RH Chat 26: Hose my fuzzy taco down with splooge, then go NC.

[Stix14]

donno if you're serious but over 10 yeah... hurts my dink for a few days

Serious is the only way I am...just keep it moisturized...eventually you will become impervious to the pain...

[novawildcat25]

wow... no fap lasted me like an hour and twenty minutes ^

[IronCharles]

I just don't like the idea of fwb, the only way I am comfortable enought to sleep with him is if I know he wants more than just sex with me. If I told him that it would ruin everything.

I know girl logic but that's why I don't do fwb. Besides I don't plan on sleeping with him again.

This makes no sense to me. You were only able to sleep with him because you know he wants more.....but you don't even like him? Not sure if girl logic, or just AJ logic. lol

I understand it perfectly. It is because AJ wants to feel like she is desired for more than just her vagina and boobs. She wants to feel loved, but without the responsibility and commitment that goes with it.

[novawildcat25]

I understand it perfectly. It is because AJ wants to feel like she is desired for more than just her vagina and boobs. She wants to feel loved, but without the responsibility and commitment that goes with it.

repped

AJ wants her cake and wants to eat it too... lots of people want this

[gorbeth]

Dear Diary,

I want to be loved. I want attention. I want great sex and cuddles afterwards. I also want it to come from someone that isn't an age difference that I could have babysat, is that too much to ask for? Cause if not, I have more requests...

I also don't want to date right now. And I don't want random sex right now. I also want to get married and have babies. I also want to travel the country, make a bunch of money, and meet lots of new people.

I can't always have what i want.

I need to move out, asap. I hope I get this job so I can move and go no contact... not because I don't want my ex in my life, but because I DO want him in my life and the % of him that I am/will get is not the % of him that I want, and it's a bit of a heartache to accept that. It would be a whole lot easier emotionally to deal with if I wasn't living with him. Great guy, but I don't want 10% of him while he tries to figure out where to give the other 90.

I used to think no contact was stupidly immature, but if it would prevent or decrease some of the stress I'm having... it's worth it.

[AJ7123]

I understand it perfectly. It is because AJ wants to feel like she is desired for more than just her vagina and boobs. She wants to feel loved, but without the responsibility and commitment that goes with it.

Yes! Exactly! I'm so glad someone understands me <3

You know me better than I know myself.

[novawildcat25]

Dear Diary,

I want to be loved. I want attention. I want great sex and cuddles afterwards. I also want it to come from someone that isn't an age difference that I could have babysat, is that too much to ask for? Cause if not, I have more requests...

I also don't want to date right now. And I don't want random sex right now. I also want to get married and have babies. I also want to travel the country, make a bunch of money, and meet lots of new people.

I can't always have what i want.

I need to move out, asap. I hope I get this job so I can move and go no contact... not because I don't want my ex in my life, but because I DO want him in my life and the % of him that I am/will get is not the % of him that I want, and it's a bit of a heartache to accept that. It would be a whole lot easier emotionally to deal with if I wasn't living with him. Great guy, but I don't want 10% of him while he tries to figure out where to give the other 90.

I used to think no contact was stupidly immature, but if it would prevent or decrease some of the stress I'm having... it's worth it.

the world doesn't always light the path for you but you have to keep your head down and keep striving

no contact might seem immature at first glance but it's truly great... when you're mature enough to know that moving on is the better decision, no contact helps a lot and is the responsible thing to do

hypothetical situation - a year from now you're doing your own thing in the world but still contact your ex all the time. you meet a great guy and start dating him but your ex is always in the picture cause you always talk to him. if you go NC it sucks for a few weeks / months but you won't have that headache / heartache in the long run

[happywithit]

Dear Diary,

I want to be loved. I want attention. I want great sex and cuddles afterwards. I also want it to come from someone that isn't an age difference that I could have babysat, is that too much to ask for? Cause if not, I have more requests...

I also don't want to date right now. And I don't want random sex right now. I also want to get married and have babies. I also want to travel the country, make a bunch of money, and meet lots of new people.

I can't always have what i want.

I need to move out, asap. I hope I get this job so I can move and go no contact... not because I don't want my ex in my life, but because I DO want him in my life and the % of him that I am/will get is not the % of him that I want, and it's a bit of a heartache to accept that. It would be a whole lot easier emotionally to deal with if I wasn't living with him. Great guy, but I don't want 10% of him while he tries to figure out where to give the other 90.

I used to think no contact was stupidly immature, but if it would prevent or decrease some of the stress I'm having... it's worth it.

I think you will meet the man of your dreams, future husband whilst travelling.

All my cousins and friends met Their husbands/wives travelling Asia. I'm guessing it's because you have that independent spontaneous streak. Hell I met my bf on a trip away (hardly travelling, but it was a trip) My three cousins and one of my best mates met and married South African men who were also travelling.

[MajesticLion]

I understand it perfectly. It is because AJ wants to feel like she is desired for more than just her vagina and boobs. She wants to feel loved, but without the responsibility and commitment that goes with it.

Please explain about the price that must be paid to earn such things, you seem to have far greater tolerance than I.

[IronCharles]

Please explain about the price that must be paid to earn such things, you seem to have far greater tolerance than I.

The price of love and responsibility? How much time do you have?




Happy Hump Day!

[novawildcat25]

holy sweet mother of Jesus

[IronCharles]

holy sweet mother of Jesus

Lucy Collett.

[gorbeth]

Lucy Collett.

He boobs have their own vascular system, holy boob veins.

[b0yer2]

Dear Diary,

I want to be loved. I want attention. I want great sex and cuddles afterwards. I also want it to come from someone that isn't an age difference that I could have babysat, is that too much to ask for? Cause if not, I have more requests...

I also don't want to date right now. And I don't want random sex right now. I also want to get married and have babies. I also want to travel the country, make a bunch of money, and meet lots of new people.

I can't always have what i want.

I need to move out, asap. I hope I get this job so I can move and go no contact... not because I don't want my ex in my life, but because I DO want him in my life and the % of him that I am/will get is not the % of him that I want, and it's a bit of a heartache to accept that. It would be a whole lot easier emotionally to deal with if I wasn't living with him. Great guy, but I don't want 10% of him while he tries to figure out where to give the other 90.

I used to think no contact was stupidly immature, but if it would prevent or decrease some of the stress I'm having... it's worth it.

Sorry to hear you broke up. What happened?

[HeBrewHammah]

What's up b0yer!!!? HNNNNNNNG, NEW ENGLAND!

[b0yer2]

What's up b0yer!!!? HNNNNNNNG, NEW ENGLAND!

What up brah? Just got back from Aruba and took some time off the intrawebz. How are things?

[HeBrewHammah]

What up brah? Just got back from Aruba and took some time off the intrawebz. How are things?

Noice. How was it? Nice weather, I assume? Things are well. What about yourself?

[skillz17]

...I hope I get this job so I can move and go no contact... not because I don't want my ex in my life, but because I DO want him in my life and the % of him that I am/will get is not the % of him that I want, and it's a bit of a heartache to accept that...

I used to think no contact was stupidly immature, but if it would prevent or decrease some of the stress I'm having... it's worth it.

Jesus fukking christ, this is literally the exact same problem/thought process i had with my last ex.
Repped darlin, you hit me right in the feels with the bold part.
Fuk im gonna go apesh!t in the gym today.

[b0yer2]

Noice. How was it? Nice weather, I assume? Things are well. What about yourself?

Good to hear man. The weather was great. Got a nice little tan but will lose it in a few days. Things are well on this end as well. Just moved back to the city in September.

[Navillus13]

no contact, i feel, is the most mature way.

Gives each person time to grow on their own and fully understand what happened. Then when both have achieved enlightenment, they can once again reconnect without any feels.. and just appreciate each other for who they are.

After all, there IS some kind of connection between people who have been bf/gf and subsequently broke up. Maybe that connection was never meant to be romantic in nature. Took me 7 years and 10 years to speak to a few of my exes again... no feelings emerged with either of them and they are both happily married.

[AdamL00001]

Good morning. Birthday vent/confessional coming.

I'm 29 today, and like many of you, I'm not perfect. Actually, that's where my whole problem is. I've tried so hard to be "perfect" that I've sucked terribly at being a human being. I'm so deathly afraid of making mistakes (justified as "missing opportunities") and upsetting people that I don't take risks. Ever. Even when I make minor mistakes, I get this gut-wrenching feeling in my stomach.

Also, perfect is boring.

My problem is that I don't know where to draw the line. I know self-improvement is one of my main goals, but I take it to extreme levels. I know I have a lot of potential, but being the best at everything is literally impossible, yet I'm upset when I'm not the best. Mainly because I see everything on an objective scale; there's the top of the food chain and then there's the bottom feeders. I'm trying really hard to see things subjectively, but that's hard when you have to...you know, trust the words and opinions of someone else since you can't actually verify their statements by hard evidence.

Fortunately, it hasn't been all downhill for me. I learned this year how to take some actual legit me time and realize that I don't always have to help people when they ask or just tell them that I don't feel like it. Being selfish at times is actually a lot healthier than it sounds like. Feels liberating, brah.

So what's my goal before I hit 30? To be comfortable with myself and to actually take some risks and eat some bumps and bruises. I gotta loosen up and live a little. Or a lot, to be honest.

tl;dr boobies pls. it's my birthday so you can't say no.

[HeBrewHammah]

boobies

Out of all of that, this is the only important part I noticed.






Well, if this is the way you feel, the only thing left is to do the damn thing, kid.

[bitty_bish]

no contact, i feel, is the most mature way.

Yes.

Tells you how mature most of the world is, because this simple way is so hard for people to follow through with.

[hublife]

Happy Birthday Adam! - Also, regarding that long ass psyche analysis of yourself all I got was "I need to fukking relax and have more fun." Get out of your own fukking head. Jesus. You're a good dude, who overachieves at most everything he pursues. Find a hobby that doesn't have an end result. Something that can't be measured by "wins/losses". Grow a goddamn garden. Start doing yoga. Paint. Get out in nature and do photography. Anything that you can enjoy without trying to "perfect" because the perfection in those activities is in the doing.



ITT single women try to rationalize their own lack of self love by explaining it in the most convoluted, retarded, ass backwards way possible.


AJ is legit nuts. I've known this for the better part of a year...and the fukked up part is that her absolute insanity is actually one of her most charming character traits. She's like a character out of Mean Girls but like...real...and it's not an act. She text messages EXACTLY how she posts.


Gorbeth - You're a cool ass chick who just needs to settle the fuk down with the dating/love bullchit. Seems like you've had a really weird 2 year run and I think it might be time to chill until late spring. Do some mental/emotional house cleaning, focus on your goals (like you always do) and let go of a lot of that old chit.


The rest of you... Happy Holidays!

[spectre86]

Exactly why I never shave all the way anymore. I got carded a few weeks ago. I'm like "dude, I'm 30".

Alright serious talk, life question. Few things are known. I'm 30, 31 in a few months. Single, and will be for the forseeable future with the exception of a cat. Graduating next year, signing with a recognized company, good benefits, very good salary (for a single man). From a financial perspective, would it be better to rent a house for the next few years or buy? Although it's just me, I have a relatively spartan lifestyle wise minus the occasional good suit, shirts, shoes, coats. Dress well, but within my means. Eat at higher priced restaurants on occasion.

Here's the catch: I've planned on buying an NSX (sportscar) for roughly a decade now. Financially, I will be able to do that whether I rent or buy as I'm budgeting for $40k or less on the car. Opinions? I don't really feel the need to own a house, although it seems to be something that is routinely done. Essentially, rent/mortgage and associated bills would be the only bills I have as I have no other debt. Currently, I have none, zero debt. So taking on a car payment would put me in debt for what, about five years? Tolerable. Nonetheless, I'd like to hear some opinions.

what year NSX are you looking at and what do you plan on doing? the early 90s NSXs are in the high 20s out here. you plan on just driving it and enjoying it? or going crazy with a love fab kit?

I know you said you would keep your s2k, but i cant really see you wanting to drive it over the NSX on a nice day when you have one. You plan on stayin in tx for awhile? Id rent for the first several months and get a feel on the job/area.

Im kinda the same way. More of a nomad. The only debt I have to my name is around $500 on the credit card, and $3,600 on the honda. my s2k, vette and the trans am and all my DD's. iv always owned. I honestly cant imagine going in debt 40k on a car, but thats just my .02.

IF it were ME, id get a feel on the new job. sell the s2k at spring/summer time when the value is worth more. (i was better off selling the hardtop seperate for 1800-2k, cant remember what i got for it) then buying a nsx after summer when the price drops. i would be looking nationally for that car. your going to have to travel for one.

as far as the house goes. if its your first one, i wouldnt go crazy. there is some insaine deals right now in my area on foreclosures. plus waiting to where you meet new people and friends. having a roommate through an extra 400-500 down to help with the house payment would make it a little more easy on having a car payment on a nsx.

just my .02 either way, you owe me a ride in it some day

Happy Birthday Adam! - Also, regarding that long ass psyche analysis of yourself all I got was "I need to fukking relax and have more fun." Get out of your own fukking head. Jesus. You're a good dude, who overachieves at most everything he pursues. Find a hobby that doesn't have an end result. Something that can't be measured by "wins/losses". Grow a goddamn garden. Start doing yoga. Paint. Get out in nature and do photography. Anything that you can enjoy without trying to "perfect" because the perfection in those activities is in the doing.



ITT single women try to rationalize their own lack of self love by explaining it in the most convoluted, retarded, ass backwards way possible.


AJ is legit nuts. I've known this for the better part of a year...and the fukked up part is that her absolute insanity is actually one of her most charming character traits. She's like a character out of Mean Girls but like...real...and it's not an act. She text messages EXACTLY how she posts.


Gorbeth - You're a cool ass chick who just needs to settle the fuk down with the dating/love bullchit. Seems like you've had a really weird 2 year run and I think it might be time to chill until late spring. Do some mental/emotional house cleaning, focus on your goals (like you always do) and let go of a lot of that old chit.


The rest of you... Happy Holidays!

lol bruhhh.... when you free? we gotta talk. lawdy.

[gorbeth]

Gorbeth - You're a cool ass chick who just needs to settle the fuk down with the dating/love bullchit. Seems like you've had a really weird 2 year run and I think it might be time to chill until late spring. Do some mental/emotional house cleaning, focus on your goals (like you always do) and let go of a lot of that old chit.

<3

No kidding. Trying to move out on my own asap.

[hublife]

what year NSX are you looking at and what do you plan on doing? the early 90s NSXs are in the high 20s out here. you plan on just driving it and enjoying it? or going crazy with a love fab kit?

I know you said you would keep your s2k, but i cant really see you wanting to drive it over the NSX on a nice day when you have one. You plan on stayin in tx for awhile? Id rent for the first several months and get a feel on the job/area.

Im kinda the same way. More of a nomad. The only debt I have to my name is around $500 on the credit card, and $3,600 on the honda. my s2k, vette and the trans am and all my DD's. iv always owned. I honestly cant imagine going in debt 40k on a car, but thats just my .02.

IF it were ME, id get a feel on the new job. sell the s2k at spring/summer time when the value is worth more. (i was better off selling the hardtop seperate for 1800-2k, cant remember what i got for it) then buying a nsx after summer when the price drops. i would be looking nationally for that car. your going to have to travel for one.

as far as the house goes. if its your first one, i wouldnt go crazy. there is some insaine deals right now in my area on foreclosures. plus waiting to where you meet new people and friends. having a roommate through an extra 400-500 down to help with the house payment would make it a little more easy on having a car payment on a nsx.

just my .02 either way, you owe me a ride in it some day





lol bruhhh.... when you free? we gotta talk. lawdy.

I'm free tomorrow. How many chicks you knocked up off of Tinder so far?

<3

No kidding. Trying to move out on my own asap.

Don't rush that chit. Take it as it comes. How's your dad?

[happywithit]

tl;dr boobies pls. it's my birthday so you can't say no.

Happy birthday

[gorbeth]

Don't rush that chit. Take it as it comes. How's your dad?

My dad is awesome. He still has a few more reconstructive surgeries left (redoing his ribs, repairing a cerebral aneurysm, and some facial stuff), but he is basically all independent. He has aged about 20 years, but he is still my dad. My mom retired now and he can't work anymore, so that have taken on grandparenting full time and have been babysitting the nephews regularly.

He was always a softy, and I'm not sure if it's because of the brain injuries or just the emotional part of the accident itself, but he is a big ball of super sweet emotions all of the time. Hugs, "I love yous", random notes, etc to all of us, including friends... I love it.

He is still here for a reason.

[hublife]

My dad is awesome. He still has a few more reconstructive surgeries left (redoing his ribs, repairing a cerebral aneurysm, and some facial stuff), but he is basically all independent. He has aged about 20 years, but he is still my dad. My mom retired now and he can't work anymore, so that have taken on grandparenting full time and have been babysitting the nephews regularly.

He was always a softy, and I'm not sure if it's because of the brain injuries or just the emotional part of the accident itself, but he is a big ball of super sweet emotions all of the time. Hugs, "I love yous", random notes, etc to all of us, including friends... I love it.

He is still here for a reason.

I'm really happy to hear that.