no contact OP! otherwise those feels will keep lingering
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11-06-2014, 09:25 AM #61
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11-06-2014, 09:30 AM #62
^That is your problem right there *******. That's like trying to get off drugs but still doing a little bit of the drug every once in awhile and hanging out with people that do the drug every day.
You need to block anything that will let you see or think about her and completely cut her out of your life so you can actually move on.
Some brahs can actually remain friends with their exes and it doesn't bother them, other brahs can not. After 8 months still having feels, means that you can not handle still remaining in contact with your ex so you need to completely removed everything from your life that can link you to her.***Feeding son only beef jerky and rocks until he is 24 crew***
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11-06-2014, 09:32 AM #63
Been 8 months here. Had a dream Monday that we reconnected and it went right back to the best part of our relationship. Woke up in a daze, saw snow on the ground and legitimately thought it was real (we were together last winter). Put me in a bad mood all day. All you can do is stay as busy as possible. I'm working full time with 4 classes and hardly have a social life right now, but it's what is helping me cope.
And definitely NC. I was doing well two months after my breakup due to NC, then reconnected. Right back to square one and it's taking longer this time.He that lives upon hope will die fasting. -Benjamin Franklin
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11-06-2014, 09:33 AM #64
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11-06-2014, 09:34 AM #65
Been with my gf for 5 years. Got in a fight and said fuk this. Been having problems tho. Haven't talked or hung out in a week. NC at the moment. Them feels. I don't want to be the first to initiate talking because I always am and I'm sick of it. If she cares she will call, if not then I know how she really feels.
After work all day, then gym, then martial arts class I'm Fuking drained mentally and physically. Ready for the weekend ASAP.
For *******s saying get over it, it's not that easy when someone is not just in your life but a big part of it.
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11-06-2014, 09:35 AM #66
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11-06-2014, 09:39 AM #67
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11-06-2014, 09:40 AM #68
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11-06-2014, 09:41 AM #70
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11-06-2014, 09:44 AM #71
(Only read the OP)
You just have to keep moving forward... it sucks but that's life.
We've all been there (if you've ever really loved someone and lost them) and in my experience someone comes along eventually and before you know it you realize your ex doesn't matter at all anymore.
You're gonna make it! Kill it in the gym tonight and just keep moving forward. You're gonna miss her, gonna have those dreams.... just disregard and keep going.
EDIT:
abort "friendship" with ex, this is holding you back from moving on. Misc talks about no contact and jokes around but in cases like this it really is the way forward. Tell her you need some time for yourself, and that maybe sometime in the future you can be friends (gonna be sad, like breaking up all over again....) it's necessary OP you need to move on from this girl...
Or just ****ing get back together. Either way, this "friendship" needs to end.
OF COURSE it is like losing a good friend, if you and this girl didn't connect on that friendship level why would you have been dating in the first place? You really care about this girl and she does as well but sometimes it doesn't work out.... Like I said maybe someday you guys can have a friendship but right now you both need space from each other to move on.
I've been there and yeah it sucks... it is like losing your best friend... but it's necessary sometimes....Last edited by Koop21; 11-06-2014 at 09:51 AM.
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11-06-2014, 09:46 AM #72
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11-06-2014, 09:47 AM #73
Keeping in touch with her will make you feel like this. If you go full NC, it will be as though if your best friend in the world has died.
Hear me out on the analogy for a bit - You will grieve heavily for a bit, accept that your relationship with your best friend / girlfriend will never exist again, and then you move on. On some odd days when you're alone at night, or drinking, you'll remember all the good times you guys had and get all teary, but the NC will reinforce the reality that the relationship is dead, and you won't **** yourself up with "what ifs" and catching more feels for her.
That's how I can describe my process of getting over my ex right now (3 months of NC now). It's in your best interest to let her go, brah.
You are preventing yourself from moving on by living in the past - you're not acting like yourself.
Best of luck, Brah. We're all gonna make it.
Caught some phucking feels writing all that, cot damn.
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11-06-2014, 09:59 AM #74
On a related not. I had a similar experience, though. I dated a girl for 6 years and dropped her. Was totally over her within a week, banged the chick who lived in the apartments next door for a while. Slayed a few other girls, but nothing serious. Started dating this girl around Halloween 2011 HBB redhead, in shape, extremely intelligent and into philosophy. Caught the feels fast and hard. Dated for a while, maybe 4 months. And it was awesome, but she had a kid and of course had to stay in contact with the father. Eventually she started being shady, and one day just didn't answer a text from me for like 3 days. I do not double text, period. So on day 4 I just called her, went to voice mail, and I said I didn't know wtf happened but it was obviously over and I thought it was ****ty and immature of her to end it that way. Eventually started dating a hotter IG fitness Sloot, to get over her, lasted a few months before I got tired of her attention whoring.
Ran through a few more before I met my wife and settled down. But, I never totally got her out of my head. Not long after my wife and I started dating, a year later, the redhead sent me a text asking if there was any chance I'd reconsider dating her. I'm too proud, so I ignored her message, she sent me a fb friend request the next day, I declined it. She sent me another text a few days later, but I maintained no contact. Any way, here it is, 3 years later, and the redhead still pops into my head every once in a while when certain songs come on.
All the poosay, partying, 8/10 fitness sloots, a wife, years of time... And that one (who I didn't even have that strong of a relationship with) still comes to mind occasionally. I blame it on a lack of closure, just not talking anymore is a terrible way to end things.*Kickboxing Crew* since '08
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11-06-2014, 10:00 AM #75
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11-06-2014, 10:00 AM #76
Men are the true romantics disguised as idealists and women are idealists disguised as romantics.
All yall need to focus on improving yourself, keep lifting hard, keep improving your mind, read as much as possible and realize that women view you as entirely disposable.
Women are not hard wired to love men the way men want to be loved, a woman's love is entirely based on how much she respects you and while she may respect your LMS, if you don't dominate her the way she needs you to, she'll drop your ass and never think about you again.
Fact:When it's over women can be as cold as if you had never existed.
This is just biologically hardwired since men would often be the one's to have an early death due to being involved with wars, building cities, working extremely strenuous jobs and hunting. If a woman couldn't get over a man and find someone else to provide resources for her and her offspring, there is a good chance they wouldn't survive. Not only that, but a woman's biological clock ticks away quicker than a man's, thus it is of the UTMOST importance that she gets over a man quick. These are the sort of women that passed on their genetics and survived, so today's women have literally been bred to be cold.
Back to the pedestalling though:
NO woman is special, IDGAF how special you think she is, take away her vagina and implant her characteristics into a man and THE BEST women will be that equivalent to a decent/good man. This is the relativity effect taking place where relative to other women she MAY be special, but relative to men....lol she's just a peon. She just has a vagina, thus the fact that men are biologically hardwired to pair bond (thus ensuring their offspring survive), so men tend to judge women in a subjective way which induces oneitis. Doesn't help that society is literally set out to induce this oneitis by having an Anti-Male Pro****Boi (weak bitch) attitude, this being done through sitcoms who portray men as nothing more than idiotic saps that are living/breathing ATM machines, meanwhile the women are made out to be ethereal Goddesses descended from the 5th dimension gracing humanity with their very presence. Even look at how ****ing pathetic mainstream music is to make men into grovelling/supplicating creatures:
Guess it's true, I'm not good at a one-night stand
But I still need love 'cause I'm just a man
These nights never seem to go to plan
I don't want you to leave, will you hold my hand?
Oh, won't you stay with me?
'Cause you're all I need
This ain't love, it's clear to see
But darling, stay with me
Why am I so emotional?
No, it's not a good look, gain some self-control
And deep down I know this never works
But you can lay with me so it doesn't hurt
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Why you gotta be so rude?
Don't you know I'm human too?
Why you gotta be so rude?
I'm gonna marry her anyway
Marry that girl
Marry her anyway
Marry that girl
Yeah, no matter what you say
Marry that girl
And we'll be a family
Why you gotta be so
Rude
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I like to think that we had it all
We drew a map to a better place
But on that road I took a fall
Oh baby why did you run away?
I was there for you
In your darkest times
I was there for you
In your darkest nights
But I wonder where were you?
When I was at my worst
Down on my knees
And you said you had my back
So I wonder where were you?
When all the roads you took came back to me
So I’m following the map that leads to you
The map that leads to you
Ain't nothing I can do
The map that leads to you
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'Cause all of me
Loves all of you
Love your curves and all your edges
All your perfect imperfections
Give your all to me
I'll give my all to you
You're my end and my beginning
Even when I lose I'm winning
'Cause I give you all of me
And you give me all of you, ohohHow many times do I have to tell you
Even when you're crying you're beautiful too
The world is beating you down, I'm around through every mood
You're my downfall, you're my muse
My worst distraction, my rhythm and blues
I can't stop singing, it's ringing, in my head for you
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Take me on a date
I deserve a break
And don't forget the flowers every anniversary
'Cause if you'll treat me right
I'll be the perfect wife
Buying groceries
Buy-buying what you need
You got that 9 to 5
But, baby, so do I
So don't be thinking I'll be home and baking apple pies
I never learned to cook
But I can find a hook
Sing along with me
Sing-sing along with me (hey)
You gotta know how to treat me like a lady
Even when I'm acting crazy
Tell me everything's alright
Dear future husband,
Here's a few things you'll need to know if you wanna be
My one and only all my life
Dear future husband,
If you wanna get that special lovin'
Tell me I'm beautiful each and every night
After every fight
Just apologize
And maybe then I'll let you try and rock my body right
Even if I was wrong
You know I'm never wrong
Why disagree?
Why, why disagree?
I'll be sleeping on the left side of the bed (hey)
Open doors for me and you might get some kisses
Don't have a dirty mind
Just be a classy guy
Buy me a ring
Buy-buy me a ring, babe
Future husband, better love me right
Men need to understand the following:
THE best love you'll get as a man is self love. No woman will EVER love you the way you want to be loved, so learn to love yourself.
The best way to learn to love yourself is to strive for more, strive to be better, strive to lift harder, strive to improve your understanding of the world, strive to make more cash, strive to be a GOD...a DOMINANT GOD
Self-improvement is exactly how it sounds. It is not evolving your outer shell. It is growing a
pearl inside the shell. Self-improvement is just self-actualization. You are becoming who you
are! You are unleashing your soul. You are not bottling your soul so you pretend to be an image.
You don't work out to turn your flesh into a masculine dress. You work out because you love it
and because you have goals. I LOVE working out. I love how it makes me feel. I love the
testosterone surging through my veins. It makes me happier, smarter, more action oriented, and
just all around a more pleasant person to be around. The LOSER is someone who works out for
the appearance alone (in other words, most women and idiotic males).
I hammered self-improvement on Sosuave because improving YOURSELF gave greater rewards
than improving your GAME. With so much focus on manipulation strategies, you'd have a much
more satisfying life and an automatic way to get women by improving yourself.
Self-improvement was a way of saying: "Invest time in yourself rather than investing time in
girls." Why? It is because girls come and go, but YOU are forever!
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11-06-2014, 10:01 AM #77
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11-06-2014, 10:06 AM #79
Feels OP... I know all these miscr's will say you're a pussy and to move on etc... Its really tough when you find a girl that is amazing but **** happens.... I broke up with my ex and had no sleep days etc and ended up getting back with her.
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11-06-2014, 10:07 AM #80
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11-06-2014, 10:13 AM #83
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Dear Miss-I'm-Too-Good-To-Call-Or-Write-My-Fans,
this'll be the last package I ever send your ass
It's been eight months and still no word - I don't deserve it?
I know you got my last two letters;
I wrote the addresses on 'em perfect
So this is my cassette I'm sending you, I hope you hear it
I'm in the car right now, I'm doing 90 on the freeway
Hey Sloot, I drank a fifth of vodka, you dare me to drive?
You know the song by Phil Collins, "In the Air of the Night"
about that guy who coulda saved that other guy from drowning
but didn't, then Phil saw it all, then at a show he found him?
That's kinda how this is, you coulda rescued me from drowning
Now it's too late - I'm on a 1000 downers now, I'm drowsy
and all I wanted was a lousy letter or a call
I hope you know I ripped all of your pictures off the wall
I love you Sloot, we coulda been together, think about it
You ruined it now, I hope you can't sleep and you dream about it
And when you dream I hope you can't sleep and you SCREAM about it
I hope your conscience EATS AT YOU and you can't BREATHE without me
See Sloot; [*screaming*] Shut up bitch! I'm trying to talk!
Hey Sloot, that's my girlfriend screaming in the trunk
but I didn't slit her throat, I just tied her up, see I ain't like you
cause if she suffocates she'll suffer more, and then she'll die too
Well, gotta go, I'm almost at the bridge now
Oh ****, I forgot, how'm I supposed to send this **** out?Look at my gay pink hat :)
"Robin Williams, what a concept!"
-Billy Crystal
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11-06-2014, 10:22 AM #84
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11-06-2014, 06:23 PM #90
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we all go through though times man, i go through same stuff. some days especially dreams where everything is so real fuarks up my day. best poison to a posion is another poison. try to find a nice girl and never compare the new one to the old one, or else its gonna very tough to get over it. keep urslef busy, if ur very depressive maybe see a therapist.
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