Going out to clubs & handling agression

[DCSpartan]

18 years old is just that's the lowest end of the scale. Youngest I have had anything to do with is about 22 however if I saw an 18 year old and she did it for me, I would have no hesitation & no bad feeling about hitting it.

I find it ironic how in this day and age if we question 2 dudes loving each other up then we are intolerant scum yet somehow a heterosexual 40 year old male chasing a legally aged heterosexual female is somehow sick or creepy. WTF is this world coming to?

As far as grinding on 18 year olds, I got no problem with that & when the snickering becomes too loud, I will move to Thailand.

Folks, this is what is known as a "mid life crisis"

OP is just trying to build up his courage so he can beat up some 19 year old kid outside the bar. I hope the kid doenst have friends . . .

[Brackneyc]

I never said I was looking for anything serious, you are right, it would be completely unfair for someone younger to be saddled with someone older especially at the other end of life.

As far as the guys here being protective over you daughters, I get that & accept that there is a tendency to personalise things. I would be interested although there is no way of proving it, if a really attractive young woman came up in a bikini, sat on your lap & wiggled, how many of those self righteous facades would crack under the pressure.

My guess is all of them.

Sounds like you are going in strip clubs, not dance clubs/bars. Of course they like you, as long as you keep poking those bills into their bikinis. That is how they support their boyfriends. Of course, they are just doing this until they get through college.

[sumolgi]

With all due respect (srs) a 40 year old trying to "hit" my 19 year old daughter would put me through the fockin roof. Even if that 40 year old was a big bad ass mofo. That is creepy as all hell.

but at 19 it's less about the guy than it is about the moral values you instilled in your daughter while you raised her.

[Xscoot]

if a really attractive young woman came up in a bikini, sat on your lap & wiggled, how many of those self righteous facades would crack under the pressure.

My guess is all of them.

Not a chance. A 30 + year old fit woman with life experiences and maturity is far sexier.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

I never said I was looking for anything serious, you are right, it would be completely unfair for someone younger to be saddled with someone older especially at the other end of life.

As far as the guys here being protective over you daughters, I get that & accept that there is a tendency to personalise things. I would be interested although there is no way of proving it, if a really attractive young woman came up in a bikini, sat on your lap & wiggled, how many of those self righteous facades would crack under the pressure.

My guess is all of them.

My guess is you'll deserve the arse kicking some father gives you soon enough.

If it was my daughter you'd just disappear.... for good.

[bodyhard]

So what kind of character are you imagining a 40 year old man at a club will have while hitting on your daughter?

I guess I am confused here, because you are giving me the impression it's all cool, but you are in a long term monogamous relationship with a non 18 year old.

What do you mean?

I am saying it is OK with me if an older man was trying to talk to my daughter as long as I get to meet him. Any man can be a creep it has nothing to do with age.

Also what does my relationship have to do with anything? You lost me there. Are you saying I myself should be with an 18 year old?

I'll tell you this much, if I break up with my wife more than likely I would date younger women, I wouldn't go as far as 18, that is way too young for me, but I could see myself dating a 25 year old easy.

[adamrandall2]

With all due respect (srs) a 40 year old trying to "hit" my 19 year old daughter would put me through the fockin roof. Even if that 40 year old was a big bad ass mofo. That is creepy as all hell.

So you do not find women say under the age of 30 attractive or is it 25 or 20? I note the reference to Jesus, what is it people of the church say? do as I preach, not as I secretly want? Should I only go after women in my own zip code too?

[GKC45]

What do you mean?

I am saying it is OK with me if an older man was trying to talk to my daughter as long as I get to meet him. Any man can be a creep it has nothing to do with age.

Also what does my relationship have to do with anything? You lost me there. Are you saying I myself should be with an 18 year old?

I'll tell you this much, if I break up with my wife more than likely I would date younger women, I wouldn't go as far as 18, that is way too young for me, but I could see myself dating a 25 year old easy.

in plain English, as I said repeatedly, I think 40 year olds with 18 years old are creepy. You just said yourself you wouldn't go there. There is a huge maturity difference between an 18 year old and a 25 year old.

[GKC45]

So you do not find women say under the age of 30 attractive or is it 25 or 20? I note the reference to Jesus, what is it people of the church say? do as I preach, not as I secretly want? Should I only go after women in my own zip code too?

no, I d not find children attractive. That is known as ****philia, a recognized psychiatric disorder. Get some help.

If you don't know the origin of "reps for Jesus", do a quick google search. As far as what "people of the church say", go ask them if you are interested. I am not a spokesperson.

You are a predator.

[Brackneyc]

but at 19 it's less about the guy than it is about the moral values you instilled in your daughter while you raised her.

Tell me that when there is a thread about some 40 year old guy doing your 19 year old daughter.

[adamrandall2]

My guess is you'll deserve the arse kicking some father gives you soon enough.

If it was my daughter you'd just disappear.... for good.

What happens if she is the one initiating it, will you disappear her too? At what age do you start killing people for hitting on your daughter. Would you be happier if your daughter was born ugly so you did not have to worry about this sort of problem. If she was born ugly then maybe you would be happy she met someone who showed any interest at all..... What happens if your daughter met a 50 year old & that 50 year old made her the happiest person in the world, would you still disappear him & if so do you not think your actions are more about what you want & need as a man than doing anything to protect your daughter. Perhaps it is your ego you are trying to protect rather than anything else.



So many ins and outs, so many what have yous.

[SteveWright1]

I got no problem with that & when the snickering becomes too loud, I will move to Thailand.

I am not saying I want to bum another man (not that I think there is anything wrong with that)

if the 2nd is true- you might want to reconsider your holiday location
LOL?

[bodyhard]

in plain English, as I said repeatedly, I think 40 year olds with 18 years old are creepy. You just said yourself you wouldn't go there. There is a huge maturity difference between an 18 year old and a 25 year old.

No you are not understanding me,

I said "What do you mean" About this.

I guess I am confused here, because you are giving me the impression it's all cool, but you are in a long term monogamous relationship with a non 18 year old.

What do you mean by this? You said you are confused, confused by what???

[adamrandall2]

no, I d not find children attractive. That is known as ****philia, a recognized psychiatric disorder. Get some help.

If you don't know the origin of "reps for Jesus", do a quick google search. As far as what "people of the church say", go ask them if you are interested. I am not a spokesperson.

You are a predator.

LOL - Praise ye, I shall go and self flagellate in the hope I will avoid eternal damnation.

[sumolgi]

Tell me that when there is a thread about some 40 year old guy doing your 19 year old daughter.

It would be the same if it's any age family member. If he's a decent person, it's all good. If he's not a decent person, I exercise an old skill set and he disappears. Ez pz.

[GKC45]

No you are not understanding me,

I said "What do you mean" About this.


What do you mean by this? You said you are confused, confused by what???

gotcha. That wasn't a dig at you. I see you, in this context, as a stand up guy who isn't looking to just hit it with any random tart that comes by. You seem to value relationships. Generally, that type of character doesn't lend itself to taking advantage of young children.

[GKC45]

LOL - Praise ye, I shall go and self flagellate in the hope I will avoid eternal damnation.

You are actually retarded and didn't look up what reps for Jesus means?

[Xscoot]

By you asking the question you know its not right. You may find the catch is not as exciting as the chase and is full of perils.

[PhantomMaxx]

OP. I don't know how it is in Australia but what your doing is normal in most big metropolitan cities here in the US. Thought for the most part I'm talking about 21/over clubs. As stated before I have worked in the club industry for decades and don't see anything odd in your perspective. However you have to learn to deal with the environment you are in. Lifestyle is choice, don't let the lifestyles of others dictate yours. I work in the San Francisco club scene and as you can imagine it is quite diverse here when it comes to club choices. Choose wisely where you fit in. Clubs are like the wild, survival of the fittest when it comes to mating season. Grow some balls, learn to fend for yourself, bring a crew, or walk away. Either way adapt or don't go there.

[bodyhard]

What happens if your daughter met a 50 year old & that 50 year old made her the happiest person in the world, do you not think your actions are more about what you want & need as a man than doing anything to protect your daughter.

This is my feelings as well.

If my daughter was to fall in love with an older man and he loved her in returned, gave her the world and treated her like a princes I would not destroy my daughters happiness.

In the same token if my daughter fell in love with a man her age and he hurts her, he would have to deal with me and I would go to jail happily for my daughter.

[adamrandall2]

You are actually retarded and didn't look up what reps for Jesus means?

No the definition of retarded is anyone that calls a person attracted to another person over the age of 18 a pedrofile.

[Xscoot]

A 40 year old preying on 18 year olds is not about him treating her like a princess and giving her all the happiness in life. Its him wanting to bang her for her young body and probably hurting her emotionally in the end.

[GKC45]

No the definition of retarded is anyone that calls a person attracted to another person over the age of 18 a pedrofile.

Ok predator. You keep telling yourself that trying to bang drunk 18 year olds is cool.

[Brackneyc]

It would be the same if it's any age family member. If he's a decent person, it's all good. If he's not a decent person, I exercise an old skill set and he disappears. Ez pz.

Hey, as long as it is legal, he can do whatever he likes within the law I suppose. As long as it is legal to think it is fcked up, well, you know my position.

I do find it ironic that OP is so defensive. Hit it and forget it. He doesn't need our approval.

[kimm4]

I find it weird that as a grown man, you are telling another grown man that being attracted to legally aged women is creepy. Are you telling me that you have never found an 18 year old sexually attractive? If so then why would you not (assuming you are single) have a go?

Just because people find people attractive doesn't mean they want to have a go. If you're into hot immature girls that are not anywhere near your level, full of drama and inexperienced in the bedroom (they think they know everything about sex, when in fact they're completely fukin clueless) have at it.

To each their own.

[Old-Time-Lifter]

What happens if she is the one initiating it, will you disappear her too? At what age do you start killing people for hitting on your daughter. Would you be happier if your daughter was born ugly so you did not have to worry about this sort of problem. If she was born ugly then maybe you would be happy she met someone who showed any interest at all..... What happens if your daughter met a 50 year old & that 50 year old made her the happiest person in the world, would you still disappear him & if so do you not think your actions are more about what you want & need as a man than doing anything to protect your daughter. Perhaps it is your ego you are trying to protect rather than anything else.



So many ins and outs, so many what have yous.

You are not only a scum bag but a f*CK&^% pervert.

No 40 or 50 year old man should have ANYTHING to do with a 19 to 20 year old. I will come back and neg your worthless arse tomorrow. You can set your clock on it..........

[adamrandall2]

Ok predator. You keep telling yourself that trying to bang drunk 18 year olds is cool.

Yeah and you keep changing the story to make me out to be something I am not. Who said anything about drunk? Why don't you call me a rapist while you are at it if it makes you feel a bit more morally better than me.
If they rounded up all the judgemental white as snow religious nuts & shipped them of to Syria the world would be a better place & sure as sh*t 11 year old alter boys would be a hell of a lot safer too.

Let me guess, you are an avid Fox news viewer?

[adamrandall2]

You are not only a scum bag but a f*CK&^% pervert.

No 40 or 50 year old man should have ANYTHING to do with a 19 to 20 year old. I will come back and neg your worthless arse tomorrow. You can set your clock on it..........

I am amazed you would think a 40 year old gives a toss about being negged, WTF, are you being fu*cking serious??

Your opinion & your neg when it arrives will not stop me ploughing though & not only that, mate I will think of your post and smile while doing it (PS: you are not planning a trip to Australia any time soon? - I will retract everything I said if this is the case, your arms are the size of my legs)

[v4lu3s]

Younger women can be plenty physically attractive but they usually are also annoying as hell, have shallower understanding of life, are not in touch with reality, can't carry on intelligent conversation, have many more insecurities, and often do not have a clue what they are doing in life and are flaky as hell. Sort of like young men without the aggression idiocy.

If you want to get caught up in that kind of scene you get to pay the consequences, you can engage the aggression and play the game or you can back down and walk away with your tail between your legs. I am not sure how well tail between the legs impresses 18-21 year olds though, being cautious may be causing you to miss out on what you seem to want.

If it was me, I would look for a more mature crowd, doesn't always mean it is older, but more mature and classier places can still have younger folks they just don't accept the same level of idiocy. Personally I would be looking at 30+ and find someone who is confident in them self and their place in life, more mature, more easy to communicate with (even if that communication goes no further than an NSA one nighter) and all in all a lot more fun. Leave the young ones to to doing young and dumb things and messing with the heads of the young idiots.

[GKC45]

Yeah and you keep changing the story to make me out to be something I am not. Who said anything about drunk? Why don't you call me a rapist while you are at it if it makes you feel a bit more morally better than me.
If they rounded up all the judgemental white as snow religious nuts & shipped them of to Syria the world would be a better place & sure as sh*t 11 year old alter boys would be a hell of a lot safer too.

Let me guess, you are an avid Fox news viewer?

whatever you say child molester