Older guys with no kids get in here (srs)

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Do you regret not having kids? If it's by choice, has that choice had an impact on any relationships for you?



The older I get the more I realise I don't want kids, so any insight would be helpful. Don't get me wrong, not a kid hater, plain and simple I'm just selfish.

[Spartan#x]

I'm dating a chick with a 4 yr old son. Has made me realize that I definitly don't want kids of my own.

[demfeelsbro]

always thought I wanted kids, now not so sure having seen the stress my nephews and nieces put my sisters through. Still open to the idea, but don't let the views of a brainwashed society affect your decision op.

[Reach4More]

Haven't dated a girl with a kid, but most of my friends have 3-4 year olds, and being around them has definitely made me lean towards the not having a kid route.

[UACdarknova]

I have no children and the older I get the less I want any. I actually enjoy them but I don't know if I really want to be responsible for another human being for the next 18 years of my life.
I know people who've had kids and their lives basically end as they knew it. They're lucky if they get a few hours a month of free time to see friends and just do the stuff they used to do.

It's also a heavy financial burden. You have to make sure you're prepared for that.

There's definitely some amazing aspects to having a child I'm sure - not trying to downplay how wonderful it probably is. I feel like if I were the age I am now 20 years ago the decision to hav ea kid would be much easier.
but now brb need $1,000,000 for a tiny house.
brb might have a daughter who turns into some supersloot
brb no time
brb less money

Also these days jobs aren't as secure. When my parents had me there was literally no fear of my parents losing their job. The thought of being 'let go' was never in their heads once. House prices were extremely affordable, basically double that of what the average guy earned in a year. Now you need close to a million just to buy a shack unless you want to commute 3 hours to work everyday. Then you have no time to enjoy your house, your wife or your kids. What kind of a life is that really?

And who's going to raise that kid? Your wife? You make enough money to support a child and a wife who doesn't work? Or do you plan to just ship the kid off to daycare and let strangers raise him? Is there even a point if a parent can't be there to raise the child?

i dunnno man tough choice. I untimately think if I'm in doubt then the answer should just be no. I should have no doubts before I have kids.

[jhm123]

not really that old yet but i still have no desire for kids. i love the freedom of doing whatever the fuk i want.

brb weekend vacation gf and i decide to do 3 days in advance
brb sleeping in until 12 every weekend
brb no financial drain
brb change my job whenever i want

[EnderG60]

Im 32 and have always wanted kids, but so far not having any has been simply fantastic.

My best friend just had a kid and we now hang out at most once every 3 months because he is either broke or the wife wont let him get drunk "in case something happens"(thats more a wife problem then a kid problem but well....)

Id honestly be just fine with not having any, and I probably wont until Im very comfortable financially. I want kids, but Im not going to give up on my enjoyment of life completely.

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That's what scares me the most. The lack of freedom, and when people seem like their lives are pretty much over once they have kids. I have friends that had a kid around 17, and if I had to describe the last 4 years, it's almost like the mother has given up on her life and hopes her daughter does better.

Not to mention that 3/4 parents seem to be full potato and just end up raising potato kids that make everything worse than it is.

[eatmycrackers]

Not older myself but seeing a lot of (presumably) smart people reason that the costs outweigh the benefits of having children, it is really scary to see what our future has in store for us with all the stupid people having 4+ kids each. We'll end up like that stupid people movie.

[Kevlar14]

Don't have any.

Want one/some eventually once I get some priorities handled first. Would love to raise/mold a son into a man. Not sure if want a girl, lmao.

Will not seriously date a woman that already has a kid (obviously exceptions could spring up).

My last gf and I broke up after 2 years b/c basically I wouldn't say I was going to marry her eventually. I told her I didn't know what the future might hold and she didn't like that too much. Although I actually broke it off with her in the end.

Edit: Lol @ STRONG crews to thread ratio below.

[tcra]

Neither wife or I want kids. Brb-vacation anytime we want. Spend money on whatever we want. Quiet house when we want it to be. To each their own OPie. We just didnt want them.

Not older myself but seeing a lot of (presumably) smart people reason that the costs outweigh the benefits of having children, it is really scary to see what our future has in store for us with all the stupid people having 4+ kids each. We'll end up like that stupid people movie.

Electrolytes... it's what plants CRAVE!

[ryantatarniuk]

I am 27 and I do want to have kids but... the more I'm around adults my age with kids the more I don't want kids! They are MISERABLE. Obviously I cant speak for everyone, but if I can fast forward through the **** disturber ages I would. I was a terrible terrible child and I would hate to raise a little me

[eXistenceLies]

I prob will not have kids. Just don't want them nor have that responsibility of raising one. Call me selfish but I hope to find a chick that feels the same way. If I do end up having a gf/wife wanting a kid the latest I would have one would be 35. That is little less than 7 years which a lot can happen then.

[bah01001]

I am 31 and dont have a kid...I go back and forth if I want one or not so yes I am happy not having one.


I get to do what I want, when i want and have a lot more disposable income. As selfish as this sounds when you have a kid, your life now becomes focused around them and not yourself and that kind of scares me.

I am also not married, but that is a different topic all together for another thread :-)

[allrightchill]

If i do, it will probably be by accident.

[UACdarknova]

If i do, it will probably be by accident.

If you do, he will probably be red.

[ryantatarniuk]

I am 31 and dont have a kid...I go back and forth if I want one or not so yes I am happy not having one.


I get to do what I want, when i want and have a lot more disposable income. As selfish as this sounds when you have a kid, your life now becomes focused around them and not yourself and that kind of scares me.

I am also not married, but that is a different topic all together for another thread :-)

[justinjude]

the more i read this thread the less i want the kids i have



**** my life

[Jfern689]

No plans to have kids crew checking. Turning 25 next week, goes out to eat and the movies every week crew, owns two cars crew, live on my own crew, only friends with benefits crew, 80,000 plus a year job crew. I'll probably regret when I'm 40 but **** it.

[buckiaj]

I'm 33, got married about 9 years ago and we made a decision early on we were not going to have kids.

Sure, there are days that I regret it, and its obviously not too late to. But....overall it was a good decision i think and i'm happy with it.

[GravityLee]

Lot of feels on this. I am 32 no kids never married. I have dated some really nice girls two in particular. One married a very short never lifter with a good job and had kids with him and she is happy with her choice because she really wanted kids. The other is dating an older guy who is financially secure.

I think having children has to be the most selfless act of your entire life. If this last girl I dated came back and said look I dated some other guys after you and there just aren't any real men any more I need you to be a real man and have a child with me I could handle that. But I would know full well what I was getting into and the sacrifice involved. The child must always come first no matter what and that look that you gaze at the child with it must literally be the way Superman's father looked at him. Even if your kid came out and he had disabilities or was awkward and uncoordinated you must look at your child that way because he is your child and you are his guardian now. It is like a pact with God or whatever you believe in. Everything that kid is going to be is on your shoulders and I am reluctant to say that because I know some people will choose drugs and overdose, horrible choices like that in life, and the parents are not always to blame. But at the end of the day you are 10k ceo of this new company babynames.com that you created and you must always treat it like you have a dog in the fight because you do. A child will take everything you have emotionally financially even take your life via the time consumed day by day. Then when this child turns 18 or 21 or whatever they may turn up their middle finger to you after all that pain and sacrifice. If you don't believe it has something to do with God or a higher calling of some sort in my opinion you will not make it as a successful parent. I am not into organized religion at all too many of them have turned into cults but I do believe theres something after this life and that things we do matter and to me thats necessary to believe to have a child.

[UACdarknova]

No plans to have kids crew checking. Turning 25 next week, goes out to eat and the movies every week crew, owns two cars crew, live on my own crew, only friends with benefits crew, 80,000 plus a year job crew. I'll probably regret when I'm 40 but **** it.

I read something on reddit once of that being asked of people who didn't have kids and most people 40 and up who chose not to have kids didn't regret it at all.

The whole 'you'll wish you had kids' is just something I think gets fed to you but in reality you really won't regret it as much as you think. These people in their 40s and 50s are living the life, tonnes of disposable income, absolute freedom, no stress from raising a kid. Sure there might be moments here and there where you wonder what it may have been like but they're fleeting and pass quickly.

Don't forget, most people with kids who are miserable are going to want you to have a kid so you can be miserable like them. Misery loves company. They don't want to see you free as a bird and rich while they're tied down raising a child. Always be weary of who is telling you what.

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Some good insight in this thread, will get some of you with poverty greens off RC

[PepperedAngus]

Not having children is one of the greatest failures of my life, but I decided long ago not to settle for making kids and not raising them as a family, so sometimes in life things just dont work out how you intended.

I have had plenty of opportunity to seed the world with my offspring, but I believe in the values of family, so would not bring children into the world without a stable household for them to thrive.

Not having much to lose that I care for has really changed how I look at the world now. Not for the better, Im afraid. Children bring stability and purpose, without that I struggle sometimes wondering if my selfish ends have any purpose at all.

I spend alot of time with my sisters kids. Watching them grow up has really been both a joy and also bittersweet, because I never realized how much I was missing not having kids of my own.

[goodcupcakes]

I don't care about chirrens. Don't know why so many people do. I get why females go baby crazy their hormones trigger and they want a guy to pump his seed into her belly but why forsake a life of freedom? I enjoy my life too much as it is to have them. I always reserve the right to change my mind down the road but I have seen the overwhelming majority of my friends have them and some are happy and some are flat out miserable. One in particular looks dead inside.

[NonSmoker]

my life is stressful enough. there's no god damn way I'd be able to handle a kid

[jj1421]

i dont want kids after witnessing my cousins life
brb travel for work every 2 weeks and spend half of that playing golf
drives bmw (expensive as fuk in australia)
random asian country for weekends
owns multiple houses

would not have happened if he had kids

+my dad keeps telling me women are a waste of money

[tandpr]

Sometimes I think about it and get down because I don't have someone I "created". However I do not wish to deal with a baby, or child, or POS teenager. So I would say I am happy with my decision.

[Trem24]

29 right now, will be 30 in a few months. Don't have any kids, and probably won't have any either, unless I find the absolute right women for it.

[yuppers12]

I'm dating a chick with a 4 yr old son. Has made me realize that I definitly don't want kids of my own.

and you're 24? das not it mane, better strap up before he starts calling you dad