How do you older chaps handle going out to places that are primarily under 30s & you get the inevitable pissing competitions where they are all trying to assert their dominance?
You might be on the dance floor & not have moved and all of a sudden some muppet consistently bumps into you just to get you to move etc etc.
The older I get, the more likely I am to just walk away, it annoys me especially as half the guys that do it are unfit, undisciplined bums that I could no doubt give an absolute hiding to but I just do not think its worth the risk pushing back these days.
I find nothing scarier than some 18 year old smashed out of his mind & aggressive, they usually have an attitude of nothing to lose because lets face it at that age, they don't.
Once you hit plus 35 you have usually accumulated assets & have people that rely on you so you are risking much more standing up for yourself.
However I do feel like a bit of a coward when I walk away to another part of the bar/club & I also feel that others in the place see that & all of a sudden you are being bumped about left right and centre.
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11-22-2014, 11:57 PM #1
Going out to clubs & handling agression
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11-23-2014, 12:34 AM #2
being smart does not make you a coward, it makes you smart
there may be times when you need to fight - to protect yourself or a member of your family etc ( hopefully that never happens)
but a territorial battle for room on a dance floor is not one of those times☻/
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11-23-2014, 01:01 AM #4
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If it's a problem then either stop going to college bars full of idiot kids or just don't go out if you cannot find an older more suitable crowd. How you haven't come to this conclusion yourself is puzzling. May God have mercy on your soul.
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11-23-2014, 01:04 AM #5
I just avoid muppets
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11-23-2014, 01:12 AM #6
Best idea right there. I find the best way to avoid trouble is to stay out of the places where it happens. I only prefer to drink in one bar on the rare occasions I do drink outside of my home, and it's in a working class neighborhood with an older crowd who are tired from working all day and just want a drink or two before going home and doing it again tomorrow. Haven't seen a single fight there and I'm there say once a month for the past 6 years.
In case I do get some aggression towards me (it happens), I prefer to defuse the situation by apologizing for whatever odd transgression I did and offer to buy them a drink as a peace offering. Once they're working on their drink, I either move on or, if I think they're going to continue being a problem, pack it in and move on to another place.
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11-23-2014, 04:27 AM #9
Yup. This.
Went back home to visit some buds.. they brought me out to a club. Not an hour into being there had we lined up to face off with another group plus the door staff. I frakkin hated it. Never again. I don't think I'll miss out on anything if I never step foot in a club again.I don't lift weights, I flex under duress.
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11-23-2014, 06:36 AM #13
I tend to go to the 30+ places if out, but those muppets you described constantly bumping into you exist at any age, at least over here.
I do kind of push back. Stupid but that liquid courage. I don't go very often, but come spring/summer I will try find some more
relaxed places away from the main bar/club areas.
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11-23-2014, 12:30 PM #25
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Why would you be going to a club where there are 18 year olds?
I go clubbing, but it is 25 and over crowds, still get into sh!t at times because even older dudes act stupid. The thing is and I know this is sad, when you go out, you have to be prepared for the dumb sh!t, if not just don't go to the clubs like most of the folks here are telling you.On the list for Bannukah
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11-23-2014, 01:53 PM #26
Just get naked. Dudes won't be bumping into you if your completely naked. We used to run through the college bars after home rugby games bloody and muddy, with nothing butt shoes. It was like parting the Red Sea, even the cops wouldn't put much effort into catching us. We were in our early 20s though, so being 40 and hanging with the teen bop crowd, the outcome might be different on the legal side of things. Good luck.
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11-23-2014, 02:00 PM #27
Yeah, all good advice as far as staying away from the younger places except, I have been separated a year so its like going out is still a novelty after being with the same person for 17 years, I like the energy in some of the clubs where they go, I like the younger women & I have the unfortunate affliction of not finding women my own age attractive anymore.
I think I will continue doing what I am doing & just keep being cautious.
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