You want to pay $150 to go and eat with a girl on a fake date, basically. How about you redirect your $150 to bettering yourself. Books, gym membership, whatever.
You know why you haven't had a date? Because you haven't made yourself into somebody who is desirable to date. Why would a funny, confident, smart, and attractive girl go out with somebody who doesn't embody those same characteristics? Because you are nice? There are a ton of nice guys out there, but you've got to have more than just that. Make yourself desirable if you are not. Go to the gym and work on bettering yourself physically (NOT to get girls, but to become healthy, get stronger and the result of those things, confidence). Read- fiction, philosophy, academic reading, whatever interests you. Get hobbies. Put yourself in uncomfortable positions so that they no longer become uncomfortable situations (for instance, if you hate public speaking, conquer that fear by volunteering for those types of things- class projects, presentations at work, etc. Over time, it will get easier and easier and you will become more confident. Or something more applicable to this scenario- go out and talk to girls. You might face plant the first few times, but you'll get better and better). And really, the major point I was trying to drive home about putting yourself in uncomfortable situations is- learn to not give a fu
ck about what people think. Life is too short to live your life in fear about what some random people think about you, lol. Don't put people on a pedestal, especially some sloot who has done nothing to deserve it.
I'm not saying that to be disparaging, but to try and help. Some people have those qualities naturally while others have to work at them. I've been fortunate in my experience to be naturally inclined to those things. If you are not, then you may have to put in more effort to better yourself. I'm not saying to be fake and become somebody you are not. However, self improvement is good and I try to get better every day- whether that is more weight in the gym, learning something new, or to experience something new.
I mean personally, I go to the gym, play video games, watch TV shows, travel, read books (both academic and leisure), and just genuinely have a bunch of interests. This lends itself well to conversation because you can bring something to the table and be interesting to people. Again, these are things I legitimately like.
Edit- to sum up my post. This is the equivalent of teaching a man to fish vs giving a man a fish. By bettering yourself and becoming desirable, you can be successful for the rest of your life (because you know how to fish). Paying $150 for a date gives you fake success for a night (because you were given a fish).
Good luck, brah.
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