anybody here have experience dating a borderline personality disorder woman?

[TheMinimalist]

should i get out now? is it as bad as people say?

[Horsepower29]

****in' hell yes. Depens of the meds she's on though I guess

[ElJefe423]

What disorder?

[5431]

sounds like most miscers are afflicted with this disorder. brb sloot does not text me back in 5 minutes, must hate me.

[randombrah1]

Fuk brah, get the fuk AWAY. Yes, it does get worse. And if you make her fall in love with you, then prepare for the worst.

Yes, ex-gf almost suicided when I left her (due to her shennaningans).

[CalmWind]

Run away OP.

She will first paint you "white", and you will be the object of her obsession and her savior. She only sees awesome things about you.

Then there will come a day.... maybe next week, maybe next year, maybe 5 years from now...... but she will snap and then paint you "black" and won't want anything to do with you anymore and she will focus on all the bad about you and monkey branch to something/someone else and repeat the process.

She might also self-harm. Good luck for you if she ever calls the cops and blames you for her self inflicted crap.

[TellitAgain]

yeah i've dated a woman

[ThePorkHog]

Yep, I bailed. Do not trust her and get FAR away. Master manipulators

[Slurgie]

should i get out now? is it as bad as people say?

yes you should, psych teacher told us ppl w/ borderline personality disorder drive people their in relationships with to the point where they also develop mental disorders.

[Ayz33]

yeah i've dated a woman

heuheuhe

[TheMinimalist]

****in' hell yes. Depens of the meds she's on though I guess

she's not taking any meds. some of these posts are scaring me even more. they are master manipulators. but do they know they are manipulating?

[truth223]

Get out now before you knock her up

[MakingSomeGains]

Yea i married one

[CalmWind]

she's not taking any meds. some of these posts are scaring me even more. they are master manipulators. but do they know they are manipulating?

You are going to date her regardless of what we say. Because she is going to obsess about you in the beginning, and says she loves you, and always wants to hang around you and be with you, etc...... you are going to lap that **** up

Has she shared her traumatic past with you yet? Childhood abuse or something? Parents are nuts?

[Devine88]

I dated a really hot (like 9/10) chick with BPD and it was one of the worst experiences of my life.

Story:
At first she was amazing, great sex, cooked, paid for stuff, sucked me off randomly, etc.
Then I moved to another state with her and she did a complete 180 and started acting like a psycho. She would physically attack me and go insane earlier in the day and want to have sex later.
She put me through an emotional roller-coaster on a daily basis. I finally got fed up and said that I'd find another place immediately and that I was over it (she kept threatening to kick me out).
That very night she showed up with half of her family and the police saying that I've been abusing her and forcing myself sexually upon her. The police were ready to throw me in jail.
I went to show them video evidence that she was the abuser and crazy person on my phone, but it turned out she deleted it all! Thankfully, I backed it up to the internet and showed the cops that way.
After watching her throw stuff at me, swing at me, scream unintelligible nonsense, all while I sat there and recorded, they concluded that I should be let go. They still kicked me out and banned me from the property though.
Run away, run as a far as you can. This girl will try to ruin you and take control of you. My story is 100% real. (srs)

Cliffs:
- People with BPD are insane, cannot be reasoned with, and lack empathy.
- Abandon the relationship immediately.

You are going to date her regardless of what we say. Because she is going to obsess about you in the beginning, and says she loves you, and always wants to hang around you and be with you, etc...... you are going to lap that **** up

Has she shared her traumatic past with you yet? Childhood abuse or something? Parents are nuts?

This is spot on. She'll be an angel at first and then she'll slowly turn on you. My ex said her parents were crazy and that she'd been raped multiple times.

[J411]

Is she aware that she has Borderline personality disorder? I'm guessing so since you know she has it. If so thats a help. It took me years to figure out what was wrong with the person I was with.

Is she getting therapy for it? Thats a necessity.

From experience I highly recommend getting out now before feels are too strong to trap you.

Its workable. Maybe. But I don't recommend it.

Right now she is probably all about how great you are. Makes you feel good. It won't last. Be prepared.

[plsbh]

Yeah, blames everything on her childhood. Never puts blame on herself.

Very hypocritical in almost every situation and can't or won't ever see what they are doing is wrong at times. Very disrespectful.

Also claimed suicidal when I called it. Said her friends had to talk her out of it.

[Mr Beer]

I would rather have a nice clean weiner in my mouth and I'm not even gay.

[CalmWind]

This is spot on. She'll be an angel at first and then she'll slowly turn on you. My ex said her parents were crazy and that she'd been raped multiple times.

Yep. I learned a LOT about crazy chicks due to my ex BPD sloot. Now, it's like the Holocaust..........NEVER AGAIN!

[BJaxxon]

Yep, I bailed. Do not trust her and get FAR away. Master manipulators

How are BPD women more manipulative than normal women? srs
I'm aware of their tendency to self harm and use idealization/devaluation, but how do they manipulate?

Edit: nvm Just read Devine's story.

[LAFAN808]

The feels in this thread

Get out while you still can

[EdgarAllanBro]

If it helps... BPD is in the same cluster of personality disorders as Antisocial (sociopath and psychopaths), Narcissistic personality disorders, and histrionic personality disorder.

[EnemyCombatant]

I would get away. I got rekt by a narcissistic personality disordered woman, I can't imagine BPD is much different. Whatever happens, you'll probably get rekt in the end.

[TheMinimalist]

serious question: are these people knowingly bad? or do they don't know they are bad? do they turn on you knowingly? or do they seriously feel betrayed at some point?

and you got it right, she treats me as if i'm like a King. so right now, is she plotting to turn against me? she can't be that bad right?

[BJaxxon]

serious question: are these people knowingly bad? or do they don't know they are bad? do they turn on you knowingly? or do they seriously feel betrayed at some point?

and you got it right, she treats me as if i'm like a King. so right now, is she plotting to turn against me? she can't be that bad right?

They don't realize they are bad. While people who are born into a loving family grow up first learning to trust then over time learning that everyone is not trustworthy, BPD cases are usually born into abuse and the first thing they learn is that people will hurt you.
So they are always on guard. It's difficult for them to trust or love because they often hate themselves.

[Afka]

[AngryManlet]

Yeah, blames everything on her childhood. Never puts blame on herself.

Very hypocritical in almost every situation and can't or won't ever see what they are doing is wrong at times. Very disrespectful.

Also claimed suicidal when I called it. Said her friends had to talk her out of it.

Why should she blame herself though if her claims are legit? We are all just products of genetics and environmental influences of which we have no control over IMHO.

I got rekt by a diagnosed BPD chick over a course of many years and in hindsight I cant hold huge grudge since I dont think she really was choosing to act in that way.

[riley444]

If you've ever seen Fatal Attraction the woman in it has BPD.

[jonnicola]

should i get out now? is it as bad as people say?

i did about 7-8 years ago now, for about 6 months

bish was cray cray

[CalmWind]

serious question: are these people knowingly bad? or do they don't know they are bad? do they turn on you knowingly? or do they seriously feel betrayed at some point?

and you got it right, she treats me as if i'm like a King. so right now, is she plotting to turn against me? she can't be that bad right?

She isn't plotting against you. She is sick. She has a mental disorder.

When she turns on you and becomes a cold person who you don't recognize, it won't be because she had a master plan. It will be because she has BPD and there is nothing you can do about it.