**Sugar Walls>Pixels: Official NoPorn V6** (w/ FAQs, Miscer experiences & interviews)

[BTackore94]

24 days porn free

so update on the girl that invited me over for the movies at her place it was good and bad experience!
good- this was the first time i ever cuddled with someone in my entire life aha
bad- she fronted on me and went a complete 180 on me.
she moves back home in a 1 week anyways so i wont be seeing her ever again.
oh and my ex kissed me today wasnt expected it tbh but after doing me dirty I still aint going back.

[MegaPump]

Hey guys,

I'm back for another try at no fap. This time its going to be more about no porn but I will have two counters.


I also have some very valuable information in regard to how to quit fapping and porn which is based on my study on addiction and think you guys can really benefit from it. Its never been mentioned before and gets down to the core of the problem. Stay tuned for that, I have great value to share.


I want to talk about how fapping and porn indirectly effects confidence and self esteem, and how to stop fapping and porn by getting to the root of the problem rather than using will power which is limited in supply. Will power may get you going but if you dont work on the roots you will relapse again and again.












Tobias, i'm interested in how you stopped fapping. From memory you said you would fap 3 times a day and then you went on to do 500+ days.

How the **** did you do that.
What was your thinking and mindset?
What was your strategy?
Did you relapse at the beginning before you got that streak going? How long was your period of relapses before you finally had your big streak?

Cheers

[bromioso]

- 3 days clean.

It's funny how your real enemy here is your mind! I decided to stop p & f for a few weeks 'cause I'm expecting real shugah walls in a few weeks. I wanted to cleanse myself / regain some sensitivity back. And I'm noticing at every little chance my mind somehow comes up with a justification to rub one out

brb - my financial situation crosses my mind, "why not fap & release stress"

brb - a convo w/ dad doesn't go too well, why not fap and just screw everything. No point in doing this anyway. Life sucks"

brb - fallen a chapter behind in school, scared I might not make it, "why not fap to release stress?

brb - about to take a big step and enroll in a program, "why he not fap your fears away. The margin of uncertainty is so wide with this program"


Every bad situation I come up with a justifiable reason to fap. Time to find another way to deal with stress

[MegaPump]

- 3 days clean.

It's funny how your real enemy here is your mind! I decided to stop p & f for a few weeks 'cause I'm expecting real shugah walls in a few weeks. I wanted to cleanse myself / regain some sensitivity back. And I'm noticing at every little chance my mind somehow comes up with a justification to rub one out

brb - my financial situation crosses my mind, "why not fap & release stress"

brb - a convo w/ dad doesn't go too well, why not fap and just screw everything. No point in doing this anyway. Life sucks"

brb - fallen a chapter behind in school, scared I might not make it, "why not fap to release stress?

brb - about to take a big step and enroll in a program, "why he not fap your fears away. The margin of uncertainty is so wide with this program"


Every bad situation I come up with a justifiable reason to fap. Time to find another way to deal with stress

Your on the ball mate. If only every no fapper would see things the way you're seeing things.

Porn and masturbation addiction is not about an over active libido. Its about escape. Escape from unwanted emotion.

You need to look at the reasons why you turn to porn and fap and deal with that.

You need to think, what is an alternative way to deal with my stress. Until you do that you will relapse again and again. If you have a slip due to TRUE libido, thats okay, but if you have a full blown relapse then that has nothing to do with libido. Its about an inability to cope with stress , emotion and life problems. Its feeling out of control. Its when we lack hope and dont know what else we can do.









For you , I would do the following.

- Work out your financial situation. Make a solid plan.

- How can you better get along with your dad, you cant change him, its your father, he wants to be the boss, but you can change yourself, you can change your perspective at least, you can change how you respond, communicate.

- How can you manage your time better? Can you cut out some misc time or do your work first and then allow yourself some time for misc later. Just an example.

- How can you deal with your anxieties and fears related to starting this new program?







Doing the above is not easy, its going to take some time, we need to dedicate some time to our problems particularly any long term unsolved problems. Thats why I say will power doesnt work, because the real reason why you turn to porn and fapping is still there and the problem will resurface again and again. Its time consuming but its your life, and you cant jerk your problems away. You can feel better but the problem is still there and will resurface and the longer it goes unattended the bigger chance those negative feelings will turn to depression and chronic fapping.




Just a sneak peek at what I have to offer.

Day 4

[bromioso]

Your on the ball mate. If only every no fapper would see things the way you're seeing things.

Porn and masturbation addiction is not about an over active libido. Its about escape. Escape from unwanted emotion.

You need to look at the reasons why you turn to porn and fap and deal with that.

You need to think, what is an alternative way to deal with my stress. Until you do that you will relapse again and again. If you have a slip due to TRUE libido, thats okay, but if you have a full blown relapse then that has nothing to do with libido. Its about an inability to cope with stress , emotion and life problems. Its feeling out of control. Its when we lack hope and dont know what else we can do.









For you , I would do the following.

- Work out your financial situation. Make a solid plan.

- How can you better get along with your dad, you cant change him, its your father, he wants to be the boss, but you can change yourself, you can change your perspective at least, you can change how you respond, communicate.

- How can you manage your time better? Can you cut out some misc time or do your work first and then allow yourself some time for misc later. Just an example.

- How can you deal with your anxieties and fears related to starting this new program?







Doing the above is not easy, its going to take some time, we need to dedicate some time to our problems particularly any long term unsolved problems. Thats why I say will power doesnt work, because the real reason why you turn to porn and fapping is still there and the problem will resurface again and again. Its time consuming but its your life, and you cant jerk your problems away. You can feel better but the problem is still there and will resurface and the longer it goes unattended the bigger chance those negative feelings will turn to depression and chronic fapping.




Just a sneak peek at what I have to offer.

Day 4

fuark, brah.... you a shrink irl? srs. such spot-on analysis and too much truth to your post!!! out of reps for you! will rep on r/c.

I srsly would consider another form of stress release but my other "alternatives" are all things that will harm my body. worse than p&f! (excessive drinking, smoking, other rec drugs. my mind reminds me of that sometimes and it's like why not just stick with fapping? you don't spend any money & high speed HD pron is free )

(1) I really need a solid [financial] plan. I've worked on a few in the past but there's hardly anything left in the budget to enjoy life a little.+ there are occasional unforeseen expenses and I just wish I made more money than I currently do. will draft something in excel tonight. srs. getting paid midnight today. I have some debt to tackle

(2) we get along fine. but there's a convo i gotta really have with him. should have had it for years. and every now and then something will come up and will feel like crap. it all goes back to that convo i've been avoiding. problem is, i attempted several times. he's still very firm on his stance. at one point even saying if i disregarded his wishes, it would be the end of him (not physically but emotionally). what level-headed ******* wants to bring something like that on their old man? especially one who's hard-worker and invested so much into his vision for his kids?

(3) misc is my biggest time waster. i really need to cut down on phone use. srs. was considering ordering some paper books and reading a lot instead of using the phone so much. ipad will only give me an excuse to use safari and misc. problem with school going on, it's hard to find time to read for fun. need to read for school. i would really like this now that i think about it. spend like $10 on used / cheap paperback books. i like biographies/autobiographies 'cause I like to read about the struggles other *******s went through and how they solved it. also would like to learn some skills like music composition and coding. but again, can't read all that when I need to read for school. I like to write and I've been drafting a blog. but again, it's really time consuming and I need to focus on school (for like 3 years now one of my goals have been to expand the vocab. srs)

(4) only way to deal with the anxiety is to just go ahead and register, brah. srs. somethings in life you can't really plan too far ahead. you just have to do it and worry about the next step when you get there. srs. but i'm scared af.

and so what happens...?

Each passing day I face these issues, and when it becomes too heavy on the mind, a quick wank while staring @ pixels will send you a "high" for a good couple of seconds as you bust a nut. for those seconds, your problems just don't exist. afterwards you hope things will work itself out. repeat.

i will say this though: my current most positive form of stress release is my side hustle. I'm a back-up / part-time organist. and the 30mins every sunday when I'm playing some hymn i've worked on during the week, is some of my happiest. i can't run to an organ each time i want to release stress. plus the organ has its own stress when you're learning a difficult piece and it's not going the way you want it.

also i visit "professional women" from time to time. so i tend to plan in advance & that motivates me to go a few weeks without fapping cause i want the most out of the experience i pay for.

tl;dr - i really don't see a way out

[BTackore94]

Welcome back Mega!
and Bromiso the first post today hit home man, I would find every reason to fap not exactly like yours but some are similar, it was brutal!

[BTackore94]

38 days porn free!

- completed a whole month for the first time ever!
- Birthday day in 19 days!

Lets keep up the good work bros!

[wphurd]

Haven't fapped to porn or images since November and have only fapped probably less than 10 times at all since then. One issue though... My libido is completely gone and has been for a long time. Hormone levels are normal. Has anyone else on long term no-fap experienced this?

[chuyortiz]

bumping this thread! hello guys, hope everyone is still going with the nofap movement! I was wondering if anyone in here has actually met in person with a fellow miscer to share their effects of fapping and porn. I recently opened up to someone about my issue with porn and fapping and it felt so much better, it was hard to do it, but i believe it helped me . i know its a hard topping to have a conversation with someone because of the fear of being judge of been in no fap, but i feel if we share this with someone having the same problem or even worst with fapping and porn will be so much better than sharing it online.

[bromioso]

Haven't fapped to porn or images since November and have only fapped probably less than 10 times at all since then. One issue though... My libido is completely gone and has been for a long time. Hormone levels are normal. Has anyone else on long term no-fap experienced this?

I enter week 4 on Monday and my drive is sky high!! I even catch myself reminiscing about old sloots I plowed, I find that average / basic women are giving my bonrars and I'll basically stick my dink into (almost) any sloot at this point. Even if it's a whale and I wouldn't plow, I would at least let her suck my dink. Srs.

My libido is rly good. Abstaining from pron & fap hasn't affected it

[bromioso]

bumping this thread! hello guys, hope everyone is still going with the nofap movement! I was wondering if anyone in here has actually met in person with a fellow miscer to share their effects of fapping and porn. I recently opened up to someone about my issue with porn and fapping and it felt so much better, it was hard to do it, but i believe it helped me . i know its a hard topping to have a conversation with someone because of the fear of being judge of been in no fap, but i feel if we share this with someone having the same problem or even worst with fapping and porn will be so much better than sharing it online.

Interesting perspective. Yes, I do believe for some people this might be their way out; it all depends on the individual and the crowds they associate with. I personally don't have any brahs irl I would want to open up with about this though. I'll just not talk about it with them (even though they'll listen)

I will add that whatever issue / problem one is going through, there's such a significant load lifted when you share it with someone else. At least in my personal experience. Having someone listen to you whether it's about cheating, loneliness, insecurity, whatever, it just helps to get it off your chest. Couples that aren't opened with each other & can't share isht are so vulnerable to a break up when a third person comes along who will listen. I don't think counseling / psych / therapy will go away ever.

So good perspective, brah. I'm more than willing to open up and share online but if I opened up about this irl, would not end well/10!

[chuyortiz]

Interesting perspective. Yes, I do believe for some people this might be their way out; it all depends on the individual and the crowds they associate with. I personally don't have any brahs irl I would want to open up with about this though. I'll just not talk about it with them (even though they'll listen)

I will add that whatever issue / problem one is going through, there's such a significant load lifted when you share it with someone else. At least in my personal experience. Having someone listen to you whether it's about cheating, loneliness, insecurity, whatever, it just helps to get it off your chest. Couples that aren't opened with each other & can't share isht are so vulnerable to a break up when a third person comes along who will listen. I don't think counseling / psych / therapy will go away ever.

So good perspective, brah. I'm more than willing to open up and share online but if I opened up about this irl, would not end well/10!

it is dude, i felt so much better when i opened up. it was hunting me to the point that i was depressed and hit a low point. If anyone on here has meet in person with a fellow no fapper and share their experiences let me know how it went. If anyone in the houston area would like to meet up I am up for it. lets put a stop once and for all to this.

here is small summary about my situation
couple of years ago my fapping and pron addiction was off the roof. I dealt with it at the time thanks to the misc and to threads like this which motivated me to tackle my problem. I went no fap for 120 days, but then i kept coming back to it. not like before, but occasionally. fast forward to now i still have that problem and i came to a conclusion that i want to put an end for good. it really has affected me. i had open up to a friend about the issue back when i was on the 120 days of no fap , but that was the only time i did it. Now I opened up again to someone else because the issue kept hunting . I kept connecting dots and blaming myself for stuff that happened and everything pointed at my addiction to pron and no fap.

[smallmeatchamp]

Lol no fap is so funny. I bust in like a minute now, but I can get another boner just as fast and last forever. Its pretty tough to get a second nut though lol. I only see my girl once a week though.

[bromioso]

it is dude, i felt so much better when i opened up. it was hunting me to the point that i was depressed and hit a low point. If anyone on here has meet in person with a fellow no fapper and share their experiences let me know how it went. If anyone in the houston area would like to meet up I am up for it. lets put a stop once and for all to this.

here is small summary about my situation
couple of years ago my fapping and pron addiction was off the roof. I dealt with it at the time thanks to the misc and to threads like this which motivated me to tackle my problem. I went no fap for 120 days, but then i kept coming back to it. not like before, but occasionally. fast forward to now i still have that problem and i came to a conclusion that i want to put an end for good. it really has affected me. i had open up to a friend about the issue back when i was on the 120 days of no fap , but that was the only time i did it. Now I opened up again to someone else because the issue kept hunting . I kept connecting dots and blaming myself for stuff that happened and everything pointed at my addiction to pron and no fap.

What is it that makes you want to fap? Why do you do it?

For me it was my go to to deal with problems, issues, stress. Basically it's a drug to me! I'm an addict. Whenever something goes wrong, it's my way of dealing with it

[Nosmail]

380 days . at 200 days temptation was creeping in so I installed k9 web protection and set a random password. never looked back

[chuyortiz]

What is it that makes you want to fap? Why do you do it?

For me it was my go to to deal with problems, issues, stress. Basically it's a drug to me! I'm an addict. Whenever something goes wrong, it's my way of dealing with it

to be honest, i dont know. i started at a very young age and i just kept doing and doing it. i didnt even think of it as an addiction until i was 24 or 25 when i stumble on a no fap thread here in the misc section. Then I realized it was a problem in my life that i had to fix.

[BTackore94]

This is the highest streak ive been on without intentionally searching for porn! Hope everyone has a great long weekend!

[iloveus]

How do you guys feel on No Fap?

[Nosmail]

How do you guys feel on No Fap?

it's the same feeling as withdrawing from drug use. Replace the pleasurable stimulation of internet porn and masturbation with something productive. Building a business, learning and developing a career, a relationship and family, yoga/meditation, exercise, then you can break free from the addictive habit.

not everyone's experience is the same. they might quit porn and turn to substance abuse, food, cigarettes. or the use of these will expand to fill the void of not using internet porn.

by abstaining from all vices you can expect to feel balanced. emotionally stable. happy and motivated.

[SteadyWayfarer]

it's the same feeling as withdrawing from drug use. Replace the pleasurable stimulation of internet porn and masturbation with something productive. Building a business, learning and developing a career, a relationship and family, yoga/meditation, exercise, then you can break free from the addictive habit.

not everyone's experience is the same. they might quit porn and turn to substance abuse, food, cigarettes. or the use of these will expand to fill the void of not using internet porn.

by abstaining from all vices you can expect to feel balanced. emotionally stable. happy and motivated.

So you feel it's definately helped in making you a better person overall?

[BTackore94]

And today was my birthday! so it was a pretty good day!

[chuyortiz]

And today was my birthday! so it was a pretty good day!

happy birthday man!!!

[BTackore94]

happy birthday man!!!

Thanks a bunch Chuyortiz!!!

[SteadyWayfarer]

And today was my birthday! so it was a pretty good day!

Happy Belated man! I'm happy you are reaching for your goals. Keep up the good work

[BTackore94]

Happy Belated man! I'm happy you are reaching for your goals. Keep up the good work

Thanks Steady! respect bro! I'm slowly making self improvements!

changes so far
almost 60 days porn free
since i got my fitbit charged 2 ive been going on walks and competing against friends for the most steps and so far since the end of march Ive got 3 lifetime mile badges so far which means ive walked over 250 miles which is awesome for me! the goal here is to get all 16 badges which is a total of 7,992 miles

cant wait to see what else is in store for me!

[BTackore94]

Today officially marks 60 days of no porn!

[iloveus]

Today officially marks 60 days of no porn!

What are the effects of it?

[BTackore94]

What are the effects of it?

TBH since i havent made a lot of changes but what i have notice is i get quite a few boners a day and when im with a female i can get hard really easy!

[bromioso]

BTackore, you doing just No pron? Like you're fapping but just not watching pron, or fapping to pron?

& wtf, are you still @ 0 reps? Lol.... I've repd you several times, cuzzo...

[BTackore94]

BTackore, you doing just No pron? Like you're fapping but just not watching pron, or fapping to pron?

& wtf, are you still @ 0 reps? Lol.... I've repd you several times, cuzzo...

I guess its the thought that counts aha thanks man!......... so pretty much ive been on this thing for a few years since my sign up date and I would count both but failed miserably so on this streak i said i'm doing no porn because if i fap i need porn.... there was a time on one of the few pages were i said ive fapped but to no porn but since then i havent fapped! so technically im on both but just focusing on the one has made my journey easier this time around!