Yeah we are on kinda different wavelengths. I wasn't all shocked and appalled in those threads, I was saying that if I could understand what I would be getting myself into, from knowing the appeal of such things and asking others opinions on those sex acts, that I would be open to at least trying it with him. He hasn't even brought it up again anyway.
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10-02-2014, 08:58 AM #31
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10-02-2014, 09:05 AM #32
OP ur right but titties are so nice to look at, doesnt have anything to do with the girl they're attached to tho.
from the guys side it seems so innocent cuz its just looking at some nice racks as they pass by but turn it around and we would get the bad feeling tooEgg foo young, En lo mein, so come on baby and have it just the same woooooynga
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10-02-2014, 09:09 AM #33
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10-02-2014, 09:13 AM #34
I don't necessarily see the harm in it from my point of view, but I know that my wife would not be happy with me going to a strip club and I can't say I would encourage her to go somewhere that dicks are flying all over the place. As such, I limit my attendance at those kind of establishments only to occasions when it can't be avoided (i.e. good friends bach party).
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10-02-2014, 09:16 AM #35
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10-02-2014, 09:16 AM #36
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10-02-2014, 09:30 AM #37
Man that is so off-putting!~ Let him go get turned on by someone else and if I'm lucky I'll get some when he gets home~, gross. If I was that desperate I would way rather just sort myself out. We had sex this afternoon twice, it started simply from me hugging him hello when he got home and he got hard from a hug hehe and we got down right then, how pathetic do you have to be to feel lucky that your partner is turned on from someone else to have sex with you? Is that normal for you? Lol
I know someone people on here are agreeing that they wouldn't feel comfortable with it either, but it seems like most people only view it as insecurity on my part and don't quite understand the way it seems to chip at the quality of the relationship, but anyway, I've sent him a msg (as it's late now) and told him he should just go to those things and just let me know, because if he's already wanting to and doesn't see a problem with it, then it's already at that level anyway what's the point in telling him he shouldn't go whilst in a relationship then I dunno :s
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10-02-2014, 09:31 AM #38
I see things a different than most miscers. Is there a problem with going to a topless bar and having a couple of drinks? Eh, not really. It's not cheating. But herein lies the problem, and is what most here fail to realize. It is disrespectful to you and the relationship. Why would he want to put you a position to say "yeah it's okay for you to go have drinks and watch half-naked women"? He has no respect and is selfish.
My philosophy on relationships are simple when it comes to what is okay and what is not, obviously this differs for people, but it doesn't change the fact that things are still disrespectful regardless if either party is okay with it.
Single people do single people things. Couples do couple things.
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10-02-2014, 09:33 AM #39
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10-02-2014, 09:35 AM #40
I'd say no although the majority here are saying yes. Could not imagine my gf going to a strip bar with male strippers or even clubs for that matter. All relationships are different though. Just draw the line and consider your own insecurity and make your decision. Personally I wouldn't like it. Drinking just inhibits all your decision making and just leads to poor choices from both male and female stand point.
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10-02-2014, 09:35 AM #41
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10-02-2014, 09:40 AM #43
It's not about your level of insecurity. It's about the fact your partner values the relationship to such a degree he would possibly jeopardize it by even asking if this was okay. He is someone who only cares about what feels good for him, regardless of what it makes you feel. Tell him it is disrespectful to you and the relationship. If he pushes back or ever puts you in this position again, dump him. Srs. He'll ended up taking more than you are willing to give in the long run and this will either end up in a break up or if you were to unfortunately get married you would be part of the divorce statistics.
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10-02-2014, 09:45 AM #44
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10-02-2014, 09:47 AM #45
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10-02-2014, 09:51 AM #46
No I appreciate and need communication, it's the only way for resolve. I don't know what else to do man. It's either I'm "suffocating" him, as BuildKing puts it, or I'm saying for him to go yet not feeling cool with it inside and thinking less of him. What else can you do if you're just not that kind of person who's ok with their partner exposing themselves to those situations, that like someone else said, is what single people do? Tell me that then
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10-02-2014, 09:53 AM #47
yeah..actually wow..
in our case...the feeling and the reaction would have been mutual... i would have filled her holes with wet cement...
sorry not everybody on this sphere lives the same pov about life, relationship and other stuff with you...
and your credibility or suitability about advices can be discussed if your wife's, and mother to two kids, request to watch strippers is easily accepted.
also you are aware that if OP was male...the most advice he would have got be "next"...
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10-02-2014, 09:53 AM #48
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10-02-2014, 09:57 AM #49
Giving it the MISC advice treatment - You need to lay out your boundaries and if he crosses those boundaries without regard then you cut him loose and go about finding someone who doesn't cross your boundaries.
Everyone is going to have their specific boundaries, those boundaries vary - There is no general right and wrong of what those boundaries are. Go about finding someone who doesn't cross the boundaries you set forth and be happy.
As for communication and relationships, it is essential. But unless you are very serious then there isn't much you can do other than lay our your concerns and then see how the person reacts.
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10-02-2014, 09:58 AM #50
yea. some people say opposites attract. but i think it depends on exactly what "the opoosites" are. differnt music, thats ok, different tv shows thats ok. someone who wants to be a male stripper and go look at tits all night seems pretty opposite of what you are all about. but then again, people can change, or make compromises in a relationship, so who knows.
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10-02-2014, 09:58 AM #51
Relax OP. it's just something to do and there's no way he's hooking up worth any of these girls. Don't try to control him (because that's how he sees it) just let it go. He'll come home horny as hell and you'll benefit from it.
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10-02-2014, 10:42 AM #58
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10-02-2014, 10:45 AM #59
I have. He just got out of bed and came to me a moment ago and said he's not gonna go to those things if I'm not ok with it. Now it's just on me feeling like I'm stopping him from doing the "fun/seedy" things he wants to do with his friends so now I've just gotta know that I'm not allowing him I guess to do what he wants, but man I'm getting over thinking about it now. I don't know what the healthy balance is that keeps both people happy. Guess I should just leave it there then I don't know eh
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10-02-2014, 10:48 AM #60
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