Brahs who have had their heart broken: where are you now? [srs]

[kylratix]

The girl I was with for 2 years is already seeing someone else. I keep thinking of past memories, how things could have been different, etc., and it just makes me feel sick. Pretty much the only thing I look forward to is the gym, but then I get into my workout and think "what's the point?" Even at work I find myself getting distracted, angry, and short-tempered. I try to focus on making money, but I think at what cost? There has to be more to life than just getting money. I know people say "get money **** bitches," but there has to be more to life...

It's just hard to see how to move past this. Have any brahs been where I am now? How did you move on?

I know it's Sunday morning, but please respect the srs tag.

[BeastModeFTW]

[Hagakure31]

In most ways I'm better than ever, on the inside I'm crushed.

[Mikkolol]

it's always going to be hard to get past it OP, but youll pass this test eventually. there are no secrets to moving on or getting over it, just let time pass. also, cope with your emotions. cry when you feel sad, etc.

[kylratix]

In most ways I'm better than ever, on the inside I'm crushed.

still?

[Kyle45]

Was with my sloot ex for 5 years. I look back all the time and think about how I could of done things differently. I also look back at how much i missed out on. When i broke up with my ex i just moved into m college uni house. Always kept busy, went out and talked to other sloots etc. The gym really help me tho, apply all your frustration to your lifts. Get out and go to some bars, be social. Don't be afraid to get out and try new things. Just keep your mind busy. Just remember this is one small moment in your life, don't let it hold a back

GL mate, stay positive

[Reveen]

Had my heart broken (no homo) by this one bitch about 7 years ago. Was tough.


flash forward to now—

me:
married to a woman who is better than the ex in every single way
awesome career
bought a sweet house
wife and I both make great money in very stable jobs
traveling
motorcycling
no kids yet
having a blast with life


heartbreaker ex:
bartender in a chitty bar making next to nothing
gained 20lbs
covered in chit tattoos
has a kid with a guy who is refusing to marry her (phucking lol)
in debt
rents a chitty 2 bedroom apartment
future looks bleak



feelsgoodman



EDIT: not that I necessarily want her to fail at life, I just see that life and feel like I dodged a phucking bullet to the head.

[kylratix]

Had my heart broken (no homo) by this one bitch about 7 years ago. Was tough.


flash forward to now—

me:
married to a woman who is better than the ex in every single way
awesome career
bought a sweet house
wife and I both make great money in very stable jobs
traveling
motorcycling
no kids yet
having a blast with life


heartbreaker ex:
bartender in a chitty bar making next to nothing
gained 20lbs
covered in chit tattoos
has a kid with a guy who is refusing to marry her (phucking lol)
in debt
rents a chitty 2 bedroom apartment
future looks bleak



feelsgoodman

Thanks brah, glad things worked out for you. Gives me some hope, even though the day-to-day still feels like chit

[Reveen]

Thanks brah, glad things worked out for you. Gives me some hope, even though the day-to-day still feels like chit

How long ago did you and her split? Time and a new woman (or multiple women) are the best ways to heal.

[kylratix]

How long ago did you and her split? Time and a new woman (or multiple women) are the best ways to heal.

About 3 weeks ago she said she still loved me, but wasn't in love with me anymore. I guess she's felt this way since before Christmas-- looking back I knew something was up, but it never hit me until it was "official." I just keep thinking back before then how I wish I could have done something different so it didn't turn out this way.

She still hits me up to fuk and hang out and chit, says I'm the best she's ever had. I know most people would be glad to have a fuk buddy they don't have to spend $$ on dates etc., but she's out of town with some other guy now, while I'm sitting at home, and I wish it was me. Sounds ****gy I know.

[kaurori]

inb4 nazareth - love hurts

[kylratix]

inb4 nazareth - love hurts

srs listened to that last night. no homo

[Reveen]

About 3 weeks ago she said she still loved me, but wasn't in love with me anymore. I guess she's felt this way since before Christmas-- looking back I knew something was up, but it never hit me until it was "official." I just keep thinking back before then how I wish I could have done something different so it didn't turn out this way.

She still hits me up to fuk and hang out and chit, says I'm the best she's ever had. I know most people would be glad to have a fuk buddy they don't have to spend $$ on dates etc., but she's out of town with some other guy now, while I'm sitting at home, and I wish it was me. Sounds ****gy I know.

You need to block her out of your life if you ever want to heal. Dead srs. Stop talking to her, hanging out with her, and especially stop fuking her. You will never get over her that way. As far as your concerned now, she never existed. Time to forget about her and move on. Its the quickest and best way.

[Dawginitup16]

Was with sloot ex for 5 years. After we broke up I found out that she never really stopped talking to her ex before me. I gave this sloot everything. Thought I was going to start a family and a life.

Me after break up:
-Had my own 3 bedroom house
-Owned two cars(One of which I let her drive)
-Had a beautiful daughter
-Got a huge raise at work
-Made excellent gains in the gym
-Saved a lot of money
-Met a girl who I believe is perfect 4 months later

Her:
-Moved into her friends basement
-Had no job bc she got fired right after break up
-I took my car back from her
-No job, no car, living in a basement.
-Her boyfriend, has no car and no license
-She rents a 2 bedroom house and drives a minivan
-She has two kids out of wedlock(One being my daughter) and another on the way all from 3 different men.


Life is good now brah.

[trainreqq]

Had my heart broken (no homo) by this one bitch about 7 years ago. Was tough.


flash forward to now—

me:
married to a woman who is better than the ex in every single way
awesome career
bought a sweet house
wife and I both make great money in very stable jobs
traveling
motorcycling
no kids yet
having a blast with life


heartbreaker ex:
bartender in a chitty bar making next to nothing
gained 20lbs
covered in chit tattoos
has a kid with a guy who is refusing to marry her (phucking lol)
in debt
rents a chitty 2 bedroom apartment
future looks bleak



feelsgoodman

[AbominableAnt]

Was only with my ex for about 9 months, but it was pretty intense, with each other basically every day of those 9 months. Got too much. Anyway...

Initial reaction - tore me up, fell to bits and pretty much messed up my life with not going to university. On anti-d's

Then... - Began going out, getting chitfaced and having alot of random sex, which actually didn't help much really

After that - Started going the gym alot, still got chitfaced to cope sometimes but not nearly as much, and not as much pointless sex. Stopped taking anti-d's, stopped being so defeated.

Now - Realised that i'm a different person than what i was, have a load of uni work to catch up on within a month period but that was my fault. Don't drink nearly as much and i've decided to concentrate on improving myself completely and getting myself on track before i even attempt to have another relationship. Gym helped alot.

CLIFFS - Concentrate on improving yourself, she is a part of your past now, accept it, move on and become a better person.

[kylratix]

You need to block her out of your life if you ever want to heal. Dead srs. Stop talking to her, hanging out with her, and especially stop fuking her. You will never get over her that way. As far as your concerned now, she never existed. Time to forget about her and move on. Its the quickest and best way.

In the back of my head I know it's true... we started out as just fuk buddies and it's hard to go back to just that, but the sex is good and I really have nobody else to hang out with in this city. We had some good times and were really close, it's just hard to think about cutting her out 100% and never having her in my life again.

[Reveen]

Marriage isn't for everyone. I personally love it.

[FunkDaddy]

One day you meet somebody new (may not be the next girl you meet or one of the next twenty you meet) and realize all those feels were wasted on somebody who couldn't give two fuks about you now. She's with somebody else, she's not thinking about you, why waste time thinking about her?

[blastbeats_stl]

it gets easy when you get a bit older. I used to lock myself at home like a ******* after a breakup for sometimes months only going to work, gym, grocery store.

Now I know better than to have an unbalanced life. I have a breakup, but I still have several other great things in my life, so it hurts only a fraction of the amount.

I always feel bad for people who have no hobbies or interests and their gf is their life. If it ends, they just can't deal w/ it. I only have 1 friend that is like that, others all know better now. This particular friend has no hobbies, sports, etc. Not many career ambitions, rarely talks to friends anymore, and doesn't care about anything but his gf. I worry about this individual because he just finished the 12 step program and will prolly relapse if this girl dumps him.

[sphinxbrah]

I'll never trust somebody 100% again, nor will I ever love somebody as much as I loved her. But I don't look at either of those as a bad thing. In fact, I consider them both advantageous.

In a nutshell, I am now older and wiser. I don't think the "wiser" part would have ever happened without dating that disloyal slut.

It is not like I'll never be able to trust or love again. It's not like I'm some heartless robot. Guys that turn into that are doing it wrong. It is just that I now realize trusting any human that much - man or woman - is fuking stupid and a recipe for disaster. As is going above and beyond 100% of the time. Gotta give and take or else they'll get bored. I'll never put that much effort into a relationship again, but obviously I'll still care and try just a more reasonable amount.

[NoFapDay2]

my last ex of 4 yrs started making library excuses all the time and boom caught her with a guy 10 yrs older than us at that time. Felt so betrayed.

[MoCheddaTheDon]

It's important to remember EVERYONE has heartbreak brah. Our situations feel so unique but all great people have experienced being broken by a girl before. It's what builds men into men and keeps the beta as betas. Heartbreak is an excellent time, only when you are broken can you rebuild yourself into who you really want to be.


It's a fresh start OP, use it wisely.

[Reveen]

It's important to remember EVERYONE has heartbreak brah. Our situations feel so unique but all great people have experienced being broken by a girl before. It's what builds men into men and keeps the beta as betas. Heartbreak is an excellent time, only when you are broken can you rebuild yourself into who you really want to be.


It's a fresh start OP, use it wisely.

This is good advice.

[Lunatic]

Here I sit, broken hearted.
I tried to shit but only farted.

[NoFapDay2]

Here I sit, broken hearted.
I tried to shit but only farted.

who cleaned?

[kylratix]

loony pls.

Thanks for all the advice, brahs. I'm going to print out some of the posts from this thread when I feel myself getting down again. I realized how close I am to becoming that guy in blastbeat's post. I need to fill my life with other things.

[TheSkins]

With someone better.

[bcaas4chalk]

Can't trust anyone again.

In retrospect, I was foolish and naive opening up to undeserving sluts who cut me open.

Sloots wonder what happen to nice guys? They eventually realize the puss doesn't belong on a pedestal. I'll never utter the words, "I love you." to any woman again. Because I'd be lying.

[Mickezzy]

Cheer up bruh, you'll find someone better and forget all about her. We all gon make it.