The No Contact Thread v3.0: I'll Hug You Bro No Homo.

[Distance]

Bros...

I got her back. The letter worked. I started losing hope at hour 2 of 4 and then next thing i know I look up and i see her walking towards me.

We talked for 3 hours about our issues and we decided to give it another go.

At this point, if we dont work, I can live with it and not be sad. I just wanted a chance to work through our issues.

Just giving my 2 cents.

My ex and I got back together after being broken up for 4 weeks, we had the heart to heart talk in my car, cried, hugged, etc. She said things like she felt so sad and lost without me, and how the thought of me ending up with another girl hurt her, and how she couldn't sleep and was feeling stressed all the time. She said that everything I said during our talk was exactly what she wanted to hear, that I realized my mistakes and was willing to work on our relationship.

Well she ended up breaking up with me again 5 days later despite me doing none of the things that first drove her away. She said she couldn't get over the bad feelings she got when she thought about me, and that she would always love me but not in the same way. She said we couldn't try being friends either because when I'm around her it "does things to her"

So basically what my experience tells me is that you just get hurt more even if you get the girl back. I went from her being miserable and dreaming about me, to the opposite situation. I soothed emotions for a week and while she convinced herself that we couldn't work together.

If I hadn't gotten back with her she would have live with knowing that she ruined a great relationship, but by getting back together she was able to get the closure she wanted and move on faster.

[MeFromG]

... but by getting back together she was able to get the closure she wanted and move on faster.

Did you love her at one point at least? Then be content that she got supposedly closure and didn't suffer. And then take care of yourself.

[kjoel007]

Lol what are you doing on here anyways? Go back to the FA thread

Huh? Why are you coming at me for...? Oh I know, cause you envy me since I am not weak minded like you, and I am committed to NC. Stop crying about your ex already you cry baby. You are the most weak minded ******* on here. How many threads did you make about the sloot, 50? Heuheuehe.

She's getting fuked by the new dude, while you are sitting in your room day dreaming about the sloot. Stop it.

Its you who should take a hike since you are clearly not taking NC seriously. This goes for anyone who's not taking NC seriously, get outta here.

[melofellow]

If I hadn't gotten back with her she would have live with knowing that she ruined a great relationship, but by getting back together she was able to get the closure she wanted and move on faster.

never thought of it like that. my ex did the same ****. i guess when she came back she just wanted to be 100% sure i wasn't the guy she should end up with. how cold is that.

[Lamborg]

Fuark brahs idk what to do

she reached out to me, hasnt even been a week....

hearts racing lol.

[NLNFunKti0nz]

what you guys need to realize is.. when your ex contacts you, you feel a huge weight lifted off your shoulders. that euphoria that you feel is unbelievable. it's like, for weeks / days / maybe even months, you've been depressed as hell just trying to make it through the days.. and the ONE thing in the entire world that can make you happy comes back to you.. and it's great for a little while.

the problem is, when they walked out of your life and stayed out for a little while, your own mind became your enemy in that time. you started to ask yourself, why am i not good enough for her? how could she just walk out of my life like that and not feel anything? what did i do wrong? so while it feels good when you first get back together, those thoughts start to settle in again.

you start to question every little thing. every little thing they do becomes over-analyzed. you might not have been a jealous / clingy type person, but you are now.. because you are so scared to lose her again. she already left before, why wouldn't she just do it again, right? what's stopping her? what changed about her over that short time period that would make her not want to just up and leave when things get tough again?

when me and my ex got back together, i drove myself insane. if she didn't text back within 20 minutes, i got anxiety. i'm thinking she's already losing interest, she's talking to somebody else, etc. i've NEVER been that type of guy in a relationship.. but her leaving before just made me overly cautious, and it's in no way shape or form healthy. instead of actually enjoying her presence and enjoying the relationship, my mind was FIXED on trying to make her not leave again.. and i had no control. that is no way to live.

like the other guy said, when loss of attraction is the issue in a relationship.. it's really doomed. they might stay around longer than they want to, but that's just because they don't want to be alone. you're their comfort zone and it's hard for people to just step out of that, so they'll use you until they find somebody else they think they're a better fit for. don't fall for it.

This x100000
Experienced this same exact thing in the last 3 months when my ex came back. I wish I had cut off everything sooner.

She left me more broken hearted after the 3rd time. Now I'm feeling a lot better and I'm glad it happened cause there will be someone else who will be getting my best.

Starting to see the end of the tunnel here guys. NC is your best friend along with keeping busy.

[NLNFunKti0nz]

Huh? Why are you coming at me for...? Oh I know, cause you envy me since I am not weak minded like you, and I am committed to NC. Stop crying about your ex already you cry baby. You are the most weak minded ******* on here. How many threads did you make about the sloot, 50? Heuheuehe.

She's getting fuked by the new dude, while you are sitting in your room day dreaming about the sloot. Stop it.

Its you who should take a hike since you are clearly not taking NC seriously. This goes for anyone who's not taking NC seriously, get outta here.

Haha at least I experienced it. You're over there jacking off to Pamela Anderson brah who the phuck you kidding giving people advice like you know chit.

You must be a god damn loser to count how many threads I made. Get the phuck outta here

[melofellow]

lonely late nights

[Nomadiic]

Help me brahs, almost exactly 4 months since BU and still dreaming about her... also haven't seen her since which is why I guess.

[CeBKa]

Have you tried meeting up with other chicks ? (do you speak french btw)

[TarekGG]

Huh? Why are you coming at me for...? Oh I know, cause you envy me since I am not weak minded like you, and I am committed to NC. Stop crying about your ex already you cry baby. You are the most weak minded ******* on here. How many threads did you make about the sloot, 50? Heuheuehe.

She's getting fuked by the new dude, while you are sitting in your room day dreaming about the sloot. Stop it.

Its you who should take a hike since you are clearly not taking NC seriously. This goes for anyone who's not taking NC seriously, get outta here.

QFT. Seen you posting strong advice in NC v2, and you are one of the few who actually kept NC. I`m tying to do the same, kudos.

[Nomadiic]

Have you tried meeting up with other chicks ? (do you speak french btw)

No, except for sitting at a bar once with one of my Tinder matches but she wasn't my type...
Also cold approached a few girls but failed.
I think that was it, apart from casually talking to a few tinder matches.

And no, I live in the Dutch part of Belgium, I learned to speak French but I'm not that great at it.

I do live in a house with a lot of other chicks (students) but I think I'm an introvert because I can't interact that well with them. I feel awkward around them because I don't have anything to say, they don't either. I can be outgoing but it depends on the girl I'm talking to... Haven't met that one yet where I feel comfortable with.

[JValkyrie]

No, except for sitting at a bar once with one of my Tinder matches but she wasn't my type...
Also cold approached a few girls but failed.
I think that was it, apart from casually talking to a few tinder matches.

And no, I live in the Dutch part of Belgium, I learned to speak French but I'm not that great at it.

I do live in a house with a lot of other chicks (students) but I think I'm an introvert because I can't interact that well with them. I feel awkward around them because I don't have anything to say, they don't either. I can be outgoing but it depends on the girl I'm talking to... Haven't met that one yet where I feel comfortable with.

You'll get there dude. You've done a great job with your NC and you will one day be not thinking of her and not evet realize it! You'll also meet someone else when you don't expect it (always happens). Life is just like that, swings and roundabouts. You have your little family here on Misc as well until you don't feel like posting here anymore.

[JValkyrie]

This x100000
Experienced this same exact thing in the last 3 months when my ex came back. I wish I had cut off everything sooner.

She left me more broken hearted after the 3rd time. Now I'm feeling a lot better and I'm glad it happened cause there will be someone else who will be getting my best.

Starting to see the end of the tunnel here guys. NC is your best friend along with keeping busy.

Glad to hear it. Sometimes we need to feel the pain before we can truly comprehend that the relationship we remember is over. Once things change there is no going back. Especially when she calls with breadcrumbs.

[JValkyrie]

Fuark brahs idk what to do

she reached out to me, hasnt even been a week....

hearts racing lol.

Tell us your story dude.

[MuckSnapper]

Bros I did it.

I had a huge and mutually honest and positive discussion with her last night.

It's not like I didn't know any of it but I guess really talking about it made it more of a reality.

I was very appreciative of how honest she was, but I still have too much self respect to not recieve equally what I'm giving.

She wanted to continue what we were doing and planned to see me this weekend, I told her I wasn't making any decisions.

But when I got home last night I blocked her on all platforms. Just got a wave of courage and went for it. Woke up today feeling good about it.

So not ready for the second week feels wave though.

NC means NC, brahs.

[NLNFunKti0nz]

Bros I did it.

I had a huge and mutually honest and positive discussion with her last night.

It's not like I didn't know any of it but I guess really talking about it made it more of a reality.

I was very appreciative of how honest she was, but I still have too much self respect to not recieve equally what I'm giving.

She wanted to continue what we were doing and planned to see me this weekend, I told her I wasn't making any decisions.

But when I got home last night I blocked her on all platforms. Just got a wave of courage and went for it. Woke up today feeling good about.

So not ready for the second week feels wave though.

NC means NC, brahs.

So you're saying she threw herself back at you and you had your fun. Now you're leaving her? Gjdm

[MuckSnapper]

So you're saying she threw herself back at you and you had your fun. Now you're leaving her? Gjdm

Pretty much. But only because I'm already feeling her slip. Plus the paranoia and unhealthy analyzation of everything that melofellow was talking about.

I remember what it felt like when she loved me fully. I don't feel that. I'm not going to watch the detonator countdown. Got the fukc out of there.

[Nomadiic]

You'll get there dude. You've done a great job with your NC and you will one day be not thinking of her and not evet realize it! You'll also meet someone else when you don't expect it (always happens). Life is just like that, swings and roundabouts. You have your little family here on Misc as well until you don't feel like posting here anymore.

Nah, I broke NC a couple of times before I realized it doesn't make things better. If you're not completely over your ex you still hope she contacts you someday but it's better that she doesn't, it makes moving on a lot easier and quicker.

I'm not like some guys who can smash another girl every week, if that was the case I probably would have been over it already but my ex took my v-card and she was the first person I shared everything with, kissed around 10-15 girls before her but never got laid, prolly also the reason why I never had any serious relationships before, huge beta I know. It's good for one reason she ended it, now I can catch up smashing the same amount of girls (or more) instead of just kissing, lawl.

[MuckSnapper]

I'm not like some guys who can smash another girl every week, if that was the case I probably would have been over it already

Doesn't help especially if the girls aren't as attractive, which especially because of your feels none of them will be.

[Nomadiic]

Doesn't help especially if the girls aren't as attractive, which especially because of your feels none of them will be.

I've met some girls though where I thought like "If I could pull off doing anything with them I would be over my ex in an instant" but this hasn't happened yet, just need to meet that one girl where I feel even more attractive to than my ex and be able to smash her atleast and build something up.

[1thatgotaway]

Guys, a lot has happened in the past few days and I haven't updated.

But in the last twenty minutes, she texted me something and I responded 2 minutes later. The 2nd text I sent in the last month.

And it doesn't say delivered like it always does.

I don't know if she blocked me and I really hope she didn't. That's going to crush me.

I was giving her an opportunity to talk to me too.

[melofellow]

Bros I did it.

I had a huge and mutually honest and positive discussion with her last night.

It's not like I didn't know any of it but I guess really talking about it made it more of a reality.

I was very appreciative of how honest she was, but I still have too much self respect to not recieve equally what I'm giving.

She wanted to continue what we were doing and planned to see me this weekend, I told her I wasn't making any decisions.

But when I got home last night I blocked her on all platforms. Just got a wave of courage and went for it. Woke up today feeling good about it.

So not ready for the second week feels wave though.

NC means NC, brahs.

good job dude. you're strong as hell. i stupidly waited around for her to dump me again. it was obvious she wasn't feeling it and the relationship was just crashing and burning.. but i handled it wrong and just waited for her to crush me. i give you a ton of props for just walking away yourself when it wasn't feeling right.

and yeah, i'm entering week 2 of NC. already feeling those bad feels.. i had a good day yesterday and just woke up really depressed today.

[AfroPope]

Well, she finally texted me yesterday and I'm getting a nice view from the moral high ground.

A mutual acquaintance - someone who's friendly with me and pretty close with my ex - mentioned my ex in passing and I was like "she's cool, I miss being her pal." Friend says "oh man, I didn't know y'all had broken up! What happened?"

I said "I dunno. It was a misunderstanding and we just kind of had a falling out. No hard feelings on my end." That is what I said, VERBATIM.

About four hours later I get three texts SCREAMING at me for dragging her friends in to my bull**** and how dare I speak about her at all, keep it to myself because nobody cares and don't I dare contact her or her friends ever again.

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Didn't respond. Just deleted the texts and listened to "Bitches Ain't ****" on repeat for an hour.

[InVentive44]

Gf broke up with me 6 days ago, first love, she was pretty cool too into threesomes the sex was great etc, I started acting needy and ****ed things up ! We were together for 10 months, feels weird that you can talk about a future together and than it be all ruined ! Like it didn't mean anything. Meh already on dat no contact time. Thought I'd pop in and vent.

[KAnderson1]

Ex texts me out of nowhere like "btw I'm seeing someone now" and starts talking about how many times she's had sex etc. trying to make me jealous.

fuking psychopath, sloots gonna sloots

[InVentive44]

Ex texts me out of nowhere like "btw I'm seeing someone now" and starts talking about how many times she's had sex etc. trying to make me jealous.

fuking psychopath, sloots gonna sloots

Just trying to rustle your jimmies, respond with "that sounds awesome " or don't respond at all.

[melofellow]

Ex texts me out of nowhere like "btw I'm seeing someone now" and starts talking about how many times she's had sex etc. trying to make me jealous.

fuking psychopath, sloots gonna sloots

blessing in disguise brotha. what a crazy bitch.

[Lamborg]

Tell us your story dude.

She broke up with me on saturday/said she needed a break

hit me up the next day and Im like were not going to talk anymore. Collect yourself and we'll talk in a week

just msged me yesterday and I caved in lol

we're back together.....

Inb4 im setting myself up for failure again and will be back in this thread in a month

[MuckSnapper]

good job dude. you're strong as hell. i stupidly waited around for her to dump me again. it was obvious she wasn't feeling it and the relationship was just crashing and burning.. but i handled it wrong and just waited for her to crush me. i give you a ton of props for just walking away yourself when it wasn't feeling right.

and yeah, i'm entering week 2 of NC. already feeling those bad feels.. i had a good day yesterday and just woke up really depressed today.

You know what I think the craziest part is.. it REALLY takes stepping outside of yourself to see how cliche and common your situation is. Everyone in their own situations like this wants to believe it's unique, because all of the details and things make it seem so. You start to convince yourself you can handle stuff and that she sees you better than the way other girls see the guy in this situation.

But when you really think about it.. It's the same damn story as everyone else and it's happening to you. So hard to accept but I take huge pride in self-awareness. I'm going to be fine.