I can never trust a girl again

[SaltyDog920]

Know the feels, OP. Was with the same girl for almost 8 years. Noticed her schedule getting later and later over a couple months. Then started getting woken up by late night text messages and emails notifications to her phone. Then she started acting differently. Then, she met me in the driveway one random day and said we need to break since you'll never marry me. I still don't buy that excuse as her behavior changed drastically in a short period of time. 6 months later she's engaged to someone she knows from her industry.

Sucks, bro that women can't shoot straight. Just be THANKFUL you're still very young. However bad it feels, it's much worse at an older age. It happened when I was 28 and most girls in that age group are in serious relationships or married. You should have a huge pool in your age group. Just find a great wingman; helped me get back out there and pick up the pieces.

I could sit here and pretend to give advice, but as many others have said, only time heals. Good luck, man.

[azakdan2682]

Women are terrible /thread. Scared of marriage because of all this nonsense these days.

[azakdan2682]

Also I remember this post and everyone told what would happen. The misc always knows about them hoes

[DBoss11]

anytime a girl still deals with her ex boyfriend, you can be sure she still has a thing for him and theirs gonna be trouble.

Yep, I ignored the red flags, I was blinded by "love". All a bunch of bs, I should've dropped her when she brought him up, she clearly still had feelings for him, she was never all about me, everything was a lie.

I was so pissed today from this whole thing, took all that energy out in the gym, absolutely killed my workout, had one of the best lifts ever.

[Studi0sity]

reps op.. I'm currently going through this too. You'll see that after 2 months the late night crying stops and things start to look better. Just keep working on your goals. One day she will see you with a 9.9/10 hbb and see all that you have accomplished and realize she made a big mistake

There's greater than 99% chance that a 9.9/10 HBB is dumb and stupid. Please say something else to alleviate OP's pain.

[Beararms]

Happened to me during my deployment. Ex emailed me saying she needed time to focus on getting promoted and school. A month later she is with someone and few months after that they get married. She had to nerve to message me like nothing was wrong.

[CrimsonSteel]

Most "gay friends" are actually down with the cooze too. Which is even worse - now you got some bisexual orbiter who is gonna fook Leonardo on Tuesday, talk to your GF about it, and by Thursday he'll be balls deep in her sugar walls, coating those walls with the chocolate of mangs angus.

[bowtie35]

I feel you op, the same exact thing happened to me 2 months ago. Literally the same exact thing. Been together for 3 years. We were our first everything. Things got a little rocky about 6 months ago and I was oblivious to the signs. She admitted to seeing another guy behind my back, the same guy she used to fool around with before me. She said she wanted to work it out and I beleived her. A few weeks later she said we needed a break. We broke up and tried to remain friends but when I found out she had been in a relationship with this guy while we were still together I went NC. She is still with him and it sucks to think hiw quickly she moved on as soon as she found someone promising that excited her as she said the passion was gone with me. Girls do this viscious thing where they will move on months before they break up with you. My ex admitted to this. Keep strong man, focus on yourself. I know its hard to do, 2 months later I still wake up and feel angry because of the situation. You will have to forgive her for your own sake. The anger will eat you alive once the pain goes away, trust me. Watch some videos on this subject by the hodge twins. They really helped me toughen up about the situation. If you need to talk dont hesitate to pm me, you arent the only one dealing with this.

[Luc1fer]

Nothing in my life has stung as much as seeing that today, literally one week ago she tells me how much she loves and misses me and wants to work things out, and today there's this.

Damn dude, you should be grateful she's gone out of your life. I would despise a person like that; such a horrible person. I know it's gonna be difficult for you to build trust in another person. But seriously, she's disgusting. There is no way I'd wanna be her friend. Comparing chicks to her? To what, a lying, manipulate, deceitful, selfish person?

[xxxKingxxx]

Bro just stay NC and move on. If shes a liar then there is nothing that she can do for you. It happened to me before and you're right banging sloots does not take away the pain. But bro I will advise to keep talking to girls even if you do not feel that they can replace her. Keep your game up bro, also immerse yourself in other things to take your mind off her. Gaming/Gym/sports etc. Time is what will fix this, but STAY NC!!!

[MeFromG]

Know the feels, OP. Was with the same girl for almost 8 years. Noticed her schedule getting later and later over a couple months. Then started getting woken up by late night text messages and emails notifications to her phone. Then she started acting differently. Then, she met me in the driveway one random day and said we need to break since you'll never marry me. I still don't buy that excuse as her behavior changed drastically in a short period of time. 6 months later she's engaged to someone she knows from her industry.

Sucks, bro that women can't shoot straight. Just be THANKFUL you're still very young. However bad it feels, it's much worse at an older age. It happened when I was 28 and most girls in that age group are in serious relationships or married. You should have a huge pool in your age group. Just find a great wingman; helped me get back out there and pick up the pieces.

I could sit here and pretend to give advice, but as many others have said, only time heals. Good luck, man.

She likely wanted husband, family, maybe kids too. You couldn't or didn't want to provide these. Don't take it out in her. Nobody should wait for sb for decade(s). She had the courage and power to do the only right, tough thing for you both by finally moving on from almost ten years of probably waiting.

[MeFromG]

OP, you are most likely angry with yourself for making it hard on her (and automatically on you two) with statements like "that ship is sailed" etc, when she wanted to meet and or talk with you the past couple of weeks.

I remember you made another thread (I remember well your cute, funny panda head ) and I answered in it, but can't find it anymore, only your last three threads made and none of it is the one I mean.

Forgive yourself and make it better next time you want a person back, if you want her. She basically wanted you to fight for her and not to give up easily on her and your rs with her, and you wanted her to beg and run after you for a bit, kind of a punishment. There was no chance, you two could make up under those circumstances.

Why did you split up again? Maybe you find me also the link to your previous thread.

[AceRok]

I didn't read all the posts in this thread. But OP, lets be honest with ourselves here. How many red flags did you just choose to ignore and let it slide? We all go through a rough relationship where we then learn not to ignore red flags in the future and to have a healthy dose of survival instincts.

[SoberToaster]

lol at her ex boyfriend being "gay"

wut...

how did you buy that one?

[DBoss11]

OP, you are most likely angry with yourself for making it hard on her (and automatically on you two) with statements like "that ship is sailed" etc, when she wanted to meet and or talk with you the past couple of weeks.

I remember you made another thread (I remember well your cute, funny panda head ) and I answered in it, but can't find it anymore, only your last three threads made and none of it is the one I mean.

Forgive yourself and make it better next time you want a person back, if you want her. She basically wanted you to fight for her and not to give up easily on her and your rs with her, and you wanted her to beg and run after you for a bit, kind of a punishment. There was no chance, you two could make up under those circumstances.

Why did you split up again? Maybe you find me also the link to your previous thread.

Why would I fight for someone who left me? She made her choice, I'm not some disposable item that you can just pick up whenever you want, if she truly wanted me back, she would've put the effort in.

Reasons for breakup were that she wants some time to herself, some time alone, her literal words were that she didn't want to be tied down at this point in her life. Then three weeks later in a relationship, thats the chit that stings the most, she just didn't want to be with me, everything else was a lie.

[CagedLion012]

damn dude, i remember the thread the gay friend wanted to go to dinner with your gf thread and daaaammnnnn misc was right about the gay friend trying to get them sugahwalls gooeyy

man just man up and move on, sucks to hear that happened to a brah but it is better than her lying about her gay friend if the relationship kept going, go out do your thing make her hate you by upgrading

[Studi0sity]

Know the feels, OP. Was with the same girl for almost 8 years. Noticed her schedule getting later and later over a couple months. Then started getting woken up by late night text messages and emails notifications to her phone. Then she started acting differently. Then, she met me in the driveway one random day and said we need to break since you'll never marry me. I still don't buy that excuse as her behavior changed drastically in a short period of time. 6 months later she's engaged to someone she knows from her industry.

Sucks, bro that women can't shoot straight. Just be THANKFUL you're still very young. However bad it feels, it's much worse at an older age. It happened when I was 28 and most girls in that age group are in serious relationships or married. You should have a huge pool in your age group. Just find a great wingman; helped me get back out there and pick up the pieces.

I could sit here and pretend to give advice, but as many others have said, only time heals. Good luck, man.

It's not an excuse, but her reason to move on to the next man. 8 years? How many more years do you want her to wait? 80 years?

If you ever wanted to marry, you would have said to her, "hon, let's get married after a year or two," and she would have stayed on. From your post, it appears that you did not say to her anything to this effect.

The fault was yours and to an extent, hers too, because you both had different views and goals, when it came to your relationship. Both man and woman should figure this out, i.e., what each person's relationship goals and views are, before entering into relationship rather than wasting years and years after getting into relationship. It's common sense. She wanted to get married, and you did not; hence, she moved on to the man who wants to get married too. You can have your own children even at age 50, 60, and 70, but she should have her own children before she hits age 40. Her biological clock was ticking. She moved on. I do not blame her.

[Luc1fer]

Why would I fight for someone who left me? She made her choice, I'm not some disposable item that you can just pick up whenever you want, if she truly wanted me back, she would've put the effort in.

Reasons for breakup were that she wants some time to herself, some time alone, her literal words were that she didn't want to be tied down at this point in her life. Then three weeks later in a relationship, thats the chit that stings the most, she just didn't want to be with me, everything else was a lie.

Just view it as an incompatibility. All women make up bull**** lies when they're breaking up. It ended in her mind a long time ago when you noticed the distance.

[DBoss11]

I didn't read all the posts in this thread. But OP, lets be honest with ourselves here. How many red flags did you just choose to ignore and let it slide? We all go through a rough relationship where we then learn not to ignore red flags in the future and to have a healthy dose of survival instincts.

All of them, I ignored all of them, she had many, but I was a beta phuck and liked her too much and ignored every one, here I am now paying for it.

If there's one thing I learned its that with whoever the next girl will be, she's gone at the first red flag.

[TioDonDeNegro]

I remember i used to be head over heels for this chick when I was 13/14. Ignored all red flags due to naturally high HGH Test and Adenosine clogging my pre frontal cortex. Luckily I couldn't pursue due to distance she turned out to be HUGE SLOOT in college (was ALWAYS an attention whore since we were young, daddy issues)

Point is though by age 25 hormones are calming down NO EXCUSES we need to make better choices in Women. If you are too old to enlist in the army you are too old to be ****ing up with Women.

We need to raise the bar bros its 2015 not 1995

Excuse the grammar, typos on mobile...

[sirgainztoomuch]

Woooow... sorry OP. slots gonna sloot. Phucked her man. Focus on yourself and cut her out of everything. Why would you want to see new pics and relationship statuses lol. Cut it out mannng!!!

[MeFromG]

Why would I fight for someone who left me? She made her choice...

Nobody's decision is without fault ever. She wanted to correct it and establish contact again. You mainly dismissed her afterwards, it seems. So, don't complain now, that she sought closeness in someone else's arms; someone of her past too, but who was willing to make up.

[DBoss11]

Nobody's decision is without fault ever. She wanted to correct it and establish contact again. You mainly dismissed her afterwards, it seems. So, don't complain now, that she sought closeness in someone else's arms; someone of her past too, but who was willing to make up.

I didn't dismiss her, I had a busy week, and told her we can meet the following week. What does she do? She gets back together with her ex, shows how much I meant to her that she couldn't wait a few days. Fuk that

[kjoel007]

I didn't dismiss her, I had a busy week, and told her we can meet the following week. What does she do? She gets back together with her ex, shows how much I meant to her that she couldn't wait a few days. Fuk that

Stop responding to MeFromG, and making us read her chitty posts. She's not even a dude, and yet the only female in here. She posts nothing of value.

She's red for a reason, you keep ignoring red flags even here... hahaha. Wtf is wrong with you mane, lol.

Anyway, we warned you before, you ignored. Stay NC and listen to us this time.

[Coreyned]

GTF in here brah. Know those feels all too well - we're gonna make it, and come out stronger srs.
Stay strong

This gif. lmaooooo

[MeFromG]

I didn't dismiss her, I had a busy week, and told her we can meet the following week. What does she do? She gets back together with her ex, shows how much I meant to her that she couldn't wait a few days. Fuk that

But only about two, three weeks ago you told her "that ship is sailed" - and who knows what else you mentioned to her, while she was sad because you didn't want to make up again. Next time give a concrete date to people - e.g.: "I can't meet you this week, but next Thursday, at 5pm, is this ok?!"

Maybe you thought she will run after you for a longer period of time - but in the meantime someone saw the opportunity - she possibly being heartbroken and tired of fighting for / persuading you, he offering her consolation, comfort, tenderness. It's not difficult to understand what might have happened.

You are angry with yourself mainly, imo. Don't be - next time she asks you to meet and make up again, give it a chance, if you still like her (you can still tell her, that you are mad at her too, when meeting her). See where it goes. Regrets regarding "not having done something, you might have wanted though", are much worse than the ones where you did sth., where you did give it a try.

[WorthlessVirgin]

My GF dumped exactly a month ago to this day, first serious relationship and I loved this girl with all my heart, made a thread about it earlier, and got lots of support from fellow misc brahs.

She tells me that Monday morning that she wants a break, that she needs some time alone and isn't ready for a relationship, and wants some time to herself without being locked down. I knew in all likelihood there was another dude, and didn't agree to a break, broke up and went NC, her last words to me were "I love you". I was hurt, I didn't want to break up, and my NC was more of an attempt to get her back instead of healing myself.

She'd drop breadcrumbs here and there, and occasionally drop something important, and I'd respond to be polite, but wouldn't carry the conversation, dumb move on my part, I know.

Last Thursday, one week ago to this day, she leaves me a text saying how much she misses me, how much she still loves me, and how much she wants to see me again to talk our problems out and possibly get back together. I responded that I'm busy, but maybe we can meet up sometime this week, and hadn't talked to her since.

I log into my ******** today, and see that she is back together with her ex-boyfriend, a dude she told me was "gay" throughout the entire relationship.

Nothing in my life has stung as much as seeing that today, literally one week ago she tells me how much she loves and misses me and wants to work things out, and today there's this. I feel like my whole relationship was a lie, how can someone move on from 2 years of being with eachother in not even four weeks? Every I miss you was a lie, every I love you was a lie, even wanting to talk our problems out was a lie. Her ex being gay was a lie, her reasoning for the breakup was a lie, everything was all a big fuking lie. I want to send her a nasty text telling her how much of a piece of chit she is for making me live this lie, for eliminating 2 years of her life in not even a month, but I know that won't do me any good. I went full NC now, blocked her on FB, IG, etc.

I've never been hurt by anything in my life as much as this, I've hooked up with 3 chicks since breaking up, but it didn't make my problems better, only worse because I just compared each girl to my ex and got pissed that they werent in anyway similar.

I hate this feeling, worst pain I've ever felt in my life, complete betrayal.

I'm going to destroy humanity.

[Fire8085]

A lot of people are discounting the emotions you are feeling right now...which you can't because it sucks and it hurts. Most people here have been in your shoes (and much worse.)

I know you're hurting man and let it happen. Don't try to stifle all the **** all the time, but I wouldn't go bleeding your heart out to her or anyone she knows (You will regret this.) Maybe consider venting to a friend or family member to get this **** off your chest. Grab a beer with your dad. My dad sort me out real quick.

Now I know it's cliche to say, but time will help and pretty much be the only thing to do so. However, you ALSO need to be doing things, get out of your house/apartment and be active. Movement is key to all of this. The more you sit there and wonder, the more your brain will have an unhealthy fixation on it. I've seen people who have spent YEARS and YEARS to still not be over someone from their past. Take a few days to sulk then make a schedule to get **** done. Force it out of yourself, use the break up as motivation.

I had to envision my ex girlfriends getting ****ed by some guys I hated (actually happened btw) in order to get my blood boiling enough to get out and do things. Eventually you start to see this doom and gloom cloud lift and things change because you have changed.

Look, it DOESN'T FU*KING MATTER what happened at this point or what you could have done. You can't go back in time. Being mad at someone for the harm they caused you is only hurting you.

So what if she fu*ked someone else or got with someone else right after? You aren't in control of her, she isn't your property. You both sound like you have maturing to do and are toxic for each other at this point.

As you grow up as a man, you learn really fu*king quick that finger pointing in life gets you nowhere. Blaming circumstances outside of your control or what other people want and do does NOTHING for you. Nobody really gives much of a sh*t about you except those who are super close to you. Everything you do is ultimately up to you. You have a choice now, do you want to grow from all this and become a better person or do you want to be some bitter jaded guy who can't have a relationship in the future because all girls are sloots?

[alltrapbrah]

Nothing in my life has stung as much as seeing that today, literally one week ago she tells me how much she loves and misses me and wants to work things out, and today there's this. I feel like my whole relationship was a lie, how can someone move on from 2 years of being with eachother in not even four weeks? Every I miss you was a lie, every I love you was a lie, even wanting to talk our problems out was a lie. Her ex being gay was a lie, her reasoning for the breakup was a lie, everything was all a big fuking lie. I want to send her a nasty text telling her how much of a piece of chit she is for making me live this lie, for eliminating 2 years of her life in not even a month, but I know that won't do me any good. I went full NC now, blocked her on FB, IG, etc.

Brah... try to understand... in her head, she wasn't lying...

This is just something that's symptomatic of youth and immaturity. The younger you are, the more selfish you are (typically) and the more you rationalise everything in a way that suits yourself...

When she said she loved you... she really believed that chit, but she probably has no idea what love really is. To her love is a tingly feeling whenever the pair of you were together during the honeymoon phase. To her love is when you sat down and listened intently to her problems and told her everything was gonna be okay. To her love is receiving and not giving. To her love is... self-love.

To quote Daniel Radcliffe from What-If - "In fairy tales, love inspires you to be noble and courageous, but in real life, love is just an all-purpose excuse for selfish behavior. You can lie and cheat and hurt people, and it's all okay because you're in love." - this is the new modern, interpretation of love...

Truth be told, you're probably not much better... I know that's not what you want to hear right now cos you're suffering, but I think you'll see it in time... your whole frame of mine is centered around yourself and what you've lost.

My honest perspective is that the pair of you were rather selfish and you both generally shared a mentality of "me, me, me...".

[trengod]

Brah... try to understand... in her head, she wasn't lying...

This is just something that's symptomatic of youth and immaturity. The younger you are, the more selfish you are (typically) and the more you rationalise everything in a way that suits yourself...

When she said she loved you... she really believed that chit, but she probably has no idea what love really is. To her love is a tingly feeling whenever the pair of you were together during the honeymoon phase. To her love is when you sat down and listened intently to her problems and told her everything was gonna be okay. To her love is receiving and not giving. To her love is... self-love.

To quote Daniel Radcliffe from What-If - "In fairy tales, love inspires you to be noble and courageous, but in real life, love is just an all-purpose excuse for selfish behavior. You can lie and cheat and hurt people, and it's all okay because you're in love." - this is the new modern, interpretation of love...

Truth be told, you're probably not much better... I know that's not what you want to hear right now cos you're suffering, but I think you'll see it in time... your whole frame of mine is centered around yourself and what you've lost.

My honest perspective is that the pair of you were rather selfish and you both generally shared a mentality of "me, me, me...".

very good write-up.