Am I being selfish with my GF? (no pics) (srs)

[Grabre]

Cliffs:

-Started officially dating 3 months ago, seeing eachother for 6 months or so before that
-Had a buddy, we'll call him "Jim"
-Jim and my GF were pretty good friends last summer
-Throughout the course of our relationship Jim constantly hits on her, tries to "win her over"
-Jim and GF stop talking for a while
-A month or two ago GF texts Jim saying "I miss you, I want to be friends"
-They're friends now
-Throughout all of this I haven't said anything to Jim because GF insisted I didn't
-I told GF that I'm really not ok with them being friends
-GF gets rustled, thinks I'm being controlling

Jim is not in any way a threat and it's not like she would cheat on me with him or anything, he's a fedora lounge kind of guy LOL

Thoughts? Am I being selfish/too controlling?

[Anorexilla]

In seriousness, if she can't respect your wish for her to stay away from this guy, dump her.

She is choosing him over you.

[Gsxr25]

Sounds like a recipe for disaster, she knowingly wants to be friends with a guy that wants to hookup with her..... yeaaaaa okayyyy

[rhadam]

A girl with any self respect, and respect for you, wouldn't be hanging out with a guy who was always hitting on her. The fact that they stopped talking and she initiated contact saying she missed him is a big red flag. Even if it's simply because she wants attention... that's a character flaw. You're definitely not being controlling or paranoid like most miscers. It's a respect and maturity thing, which she lacks both.

[TEST0STERONE]

let this slide then she meets another "friend" this one not so ugly. Lets call him Tyrone. "Bae u let me and Jim be friends why can't I be friends with Tyrone?"

[requital]

it seems so sudden, i would be suspicious

[requital]

https://twitter.com/BPayton216/statu...47044481740801

don't click the link if your speakers are turned on, porn girl screaming in the background

[Grabre]

Thanks for the advice brahs

[IH8RICE]

Obvious red flag. It's clear she probably just wants the attention and WK he gave her since your courting/honeymoon time has eclipsed. Even if she friendzones him and you aren't threatened by him, people are always susceptible to coercion when they're emotional( huge fight) and drunk( let drink away my pain). Either she respects your wishes and stops talking to him or you walk.

[EDMFloridaBrah]

Will never understand this type of relationship..













Your gf is the dominant one in your relationship. Sorry brah.

[vhorde]

Does her being friends with someone else make her love you any less?
Do you define your value by the value assign on your girlfriend?

You have inherent value. Focus on increasing that every day in every way. Having a girlfriend shouldnt make you any less of a person then you are now. By investing your time into this situation you are diluting your sense of self. If she wants friends then let her have it. However, if she doesnt add any valve to your life (someone who takes emotional, physically, mentally and gives nothing in return) , then find someone who will.

[l2ambo]

This is so perfect. OP this is how your life is going to play out. You're about to turn 19. You and your GF are gonna start hitting the clubs. One night your GF will invite Jim along and stage a fight between the 2 of you. You're going to blow a gasket and get kicked out of the club. Your GF will then proceed to get drunk with Jim and **** him on the dance floor, then **** him at his house. Happy trails OP.

Sloots gon sloot. Be careful.

[Gemeaux]

If she need that kind of Self esteem validation from fedora fred shes def gunna want it when some other bro comes in the pic. red flag for you

[BrightonBomber]

You have reason to be annoyed about this.

It's one thing that the guy clearly wants to break you up and get with your girlfriend, that is fine if you trust your girlfriend.

But the fact she missed him and is willing to pretend that he won't try at some point to break you two up again is something totally different. That behaviour should ring alarm bells. Why can't she just cut him out, he's made it very clear he isn't looking to be friends. For her to want a friendship with a guy who has gone out of his way to break you two up is worrying to say the least.

Either she likes the attention from this guy which in itself is messed up given she is in a relationship or she is looking for greener pastures.

[Gemeaux]

Say " ok i wont control you but i don't like it.so you can be friends with him but If you do im Breaking up with you. im not going to make you stop being friends with him. but i will leave you if you are cause im not going to be in a relationship like that."

[AceRok]

OP, it comes down to this. It's not about right or wrong, its about what you two agreed upon as part of your relationship. If part of that is to not be friends with certain people who wanted to get in your pants, well, thats the agreement and it should be respected as part of the relationship. If you were both cool with it (which you aren't) then its not a problem. If she valued the relationship, she would not do it. There are 7 billion people on earth, she just HAS to be friends with this guy? lol, ok

[Squatz99]

Lol at these advices.

First of all, i don't think Jim is trying to win her over, thats just your view.
Second, shes not your property and she should be able to be friends with other guys, as long as she don't cheat.

[Grabre]

Lol at these advices.

First of all, i don't think Jim is trying to win her over, thats just your view.
Second, shes not your property and she should be able to be friends with other guys, as long as she don't cheat.

First, yes he is. He's sent her long novel-esque text messages about how much he loves her ("I just love you so much").
Second, I agree that it's fine for her to have guy friends, but not with him.

[IH8RICE]

First, yes he is. He's sent her long novel-esque text messages about how much he loves her ("I just love you so much").
Second, I agree that it's fine for her to have guy friends, but not with him.

Yeah Jim sounds like a swimfan and is just waiting for the proper moment to phuck things up even though he knows it won't get him the girl.

[NotANun21]

A month or two ago GF texts Jim saying "I miss you, I want to be friends"


Shouldn't have stayed around after this. "I miss you" sounds manipulative in that context and if she's not being manipulative to get sex from this guy she's clearly in it for money/gifts/something else. Women love money, you bet if he took her out for a nice $300 dinner once every 2 weeks 'as friends' and then got her drunk she'd say no to a BJ? What if it was more straightforward than that, he got her drunk one time and offered her $500 to suck his dick. Does she like buying things? Would she say no?

Never underestimate these fcking losers. They don't have many friends, they don't get invited out much and so they sit at their mothers house and they go to work - they stockpile the money they make because they have very little to spend it on and then they buy friends and they buy girls

[Mehhzyy]

Damn Jim sounds like a huge prick.

[RamiroSosa]

A girl with any self respect, and respect for you, wouldn't be hanging out with a guy who was always hitting on her. The fact that they stopped talking and she initiated contact saying she missed him is a big red flag. Even if it's simply because she wants attention... that's a character flaw. You're definitely not being controlling or paranoid like most miscers. It's a respect and maturity thing, which she lacks both.

Here, have my reps, you have spoken the truth.

[RainingBlood]

Your "gf" is a beta female. You are not controlling. Tell her that she can respect you, or you'll walk.