good friend owes me $1,500...he just got a $14,000 deposit today...

[Sakeoe]

Strong friend.

Get your money back, one way or the other if you know what I mean.

[Oarsome]

Any time you loan money or pay for a friend you should do it as a gift or not at all.

If they pay you back, great. If not, it was a gift and you improved their life.

Money shouldn't drive a friendship apart

totally disagree with this, sometimes friends need money but not many people are rich enough to just hand them this money over with no expect for return. That $1500 might have been for an upgrade on a car or a visit to the family the following holiday period. It isnt being used now so you can lend it to help someone out but the fact is eventually you will need it back.

To the OP you should mention what you said in your post to him, in a calm way sit down with him and explain that its great he is out of trouble but you did lend him quite a bit of money and you would like some / all of it back now as you are not bill gates and lent it to him with the understanding that he was to pay it back.

As another poster said, if it was me i would have paid you back the second i had that 14k, you would have been the first stop and if he aint paying you back now that he has money he never will and is a bad friend, i could understand if he had outstanding bills that sucked it all up but if he is out buying new clothes that aint cool. He is putting that over you, if he really needed new clothes he could have explained that to you and maybe paid you half the money.

he is not a good friend if he is not paying you back and is giving you bs excuses

[bobshmob123]

mirin beard OP

[Carter80]

OP, your best bet is to see how much he's going to pay back first. Anything less than half of what he owes you is an insult. If he gives you around a $1000, then you can be patient. Give it another month or two and then ask for the rest. Don't risk pissing him off. Not because you'll risk your friendship, there is no friendship because he's a scumbag, but because you risk getting nothing back. As soon as he pays you back, either disregard him completely or just casually taper off the friendship. Dude is an ungrateful pos.

[Socalstylz88]

This is exactly why I don't like lending anything over $100 to friends. Basically nothing over a round of drinks for my group. **** like this happens.

If my friend fell on hard times I would be willing to support him as long as he was actively looking for a job. Wouldn't make him pay me back or anything.

[nvrstopworking]

Should have confiscated all of his new clothes and shoes that he brought over until he paid you.

[madguna]

strong username to post content ratio

[matt7]

fuk that, get your money back. sound to me like you were used. cant stand someone who leeches like that. I would honestly ask him for the money and cut all ties with him if he says no again.

[poonpounder311]

OP you sound more like a sugar daddy to this fool than a friend. Does he at least zuk you dik?

[likeawashboard]

Get the money from him and then cut him out of your life. Those great experiences you had with him in the past as friends are all very well and good, but they are not now. He is being a kunt.

Get the money back. If he realises he's being a kunt then deal with that, but if he makes a big deal about it then forget him.

[RTone]

This is easy, just tell him you're charging interest at whatever rate you choose.. honestly pick a rate that you would NOT want him to pay the money back at, so lets say 7% that's a good return on investment. Then lay him out a payment plan so he'll be paying you $5000 over the next 10 years.

[mystic0608]

If he doesn't have plans to pay you now the day that the big fat check got deposited, he's not gonna pay you EVER.

this. if u ever want to see ur money again, tell him straight up

[DKPhenomenom]

Lol you sound like a fuking doormat, you must get taken advantage of a lot in life.

Tell him to pay you back the money asap, quit being a pussy.

Also lol @ "good friend" when he pulls chit like that, would cut ties with him after you get your money back.

[Timmy_522]

Friends don't fukk friends over like that. He's using you. You owe him nothing, break his legs (or talk to a debt recovery company, whatever).

[likeawashboard]

This is easy, just tell him you're charging interest at whatever rate you choose.. honestly pick a rate that you would NOT want him to pay the money back at, so lets say 7% that's a good return on investment. Then lay him out a payment plan so he'll be paying you $5000 over the next 10 years.

LOL, if you get him to sign up to this OP it would be hilarious.

[Carter80]

OP, so how much did you pay you back? Sounds like you just let him walk all over you.

[cman1787]

text him back saying, "either pay me back in full by the end of the month or our friendship ceases. you told me you would pay me back in full once you got paid. that was apparently a lie and friendship can't be based on lies."


if he says he won't pay you back, sue his ass.

[Bleachway]

Clearly he isn't a true friend.

[awphukwhy]

Well OP you know where he lives so go and rob his azz for your money.I once staged a robbery on some **** who owed me 5 dollars.

Or even better

Go tell some thugs where he lives so he can get robbed and ruin his life

[PowerLifter90]

he's using you dude....

[Flexish]

So not only did he call to tell you he got the money, he had the audacity to show up at your place (after telling you with no explanation you won't be getting it paid in full)with a bag of new clothes? He couldn't pick you up some Levis or something? Put at least a hundred dollars in your hand?

No sir. It's the principal. If I owe something, it haunts me like a ghost and I HAVE to pay it back immediately. I don't see how people can be in your face flaunting what they got and knowing you're waiting for what they OWE you. Some friend. I'm not saying be nasty, but talk to him. It's been that long of a friendship, you should be able to.

[mosaicbrah]

ask him where he's at in life.. i owed 1,500 to one of my mates, told him i'd have it in full after the next 2 pays.. soon after things went sour for me and my family i didn't see much of my bro... a year later when i could, gave him the money in full. things haven't changed between us if not we have a deeper understanding and know money is nothing.

but if he's just being a low time big headed baller. then go raid his house take 1,500 worth of **** and give it back when he does.

[knightofday]

If he doesn't have plans to pay you now the day that the big fat check got deposited, he's not gonna pay you EVER.

This This This! Get your money ASAP. He'll spend that cash before you know it

[Carter80]

text him back saying, "either pay me back in full by the end of the month or our friendship ceases. you told me you would pay me back in full once you got paid. that was apparently a lie and friendship can't be based on lies."

Worse thing he can do. You think the dude values their friendship that much?

OP needs to get back what his friend intends to pay him back first. Then he needs to wait a little before demanding more. I agree the more he waits, the less likely he'll see the rest but he needs to get back what he can first.

Plus he needs to save the texts he and his friend exchange. So far he has a text of his friend admitting he still owes him X Amount. After the first initial payment, he needs to text his friend back in a month or so and say "I know you paid me back X Amount so far of the $1500 you owe me, but I need the rest." If his friend refuses to pay, he can use the evidence in small claims court if he thinks it's worth it.

[Timmy_522]

I once staged a robbery on some **** who owed me 5 dollars.

Location: Florida.

So the stories are true.

[kfx450r]

this

lending money to non-immediate family members..not even once. But if you do, don't ever expect them to pay u back..

I disagree, but there are stipulations such as

Not lending to people known to do drugs/for drugs, and no more than an amount you know they can afford to pay you back with their next check and not effect their bills/etc. Have always gotten paid back this way, usually keep it under 120$

[hiimnotcool]

well, thanks for all the responses. i can see by my post that it does sound like im letting him walk over me but it doesnt feel like. i had two ways in my mind to approach it, was leaning toward just letting it go and giving him the benefit of the doubt that he'd come around...but i'll probably press the issue substantially later tonight or tomorrow. if he doesnt secede the cash then im gonna tell him 'ill wreck u *******'

[dhawkeye1980]

Hes not that good a friend....

[Flexish]

This This This! Get your money ASAP. He'll spend that cash before you know it

looks like he's the type to already blow through it. If I was at poverty status at one point and came into money, new clothes (unless I was seriously lacking) would be the last of my worries. Bills, money owed, etc would be first on the menu.


You're probably not the only one he owes, either. His priorities are scattered and I bet you'll be getting "yeah, I'm sorry, I don't have it, bro..."within a month. It happens. They may give you a little something and the trickle down will end with you getting less than 500 of what you're owed.

[cman1787]

Worse thing he can do. You think the dude values their friendship that much?

OP needs to get back what his friend intends to pay him back first. Then he needs to wait a little before demanding more. I agree the more he waits, the less likely he'll see the rest but he needs to get back what he can first.

Plus he needs to save the texts he and his friend exchange. So far he has a text of his friend admitting he still owes him X Amount. After the first initial payment, he needs to text his friend back in a month or so and say "I know you paid me back X Amount so far of the $1500 you owe me, but I need the rest." If his friend refuses to pay, he can use the evidence in small claims court if he thinks it's worth it.

i did edit my post to include that he should sue him if decides not to pay


idk, i think op would be better off trying to get it all at once instead of repeating his efforts multiple times.