How to overcome break up depression

[chirashi]

We've all been in your shoes OP.

It's gona take time. Lots of North Carolina, keeping busy, and time.

Come 6 months and you'll be feeling way better than you are now (if you keep NC)

We're all going to make it.

[packerfanfrommd]

Whats the story behind this OP? Why'd yall break up

[Koop21]

Time heals all brutha. Keep pushing forward. Make plans and goals so you can have things to look forward to/work towards. Maybe try something totally new. Something you don't associate with your ex at all.


It will get better.

[Tickyouup]

holy fuk there are billions of people that would love to live your life and youre crying over some slooty single mom who cant pay her rent..lmfao

[Menark]

6 full days of NC

Six days is nothing brah it is probably going to take at least a month and a few girls on the side before you get over a girl you actually liked. Think of it this way girls don't end things the second they see something going on they try even if you cant see they are trying to make things right. Things have probably been bad for a while and even though girls don't give up straight away they are cruel with their feelings and once they know its done nothing will change their mind.
Try drinking protein shakes when you feel like you cant eat, they stay down and will keep your macros going.

[youngarab]

We've all been in your shoes OP.

It's gona take time. Lots of North Carolina, keeping busy, and time.

Come 6 months and you'll be feeling way better than you are now (if you keep NC)

We're all going to make it.

i know ill be fine in 6 months but its gonna be a very hard and long 6 months

[youngarab]

Whats the story behind this OP? Why'd yall break up

So basically shes been depressed cuz the holidays (mom died week of christmas) told me shes ignoring her own grandparents and friends too and told me she just wants to isolate herself for now. Gave her the space she wanted and let her know if she needed anything to ask. Anyways fast forward to xmas eve give her some nice presents that she loved... made her day a little better but she was still very depressed /moody. After xmas eve she stopped texting/calling .... so like 6 days ago I called her she didnt pick up and texts me this

Her:Can you just text me instead of call, I have my kids and my daughter just asked me "who is OP" (Her kids are not allowed to know shes dating yet)
Me:Ok whats wrong though your acting different?
Her: Well you know I always have my kids usually , ive had them since Christmas so im not talking on the phone
Me: Ok you dont have to be like that though.....
Her: Like what?
Her: Im just spending time with my kids right now im not doing anything else
Me: Ignoring me and being distant, was gonna ask if you wanted to come out on nye
Her: I have the kids that day but thank you for the offer
Me: Ok im gonna leave you alone seems like you dont want to have anything to do with me
Her: Im spending time with my kids right now, sorry you feel that way.

This weird behavior is whats really mind fking me..... just a little over a week ago she told me she had really strong feelings for me ... so I dont think it thats she lost feelings .... but I also dont get why I havent heard from her since than.. at least if I had some closure Id feel a little better but as of now I have no idea wtf is going on

[youngarab]

Time heals all brutha. Keep pushing forward. Make plans and goals so you can have things to look forward to/work towards. Maybe try something totally new. Something you don't associate with your ex at all.


It will get better.

Appreciate it

[youngarab]

holy fuk there are billions of people that would love to live your life and youre crying over some slooty single mom who cant pay her rent..lmfao

I know Im grateful for what I have, it just sucks when you have someone you really like, can always hang out with/ talk too/ sex/ etc and than lose them

[youngarab]

Six days is nothing brah it is probably going to take at least a month and a few girls on the side before you get over a girl you actually liked. Think of it this way girls don't end things the second they see something going on they try even if you cant see they are trying to make things right. Things have probably been bad for a while and even though girls don't give up straight away they are cruel with their feelings and once they know its done nothing will change their mind.
Try drinking protein shakes when you feel like you cant eat, they stay down and will keep your macros going.

Thats the thing bro ... nothing is wrong that I can think of ... told me a week ago she has really strong feelings for me, I treat her very good.... it just doesnt make sense . Yeah I need to order some whey asap ... Im bout to look like a pencil neck at this rate

[BruceVain]

. Made a huge mistake by going to the casino .... thats where I took her to on our first date .... walked right by the lounge area where me and her were sitting fkin hit me with the feels so hard

bro pleezee, y u do dis?


Do the Fronk Yong method, **** 100 girls in one year (stay safe bra)! semisrs





Now you can doo whatever the ... **** you wanna do!

a gf is not always it mayne...


Your happiness should not depend on someone else, you are born alone and you will die alone. You do not necessarily need somebody else to be happy. Especially romantic love is quite difficult. You should read the book the art of loving by erich fromm, helped me to overcome my ex gf. Probably you are thinking you lost something, but reconsider if you really lost something. It doesn't make sense being depressed about something like that, disregard negative feels acquire happiness.

[DLTBB]

- Block her number & anybody associated with her from calling you
- Delete her number to prevent you feeling the urge to contact her
- Block her on every social network
- NEVER go snooping on her, don't check her Instagram to see what she is up to etc.
- Join Tinder and POF
- Practice your game, get used to speaking to new sluts, this will boost your confidence
- Use the time you used to spend with her effectively. Hit the gym harder, get a tan, grow your hair out and get it cut in to a nice style, buy nicer clothes
- Go on dates/hook up with girls from POF/Tinder (Some will flake, get used to it.)

And whaddaya know, 5 months have passed. You're much more confident, you are more aesthetic, you have a large number of girls in rotation who you can bang when you want and you haven't thought about ex in months.

[BroHusky]

Bro, the real problem here is you are fantasizing about having a reality back that was never true to begin with. Our minds have a way of only remembering the good things as time goes on. You're wishing for something to come back to you that was never really there. There is a reason you broke up. Now go use the best pre-workout known to man (no GF) and hit the weights.

- Block her number & anybody associated with her from calling you
- Delete her number to prevent you feeling the urge to contact her
- Block her on every social network
- NEVER go snooping on her, don't check her Instagram to see what she is up to etc.
- Join Tinder and POF
- Practice your game, get used to speaking to new sluts, this will boost your confidence
- Use the time you used to spend with her effectively. Hit the gym harder, get a tan, grow your hair out and get it cut in to a nice style, buy nicer clothes
- Go on dates/hook up with girls from POF/Tinder (Some will flake, get used to it.)

And whaddaya know, 5 months have passed. You're much more confident, you are more aesthetic, you have a large number of girls in rotation who you can bang when you want and you haven't thought about ex in months.

This too.

[CitizenVagrant]

1. Take your sorrow and turn it into anger
2. Turn anger into hatred
3. Turn your hatred upon yourself
4. Go to gym
5. Enjoy a rigorous, hate-fueled exercise session
6. Eat, repeat

So long as you don't kill yourself or go insane, you'll be ok. The whole self-hatred thing isn't for everyone though.

[BetaAsPhuck]

So basically shes been depressed cuz the holidays (mom died week of christmas) told me shes ignoring her own grandparents and friends too and told me she just wants to isolate herself for now. Gave her the space she wanted and let her know if she needed anything to ask. Anyways fast forward to xmas eve give her some nice presents that she loved... made her day a little better but she was still very depressed /moody. After xmas eve she stopped texting/calling .... so like 6 days ago I called her she didnt pick up and texts me this

I didn't read anywhere in that post that she broke up with you, or you broke up with her. You just seem to be assuming that your relationship is over.

I think this part of your post is key:

So basically shes been depressed cuz the holidays (mom died week of christmas) told me shes ignoring her own grandparents and friends too and told me she just wants to isolate herself for now.

She's isolating herself from every emotional connection other than her kids by the sounds of it, because she's re-experiencing grief and that's how she's dealing with the emotions.

To be blunt; I remember some of your past posts, you both sound neurotic (which I believe the overwhelming majority of people are - and 100% of on the misc - myself included). And I don't think either of you have constructive ways of dealing with insecurity and vulnerability.

I think you are taking her isolation personally when it isn't. It's a neurotic and insensitive response to pain, but she's in pain - and IME a lot of people aren't good at maintaining bonds when they are in deep pain.

(I'm someone who is genuinely resentful towards people wanting to communicate with me when I'm in deep pain, I only want one person to be in contact with regulary, and generally I isolate myself. I am dreading my mothers funeral for that reason. I won't genuinely want to talk or greet anyone - I won't give a phuck about them. So I empathize with your partner.)

If you really love her and believe there is a future, I'd advise you to text her something like (IMO); Hey. I'm just having a bit of a mind phuck because we haven't been in contact for a while. Are you just needing isolation to deal with the memory of your loss? I'm just asking because I'd just like some reassurance right now that you still love me. That's all I need, and then I'll leave you alone and be there for you when you want to re-connect with me. (In your own style of communication.)

IME one of the cornerstones of neurotic people is taking everything personally (subconsciously), not recognize that other people's responses to you necessary have to do with you, and/or your bond - it's their own crap. (Again though this is subconscious, and everyone need reassurance from time to time that when a partner is 'distant' or snaps that it isn't personal.)

Children (unfortunately) and highly neurotic people take everything personally.

(Before some 'Alphas' jump down my throat, I believe there is a distinction to compassionately responding to people in pain and being a doormat. I'm just advising him to respond compassionately to her grief.)

[baraka28]

Strict NC and a good night out on psychedelics with some trusted friends... srs

[classybrah]

Bro she was a 30 something leeching single mother. **** her and go with a young girl with no kids

[ratemahworkout]

I've spent full 4 years of NC and pain never went away. We became "distant friends" and agreed not to interfere in relationships too much. You'll realize being a ******* won't help you and it will only fk you up in the long run.

Lifting / doing pushups at home is working wonders for me.


Or you can go and cry and fist yourself.

[Brdprey]

6 full days of NC

??? im not one to tell people what to do but more like one to give an opinion.

but, 6 days? thats it? uh- occupy your time with something you want to do , something you love doing.
gf come and go. friends come and go. your door will open to opportunity in the realm of love when your ready
till then. gave some fun and be YOU. live for you right now. if a she wants to join you, she will because she shares
the same interests.
now , go on, get out there and make us proud.

[bking45]

took me about 5 months and meeting a new girl that I really clicked with to start feeling significantly better. still not nearly over her since we dated for 4 years, was first girl I loved and all. it takes time and a lot of it but grind through and it'll get better

[BruceVain]

Bro she was a 30 something leeching single mother. **** her and go with a young girl with no kids

lul first thought rockin dat oedipus nooffense

[adamsz]

Jesus Christ OP you post every minute detail of every fuking encounter you have with females, your posts read like a fuking tumblr.

Nobody gives a fuk ******* this isn't your personal diary.

[moofthedog]

Im about to start my cut in 3 weeks so im look forward to that ... prob hop on some creatine too

If you're really cutting, you should be too angry about everything to be depressed due to caloric deficit

[youngarab]

bro pleezee, y u do dis?


Do the Fronk Yong method, **** 100 girls in one year (stay safe bra)! semisrs





Now you can doo whatever the ... **** you wanna do!

a gf is not always it mayne...


Your happiness should not depend on someone else, you are born alone and you will die alone. You do not necessarily need somebody else to be happy. Especially romantic love is quite difficult. You should read the book the art of loving by erich fromm, helped me to overcome my ex gf. Probably you are thinking you lost something, but reconsider if you really lost something. It doesn't make sense being depressed about something like that, disregard negative feels acquire happiness.

thats true you should never base ur happiness on someone else but I really wanted some closure or something ... with those texts I have no idea whats really going on.

[youngarab]

- Block her number & anybody associated with her from calling you
- Delete her number to prevent you feeling the urge to contact her
- Block her on every social network
- NEVER go snooping on her, don't check her Instagram to see what she is up to etc.
- Join Tinder and POF
- Practice your game, get used to speaking to new sluts, this will boost your confidence
- Use the time you used to spend with her effectively. Hit the gym harder, get a tan, grow your hair out and get it cut in to a nice style, buy nicer clothes
- Go on dates/hook up with girls from POF/Tinder (Some will flake, get used to it.)

And whaddaya know, 5 months have passed. You're much more confident, you are more aesthetic, you have a large number of girls in rotation who you can bang when you want and you haven't thought about ex in months.

tinder doesnt work unless ur shredded or have top tier facial aesthetics ... but yeah ill make one anyways .. anything would help at this point

[youngarab]

Bro, the real problem here is you are fantasizing about having a reality back that was never true to begin with. Our minds have a way of only remembering the good things as time goes on. You're wishing for something to come back to you that was never really there. There is a reason you broke up. Now go use the best pre-workout known to man (no GF) and hit the weights.



This too.

Thats very true ... all I can remember is good things about her even though in reality she has a million problems.... she even admiteed to me like 2 weeks ago "shes a derailed train" so she knows her self value

[youngarab]

I didn't read anywhere in that post that she broke up with you, or you broke up with her. You just seem to be assuming that your relationship is over.

I think this part of your post is key:



She's isolating herself from every emotional connection other than her kids by the sounds of it, because she's re-experiencing grief and that's how she's dealing with the emotions.

To be blunt; I remember some of your past posts, you both sound neurotic (which I believe the overwhelming majority of people are - and 100% of on the misc - myself included). And I don't think either of you have constructive ways of dealing with insecurity and vulnerability.

I think you are taking her isolation personally when it isn't. It's a neurotic and insensitive response to pain, but she's in pain - and IME a lot of people aren't good at maintaining bonds when they are in deep pain.

(I'm someone who is genuinely resentful towards people wanting to communicate with me when I'm in deep pain, I only want one person to be in contact with regulary, and generally I isolate myself. I am dreading my mothers funeral for that reason. I won't genuinely want to talk or greet anyone - I won't give a phuck about them. So I empathize with your partner.)

If you really love her and believe there is a future, I'd advise you to text her something like (IMO); Hey. I'm just having a bit of a mind phuck because we haven't been in contact for a while. Are you just needing isolation to deal with the memory of your loss? I'm just asking because I'd just like some reassurance right now that you still love me. That's all I need, and then I'll leave you alone and be there for you when you want to re-connect with me. (In your own style of communication.)

IME one of the cornerstones of neurotic people is taking everything personally (subconsciously), not recognize that other people's responses to you necessary have to do with you, and/or your bond - it's their own crap. (Again though this is subconscious, and everyone need reassurance from time to time that when a partner is 'distant' or snaps that it isn't personal.)

Children (unfortunately) and highly neurotic people take everything personally.

(Before some 'Alphas' jump down my throat, I believe there is a distinction to compassionately responding to people in pain and being a doormat. I'm just advising him to respond compassionately to her grief.)

if not contacting someone for a week is not a break up than thats odd. Also I did text her asking whats wrong and I asked if it was cuz the holidays/depression and she just told me shes spending time with her kids. Surely by now she would have called me

[Payrab]

How many threads have you made about your relationship with this broad? She sounds like a complete deadbeat. I don't know why you keep subjecting yourself to this chit. Give it a few months you'll good. You're dodging a bullet here. Home girl is red flag central. For the love of Christ, please do not contact her.

[Codo]

When I break up/get broken up with, i have a 3 movie stack that I play repeatedly for...well for pretty much ever until I get a new GF.

Mikey left his girlfriend in New york to persue a career in acting in LA,
but regrets his decision and pines after his Ex all movie, wondering why she doesn't call him back.
Meanwhile his buddy Trent pulls out all of the stops to help him get over his girlfriend.

This movie will pull you out of depression.



Dude falls in love and wins the girl of his dreams while the rest of his life spirals into chaos, closure comes into fruition when it all ends, not at the ending, but at the beginning.

This movie will get you excited to find someone new!



We all know wedding crashers
This movie will get you pumped to get out and seek opportunity


Gimme your address or a business address or a PO box and i'll send you these movies from Amazon. My treat. 100% serious.
These movies are break-up-blues-killers.

[Geoff_Saari]

kids losing their families to war in the Middle East or people who have had their partners raped in front of them still find the will to man up and carry on with life but oh no, heres a californian arab ******* who wishes he didnt exist because of a break up with his GF of less than a year

man the f.uck up son