[SRS] Depression Discussion and Support Thread Part II

[Num3n]

Does anyone else on antidepressants find they kill your sex drive? It's almost non existent at the moment. I guess it could be low T as well, I don't know. The only time I seem to get good solid wood is during the middle of the night or first thing in the morning. Fukking sucks.

das it. I don't think there is a way around this. Perhaps ask if your doctor can prescribe you viagra?

[300BLK]

Not every girl is a cheating slut for fuks sake. Plenty of people have healthy relationships, where they love their girl and she loves them. Get off the misc

I know that. Some girls are legitimately classy. Others hoes. Others straight sluts. The class to trash ratio is worse than it was back then, I'm sure of it. Shouldn't expect to find your wifey every time you meet a girl, like that guy was implying, all I'm saying.

I still think the 9 out of 10 number is a little exaggerated. The misc is not representative of the entire population. There are also a lot of people comfortable in their own skin, or can find happiness elsewhere. It's not a healthy place to rely all your happiness on.

As I said, I have been very busy with work the past few months and haven't had a lot of time to go out with friends or anything, so I haven't been getting laid lately. But there were periods not long ago where I was getting laid multiple times a week by several different girls and I assure you I was no happier, and even when I was feeling happy it wasn't because of that.

Your life doesn't have to "revolve" around it, like some people think it's the only thing or main thing, but for some people to say or act like it doesn't matter at all, are full of it imho. They're just trying to out think one of their natural drives.

so you're saying I was happier when I was getting laid?

http://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/agree+to+disagree

[SteadyWayfarer]

What is the action that a general doc is going to take if I go in and tell them about my suicidal thoughts?

i wouldn't be too worried about them institutionalizing you. Just as long as you seem calm and collected while explaining that you don't feel like you are an immediate threat to yourself, you should be fine. Just explain to them, that you are feeling very low, and they should understand.

[Fawnl]

Does anyone else on antidepressants find they kill your sex drive? It's almost non existent at the moment. I guess it could be low T as well, I don't know. The only time I seem to get good solid wood is during the middle of the night or first thing in the morning. Fukking sucks.

Yes. It is brutal. It's the only real side effect that I truly have and it's awful.

[JasonMaxiel]

Does anyone else on antidepressants find they kill your sex drive? It's almost non existent at the moment. I guess it could be low T as well, I don't know. The only time I seem to get good solid wood is during the middle of the night or first thing in the morning. Fukking sucks.

You could take Viagra like others have suggested. If you want a less intrusive method, try Korean Ginseng and L-Arginine in 2 week cycles. I don't know if it's a placebo effect or not, but I feel like it's working for me.

[Sanguivorant]

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Your problem is your attitude, not your height.

It's really hard to keep a good attitude about my height when people treat me like a child because of it, and women give me a look of disgust when they see me. I start the day off telling myself to keep a good attitude, but by the end of the day I can't help but feel like chit.

How do I be masculine? Srs question. This is one of the issues I have with my height.

[EmperorRyker]

It's really hard to keep a good attitude about my height when people treat me like a child because of it, and women give me a look of disgust when they see me. I start the day off telling myself to keep a good attitude, but by the end of the day I can't help but feel like chit.

How do I be masculine? Srs question. This is one of the issues I have with my height.

What exactly do they do? And come on, women don't give you a look of disgust, you need to realize it's all only in your head due to your poor self-confidence.

[Sanguivorant]

What exactly do they do? And come on, women don't give you a look of disgust, you need to realize it's all only in your head due to your poor self-confidence.

Being called tiny, cute, little, that sort of chit happens very often and it feels emasculating to hear it.

I guess it's less being treated like a child and more being treated with straight disrespect.

The most recent case was when a friend of my mother's came to our house one day to showcase their car so they can sell it to us. She simply could not stop bringing up my height and how short I was. She even jokingly said chit like, "Don't worry, we can adjust the seats so that you can reach the pedals" in a patronizing tone, which really pissed me off considering she herself was only an inch taller than I was.

Some guy in one of my classes likes to try to intimidate me by leaning towards me far enough and constantly give me chit about my height. Obviously I try to avoid him when I can.

And yes, I am not imagining it when I say that some women look at me in disgust or have a "What the phuck is wrong with this person" look. I get that even by shorter women as well.

All of this chit affects my self confidence and makes me feel like dirt.

[MajorTendonitis]

I could care less if I'm happy or not . I'm more concerned about staying warm , dry and fed .
People don't have enough hardships in life anymore and become pussies

[EmperorRyker]

I could care less if I'm happy or not . I'm more concerned about staying warm , dry and fed .
People don't have enough hardships in life anymore and become pussies

OK, buddy, feel free to move along to your manly man thread then.

[MetroBrah]

Got drunk and threw a stool at a table and scuffed the sht out of my new boots. Haven't raged like that since I was a teen

[dash_riprock]

It's really hard to keep a good attitude about my height when people treat me like a child because of it, and women give me a look of disgust when they see me. I start the day off telling myself to keep a good attitude, but by the end of the day I can't help but feel like chit.

How do I be masculine? Srs question. This is one of the issues I have with my height.

There are plenty of alpha short dudes brah... If people diss on you because of their height tell them to stfu- who does that anyway lol, sounds like a dick.

http://youtu.be/E84VqqCPI7w

[AppsBrah]

Being called tiny, cute, little, that sort of chit happens very often and it feels emasculating to hear it.

I guess it's less being treated like a child and more being treated with straight disrespect.

The most recent case was when a friend of my mother's came to our house one day to showcase their car so they can sell it to us. She simply could not stop bringing up my height and how short I was. She even jokingly said chit like, "Don't worry, we can adjust the seats so that you can reach the pedals" in a patronizing tone, which really pissed me off considering she herself was only an inch taller than I was.

Some guy in one of my classes likes to try to intimidate me by leaning towards me far enough and constantly give me chit about my height. Obviously I try to avoid him when I can.

And yes, I am not imagining it when I say that some women look at me in disgust or have a "What the phuck is wrong with this person" look. I get that even by shorter women as well.

All of this chit affects my self confidence and makes me feel like dirt.

How old and how tall are you?

I could care less if I'm happy or not . I'm more concerned about staying warm , dry and fed .
People don't have enough hardships in life anymore and become pussies

Grandpa misc ------->

[Sanguivorant]

I'm 19 and 5'4 tall. To be fair, my face is youthful as well and most of my classes in University are full of 25 year Olds, since I'm taking classes that I should only be taking in my fourth year.

[PersonaBrah]

god this past week i havent felt like my usual self
my workouts have been sucking super bad lately
i feel like i should just give up cus my lifts have stalled
new semester of classes and i have no freinds and i go most days without saying a word to anyone cuz everyone thinks im weird or somthing :/
no freinds to talk to this about
i just feel like **** and the feeling is new to me...
but reading the responses on this thread reminds me that people have it worse than i do and that i should stop being a pussy and man the fuk up
We are all gonna make it Brahs

[Fawnl]

I could care less if I'm happy or not . I'm more concerned about staying warm , dry and fed .
People don't have enough hardships in life anymore and become pussies

Depression is not about being "happy". It's unfortunate when ppl have the mind set that you do. This isn't about being a pussy. We care about all the things you listed above as well. Unfortunately, it's ppl with your attitude that cause ppl to not get help or worse, give up. If you don't know what it feels like, that's cool. If you have never had to feel it, you are very lucky and I'm happy for you. But don't act like this is something people choose. It just, isn't.

[AppsBrah]

I'm 19 and 5'4 tall. To be fair, my face is youthful as well and most of my classes in University are full of 25 year Olds, since I'm taking classes that I should only be taking in my fourth year.

Look up Peter Dinklage. Do you think he cares that he's 4'5? He owns it so nobody cares

[BigTimePlayer]

Look up Peter Dinklage. Do you think he cares that he's 4'5? He owns it so nobody cares

lol why does everyone always use famous people as examples for these things? It's not the same since they have the status/money that make women attractive to them for instance. It's just an exception but isn't a common thing where your average 4'5" guy can get good looking women. It's just being realistic since at the end of the day both men & women are equally shallow. I know shorter guys can get women, just they have to work harder for it, as well as get with women that are shorter than them.

[Sanguivorant]

I'll do what I can. These instances do not occur every day but when they do it does leave me feeling chitty for a while. Hopefully once I get to a good 140 or 150 lbs some of this will go away.

[EmperorRyker]

lol why does everyone always use famous people as examples for these things? It's not the same since they have the status/money that make women attractive to them for instance. It's just an exception but isn't a common thing where your average 4'5" guy can get good looking women. It's just being realistic since at the end of the day both men & women are equally shallow. I know shorter guys can get women, just they have to work harder for it, as well as get with women that are shorter than them.

That's true, but he's 5'4". Sure, maybe some girls don't like shorter guys, but everyone has a trait or feature that a certain percent of the population is going to dislike. I'm not trying to trivialize this and I know that all that matters is a person's perception of his faults, but I really do think this is "objectively" something one shouldn't concern himself with, and this is where seeing a therapist might help. To change that perception from seeing something as making or breaking your life to something that is perhaps undesirable, but still more than able to be lived with.

It's also funny that I have a friend from the gym who is also short, and one day we were talking about how he got into lifting and he said it was to make up for his height. Up until that point I never once thought about his height, I just saw him being short as a mere fact and perfectly neutral. I still see it that way, but the point is that it's really something that you alone obsess with, but others don't necessarily.

[AppsBrah]

lol why does everyone always use famous people as examples for these things? It's not the same since they have the status/money that make women attractive to them for instance. It's just an exception but isn't a common thing where your average 4'5" guy can get good looking women. It's just being realistic since at the end of the day both men & women are equally shallow. I know shorter guys can get women, just they have to work harder for it, as well as get with women that are shorter than them.

Because we all know famous people, I don't personally know anyone with that height. But it's not about whether or not he gets women, but the fact that everything about him screams that he literally does not care about his height. You can reach that without the money or fame.

Sanguivorant is 5'4, plenty of girls are shorter than that. He can either spend his life whining about it, or accept it and own it.

I also strongly believe people treat you how you let them treat you. If some friend of your mom keeps making jokes it's because she can get away with it aka he's probably sitting there with a crooked smile accepting the disrespect. That or he makes a huge deal out of it. Either way the lack of respect comes from his personality/character, not his height

[BigTimePlayer]

That's true, but he's 5'4". Sure, maybe some girls don't like shorter guys, but everyone has a trait or feature that a certain percent of the population is going to dislike. I'm not trying to trivialize this and I know that all that matters is a person's perception of his faults, but I really do think this is "objectively" something one shouldn't concern himself with, and this is where seeing a therapist might help. To change that perception from seeing something as making or breaking your life to something that is perhaps undesirable, but still more than able to be lived with.

True, it just sucks that others have to put others down for something they had no control over. I was picked on a lot in my childhood & I never really understood why until I was older. But I realize I'm pretty sure it had to do with that I was mainly shorter than almost everyone else as a kid. So they took advantage of that & knew I couldn't do anything about it since they were taller & stronger than me.

[EmperorRyker]

True, it just sucks that others have to put others down for something they had no control over. I was picked on a lot in my childhood & I never really understood why until I was older. But I realize I'm pretty sure it had to do with that I was mainly shorter than almost everyone else as a kid. So they took advantage of that & knew I couldn't do anything about it since they were taller & stronger than me.

I think it's normal to feel like that, it's just being human, but when you grow older you see that those things stop mattering as much. So at that point it is just about changing your mindset and not dwelling on every shortcoming life has dealt you. Again, I realize that's easier said than done, but recognizing this is the first step in fighting those irrational demons in your head.

[Sanguivorant]

If some friend of your mom keeps making jokes it's because she can get away with it aka he's probably sitting there with a crooked smile accepting the disrespect. That or he makes a huge deal out of it. Either way the lack of respect comes from his personality/character, not his height

She was an elder, I did not want to speak back to her or anything. I did let her know that it upset me and she apologized. Sometimes speaking up about it helps, sometimes people don't even take me seriously enough to recognize that I don't appreciate the way they treat me, though I just quickly stop seeing those people.

For the most part, most people I know treat me respectfully, or at least once they get to know me so it's not so bad.

I keep telling myself that my insecurity is a phase and I will get over it eventually.

[fappinNnappin]

**** life

[SteadyWayfarer]

I miss my old life before the chronic pain. I miss it so much

[BigTimePlayer]

I miss my old life before the chronic pain. I miss it so much

Man it sucks doesn't it, feeling like life is never going to get better. I woke up today with really dark thoughts. I'd never do it, but it gets so old dealing with these issues that never get better. I feel like I did everything I was supposed to in trying to get better.

[Sanguivorant]

I want to go back to when I was 15. I looked normal for my age, focused only on school, sports and religion and felt like I could achieve anything if I put in the time and effort. I sometimes wish I lost my biological function, maybe that would make me happier.

[SteadyWayfarer]

Man it sucks doesn't it, feeling like life is never going to get better. I woke up today with really dark thoughts. I'd never do it, but it gets so old dealing with these issues that never get better. I feel like I did everything I was supposed to in trying to get better.

Exactly, it just gets so old going through this troubling routine everyday. And like you mentioned, when you run out of options it's pretty easy to lose hope. I try to stay positive like you man, but it's hard for me to imagine going on for years/decades like this.

[BigTimePlayer]

Exactly, it just gets so old going through this troubling routine everyday. And like you mentioned, when you run out of options it's pretty easy to lose hope. I try to stay positive like you man, but it's hard for me to imagine going on for years/decades like this.

Yeah, the last two doctors I went to think I'm legit crazy I think. I told them all my symptoms, and the doctor told me it's just all in my head & there's nothing wrong. I'm just thinking like wtf man. When they don't know what's wrong with you they just turn you away since they don't want to admit they can't figure out what it is. He referred me to a neurologist & I never even got a call from anyone when he told me they'll call me. Wondering if he lied to me just to get me to leave. It sucks man, I'm so tired of not feeling well. There's things I want to do in life but this **** is holding me back from having the motivation to do anything. I don't know what I'm supposed to do if no one can help me.