Woman logic ruining my marriage.

[JordyQ]

I think it's a huge misconception that men don't try to please women. Most of us are huge pervs and will tongue punch your fartbox for days if you'll allow it.

This is quite true... however after I cum I would be like "wtf did I seriously just put my tongue in her ass?"

It's like we get possessed until we finish

[DatTrolololsong]

Man what the phuck you're like s pigeon scrounging around for bread crumbs. Try not to make her cum quick then. My current gf Cums every time in less than 5 mins to the point where I thought she was faking it. My colleague told me not to work on the frequency of sex, but rather the quality of it. So when she's close, pull back, slow down, then build it up again 2 or 3 times and when it finally finishes it will be 10 times better than cuming in 5 mins. I tested this and from my experience it worked. But you've got to get her to have sex with you first haha.

. Well if she gives me some bs excuse I'm trying to take away all of her outs. Just willing to try anything and actually a handjob means a lot. It says she's not in the mood but fuk it I'm gonna make my man happy

[DatTrolololsong]

This is quite true... however after I cum I would be like "wtf did I seriously just put my tongue in her ass?"

It's like we get possessed until we finish

She's way to much of a prude to actually let me tongue her bum. Pretty sure if regret it afterwards too

[Cynic09]

She's way to much of a prude to actually let me tongue her bum. Pretty sure if regret it afterwards too

Seems like she wears the pants in the relationship and dictates what goes on. No wonder why your marriage isn't working. RIP

[JordyQ]

. Well if she gives me some bs excuse I'm trying to take away all of her outs. Just willing to try anything and actually a handjob means a lot. It says she's not in the mood but fuk it I'm gonna make my man happy

Actually this makes sense. Gf was sore and had a uti few weeks ago so no sex. Still gave me a BJ. .. felt good that she was still willing to please. whereas my previous girlfriend apparently clenched her teeth while she slept which made her jaw hurt so she was unable to partake in blow jobs. Haha. We broke up a month later, she was crushing on other dudes. When the bullchit excuses start you know there's a big problem.

[Marie646]

Op you and I are in the exact same boat. Wow I'm kind of speechless. It's not just "woman's logic" my husband does the dam near the same sh!t. Like you said she used her vibrator, my husband watches porn. ( I found it on his phone) I just don't know what the fuc. I ,like you, have tried EVERYTHING. Two weeks ago I literally laid on the bed naked and opened my legs to show him my wet (you know) and he chuckled then blew a raspberry on my stomach and walked off. I don't get mad though I feel rejected. I don't think we're going to make it out of this alive Op. UGH! I guess we should the Five Languages of Love. FML

[JordyQ]

Op you and I are in the exact same boat. Wow I'm kind of speechless. It's not just "woman's logic" my husband does the dam near the same sh!t. Like you said she used her vibrator, my husband watches porn. ( I found it on his phone) I just don't know what the fuc. I ,like you, have tried EVERYTHING. Two weeks ago I literally laid on the bed naked and opened my legs to show him my wet (you know) and he chuckled then blew a raspberry on my stomach and walked off. I don't get mad though I feel rejected. I don't think we're going to make it out of this alive Op. UGH! I guess we should the Five Languages of Love. FML

Unless you're incredibly fat there should be no reason he is passing up that kind of golden opportunity unless he is turning gay which does happen in this day and age.

[DatTrolololsong]

Op you and I are in the exact same boat. Wow I'm kind of speechless. It's not just "woman's logic" my husband does the dam near the same sh!t. Like you said she used her vibrator, my husband watches porn. ( I found it on his phone) I just don't know what the fuc. I ,like you, have tried EVERYTHING. Two weeks ago I literally laid on the bed naked and opened my legs to show him my wet (you know) and he chuckled then blew a raspberry on my stomach and walked off. I don't get mad though I feel rejected. I don't think we're going to make it out of this alive Op. UGH! I guess we should the Five Languages of Love. FML

😩sorry you're going through this but pics or it didn't happen

[Marie646]

Unless you're incredibly fat there should be no reason he is passing up that kind of golden opportunity unless he is turning gay which does happen in this day and age.

Nope not fat and judging by the porn he is watching he is not turning gay.

[Marie646]

��sorry you're going through this but pics or it didn't happen

Pics of what exactly, my _____ or my husband ?

[DatTrolololsong]

Pics of what exactly, my _____ or my husband ?

Yes your husband

[randombrah1]

She's way to much of a prude to actually let me tongue her bum. Pretty sure if regret it afterwards too

...The issues here is with YOU brah.
No girl is a "prude" you just dont know how to lead or how to convey attraction. This can be solved with you taking action to improve YOURSELF. Stop being a fukin bish and become the man your wife would leave you for.

Cliffs: If your girls doesnt want to jump your bones, you doing something very wrong with YOU.

Wanna fix this? Take action and READ!

you can start here:

http://bookofpook.neocities.org/ -------> this one is the most important

http://www.sosuave.com/bible/bible.htm ----> then this

http://therationalmale.com/


Getting mad cause she isnt giving you sex is backfiring in you, cause to your wife, you look like a bish and she wants a man.
She doesnt give sex? Stop paying attention to her at all and focus on yourself, go lift, dress better, improve your appeareance. At this point she WILL sense that you are trying to move the fuk on (even if you arent) and the sex will come.



Also: STOP LISTENING TO THE ADVICE WOMAN ARE GIVING YOU. You said it yourself, woman logic got you here. Yes, were different.

[JUSA]

No kids? Divorce.

Kids? Talk about having an open marriage.

[L_Coops]

Seems like she wears the pants in the relationship and dictates what goes on. No wonder why your marriage isn't working. RIP

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking.

Could never be in a relationship like that.

[Cynic09]

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking.

Could never be in a relationship like that.

Seems most men go beta once they get married. If they weren't before they do after.
Of the marriages I know that worked well, the women respect the men, it's 50/50 or they submit.
I don't care what some dumb feminist or whoever say. I wouldn't accept anything less than what I stated above.

The marriage/relationship where the girl dictates/rule never work well unless you're into cuckold.

[Dave1958]

We were boning like bunnies until I put a ring on it

Well that's is normal.

You have a choice either put up with this til she decides she wants a different d, then your history. The other is live in misery till she wants kids and then she has you totally by the jewels, or tell her change her ways or your history. Only do the last if your serious. This don't end good no matter how I sugar coat it

[Connor1226]

You can't change people. People don't change.
Their behaviors can change, but they don't change.

Plus you don't marry someone to change them. If you don't love who she is, why the hell did you marry her?

You need to talk to her about this, not us.
Seems like there is a lack of communication between you two.

[Montre]

Strong this.

This is the counselor (would hopefully) talk to you about. Everyone (even you OP) has their own 'love language'; basically things that make them happy when they're with someone.



Trust me, if you find out which one (or more) of these really pulls on her heart strings, I guarantee you can get your sex life back. If you can't, she's truly ungrateful and you need to move on.

I did all 5 of those with my Ex. Almost everyday I'd nail multiple of each one. To the point where I drove myself into the ground between work, favors, chores, gifts, and trying to be sweet. It's not guaranteed to work.

[DatTrolololsong]

I did all 5 of those with my Ex. Almost everyday I'd nail multiple of each one. To the point where I drove myself into the ground between work, favors, chores, gifts, and trying to be sweet. It's not guaranteed to work.

Everybody's an expert until it is their own life. Trust me you *******s. I've tried every approach. I can't change who I am. I try to change. And lol at the azz a few posts back saying I need to work on myself. You don't even know me. I'm smarter, better looking, funnier, and make better money than 90% of guys. Hardly a bad catch

[WinoCat]

Everybody's an expert until it is their own life. Trust me you *******s. I've tried every approach. I can't change who I am. I try to change. And lol at the azz a few posts back saying I need to work on myself. You don't even know me. I'm smarter, better looking, funnier, and make better money than 90% of guys. Hardly a bad catch

I mean, I may be way off, but maybe its your "I'm better than everyone else" attitude that she's picking up on. Ever think of that? Or is this attitude for the internet only? Because most women I know sniff that **** out a mile away and can't stand it. Maybe she's trying to peg you down a couple notches...

[GoodMornings]

The Irony that is my life:
My wife says sex is very important in a relationship, but she rarely fuks me. Once ever two weeks sometimes longer.

She says if you ever cheat, we won't work it out, it will be over instantly. But tells me she's just not interested in sex with me anymore. Occasionally throws me a bone. Used her vibrator yesterday. I keep track.

Says I am not loving towards her that is why she doesn't fuk me. But I am not loving bc I have so much pent up frustration about sex. Vicious cycle.
I can only be sweet for a few days and several rejections.

She's never initiated sex in 3 yrs. during sex she cums everytime. It's all about her. Pleasing me is the last thing on her mind during sex. Blowjobs, handjobs are pretty much off the table. Says sex isn't a need for me and that I'm not an animal

She's very conservative. Only been with 1 other guy. Wtf do I do to change this chick? Not at the point of divorce yet though so save your breath

Cliffs
Wife says she needs to feel loved to have sex.
So she puts me through sexual droughts as punishment.
Makes me treat her worse bc she doesn't care about my needs

Chitty situation. I think someone mentioned the Five Languages of Love book. I've never used it, but know people who it has really helped. What surprises me is you said she enjoys sex, but then never sleeps with you. I could understand if she hated it and never wanted to sleep with you. I don't know if anyone has already said this, but certain birth control pills can decrease a woman's drive. So if she's on the pill that's a possibility or some other medication can be causing an issue. I'd say have a long discussion with her about it. Did you say she's uncomfortable talking about sex with you? Then just make her talk about until she's over that, she should be comfortable to discuss anything with you. And my advice to your wife would be to never, ever use withholding sex as a punishment or bargaining tool. This mentality causes more of a problem than anything.

[DatTrolololsong]

I mean, I may be way off, but maybe its your "I'm better than everyone else" attitude that she's picking up on. Ever think of that? Or is this attitude for the internet only? Because most women I know sniff that **** out a mile away and can't stand it. Maybe she's trying to peg you down a couple notches...

No I'm just being honest. Not even close to thinking I'm perfect. But I know that I am good looking smart and funny. I've also told her that I will accept all the responsibility for everything that has gone wrong. Bc I have my issues. But to me the physical stuff should be the easiest problem to solve. The relationship issues are the complex ones

[karljohnsontty]

Sorry to hear about your frustration.

Wife and I experience the same. Except that it's not really an issue for us cos we're both busy with work plus her dragon boat training and competitions plus my gym time...

We used to do it a lot. But now it's the opposite.

[Guardian]

The Irony that is my life:
My wife says sex is very important in a relationship, but she rarely fuks me. Once ever two weeks sometimes longer.

She says if you ever cheat, we won't work it out, it will be over instantly. But tells me she's just not interested in sex with me anymore. Occasionally throws me a bone. Used her vibrator yesterday. I keep track.

Says I am not loving towards her that is why she doesn't fuk me. But I am not loving bc I have so much pent up frustration about sex. Vicious cycle.
I can only be sweet for a few days and several rejections.

She's never initiated sex in 3 yrs. during sex she cums everytime. It's all about her. Pleasing me is the last thing on her mind during sex. Blowjobs, handjobs are pretty much off the table. Says sex isn't a need for me and that I'm not an animal

She's very conservative. Only been with 1 other guy. Wtf do I do to change this chick? Not at the point of divorce yet though so save your breath

Cliffs
Wife says she needs to feel loved to have sex.
So she puts me through sexual droughts as punishment.
Makes me treat her worse bc she doesn't care about my needs

When I see ops like this I just have to wonder, you did not see any of this before you actually got married?

I was with a chick I really liked for a couple years. In the bedroom she just was too dull, I didn't even bother talking to her about it and just left the relationship.

Let me tell you something, most people are not going to change just by talking to them, if they are not how you'd like them to be, either decide if your ok with it or leave.

[weightsloveme]

My brotha,



This isn't physical with her. This is emotional. From what you wrote she's not feeling a connection with you. You need to reignite it. Aside from not putting out, how does she treat you? Does she respect you? Or aside from the sex is it a good relationship?

I would start off by doing some little things. You need to emotionally connect with her again. A lot of chicks need to feel like their men are listening. Ask her how her day was. Do the dishes or some other nice little gesture. But whatever you do don't make it apparent you're doing these things for sex. And never allude to the fact she should be having sex because you did the dishes or something like that.

Just do things for her that show you care. I'm not telling you to be her servant or to be a wuss-bag but to do things to make her life easier. See if this helps, my brotha.

[Subzer0ZX]

You have a vicious cycle going on right now:

Wife wants love - withholds sex until she feels loved - you don't want to put the effort in because you're mad about no sex - nobody is happy.

Sit her down and explain that sex is important, and why you don't make her feel 'loved'. If she's not willing to compromise and work things out, you can either accept your sexless marriage or file for divorce.

He needs a clear definition of what 'loved' means.

For some women it's reasonable, for others you need to worship them and then the get a complex and act like it's a privilege just to be able to do that. If its the latter, you better split son. If its the former, sit her done and work this **** out. It's her you need to be talking to, not us.

[deadliftbrah19]

I think it's a huge misconception that men don't try to please women. Most of us are huge pervs and will tongue punch your fartbox for days if you'll allow it.

Most of the guys on here in their early 20s do zero foreplay, then stick it in for 10 seconds and make a thread as to how to last longer. It's not just lasting longer, it's everything.

[deadliftbrah19]

Unless you're incredibly fat there should be no reason he is passing up that kind of golden opportunity unless he is turning gay which does happen in this day and age.

It's actually very common for married men to reject women for sex too. I went to a seminar on this.

One woman was a hot French woman, her husband had sex with her a lot before marriage, after marriage he denied her sex for 1.5 years, and now they are "separated but live together". She asked that she could date others because she was going crazy from the lack of sex.

And I've seen this over and over.......people just get tired of each other I guess.

[kjoel007]

Two weeks ago I literally laid on the bed naked and opened my legs to show him my wet (you know) and he chuckled then blew a raspberry on my stomach and walked off.

OP, did you marry my ex brah?? Hahaha, sorry, I know its not what you want to hear, but R.I.P to your marriage. How old is she by the way?

[JordyQ]

It's actually very common for married men to reject women for sex too. I went to a seminar on this.

One woman was a hot French woman, her husband had sex with her a lot before marriage, after marriage he denied her sex for 1.5 years, and now they are "separated but live together". She asked that she could date others because she was going crazy from the lack of sex.

And I've seen this over and over.......people just get tired of each other I guess.

Men denying sex? What the phuck is this world coming to. Don't give me that "oh I'm a man I am entitled variety it's the natural order of things key opens many locks" bullchit, watch some porn to shake things up. she must have been been a blood sucking mole. French... probably never shaved so that's why. He obviously wasn't into that gorilla action.

Edit: InB4 banned for racist post.