[SRS] Depression Discussion and Support Thread Part II

[joem1cha3l]

yeah man i'll chit chat with you, I'll PM you

Repped. Im not in a position to do this right now so good call man.

[Chris1206]

yeah man i'll chit chat with you, I'll PM you

reps if srs

[MetroBrah]

This may sound weird, but I was just like you.

Solution: dropped out of school because my heart wasn't in it. Have one good friend who I talk to all the time. We are on the exact same wave length and am very content with that. Everything turned out fine, I live on my own with no debt.

[Naesala]

yeah man i'll chit chat with you, I'll PM you

thank you man

[y0jimbo]

age: 28

[AverageKenneth]

Join a few clubs man, you'll meet people with similar interests.

[Naesala]

This may sound weird, but I was just like you.

Solution: dropped out of school because my heart wasn't in it. Have one good friend who I talk to all the time. We are on the exact same wave length and am very content with that. Everything turned out fine, I live on my own with no debt.

thats good to know

alot of you guys look like youve made it

i have no motivation no friends no academic success

[frozenbarb]

Start going to the gym, a place where you share the same interest. Then you'll slowly become friends with people. It's hard in the beginning but everyone starts from nothing. Try finding a hobby that you like.

Even if you don't real life friends, you have virtual friends like us.

[HunterMC6]

For those times when you need to vent you can use this thread: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...42361&page=130

It's sticked again and is usually fairly active, seems with a quick scan many of the posters will talk if you PM them and can arrange something.

@Codo, reps for being a good dude

[shoelaces]

Well if you are 28 and just started university there is a 10 year gap between you and your classmates. That age divide alone will cause some isolation. I know I don't want to hang out with a bunch of 18 year olds.

[Naesala]

Well if you are 28 and just started university there is a 10 year gap between you and your classmates. That age divide alone will cause some isolation. I know I don't want to hang out with a bunch of 18 year olds.

im 18

[danimccoy]

gym + meditation + no fap
and hope for the best

[smeelmybut]

youre gonna be fine op srs

[sg1976]

Pity reps OP

[JB05]

I've been there bro, first year of college can be tough and isolating. It's jarring because all of a sudden you're on your own in a new environment and with a completely different people. It's not like high school where you see the same people for 4 years at a time. Every semester it's gonna be a different schedule and different people

Try to embrace it though. Once you get out it's just gonna be 8 - 5 in the same place with the same people mostly.

-Try to live with roommates if possible. Srs. This is what helped me. I'm not a very social person by default, and if I had lived alone I honestly probably wouldn't have talked to anyone. Having roommates forces you to at least be a little bit social, plus it saves money

I don't mean 1 roommate either, because if he sucks you're stuck with him for a while year. I would try to get a housing situation with 3-4 others. Chances are higher that you'll eventually connect with at least 1

-Alcohol is your friend. At 18, you're probably still in that "Just say no" mindset from high school, but alcohol is the best. It loosens you up and makes you more social. Sure, if you become dependent and drink alone in your room, that's bad, but don't be afraid to drink up at a house party or something. It's a social lubricant. If you have social anxiety or something it can work wonders

[Jerma]

i know this is going to sound counter intuitive so you don't have to do the same thing I did, but you can do other things like it. I play league of legends a lot before I started playing a had a close group of IRL friends who I used to play all the games with WoW, CoD, etc... and we all moved over to league. When I went to school though I got invited by a friend I already knew who knew I played league to the Uni's RSO from there the RSO had mini tourneys so we were all assigned to teams, initially I became friends with all the people on my team but now even years later I still talk and play with almost all the guys in the RSO.

Point is university groups really do help you make friends. try browsing ******** for ur uni's RSO groups. I also made quite a few friends from going to the uni gym consistently you won't instamake friends but after you see each other a few times it'll naturally happen

[KILLdante]

Probably the worst feeling in all of these cycles, is that sometimes you have a great fking day. You wake up in the morning, and you feel happy. You go through your day and you're successful at everything, you actually think "dasitmane, this is where it's all going to change".

But nah. It's just one day. After it's gone, you're back to beeing you. feels like reality is mocking you, srs.

I get those feelings from going back to work after a day off. Just feels like you get thrown right back into it.

Avoiding go out with friends has been a big thing for me lately too. Just honestly never feel like it anymore.

[Naesala]

i just want to become a guy like archer ( from the tv show ), just stop caring what other poeple think and have no inhibition

thanks for codo for the talk btw

thats all i want, i dont even care about friends because they come and go, the real problem is my high inhibition and anxiety

i also think i may have low testoserone because i have no motivation to do anything

[BuckNakedinBama]

Who are you? What defines you as a person? What do you take pride in? Sounds like you don't have those figured out. Until you do, you will be unhappy.

[Naesala]

bump if anyone has any words to say

ive decided to take actionable goals

- focus on school
- try to talk to people to get over whatever social problems i have
- excercise and bulk to 160 ( im 130 rn at 5'11 )
- meditate for 20 minutes daily to podcasts
- learn to stop giving a **** what other people think, do whatever the hell i want
- learn a martial art to help with confidence
- go on accutane

[BuckNakedinBama]

bump if anyone has any words to say

ive decided to take actionable goals

- focus on school
- try to talk to people to get over whatever social problems i have
- excercise and bulk to 160 ( im 130 rn at 5'11 )
- meditate for 20 minutes daily to podcasts
- learn to stop giving a **** what other people think, do whatever the hell i want
- learn a martial art to help with confidence
- go on accutane

Quality goals. Just focus on making yourself the best version of you that you can be. Don't try to impress anyone else, just be happy with you and keep getting better at everything that you do. Once you do that the rest will follow. GL brah.

[JB05]

ive decided to take actionable goals

- focus on school
- try to talk to people to get over whatever social problems i have
- excercise and bulk to 160 ( im 130 rn at 5'11 )
- meditate for 20 minutes daily to podcasts
- learn to stop giving a **** what other people think, do whatever the hell i want
- learn a martial art to help with confidence
- go on accutane

Good plan, now it's just a matter of executing on these objectives

ex: Wake up at X time and do Y before anything else

Just tackle one thing at a time, do it for a little while, and it will become like a habit. Eventually you'll start to feel off if you DON'T stick to your routine. It's all autopilot from there

[Naesala]

i really realized you cant depend on people, you have to be a shark

my end goal is to hopefully gain enough wealth to live independantly the lifestyle i want (400-500k )

im gonna stop trying to supplicate to people and just grind all day

i hope i have mental strength to stay on this

[-Lucifer]

i really realized you cant depend on people, you have to be a shark

Yes, and you have to take what you want. You can't wait for people to do the right thing. Always be in control of your own life. Always.

DISCLAIMER: The first sentence does not mean you should steal. lol

[Talason]

Bruh have you tried talking to people?

I used to be an antisocial **** like you until I realized that honestly, most people are nice and will not blow off a conversation unless you are extremely weird/smelly. Go sit in the common room and make friends, or bank off your roommates friends.

[Naesala]

Bruh have you tried talking to people?

I used to be an antisocial **** like you until I realized that honestly, most people are nice and will not blow off a conversation unless you are extremely weird/smelly. Go sit in the common room and make friends, or bank off your roommates friends.

yeah i have, i was pretty social in highschool, and im a aesthetic guy so logically i know people prob wont treat me badly

but i have bad acne and have anxiety or whatever because of it, on days wehre i dont have zits i feel like a million bucks, its so stupid and its been bothering me for too long

im gonna go on accutane, and yeah im gonna try to be more outgoing

the other day some girl asked me to come talk to her when she was just chilling and it felt really good, idc about getting girls but im gonna go talk to her again because all i want is a friend ATM

but thats all gonna be second place to my school work

im a simple guy i just want a few friends and some money, and to be the man i want to be, thats all i want in life

[BigTimePlayer]

Dude, you're suffering from depression and/or burn out. It's Normal to feel like that.

Take a day off or during the weekend. Back away and don't do anything besides feed yourself and any pets.

The next day, figure out the "if I lost everything tomorrow, what would I save" stuff. Focus on only that for a week; have someone else do your shopping and bills if you have someone.

Once you've dealt with that mentally, gradually tackle the other junk.

Also, find somebody to lay down your burdens with. You can even PM me if you need to- I'll read, commiserate, and listen. I won't tell you what to do, but, I'll just listen and offer support.

Sounds doable?

My situation is way more complicated than just depression. Trust me on that. I have a **** load of issues going on at once.

[BigTimePlayer]

You could still benefit from vitamin d despite having OK levels. What are your symptoms? I would imagine the issue from your jaw might be posture related. I remember how you said you go through brain fog (so did I). You should try 10,000iu daily for up to 2.5 months. You won't overdose either. It takes 40,000iu daily for 3 months or 300,000iu for one day to experience toxicity.

The first thing you will notice after eight-nine weeks will be the depression lifting. If that happens, then you will be fine.

Check amazon for Hamilton healthcare 5,000iu pills. I buy that one because it comes with 240 pills & only 14$.

I suppose I could try it, likely won't do anything for me though if I'm already at normal range levels.

[PBLift84]

My situation is way more complicated than just depression. Trust me on that. I have a **** load of issues going on at once.

Yeah, you're burning the candle at both ends trying to handle everything... that leads to burn out. You can't always tackle everything, so occasionally you need to rest and regroup.

[BigTimePlayer]

Yeah, you're burning the candle at both ends trying to handle everything... that leads to burn out. You can't always tackle everything, so occasionally you need to rest and regroup.

It's not that simple. I'm having legit issues that are unrelated to depression. Trying to relax & whatever else isn't going to fix my problems. I know you're just trying to help, but my situation isn't as easy as just being burnt out.