See brah those people only THOUGHT they were in love because if they were REALLY in love then they would not have gotten divorced. Torpstar711 knows what "real" love is where as all these people didn't. I bet his mommy told him he was special while he was growing up, better than all the other kids, and he got a trophy for always trying his hardest also.
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06-11-2015, 11:24 PM #121
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06-11-2015, 11:25 PM #122
I would say it's illogical to group marital statistics in with accident statistics. You can't equate all statistics with one another. That's both a generalization and a false analogy, otherwise known as logical fallacies, so I might advise you to check your reasoning.
If you insist on using this analogy, however, then let's make it work. Yeah, that's reasonable, but here's a major difference that you failed to take into consideration: in such accidents, you don't get to choose who hits you, but in terms of marriage, hopefully you'd have enough discernment to perceive someone with life goals similar to yours.
In the event that you don't - and even if you do - then yes, there's risk involved (which can happen if your partner is deceptive enough -- I'm not saying that accurate discernment is always in your control). Bearing your analogy in mind, I acknowledge that marriage will always be chancy (according to statistics), which I never refuted.
What I did refute, however, is the assertion that marriage should be disregarded entirely based solely on statistics. I'm not dismissing statistics as invalid; I'm simply saying that one's schema of marriage should involve more than just statistics.
^^Don't be so hasty.Last edited by lalanaomi; 06-11-2015 at 11:32 PM.
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06-11-2015, 11:27 PM #123
Like I said before, I don't care what you do. But I just think it's funny how guys like you attribute your lack of a love life to you being cautious about all these evil women breaking your heart and stealing your money.
I've been with a few women who were pieces of chit sloots and even one who cheated on me, but those experiences led me to find a girl who loves me more than anything else and who wants nothing more than to have a family with me.
I know you're going to come back with a "you're a *******, your girl is a lying sloot and there's a 50% chance that if you marry she divorces you". You can't quantify these types of things, and unless you experience this for yourself (which is something 75% of the misc has absolutely no firsthand experience with), your assumptions count for chit.TORN ACL CREW
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06-11-2015, 11:28 PM #124
Yea I mean the statistics say it all, and the trend is less people are getting married every year
No need to get rustled over this, because in the end marriage is becoming obsolete and will undergo significant reformation within our lifetimes
End of the day this thread probably hasn't changed a single persons mind.. I mean maybe some of the lurkers. Honestly marriage should not be an issue the government accounts for, it should all be private and keep the law out of religion. Why would you want to bring the law, the government, paperwork, agreements, contracts etc into your relationship anyways? It's about love and that's not all very romanticTom Leykis Crew
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06-11-2015, 11:35 PM #125
Marital statistics are a good representation of human behavior and how we interact with each other in this day and age. It can definitely help a person see that monogamy isn't what we are designed to do, and when we try, we are testing human nature.
The whole idea of love is just a fairytale anyway. We're all literally just fooling ourselves. I understand the need to not be alone, however entering into a legal contract in support of this doesn't make any sense
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06-11-2015, 11:37 PM #126
I wasn't equating all statistics with one another. I was providing an example that is easy to grasp. So no it was not a generalization or false analogy it was a hypothetical example.
Correct you don't get to choose "who hits you". You can try to "choose" the "right person" all you like. I am sure everyone who was ever married thought they did that. My dad was married for 31 years, divorce. My Aunt was married for 22 years, divorced. Guess they weren't selective enough. That is the problem right, not being "selective" enough or "smart" enough, right?
Marriage isn't disregarded due to statistics. It is disregarded because for a man, if he gets it wrong, he is COMPLETELY FUKED over by the system where as the woman is not. Can you understand that? How about this.
How about I ask you to enter into a contract with me. Now at any time I can breach the contract, for whatever reason I want. In the event that I breach this contract I get half of your stuff, you have to pay me a certain amount (large amount) of money every month, and I get your kids and you see them every other weekend, oh and you pay me money for them too. Sound like a good contract to you? That is what a man is facing every time he gets married. Think about it.
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06-11-2015, 11:38 PM #127
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Canadian brahs who have been divorced, is their any advantage to getting married??. Do you still have to pay child support if custody is 50/50 do you pay alimony if she works anyways??. All seems so one sided to me, where is the financial benefit for the male?? looking at this from a pure financial standpoint seems like the worst investment ever.
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06-11-2015, 11:39 PM #128
Who said anything about a lack of love life? Ive fuked many a women.
I am sure at age 22 you have it all figured out when it comes to selecting the right girl brah. I thought the same thing at that age.
So I can't comment on divorce unless I've been divorced myself? Guess you can't comment on anything unless you have personally experienced it right brah?
Again. Age. 22.
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06-11-2015, 11:40 PM #129
I dont usually get involved in the misc FA women bashing circle jerk, but damn this is just incredibly naive. Contrary to what the misc believes, I think women arent any better or worse than men. Women are just people bruh, and no matter what you think, the majority of people are POS's. 2 people living together for that long, side by side and expecting each other to always be there physically and emotionally...sooner or later, someone POSness is gonna shine through. Especially when chit hits the fan (money troubles, family problems, health issues...etc)
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06-11-2015, 11:41 PM #130
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06-11-2015, 11:42 PM #131
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06-11-2015, 11:44 PM #132
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06-11-2015, 11:44 PM #133
Okay, thanks for the clarification. Sorry, you're right in that aspect: it's not not about not being "smart" or selective enough, but you have to acknowledge that one has more power a marriage choice than in an automobile accident. You clarified, though, so thank you.
You are right in that way. No, it doesn't sound like a good contract. I think the difference in our argument is this: I'm arguing for marriage on a broader scope (global, in general, in theory/concept), while you're arguing for it on a cultural, Western scope, a system in which the man is at a disadvantage. That's wrong and risky; I acknowledge that, and I never meant to refute it. I'm saying that marriage in general isn't inherently evil, all aside from the gender politics of the modern day marital contract that you are addressing.
So yes, I agree that the system isn't reliable in that way. I was speaking in general - historically, rather than with the unevenness of the modern day system. But that's society's fault, not marriage's.
This, also.
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06-11-2015, 11:44 PM #134
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06-11-2015, 11:47 PM #137
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Some people legitly feel like they have found the one. Even if both people at the time think its going to work out its a chance they are willing to take. Yes, some people will do it out of greed or just to know they have someone who can provide for them but if you're going just by statistics then why do you even get in your car every morning?
Your odds of dying in a car crash, over the span of your entire life, are somewhere in between 1 and 50 and 1 and 100. When broken down on a per year basis, your odds of dying in a vehicle crash would somewhere in between 1 and 4,000 and 1 and 8,000. Currently, roughly 40,000 people per year die in car accidents in the United States.
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06-11-2015, 11:49 PM #138
Calls names, yet offers no good reason in support of said name calling. You believe in a god - 'nuff said. Also, I'm not going to give a fuk who populates my country when I'm gone. White people these days disappoint me greatly - can only imagine what they will be like in 50 years. Fuk everyone. The entire human race disappoints me
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06-11-2015, 11:51 PM #139
You don't need to get married to have kids, marriage doesn't guarantee a strong family. In fact statistically most married families break up
Is ruining your life worth it just for a couple more white kids running around? The population of the earth is 7 billion, hundreds of millions are white. I think we're gonna make it brah it would take centuries to breed out the white race so why don't you relax with that
And if you're planning to die before age 40 not like you're gonna be making much contribution anywaysTom Leykis Crew
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06-11-2015, 11:53 PM #140
Every day the misc gets more depressing. You don't want to take that risk, then by all means don't, but when you want someone to be apart of your life forever you do everything you can to ensure that.
I pushed back marriage for 9 years with a girl I've loved. I've lived with her for 7 of those years, through some pretty damn tough times. We've made chit work when most would have walked away because we genuinely care about each other. I will be getting married to her this month.
The issue isn't the stats, the issue is people in general just give up too damn easily when the going gets tough. Pussification of America.*Only drive manual crew*
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06-11-2015, 11:53 PM #141
Analyze what type of person you are based on truth and bare facts, not upon society's or misc's standards of being alpha, proceed to find girl who will accept and adjust to the sort of person you are (no surprise here but it won't be a stripper or a pornstar or a celebrity or *fill in your fav female type*). Most marriages are based on guys selecting the girls who are exciting in short run but make life hell after the honeymoon phase when your real character and lifestyle emerges. Infact if you tell girls upfront that this is how you are, you don't have many friends for whatever reason but you're comfortable with it, they will accept you for who you are, key is to accept who you are and she will accept it too, and if she doesn't then she wasn't meant for you anyway.
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06-11-2015, 11:54 PM #142
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06-11-2015, 11:56 PM #143
Never getting married crew.
Not entirely serious, but many people these days are getting married far too early. If you are in your twenties you should not even be thinking about getting married. You're going to probably change a lot during your twenties. This is why many people still call people in their twenties "kids".
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06-11-2015, 11:56 PM #144
No I'm not saying you can't comment on divorce because you haven't experienced it, I'm saying you can't comment on divorce because you're an FA virgin who can't even comprehend what it's like being in love. And yes I know you keep saying love doesn't equal marriage, but no one goes into a marriage thinking "I'm not in love with this girl, but I'll marry her for the fuk of it." Everyone goes into marriage thinking that they are at least partly in love with their future spouse, and therefore love has a DIRECT relation to divorce in general.
"I've fuked many a women." That sentence right there is proof that no you haven't. Please post just one picture of you with anything even resembling a woman.
I also like how the guy poking fun at how young I am is a 30 year old arguing with said 22 year old on a week night at 3:00am. Some life, go get some sleep before you have a heart attack grandpa.
Like I said before, all of your arguments were fallacies, and the fact that you were trying to incorporate the concept of statistics in something as complex as a marriage shows me two things:
1) You're dumb as chit.
2) You have no firsthand experience with love because someone who actually has experienced it can't even fathom looking at your relationship statistically.TORN ACL CREW
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06-11-2015, 11:58 PM #145
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06-11-2015, 11:59 PM #146
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06-12-2015, 12:03 AM #147
If you want to talk about the history of marriage then lets talk about what the purpose of marriage was historically. To build wealth be it through family fortunes or simply by having a father marrying off a daughter (who could not work) so that she is no longer an economic burden. The husband takes her on as an economic burden, she produces offspring who can work, which financially helps the husband and is an overall net positive economic outcome. Love had a minor role to play in all of this.
So would you like to return to the ear where love is a largely economic arrangement? Because that is what I am telling men. IF you are to get married do it for mainly economic reasons. Do you refute his?
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06-12-2015, 12:05 AM #148
I mean that's fine with me but you're also counting on a woman to not give up when the going gets tough, oh yeah and when she gives up she also gets a fully financed early retirement with usually no consequences
Marriage is not necessary, offers no benefit, and a very very steep risk. It's in fact life ruining for many men and a lot of divorced men commit suicide because of it
Go ahead if you want to but your not a pussy just because your against signing your potential future finance to a woman
And no one can ever be 100% sure that someone will feel the same way 20 years later as they do today. It's risky businessTom Leykis Crew
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can't change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference
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06-12-2015, 12:11 AM #149
Uh I have been in love before and I didn't get married because I decided to pursue a career instead. I don't regret that decision. I am far from a FA virgin as I've likely bedded more women from more diverse backgrounds (business owners, attorneys, bartenders, strippers, all different races, fuked on different continents etc). So try not to assume that simply because I see marriage as a bad investment for men it is only because I "can't get a woman anyway". I don't keep pictures of the women I bang. I don't keep pictures of the women I date. I don't have ******** or any other social media. If you think this therefore invalidates my claim that is up to you.
Young, single, relatively in shape men with no kids who are attorneys don't exactly have a tough time finding women who want to be with them. Now I wouldn't say get married "for the fuk of it". I would say look at the partner. 1) does she have equal or superior income making ability? 2) do you have similar ambitions and goals? be it career or family 3) do you generally enjoy each other's company 4) are you sexually attracted to each other and is the sex good?. These are the boxes that need checking. Now you check all those then I think you are in a far better position to get married than "Hurr Durr we in love lets get married cuz we will love each other forever".
Again I am not equating love with statistics. I am equating MARRIAGE with statistics. Reading Comprehension of peace.
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06-12-2015, 12:13 AM #150
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