]

the only way to make friends is to have a common interest and exploit it.

Lol not rly.

I have tons of hobbies (most focused on sea), like I dive with people or give courses but still 0 friends. I got used to it tho, it does not bother me anymore

Went nc on all elementary and hs friends 4 years ago because they all were boring hobbyless rotters.

[MrStealYoGrill]

Lol not rly.

I have tons of hobbies (most focused on sea), like I dive with people or give courses but still 0 friends. I got used to it tho, it does not bother me anymore

Went nc on all elementary and hs friends 4 years ago because they all were boring hobbyless rotters.

If you are an awkward sperg it goes like this.

I did taekwondo for 5 years, did not make a single friend in the dojo depsite training there several times a week. Older members would say hi to me but most kids wont even look at you unless you are their friend so I was always alone.

[rynnp]

Yes to everything but the gym part lol I honestly feel like that's the worst place.
Usually when I go, I dont Want to talk to anybody. I just want to train. Hate when ppl try to small talk with me there.

Maybe it's just me

lol a gym buddy would be GOAT imo. (gym is one of the msot important things to me)
one who is also slightly introverted so we dont have to make small talk but talk about gym stuff and mostly listen to music and motivate each other in the gym/workout together without talking too much

IMO. and then when we go to isolations we can chill mroe abit and shoot the ****.

u gotta give in at first, be almost beta but once you establish that relationship you can give or take
that's friendship

pretty good advice.

most people wanna seem cool af so they might not hit you up and people are naturally guarded (just natural: people are more likely to want to protect themselves than be vulnerable) and they might actually be chillin at home lookin for a homie.

if you want to make friends YOU will have to initiate. dont just be a yes man. but INITIATE. (and obviously act interested and all that jazz so the person will let their guard down and open up)

Damn. Misc really is lonely I met my best buds in elementary and college. Common interests really help

can you make friends outside of school though?


a lot of people start moving places so they dont necesarily keep in touch with those they became friends with at school. plus the first few weeks of school is easy to make friends because everyone is in the same boat (looking for friends) especially pre-college when we were forced (or encouraged) to do/join sports. I truly believe sports is one of the best way to make friends because ur working on a team, struggling and workign together to a common goal.

[PenorBrahNoHomo]

Try inviting them somewhere next weekend, or tomorrow. If you usually act reserved you have to make some effort. You could be likable but just forgettable so you get overlooked, in this case just be more outgoing and give less fuks in general. They might start inviting you once you seem like you're actually interested in hanging out.

[Shin0bi]

Become friends with yourself first u ***got. Noone wants to be friends with a ***got

[Micuzzo]

[codefreeze]

here's a scumbag tip (SRS)

the day or so you meet someone cool, lie and say you're going to a party or function that night, embellish the **** out of it

it doesn't have to be real. ask if they "want to come along", this goes 50/50. if yes then say great blah blah ill text u fam, then later make some genuine reason why it was cancelled / you're not doing it. if no then youre good

theyll usually try to invite it to their next sht, always reciprocal

[yochrisss]

No idea man, every friend ive had has moved on in some way.

Now I feel like a loser that only hangs with his gf