Men: How would you feel if a woman asked you out?

[FitnessBlue]

Even if she was unattractive, I'd be flattered. Still...



This. Based purely on anecdotal evidence it's the girls who make the first move who are also the more likely to cheat.

I wouldn't quite say more likely to "cheat" but deff more likely to be less than relationship material should a brah investigate. With tthat said, it only goes for the brahs that care about a womans past, if the brah is a doormat personality that plays ignorance is bliss then I guess it doesn't matter. Still less cringeworthy than a doormat brah all onitis over the same type of sloot.
Exceptions exist though, as with everything. Could be some obvious attraction and flirting from both sides while the man is too proud to approach. In that case, this scenario is cute.

[leoslayer1]

Nothing wrong with it. My last fifteen first dates have been girls asking me out.

[FitnessBlue]

My last fifteen first dates

Obviously didn't quite work out lewl.

[leoslayer1]

Obviously didn't quite work out lewl.

I've been with my current woman two years and The Mafia Princess (real life mafia princess) before her lasted 6mos which for me is a long time. MP does still want me back but I don't put up with spoiled princess tantrums.

[KaijuHunter]

For once I'd love to be able to give girls the "girlfriend" objection, just like its common for girls to say to guys hitting on them when the guy attempts to ask her out or escalate something with her, the girl will say "sorry I have a boyfriend", either they really do have a bf or just not interested, would be nice to have a power switch for once, but anyway, if I was really attracted to the girl and she made the first move on me it would be a dream come true

[All-Star11]

Since it's usually the other way around, how would you react? Would you like it?


Comments/Opinions?

You're pretty much saying you're DTF on the first date.
Win/Win for both parties...

[Dash23]

OP, It's always flattering when a girl has the courage/confidence to ask first. Before FB became the easy way of doing it, I had been asked out by several girls in person - some, not so attractive, and others quite attractive. One of them ended up being a LTR and one of my best relationships to date - we are still friends to this day.

So, OP....like Jordan Chase from Dexter says: "If you want that cute guy you keep running into on the metro, TAKE IT"

[KaijuHunter]

My girlfriend asked me out.

She's a solid 8/10.

We've been together 8 months, 0 problems.

Feels nice, don't have to worry about sloots gonna Sloot.

Very glad to hear that

[NotBigEnough206]

Do it pumpkin

nothing wrong with that to ask a guy out

and where in WA are you at?

[lotusdeva]

I asked my husband to marry me, didn't want to waste time and really wanted to know

[ama828]

If ever any of you doubt what all the game playing does to a mind, why relationships are as they are and communication is what it is today between the genders...come back and read this again three times.

You must not cold approach many girls, you misread my post because there are no mind games its just social fundamentals. And by having game, I mean taking someone you don't know at all and being able to read them and feed into what they like. Being able to take clues as to what interests them, makes them laugh, and develop a dynamic conversation that flows naturally. Then push their boundaries to make yourself transition from a total stranger to someone they are now kind of interested in and want to see again.

Being approached by a stranger isn't an experience most people naturally welcome. Initially you are a stranger with unknown motives, and they likely have multiple assumptions about you that you need to overcome: a player, a creep, a desperate neckbeard, maybe the last person who cold approached them and it ended badly, etc. Whether you are a girl or a guy, does not make a difference. Sure there are some FAs on this site who would probably marry the first girl who walked up and said "Hi lets go to dinner tonight", however that isn't the case with the majority of people.

The type of people who will say yes, if a stranger just walked up and said nothing more then "hey i think your pretty, lets go out", are not the type of people you want to date in my experience. You have a much higher chance of success (in terms of getting a date and it progressing further) when you make them feel like you just are saying hi, and whether or not you are going to ask for their number at the end of the conversation is not certain but dependent upon how well they interact with you too.

[stingray72]

I asked my husband to marry me, didn't want to waste time and really wanted to know

Now that is one of a kind. Excellent.

[smalliebiggs]

less than 8/10: sorry not looking for a gf
8/10 or above: Okay.

[GERMANSAUSAGE]

Big ego boost whenever it happens, rare

[jamesbwbevis]

I would lol at her desperation and insult her

[kickblake]

Flattered unless she was obese. Then I'd wonder if I had overestimated my value if I'm approachable to landwhales.

[congore]

I asked my husband to marry me, didn't want to waste time and really wanted to know

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My wife asked me out on our first date. I stood her up, but she has been making me pay for nearly 20 years.

[BetaAsPhuck]

It's happened, and I was fine with it.

[ALeafbrah123]

i had that happened to me 2 times,think it was cute and its nice to have females do that sometimes(no wk,no beta)

[Fiz-iks]

Nothing wrong with it. My last fifteen first dates have been girls asking me out.

best troll on the misc. Love your posts brah

[J_A24]

I wouldn't know how to react, probably start mumbling, looking away and sweating.

[J_A24]

Not a male opinion, but how it worked for me.

Approached my husband. We have been together 8 years now and have 2 kids.

Once I established my attraction to him he quickly took control. It was about 5 min of me being up front with my feelings and after that he asked to set a date to see me again.

Even though I initiated contact, I have never felt like the peruser. It's hard to explain, guess it is because he was the one to escalate the relationship each time.

It should always work like that, it'd be much easier for everyone. Congrats on your family.

[Smudge_]

I'd fukking love it.

[SuperWet4Janky]

What about in the gym? It's one thing to ask a guy out in a bar but the gym is an entirely different situation.

Is it enough to just introduce yourself? Or would that be too vague?

So if a females comes up to you in the gym that you exchange eye contact with frequently and she's says "hi my name is Liza I always see you here I just wanted to introduce myself"

Too general or would you think she was interested?

[chirashi]

What about in the gym? It's one thing to ask a guy out in a bar but the gym is an entirely different situation.

Is it enough to just introduce yourself? Or would that be too vague?

So if a females comes up to you in the gym that you exchange eye contact with frequently and she's says "hi my name is Liza I always see you here I just wanted to introduce myself"

Too general or would you think she was interested?

If you've seen how many guy here cream their pants for girls at the gym, this wouldn't be a question.

If a girl did that at the gym, I know she wants the D

[stingray72]

What about in the gym? It's one thing to ask a guy out in a bar but the gym is an entirely different situation.

Is it enough to just introduce yourself? Or would that be too vague?

So if a females comes up to you in the gym that you exchange eye contact with frequently and she's says "hi my name is Liza I always see you here I just wanted to introduce myself"

Too general or would you think she was interested?

I wouldnt mind that at all but why leave it up to chance and just let him know you find him attractive. (In other words ask for what you want directly) I personally would like to talk with the woman a bit and get to know them before thinking of going on a date with them the first time though. Physical attraction is only one part of the fitting/lasting equation.

[Kev1972]

What do you mean ask out?

Most girls that I get to approach me I just eye fuk for a little bit, then ignore them. If they are interested they will come up and give me their phone number later. Its pretty much guaranteed at that point. Just have to figure out if its her place or mine.

[Navillus13]

What about in the gym? It's one thing to ask a guy out in a bar but the gym is an entirely different situation.

Is it enough to just introduce yourself? Or would that be too vague?

So if a females comes up to you in the gym that you exchange eye contact with frequently and she's says "hi my name is Liza I always see you here I just wanted to introduce myself"

Too general or would you think she was interested?

lol how are you not a troll? nice user name

[InstantLoser]

What about in the gym? It's one thing to ask a guy out in a bar but the gym is an entirely different situation.

Is it enough to just introduce yourself? Or would that be too vague?

So if a females comes up to you in the gym that you exchange eye contact with frequently and she's says "hi my name is Liza I always see you here I just wanted to introduce myself"

Too general or would you think she was interested?

Way too vague.

[iabs]

probably half the women I went out with before getting married asked me out.

didn't think any less of them.