Girlfriends wants to travel but I want to save money for a house

[rocketfish]

they all want to travel.

you tell em you are saving for a home, and give a budget if you are going to travel. say if you want to travel for like 3 weeks then we need to make this amount of money last, those 3 weeks and not a penny more. Or we can do a nice 1-2 week with this amount

[AceRok]

they all want to travel.

you tell em you are saving for a home, and give a budget if you are going to travel. say if you want to travel for like 3 weeks then we need to make this amount of money last, those 3 weeks and not a penny more. Or we can do a nice 1-2 week with this amount

Logic doesn't work with women.

Especially young ones like OP's.

Its all emotional.

[zuocruz]

Great place to travel just for you OP

[JoeyCraig]

travel brah... i travelled with my gf and some friends for almost 2 months... best time of my life. you have so much time to save for a house. Go while you're still young

[Epilerik]

Travelling is overrated, you're going to spend a lot of money for what, 2 weeks of enjoyment? Also, it won't even be 2 weeks of nothing but enjoyment, because travelling is a giant hassle.

Where as a house is an investment, and you won't lose it after 2 weeks.


For the people saying you can buy a house later, what happens when your girl leaves you after you've already been on vacation and you are still living at your parent's house? Do you really think 2 weeks of travel is going to satiate your girl's needs for travel, or will she just want to go visit somewhere else by the time you have saved up more money?

And how do your parents feel about you living at home, but wanting to spend money on luxuries?



There is also nothing to stop you from travelling later on in life as long as you don't have kids.




I don't feel like there is anything to be gained by travelling except to temporarily make your girl happy.

[Cynic09]

You need to take a good hard look at what you just said. You are financially responsible and she is not, this is going to be a strain on your relationship forever. You need to sit her down and see if your financial goals can coincide symbiotically and if they can't you need to move on because this will be a serious stressor in your life otherwise.

This guy got it.

A lot of divorces are due to financial reasons. Seems you and your GF live a totally different lifestyle, although I get where she's coming from.
But if she's always like this, then you 2 might not be compatible in the long run.

But at the same time OP, you are quite young. Live a little b/c once you set mortgage on that house, you'll be slaving away paying it off.

[Zweihander]

Go on a trip OP, 2-3k wont kill you and will make her happy, if you want this girl long-term you will be haunted by this decision to not let her travel.

lol wut?

1,247 posts and you're this much of a WK

[Tomiesto]

travelling is a giant hassle.

Where as a house is an investment, and you won't lose it after 2 weeks

LOL because a house isn't a huge hassle at all, and once he makes his down payment he can just coast through life right??? Stop trying to make the grass on the other side seem greener, you pretentious loser

I know exactly where you're coming from, because I used to be like you... I now work and travel at the same time, and (despite the headaches) travel has made my life much better

(in b4 someone quotes my location... it's fake, I rustle the jimmies of UK brahs on here with it)

[LinuxJon]

LOL because a house isn't a huge hassle at all, and once he makes his down payment he can just coast through life right??? Stop trying to make the grass on the other side seem greener, you pretentious loser

How is a house a hassle? It's not like you have a boatload of maintanence issues like in apartments.

[Jeremyn87]

Traveling is actually a really important thing, especially if you know the history behind what you're seeing.
You should travel with a reasonable budget AND go NC. You know if you go places with her, she's gonna make you spend more than you would otherwise. That way, you can still be financially responsible and see other parts of the world.

[Tomiesto]

How is a house a hassle? It's not like you have a boatload of maintanence issues like in apartments.

brb maintenance (plumbing, heating, electric etc)
brb new appliances
brb endless small jobs
brb yard work

not saying it's a bad buy, but I can tell you haven't quite thought this through and you certainly don't own one (or know anyone who does) if you think chit doesn't break lmfaoooooo

[JoeyCraig]

One thing though... travel if YOU want to go travel, don't go to make her happy. If you don't want to travel then don't do it.

[LinuxJon]

brb maintenance (plumbing, heating, electric etc)
brb new appliances
brb endless small jobs
brb yard work

not saying it's a bad buy, but I can tell you haven't quite thought this through and you certainly don't own one (or know anyone who does) if you think chit doesn't break lmfaoooooo

I guess it really depends. My plan is to buy a newer condo eventually. That way the association is in charge of most of the yard and other major issues. Plus, here in CA, that's gonna be about all I can afford ($300k+ for a 2 bedroom 1 bath condo). Feelsbadmane.

[Chezdon]

You're arguing about whether to travel for 1 week or 2 weeks? ROFL.

I thought this was going to be about 1 week or 1 year. 2 weeks is called "travelling" to you yanks?

If you can't find a compromise here then this relationship is doomed.

[NVious]

Don't ever listen to women.

Hey she wants to travel? Fantastic, then she can pay for it, she's a grown/capable adult.

Put the money towards the house and ALWAYS invest how YOU want to as opposed to what ANY female thinks.

[DLM012]

Tell her that North Carolina is a great place to visit around this time of year. You should start packing breh.

[VmissileX]

How is a house a hassle? It's not like you have a boatload of maintanence issues like in apartments.

YEah, i mean srs. What apartments would allow u to have 9 cats.

[ToXin]

OP i'm current taking a paycut so I can have 5 weeks vacation at my current job.

I'd pick vacation as well unless you're absolutely strapped for cash

[andthenithitme]

I guess it really depends. My plan is to buy a newer condo eventually. That way the association is in charge of most of the yard and other major issues. Plus, here in CA, that's gonna be about all I can afford ($300k+ for a 2 bedroom 1 bath condo). Feelsbadmane.

50k+ downpayment just to have a $1900 mortgage payment. Fuark this ghey state

[VmissileX]

Travelling is overrated, you're going to spend a lot of money for what, 2 weeks of enjoyment? Also, it won't even be 2 weeks of nothing but enjoyment, because travelling is a giant hassle.

Where as a house is an investment, and you won't lose it after 2 weeks.


For the people saying you can buy a house later, what happens when your girl leaves you after you've already been on vacation and you are still living at your parent's house? Do you really think 2 weeks of travel is going to satiate your girl's needs for travel, or will she just want to go visit somewhere else by the time you have saved up more money?

And how do your parents feel about you living at home, but wanting to spend money on luxuries?



There is also nothing to stop you from travelling later on in life as long as you don't have kids.




I don't feel like there is anything to be gained by travelling except to temporarily make your girl happy.

Fuk settling down. See the world. Money/Material isn't happiness. It's the honest pleasures/experiences which is.

[Solgryn]

Do what YOU want, OP, not what SHE wants you to do.

Travelling can be awesome, but who gives a chit if it limits you from what you really want.
Don't go just because your GF wants you to. Do it if you genuinely want to.

[LinuxJon]

YEah, i mean srs. What apartments would allow u to have 9 cats.

Well, mine doesn't "allow" any cats....

[hardenedbrah]

It honestly sounds like you're a synonym of responsibility and maturity, however, how can you not have the passion to travel? In all honesty I live for traveling and the time to explore the world is when you are in your twenties; Experience cultures so far from your own, experience different lifestyle, different ways of living, memories that will stay with you until the day you die. Not sure how things are in the states, but in the UK a lot of guys are going to be stuck in their 9-5 jobs and not looking at retirement until mid-late 50s, early 60s. Plenty of time to be a boring son of a bitch..
Sure, being able to make a large deposit on a house is desirable, but you have to manage expenses and if you have a job with a solid income, paying off a mortgage should not be a problem.
It looks like the two of you have conflicting views and you certainly shouldn't do something with her for the sake of it. Live your life how you want to live it.

[VmissileX]

Well, mine doesn't "allow" any cats....

i'm tellin

[LinuxJon]

i'm tellin

I don't think they'd mind that much, right?

[lsiberian]

As long as she's paying OP. Seriously you need to buy her Dave Ramsey books for Christmas.

[Wakiza33]

The bottom line is you two don't sound compatible.

[Nutkase]

disregard girlfriend. acuire lifelong rich's and house. She will suck your wallet dry!!!

[Joe1959]

Like some other posters pointed out already her financial behavior does not promise a good future.
She'll always be blowing money so think twice before committing yourself.

[juvefan]

Hmm lets see

Travel the world for 3 weeks and see new people and experience new things

Or

Buy a house to die in

Verdict:

gonocontact.com with yourself