Why is nearly everyone [I know] over 35 so freaking out of shape?

[Recumpence]

Once I hit 30 I began noticing my friends were complaining that they [we] are "Getting old". Hmm, the day after we were born we were a day older than before......

Many of these same people have a row of medications they take daily because they "Need" them. I wonder how much of that perceived need is symptoms caused by lack of exercise?

Anyway, I wonder why people get like this? Is it because they are married and no longer trying to impress anyone? Is it because they are working too hard [stress] and do not have time to eat right? Is it because they are getting lazy? Could it be that they have acquiesced to a soft physiche because "Everyone else" is soft?

Maybe it is a bit of all of the above, along with other things I have not thought of.

So, who else has noticed this?

Age is real, but frailty is in the mind, for the most part.

Matt

[soccerdad5]

Because they don't make their health a priority. It is not age it is the "compound effect" of eating like garbage and not exercising. This is what happened to me. I am in better shape now at 44 years of age than I was at 21 when I was a Division 1 soccer player. Yeah, I can't run 6 miles a game but my physique and strength is better now than it was then. Age is just a number.

Once I hit 30 I began noticing my friends were complaining that they [we] are "Getting old". Hmm, the day after we were born we were a day older than before......

Many of these same people have a row of medications they take daily because they "Need" them. I wonder how much of that perceived need is symptoms caused by lack of exercise?

Anyway, I wonder why people get like this? Is it because they are married and no longer trying to impress anyone? Is it because they are working too hard [stress] and do not have time to eat right? Is it because they are getting lazy? Could it be that they have acquiesced to a soft physiche because "Everyone else" is soft?

Maybe it is a bit of all of the above, along with other things I have not thought of.

So, who else has noticed this?

Age is real, but frailty is in the mind, for the most part.

Matt

[Karl_Hungus]

Why do you give a sh!t what other people do?

[bodyhard]

Most if not all of my friends are in pretty bad shape. My old school friends the ones my age are in horrible shape, my younger friends almost all of my friends are in their late 20 early 30's, smoke weed, drink, hang out everyday.

As sad as this may sound I am the best built guy of everyone I know including family.

[kconnell]

Willpower and desire, basically. Sure they would want to like fit, but aren't willing to put in the investment (time/effort). Speaking of that, they probably don't have time. Neither do we.... We make time for it.

[derrickkendall]

Willpower and desire, basically. Sure they would want to like fit, but aren't willing to put in the investment (time/effort). Speaking of that, they probably don't have time. Neither do we.... We make time for it.

This!!

[OutOfStep]

Threads like this remind me why I've never had any friends who are gym rats. As much as I love training and nutrition, I ****ing despise the fitness community.

[jktx]

Well in your other post you noted that a few years ago you were a chubby 206. Think you can find an answer to your question there?

[Recumpence]

Well in your other post you noted that a few years ago you were a chubby 206. Think you can find an answer to your question there?

You are absolutely correct.

That is what got me back into the game to begin with. That being said, I have never complained about getting old. Nor have I resorted to a bunch of medications to mask symptoms of poor lifestyle. I got super busy with life and realized, even at 206 and soft, I was in better shape than 90% of my friends. That is truly sad considering I was out of shape at the time.

Funny thing about this; in my 20s it was hard standing out from the crowd from a fitness standpoint. However, in my 40s with everyone around me so out of shape, it is easy to really stand out!

Is that narcissistic? ;-)

Matt

[NorwichGrad]

Everything goes back to how we were conditioned MENTALLY as kids. It's not our parents' fault. The people who loved and raised us did not know what they did not know.

We were told from the beginning to go to school, get good grades, get a college education, get a good job, etc... and you'd be set for life.

We did just that. But many became part of the rat race. 40 plus hours a week at work, marriage, kids, career, bills to pay.

For many people who followed the rules growing up, they live their lives based on obligations and not priorities. Their health is put in the backburner in order to continue to make a living, their relationships with their spouse deteriorates, stresses from their obligations take a toll physically and mentally. While these things are going on, they start to pile the weight. They start to believe that the privileges the have are for their pleasure, instead of their purpose. Their worldview on money and material things get twisted, and as a result, stress level increase, and they pile more weight.


They were told a big fat lie all along.

This is why most O35 are out of shape. It all began with the wrong information. Many, many, wrong information.


And before somebody accuse me of being judgemental, I'm not. I was really talking about myself when I said 'we.' But I know many people in this world can relate.

[GentlemanLifter]

By the time someone is 35, they're probably married.

Which leads to a changing of priorities, more often than not.

Of course, there are exceptions.

[Recumpence]

Everything goes back to how we were conditioned MENTALLY as kids. It's not our parents' fault. The people who loved and raised us did not know what they did not know.

We were told from the beginning to go to school, get good grades, get a college education, get a good job, etc... and you'd be set for life.

We did just that. But many became part of the rat race. 40 plus hours a week at work, marriage, kids, career, bills to pay.

For many people who followed the rules growing up, they live their lives based on obligations and not priorities. Their health is put in the backburner in order to continue to make a living, their relationships with their spouse deteriorates, stresses from their obligations take a toll physically and mentally. While these things are going on, they start to pile the weight. They start to believe that the privileges the have are for their pleasure, instead of their purpose. Their worldview on money and material things get twisted, and as a result, stress level increase, and they pile more weight.


They were told a big fat lie all along.

This is why most O35 are out of shape. It all began with the wrong information. Many, many, wrong information.


And before somebody accuse me of being judgemental, I'm not. I was really talking about myself when I said 'we.' But I know many people in this world can relate.

Very well said. Everything we do goes back to our Axiom (world view). What we value, we work at.

I value relationships more than most anything else. In fact, my relationship with my 16 year old son is what got me into the gym. I was training (Cardio) at home with only very limited success other than 45 pound weight loss. My son's interest in weight training got me back into hard lifting.

We are relational beings.

Matt

[Edman316]

People over 35 are busy working and raising kids. It doesn't leave a lot of time to exercise.

Couple that with a slower metabolism and muscle tissue loss. That makes gaining fat easier.

[chitown70]

Representin over forty-too-under forty-four club

I noticed this too OP and it makes me feel good in a tragic way. I know, I know...you think I'm evil. You have my assurance that I am in fact not evil...just that I feel good that I'm staying in shape, looking better, being looked up to (75 mutha fuking inches bro...come at me); that I make weaklings envious, I command respect (cops respect me and are also intimidated...once a cop pleaded with me nervously..
"Please can you not stand so close to me"
Me- "what? What's wrong"
"Move over there, you're making me nervous"

So I move away. And the guy Whose car I hit in parking lot was a big black brutha who is not getting any spooky vibes from the copper....but he knows them feelz, happens to him all the time...but not today...he knows a more alpha male has stepped in his space....he's all nice now...a perfect gentleman. That's RESPECT, a healthy amount of FEAR. ADMIRATION, GOD STATUS. Yes, they will do as you say. Go ahead, bark some orders around...watch how fast they scurry about to please you. It's a great feeling. It's like you have super powers. Not a fictitious power but a REAL power. Please use this power for good. Don't be an a##hole

Cops have also held the door open for me. Of course I know they don't want this bada## following them into the door...because the gun...the gun. I'm very polite "thank you officer. I could be a jerk and give them a cold menacing death stare...but that would be abusing the POWER.

Sorry, I got off track. Working out is great for the ego. I'm in it for life. One thought I always have in mind is why, WHY do people let themselves go. They know they aren't healthy. So they don't have time because they're making money and supporting the big family. But what about the likely end result. An early death. Ok, so ya got five lovely children and a wife who still gives oral, but dead at 55.

I had a few drinks. I'm not totally responsible for above content.


Edit: I'd like to announce that I intend on starting a body blog or journal thing. That is, If I ever figure out this damn website. I'm so confused.

[EjnarKolinkar]

Hmm? Dieting is hard. Getting gainz takes years. So much bad info out there, even folks that try to get going many times cant stick with unrealistic programs or expectations.

Those are the ones that bother me. People working at but getting crap results for too long.

Age is a weaksauce excuse, has nothing to do with anything.

[4Biz]

"Everything goes back to how we were conditioned MENTALLY as kids. It's not our parents' fault. The people who loved and raised us did not know what they did not know.

We were told from the beginning to go to school, get good grades, get a college education, get a good job, etc... and you'd be set for life.

We did just that. But many became part of the rat race. 40 plus hours a week at work, marriage, kids, career, bills to pay.

For many people who followed the rules growing up, they live their lives based on obligations and not priorities. Their health is put in the backburner in order to continue to make a living, their relationships with their spouse deteriorates, stresses from their obligations take a toll physically and mentally. While these things are going on, they start to pile the weight. They start to believe that the privileges the have are for their pleasure, instead of their purpose. Their worldview on money and material things get twisted, and as a result, stress level increase, and they pile more weight.

They were told a big fat lie all along.
This is why most O35 are out of shape. It all began with the wrong information. Many, many, wrong information.

And before somebody accuse me of being judgemental, I'm not. I was really talking about myself when I said 'we.' But I know many people in this world can relate."


Agree & well stated

People just get lazy with life, job, kids etc.. ALL good things but a priority to GET ot STAY in shape is a must
We all have 24 hours in a day - how you spend yours is up to you but then that day is gone

I too know of no others around my family/friends/etc... that is in shape or strong as I am at 51

It IS a priority to me and I make time to work out - PERIOD

[JimmyJonny]

It's simply lack of education.

[mtpockets]

Fat, outta shape, ugly friends....


make me look better.

[Recumpence]

Fat, outta shape, ugly friends....


make me look better.

Absolutely. I feel the same way. ;-)

I just feel bad for those who don't know what they are missing being fit and strong.

Matt

[Brackneyc]

Fat, outta shape, ugly friends....


make me look better.

This. ^^. Idc what others look like, or do with their lives. If I found myself doing that, I'd wonder what in my own life was not working.

[DuracellBunny]

Hmmm, another thinly veiled "we are better than them" thread.

If you played the guitar, would you compare your guitar playing to somebody that didn't play? If you want to compare yourself to other people, compare yourself to other people that are "hardcore", but oh, wait, you might not compare so favourably if you did........

[Recumpence]

This was not meant to be a "We are better than them". It is more of a "Why are we as a society so unconcerned about our fitness?" thread.

Matt

[so-tex]

Why do you give a sh!t what other people do?

Sorry OP but I gotta agree with Karl on this one.

[DuracellBunny]

This was not meant to be a "We are better than them". It is more of a "Why are we as a society so unconcerned about our fitness?" thread.

Matt

The majority of people that go to gyms couldn't give a flying fk about their fitness; they do it purely for image purposes.

[Recumpence]

The majority of people that go to gyms couldn't give a flying fk about their fitness; they do it purely for image purposes.

Now you are judging.

How do you know that?

Matt

[DuracellBunny]

Now you are judging.

How do you know that?

Matt

I can't decide whether you are ignorant or stupid.

Lets just do a quick vox populi check shall we. How many threads on this board are about lowering blood pressure, increasing VO2max etc and how many are about losing fat (which isn't the same thing as being fit) or growing biceps.

[Recumpence]

I can't decide whether you are ignorant or stupid.

Lets just do a quick vox populi check shall we. How many threads on this board are about lowering blood pressure, increasing VO2max etc and how many are about losing fat (which isn't the same thing as being fit) or growing biceps.

I cannot decide if you are rude or just a Jerk overall.

This is a bodybuilding forum. Of course it is about biceps.

You really have an attitude.

Matt

[DuracellBunny]

I cannot decide if you are rude or just a Jerk overall.

This is a bodybuilding forum. Of course it is about biceps.

You really have an attitude.

Matt

The demonstrable ignorance just keeps on getting better. Stipulating that your assertion bolded above is correct, wtf did you create this thread, when by your own logic your audience won't care.

Try posting on whyarentpeoplehealthy.com or imawhineybish.com

[InternetTuffGuy]

The majority of people that go to gyms couldn't give a flying fk about their fitness; they do it purely for image purposes.

I think there's some truth to that. My main goal is to look better but I also want to get stronger which plays into the being healthier side of things. I perform better at work by being stronger with a somewhat physically demanding career. At the same time the last good run I had was chasing down the ice cream truck for my son. Needless to say my cardiovascular health likely sucks but I don't think much about it.

[Brackneyc]

Now you are judging.

How do you know that?

Matt

Experience.