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Thread: corporal punishment (spanking)
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09-14-2014, 09:12 PM #241
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09-14-2014, 09:13 PM #242
Welcome to the bandwagon of sanity. I cringe so hard when people read a so called scientific study and think the evidence is rock solid because it is "science" and ignore the strengths and weaknesses of the study. I don't mean to be a jerk or whatever but this problem is so widespread among people who don't know how difficult it is to scientifically provide solid evidence that supports a hypothesis. Perhaps people are more lenient in the so called soft sciences but if you were to present this kind of evidence in microbiology, chemistry, physics, biochem, etc you would get torn apart IMO.
Truth. I'm sure they have some way of designing some decent experiments in psychology, at least as good as can be considering the subject, but the studies cited ITT have been of a particularly weak nature IMO.
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09-14-2014, 09:20 PM #243
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09-14-2014, 09:20 PM #244
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It is a needed tool when other punishments no longer work.
Time out was a go to. However, once my kid started to leave time out he was spanked.
He is turning 6 now and I haven't spanked him sense he was 4ish.
The kid needs to know that punishments aren't optional.Finance Degree - USAF INTEL - IIFYM - Injured Crew - KTM XCW300 - Single Track Trail Rider - NRA Supporter - Shunned from MFC - Libertarian - Pragmatist
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09-14-2014, 09:23 PM #245
Well I have to say I always enjoy a spirited debate with level heads and heart felt conviction. It reaffirms my faith in people being able to exchange despite difference. It is always a learning thus growth experience for me. You have a great evening and keep the science of it all on the straight and narrow....and you are 100% correct about substantiating ones position in the more rigid sciences
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09-14-2014, 09:23 PM #246
It's like they want to believe 1+1=3 despite every evidence that it's not in a Big Lebowski "Well, that's like your opinion man" mentality. I think it's because they can't remove themselves from the idea that in the moment of spanking, the parent failed in that instance. It's not that the parents are failures in general, but that IN that instance they failed to convey the appropriate message to their child in a reasonable way for a child to understand. They simply can't or don't want to believe their grandparents, parents, and/or themselves have failed in a moment.
The argument for pro-spanking, from what I've seen, is always anecdotal or confirmation bias. This is coming from someone that was once pro-spanking. I was spanked and turned out OK, but looking back as a grown educated man, I realized WHEN I was spanked, it was simply because my mother failed to parent correctly in that situation. Not that she was a bad parent, by a long shot."An injury to one, is an injury to all. Workers of the world, unite!"
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09-14-2014, 09:24 PM #247
I disagree. It takes time and effort to discipline a child without smacking them. They aren't dogs and are capable of understanding, at some point, more than conditioned response. The motivating factor in most people that hit their children is establishing an immediate fear response in their child to curb behavior through classical conditioning. That is not beneficial as has been indicated by the studies already posted and manifests negatively later in life. Sitting down with a young child and working on their behavior consistently over time is hard but worthwhile.
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09-14-2014, 09:25 PM #248
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09-14-2014, 09:26 PM #249
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09-14-2014, 09:26 PM #250
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09-14-2014, 09:26 PM #251
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But that's really only rationalization.
What do you do when spanking doesn't work? You do it harder?
IDBLOL brought up a good point here, summed up by ''lead by example'' and ''be a role model''.
I'm really curious to know the kinds of situations that would warrant spanking. Give me an example....??I rate it 9/11
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09-14-2014, 09:28 PM #252
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09-14-2014, 09:29 PM #253
Well actually they do, it is called the "yank and crank" method and it proves to be faulty on the competition field time and time again vice the more strategic methods of training. In short the dog does not see the handler as it's undisputed leader in stressful situations. So draw your own conclusions.
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09-14-2014, 09:30 PM #254
More interesting is what do you do when spanking alters behavior and begets additional negative behavior. You hit your kid for taking a cookie without asking, next time he sneaks it so you hit him some more. gj dad. You taught him that lesson and now he gets hit some more because you couldn't be bothered to do your job.
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09-14-2014, 09:31 PM #255
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09-14-2014, 09:37 PM #256
Didnt think anything of spanking/hitting kids when I didn't have them. I was hit/spanked by my parents. Now I have a child, I get really angry when I hear of parents resorting to spanking/hitting their kids. Havent read the thread, but no doubt you have cowards posting who have and are doing it.
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09-14-2014, 09:39 PM #257
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09-14-2014, 09:40 PM #258
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09-14-2014, 09:44 PM #259
I simply state it is a method of discipline that may be used effectively. I don't advocate for or against it, I say it is a tool you may choose to use or not. It is your choice as a parent. As far as dog training I was not taught the yank and crank method so I have no personal experience with it with mydawgs, they responded to other methods that were very effective. It is all about what works.
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09-14-2014, 09:45 PM #260
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09-14-2014, 09:46 PM #261
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Not in the game dog fields. Most world class retrievers are still trained from a book published in 1964.
Hell even if I didn't use "Violence" on dogs the other dogs do. My 8 month old puppy gets nipped in the ear frequently for being annoying. After a week long camping trip she knew what she could and could not get away with. This isn't mentally damaging it is learning.Finance Degree - USAF INTEL - IIFYM - Injured Crew - KTM XCW300 - Single Track Trail Rider - NRA Supporter - Shunned from MFC - Libertarian - Pragmatist
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09-14-2014, 10:04 PM #262
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Get a 3 year old to follow by example. Good luck with that...
There are a few reasons to use spanking.
1. Immediate danger. Even the anti-spanking studies still do show that corporal punishment is the quickest way to stop a behavior, but it has negative long term sides. Electrical Socket for example.
2. To enforce authority. Once the kid decides he doesn't have to follow his punishment you need to show them that you mean business.
3. I used it to stop biting. He went through a few month stage where he bit people. He got kicked out of daycare, because of this. I had to burn a week of vacation time at work because we had no one to watch the kid while he was "suspended". He really quickly learned that biting hurts him and stopped doing it.
I haven't spanked him in several years now...Finance Degree - USAF INTEL - IIFYM - Injured Crew - KTM XCW300 - Single Track Trail Rider - NRA Supporter - Shunned from MFC - Libertarian - Pragmatist
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09-14-2014, 10:12 PM #263
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How about safety covers?
IMO, teaching your kid that the proper way to enforce authority is to use one's physical advantage is just bad parenting. When would you want to ''enforce'' authority?
http://www.babycenter.com/404_my-chi...-back_69171.bc
I'm glad to hear you haven't hit him in several years now.I rate it 9/11
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09-14-2014, 10:23 PM #264
This will all be anecdotal. Forewarned. I have 2 sons that are now 18 & 16 months old. We have tons of electrical outlets. My oldest quickly figured out how to get the covers off. I was able to quickly get him and the other to not mess with them without spanking.
2. To enforce authority. Once the kid decides he doesn't have to follow his punishment you need to show them that you mean business.
3. I used it to stop biting. He went through a few month stage where he bit people. He got kicked out of daycare, because of this. I had to burn a week of vacation time at work because we had no one to watch the kid while he was "suspended". He really quickly learned that biting hurts him and stopped doing it.
I haven't spanked him in several years now..."An injury to one, is an injury to all. Workers of the world, unite!"
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09-14-2014, 10:52 PM #265
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1. Because I can not protect him in every environment. I baby proofed my house, but what happens when you go to a friends... That was just one example. A measured response is better than a potentially lethal one.
2. Because violence is the way the WHOLE WORLD works. Governments, Police forces, Animals... Every wrong behavior you ever do has a threat of force attached to stop it. Go steal some chit and see how long it takes before a policeman with a gun shows up...
3. The article is wrong. The kid did stop very quickly. Physical response is the way all animal parents work. Dog is playing to rough it gets nipped...
So you went the slow education route and he didn't get shocked to death. I went the quick route and he didn't get shocked to death.
You miss the part where I haven't had to spank him in years? It was very effective for a defiant stage (About 2 months) and showed the kid that I have authority and if you do not do what I say bad things happen. Several years later he still knows dad means business.
Mammals use teeth as one of their first weapons, by the time he started biting it wasn't cute nibbles and it was against other kids... The behavior needed to stop NOW. Not 3 months from now.
You can decide to play stupid games or you can stop the behavior. Physical punishment is one tool of many, but once it was used the non physical punishment became much more effective. When I sent the 4 year old to time out he ran. When his mom sent him, he didn't go or argued about it. Eventually she used me as a tool (Do I need to get dad?)Finance Degree - USAF INTEL - IIFYM - Injured Crew - KTM XCW300 - Single Track Trail Rider - NRA Supporter - Shunned from MFC - Libertarian - Pragmatist
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09-14-2014, 10:55 PM #266
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09-14-2014, 11:05 PM #267
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09-14-2014, 11:05 PM #268
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Authority - the power or right to give orders, make decisions, and enforce obedience.
The threat of violence is always there...
I bring up wild animals, because toddlers basically are wild animals. Furthermore, despite the hint of polish humans put on when it really comes down to it we are all just animals. Our authority comes from the threat of violence just like it always has.Finance Degree - USAF INTEL - IIFYM - Injured Crew - KTM XCW300 - Single Track Trail Rider - NRA Supporter - Shunned from MFC - Libertarian - Pragmatist
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09-14-2014, 11:16 PM #269
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Several things here. First I was confused at you bringing animals because that would be an appeal to nature, logical fallacy.
Now authority doesn't always come from the threat of violence. It can also come from respect and love. It can come, in the adult world, via voluntary association too.I rate it 9/11
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