The No Contact Thread v3.0: I'll Hug You Bro No Homo.

[Bella518]

NC starting tomorrow.

Had plans to go out with GF at 9. Texted her at 5:30 no text/call back. Waiting and waiting and then called her at 9:45 and she doesn't pick up her phone.

Clearly she has zero respect for me. I love this girl but... its over.

Geez but are you sure nothing happened to her? Thats really weird

[BradKemp]

Geez but are you sure nothing happened to her? Thats really weird

She showed up to my place 11:00.

Then her x bf called her at 2:30 am and woke me up. I kicked her out.

Day 1 NC.

[Rambo66]

Well after 3 weeks of NC and being broken up about 7 weeks I sent her a message. Basically saying I hope she had a good birthday and hope she's doing well. Her birthday was last week and I sent the text yesterday and nothing. So yeah that's it just drops me after 3 years filled with promises, plans and emotions. What a fake ass relationship. I just don't get how someone can just drop someone that was so important like that. Especially under the circumstances that we were both in. We both were in a really bad rut dealing with our own personal problems. Its crazy how someone you thought the world of, would never let you down and were great together changes just like that. She said she needed time to herself and we could talk in a few weeks, well looks like that was a lie to. Just don't get it, there's not another guy and crazy me still thinks she loved me to death and meant what she said but to just leave like that I seriously don't get it. I mean she's stubborn and prolly scared to even engage in convo with me in fear she falls for me again but I can't hope or wait obvs.

Still going to continue doing me and not try to think about her. So hard tho hasn't really gotten better since day 1 but still going to keep on trucking.

[BradKemp]

I said some pretty mean stuff last night that I'm not really proud of but I can't take anything back now.

She took all her things at 3 am from my place last night but when I woke up a found a few things that she missed. I was planning on just leaving it on her doorstep anyways but when I went to her place in the AM her car wasn't even home so I'm pretty sure she went straight to my house, called her X and then stayed at his place.

She has never been able to go a couple days without contacting me but the things I said last night were pretty harsh and I wouldn't be surprised if we NC each other forever.

Its funny that I feel terrible for the things I said but at the same time no words can be said the equals how she treated me.

The way I feel right now is so familiar. This is like our 6th breakup. We talked a few days ago how the next time we break up it will be our last and sure enough two days later its over.

She told me she doesn't know why her X was calling her aside from the fact that he is in love with her and wants to marry her and that she choose me but that I gave her an out a few days ago (I told her that if she doesn't want to be with me she should just leave) and that she is taking the out.

So basically 20 minutes after this guy called we are broken up. There is a chance that she was telling the truth that he just randomly called but at the same time that is just me ego trying to ease the pain. I pretty much snapped when the phone rang at 2:30 and seen it was him. I didn't even give her a chance to explain. I just raged and told her to get her things and get the hell out of my house.

This is the problem when you get back together with a girl you have broken up with. Its never 100% the same and you will always have doubts, resentments, insecurities ect.

Before we went to bed last night she was talking about us being the last person each other will ever date and 3 hours later its all over. Its a pretty numb feeling right now.

On the bright side I'm not going to feel like a prisoner anymore. This relationship has changed me for the worse and I need to get back to being who I am.

Its pretty crazy that I know 100% that this is the best thing for me but I still terrible.

My issue isn't with me losing her. I know that I'm a much better catch than her and that women of higher quality are out there. My issue 100% is she lost attraction and respect for me. A girl that truly loved me would never compromise anything we had and it stings when someone loses that attraction.

Its not my heart that is broken. Its my ego. The other thing that hurts is when you see someone for who they truly are.

I think I can get over my X fairly soon because I'm not in love with her.. I'm just in love with the thought of her loving me. I'm in love with the thought of being in love. She is replaceable though, no doubt about that.

Deleted her number, all her photos, and left anything that belonged to her (including gifts and cards she gave me) on her doorstep. Nothing left but memories and each day they will fade. The only thing I can take out of this relationship is some tough lessons.

[ReflexReform]

She showed up to my place 11:00.

Then her x bf called her at 2:30 am and woke me up. I kicked her out.

Day 1 NC.

Told you it was a toxic relationship bro. Too much to worry about with that girl. Maybe you could have played it cool in that situation, but she seems pretty sketchy. Especially having an ex call her at 2:30am.

[BradKemp]

Told you it was a toxic relationship bro. Too much to worry about with that girl. Maybe you could have played it cool in that situation, but she seems pretty sketchy. Especially having an ex call her at 2:30am.

My reaction was terrible. Calling her a bunch of names ect would just confirm that she made the right decision to walk about.

But like you said, the relationship was toxic and her X calling was the tipping point. I said some things that you just can't take back.

[Bella518]

Day 1

[Braap105]

Been talking to this girl for a little while, but with no luck really to be able to hangout for the past 2 months (shes always busy....) she finds out i had a thing with another girl and she then texts me to never talk to her again, and that I really hurt her.... that night we ended up texting about this quite a bit, told her i understood why she was mad and that I would like to try and make things better/be with her. No response, what do i do?

[Rambo66]

Day 1

What happened? I remember you from the first time me and the ex broke up.

[Dirtymanjames]

Impossible to go NC when we work together. Had my first shift with her in a while though, actually went well... She initiated the conversation. I really hadn't planned to talk to her at all but she kept asking me questions so I just went with it. Doesn't feel awkward.


It's like those expectations vs reality things though. It's going great, I expert her to pull me aside and say she made a mistake and wants to be with me instead, and we all live happily ever after.

The reality is we're going to be friendly, she will leave work and forget me and go bang Asian chad like I don't exist. That's the reality.


I'm okay with it though. Everyday I realize more and more she wasn't what I'm looking for. She's too impressionable and isn't very strongly opinionated. Plus she got into the gym after I broke up with her and all my friends tell me is that she posts Instagram photos everytime she works out with sappy captions. No girl of mine will be posting photos after every workout.

[CrimsonSteel]

I pretty much snapped when the phone rang at 2:30 and seen it was him.

You should have answered the phone. Don't just give the slooty ex the theatrics, cause a non-violent but verbally scarring ruckus.

[BradKemp]

What happened? I remember you from the first time me and the ex broke up.

Nothing good happened.

[BradKemp]

You should have answered the phone. Don't just give the slooty ex the theatrics, cause a non-violent but verbally scarring ruckus.

I thought the same thing today... too late now.

[BradKemp]

Today might be the worst I've ever felt in my life.

Should've listened to you guys and cut ties a lot sooner.

I think I'm realizing that I have much bigger issues that are under the surface.

I keep blaming myself because I was the one the broke up with my X in October because I was scared of a future with her. She told me that she loved me more than anyone in her life and I just hang up on her.

Then she comes back into my life a month later and steals my soul.

[Rambo66]

Today might be the worst I've ever felt in my life.

Should've listened to you guys and cut ties a lot sooner.

I think I'm realizing that I have much bigger issues that are under the surface.

I keep blaming myself because I was the one the broke up with my X in October because I was scared of a future with her. She told me that she loved me more than anyone in her life and I just hang up on her.

Then she comes back into my life a month later and steals my soul.

I'm sorry your going through that. Going through the exact same thing on a daily basis and it sucks. Worst time of my life and the days havent got better. Gotta get on grinding every day and try to forget them. Still mind blown my ex just dropped me like that. Completely out of my life and nothing since. All the promises and emotions throughout the relationship are just lies and fake to me now. Such is life gotta keep on grinding.

[Zainius]

I'm sorry your going through that. Going through the exact same thing on a daily basis and it sucks. Worst time of my life and the days havent got better. Gotta get on grinding every day and try to forget them. Still mind blown my ex just dropped me like that. Completely out of my life and nothing since. All the promises and emotions throughout the relationship are just lies and fake to me now. Such is life gotta keep on grinding.

5 Months later, my recent relationship has taught me that people only care about themselves, no matter how much you've tried to be there for them through good and bad times.

[Bella518]

What happened? I remember you from the first time me and the ex broke up.

Nothing good happened.

Lol this is true. I guess I'm so over it that I dont care about talking about it.

Just stupid me believing empty promises. I blocked him again so I dont get his texts anymore, only this time I didnt tell him about it. I have made the mistak of telling him he will be blocked only to have him email me begging me for forgiveness.

I have no self control and no will power. It's absolutely disgusting.

I hate being lonely.

[Dirtymanjames]

Lol this is true. I guess I'm so over it that I dont care about talking about it.

Just stupid me believing empty promises. I blocked him again so I dont get his texts anymore, only this time I didnt tell him about it. I have made the mistak of telling him he will be blocked only to have him email me begging me for forgiveness.

I have no self control and no will power. It's absolutely disgusting.

I hate being lonely.

dont worry , you'll find a new bf in a couple weeks like all girls do.

[Bella518]

dont worry , you'll find a new bf in a couple weeks like all girls do.

I have an unique personality. It's hard for me to make connections with people. Especially intimate relationships.

[Dirtymanjames]

I have an unique personality. It's hard for me to make connections with people. Especially intimate relationships.

Doesn't everyone have a unique personality? But I understand, I'm somewhat in the same boat, haven't really met any girls I have fully connected with , and if I have I don't find them physically attractive enough.

[Bella518]

Doesn't everyone have a unique personality? But I understand, I'm somewhat in the same boat, haven't really met any girls I have fully connected with , and if I have I don't find them physically attractive enough.

Mine is unique in a bad way

[MiscInformed]

Well after 3 weeks of NC and being broken up about 7 weeks I sent her a message. Basically saying I hope she had a good birthday and hope she's doing well. Her birthday was last week and I sent the text yesterday and nothing. So yeah that's it just drops me after 3 years filled with promises, plans and emotions. What a fake ass relationship. I just don't get how someone can just drop someone that was so important like that. Especially under the circumstances that we were both in. We both were in a really bad rut dealing with our own personal problems. Its crazy how someone you thought the world of, would never let you down and were great together changes just like that. She said she needed time to herself and we could talk in a few weeks, well looks like that was a lie to. Just don't get it, there's not another guy and crazy me still thinks she loved me to death and meant what she said but to just leave like that I seriously don't get it. I mean she's stubborn and prolly scared to even engage in convo with me in fear she falls for me again but I can't hope or wait obvs.

Still going to continue doing me and not try to think about her. So hard tho hasn't really gotten better since day 1 but still going to keep on trucking.

When a woman says she needs some time to herself, 99.9% of the time that means there is another guy. She doesn't want any contact with you during this time because in her mind, that would be cheating on her new guy. Let that rattle around in your brain for a minute or two... 3 years with you and only a couple of weeks with some new guy, but now she won't talk to you because even talking to you would be cheating. If that doesn't motivate you to stick to NC, move on, and find a better woman, what will?

[ClimbMode]

Mine is unique in a bad way

Pretty pessimistic outlook. Your thought of "bad way" could be perfect for some potential partner down the road.

Glass half full.

[Dirtymanjames]

Mine is unique in a bad way

Explain

[Bella518]

Pretty pessimistic outlook. Your thought of "bad way" could be perfect for some potential partner down the road.

Glass half full.

Explain

I dont feel empathy. Without getting to much into it. Theres two types of empathy. Cognitive empathy, understanding people's pain, and affective empathy, feeling what they feel or caring about it.

I understand how people feel (cognitive empathy) However I dont care about it. Even if I try. I just dont.

I only care if something happens to my dog.

I care about my immediate family, mom dad and sis. But not in a normal way.

[Dirtymanjames]

In order to have empathy you kind of need to experience what that person is going through.

This whole experience with my ex really humbled me and it really made me look out how I treated people and what they must have felt when I did them wrong . You just need more experience.

[ThatzItBoiiiIiZ]

fighting off the urge just to send her "I miss you". Didn't think about her all morning... last night I was happy when my new girl was staying over, but as soon as I'm home alone, or alone in the gym... she comes flooding back in and it f**king hurts

[Rambo66]

When a woman says she needs some time to herself, 99.9% of the time that means there is another guy. She doesn't want any contact with you during this time because in her mind, that would be cheating on her new guy. Let that rattle around in your brain for a minute or two... 3 years with you and only a couple of weeks with some new guy, but now she won't talk to you because even talking to you would be cheating. If that doesn't motivate you to stick to NC, move on, and find a better woman, what will?

Call me crazy but I'm sure there wasn't with another guy after the break up. She needed time to figure herself out because she was going through problems and needed to get to the root of what was causing them. But ya I'm motivated to and **** her she lost something good. Such is life moving on.

[BradKemp]

Broke NC on my second day. I woke up at 3am and sent a last text to her. I didn't get to say much as I kicked her out at 3am yesterday. Then I dropped all her stuff on her doorstep.

I'm already regretting reaching out to get but felt inclined to go do because I said some really mean stuff to her to the point that she might not ever contact me again.

I basically just told her that I wasn't proud of what I said and if us not being a couple is what you Trurly want then i wont ever reach out to you again.

[Bella518]

Day 2.

I think I need a distraction pretty soon. I dont want to break NC because of loneliness