How come long term relationship break ups don't seem to affect girls as bad as guys?

[marko211]

I constantly see other guys (including on here) who get really depressed over a break up and it takes them many months to recover. Yet the girl seems to move on really quick. I RARELY ever see girls get like that when breaks ups happen in a LTR.

Same thing happened to me, ex gf of 4 years and I broke up. Took me about 4 months to recover from it but she moved on quick

[wisdommaster1]

I was pretty depressed for like 3 months after my one break-up... my gf got married 9 months after it

[MaximillionJ]

The D is a powerful tool, sloots in the wild crave D more than feels

[UACdarknova]

Maybe it's because men know what they want far more than women do and when we commit it's because we've made a decision. When women use men for their short-term impulsive goals and then split, it's easier to get over since they never put much thought into it in the first place.

[chalup]

They usually have been monkey branching and preparing for it long before guys do.

[Awarebrahhh]

Monkey branch.

[Brahhphomet]

cus good looking girls have so many guys paying attention to them that they realize you are just another fish in the sea

This

Being the gatherer has its benefits

[Proscar]

women do not love men the same way that we love them.

As soon as they have gotten all that they want/need from you they move on. Whether that be sex, money, feelings, etc.

[Mikearade89]

These hoes ain't loyal op. But a lot of times a girl is just really codependent. It doesn't matter who is there for her as long as she has someone. They don't need you as an individual they just need the feeling of being in a relationship. Love isn't real brahs.

[TheInvictus1995]

cause of these *******s

[WizardsOfAus]

Because women jump back on the cock carousel.

[FawkinJuicy]

They usually have been monkey branching and preparing for it long before guys do.

This. The girl has already had one foot out the door for months, so when the break-up happens they're already over it. For the guy it's a complete shock... and then their months of recovery begin at the time of the break-up. When its a guy breaking up w/ a girl - vice versa.

[Bella518]

From Men's Health:

Men Mask Their Pain
When a guy is dumped, his first reaction is: I'll show her. How he sometimes does it: With a couple pitchers and a night out with the guys. In fact, 26 percent of men say that the dumped party should get drunk with the guys after a breakup, according to a Men's Health online survey.

But those beer swillers are actually in the minority: 36 percent say a guy should look at his new ex, smile, and thank her. The thing is, both of those reactions are exactly the same thing—masks for their true feelings. They can't deal with being hurt, or angry, or bummed. It's not until after they get past their initial reaction that men actually mourn the loss of the relationship.

Women are more likely to cry soon after the breakup, and they're also more likely to use straight talk when ending a relationship, studies find. So women face their relationship blues head on, and get them out of their systems earlier. Many men tend to repress their reaction, so it lingers like basement mold.

Men Have Fewer Friends
One of the reasons why women can get over sour relationships faster than the guys they break up with is that women have an amazing network of people to latch on to. Research indicates that men depend on romantic relationships for emotional intimacy and social support, whereas women are more likely to turn to family and female friends to satisfy those needs. Mothers, sisters, friends, hairdressers, cabbies, whoever—the more times she tells the story about what a jerk he was, the better she's going to feel.

A man, on the other hand, stays corked. Often he shrugs off a breakup with a shoulder shrug, shoots a Jager shot, and tries to convince himself that he's not upset. That is, until about six months later, at 1 a.m. after the fourth pitcher, when he confesses to his buds that all he ever wanted is for Janelle to take him back.
Men Hate Starting Over
After the breakup, a man may feel an initial surge of excitement of future prospects—the women he's yet to meet. But after three, four, or two dozen dates, he realizes that it's going to take a long time to reach the level of comfort he had with his ex. Research conducted at Carnegie Mellon University suggests that women adjust better to the end of a relationship because they've already given consideration to the possibility of a breakup, whereas men are typically unprepared for it.

While that sense of emotional security can't be the only reason to stay together, it also makes him realize that he was very lucky to have a woman like her. Meanwhile, she's already moved on. And perhaps the only time he lets his guard down enough to admit the emotional truth is when he's drunk-dialing her. And that's too little, way too late.

Men Idealize the Dating Game
Many breakups are a knee-jerk reaction to what men perceive as stagnation: He's bored with the same restaurants, the same petty arguments, the repetitive sex. Once he's back on the prowl, he thinks, he'll be bedding 10s and living the high life. After the breakup, however, he quickly realizes that the singles scene isn't all champagne and half-naked strangers—it's work.

Instead of the exciting bar scene, he finds that he misses the intimacy of his past relationship. Studies show that women consistently outscore men on measures of social, sexual, and intellectual intimacy—and women are often quicker than men to realize that intimacy provides the foundation of a lasting relationship, not the sexual thrills.





Bolded part sounds like the misc lol

[TheRealMewt]

Maybe because sloots gonna sloot.

[Unbreakable09]

They usually have been monkey branching and preparing for it long before guys do.

This.

You might think a breakup comes out of nowhere, but the chick has been preparing for it for months already.

[TeddyAtlus]

They usually have been monkey branching and preparing for it long before guys do.

yeap. some girls will find the next guy they want to be with before they are even out of the current relationship they're in

[Grenadehops]

They do, you're in a 99% male-filled forum so of course the stuff you read is going to be negative & make it seem that way. I have an ex who was destroyed after I broke it off with her (not that i'm happy with that) & is still always un-easy & cautious talking to me.

[HeartlessSam]

This only applys to girls with in the age range 15-30(very few make it to 30 before hitting the wall)...

[brbacquiring]

It's very hard to say whether OP's assertion is actually true, as we can't really measure feels, but if it is then I suspect it's because:

They usually have been monkey branching and preparing for it long before guys do.

and also women are generally far more fickle than men. I dare say it's true that chicks are quicker to like someone and quicker to dislike them, as well. They have to be, to "survive", nomsayin? Need to become strongly and quickly attached to men, but also quickly able to shift to others when required.

[PepperedAngus]

Monkey branch.

100% this.

By the time they move on, they have already moved on by grabbing the next branch they are going to swing by.

[LMW]

"Hey beautiful, I gotta log off now, but don't hesitate to shoot me a pm if any of these knuckleheads give you any further trouble."

thats why

[tyn89]

From Men's Health:

Men Mask Their Pain
When a guy is dumped, his first reaction is: I'll show her. How he sometimes does it: With a couple pitchers and a night out with the guys. In fact, 26 percent of men say that the dumped party should get drunk with the guys after a breakup, according to a Men's Health online survey.

But those beer swillers are actually in the minority: 36 percent say a guy should look at his new ex, smile, and thank her. The thing is, both of those reactions are exactly the same thing—masks for their true feelings. They can't deal with being hurt, or angry, or bummed. It's not until after they get past their initial reaction that men actually mourn the loss of the relationship.

Women are more likely to cry soon after the breakup, and they're also more likely to use straight talk when ending a relationship, studies find. So women face their relationship blues head on, and get them out of their systems earlier. Many men tend to repress their reaction, so it lingers like basement mold.

Men Have Fewer Friends
One of the reasons why women can get over sour relationships faster than the guys they break up with is that women have an amazing network of people to latch on to. Research indicates that men depend on romantic relationships for emotional intimacy and social support, whereas women are more likely to turn to family and female friends to satisfy those needs. Mothers, sisters, friends, hairdressers, cabbies, whoever—the more times she tells the story about what a jerk he was, the better she's going to feel.

A man, on the other hand, stays corked. Often he shrugs off a breakup with a shoulder shrug, shoots a Jager shot, and tries to convince himself that he's not upset. That is, until about six months later, at 1 a.m. after the fourth pitcher, when he confesses to his buds that all he ever wanted is for Janelle to take him back.
Men Hate Starting Over
After the breakup, a man may feel an initial surge of excitement of future prospects—the women he's yet to meet. But after three, four, or two dozen dates, he realizes that it's going to take a long time to reach the level of comfort he had with his ex. Research conducted at Carnegie Mellon University suggests that women adjust better to the end of a relationship because they've already given consideration to the possibility of a breakup, whereas men are typically unprepared for it.

While that sense of emotional security can't be the only reason to stay together, it also makes him realize that he was very lucky to have a woman like her. Meanwhile, she's already moved on. And perhaps the only time he lets his guard down enough to admit the emotional truth is when he's drunk-dialing her. And that's too little, way too late.

Men Idealize the Dating Game
Many breakups are a knee-jerk reaction to what men perceive as stagnation: He's bored with the same restaurants, the same petty arguments, the repetitive sex. Once he's back on the prowl, he thinks, he'll be bedding 10s and living the high life. After the breakup, however, he quickly realizes that the singles scene isn't all champagne and half-naked strangers—it's work.

Instead of the exciting bar scene, he finds that he misses the intimacy of his past relationship. Studies show that women consistently outscore men on measures of social, sexual, and intellectual intimacy—and women are often quicker than men to realize that intimacy provides the foundation of a lasting relationship, not the sexual thrills.





Bolded part sounds like the misc lol

Ouch, you fcking sloot and your slooty post

[EnriqueBrah]

women dont have feelings and its easier for them to find someone else/ and get attached

[DandyDink]

Maybe it's because men know what they want far more than women do and when we commit it's because we've made a decision. When women use men for their short-term impulsive goals and then split, it's easier to get over since they never put much thought into it in the first place.

[SmashR]

girls always bounce back faster on their feet but that's until they realize that.

[Manc33]

The same reason some women will chop off their husband's penis, or run over a guys foot with a car on purpose, they are literally cold as fuk srs.

Men don't do that, when did a guy last chop off his wifes tits? It does not happen, that behavior is only reserved for psychos like Ted Bundy or whatever. Women are callous.

[Reach4More]

Because men chase women. With social media and the amount of attention girls get today, it's like shooting fish in a barrel for them to branch out.

Woman: I'll throw this meal away, I have a fridge full of food. The grocery store delivers food here for free as well.
Man: Damn, the food went bad and I forgot to stock up. Looks like I'm going to the grocery store or I'm losing gains.

^ Which scenario sounds easier to you.

[SquallFF8]

This thread gets made on the misc from time to time and its always the female miscers showing up telling us that it hurts them too and its no different.


The reality is that females usually have already monkey branched to a new guy WELL AHEAD of breaking up. This enables them to bypass much of the "feeling sad" phase because they are already surrounded by another guy who is smothering her with attention. Its easier for her to forget and move on this way.

Aside from that, girls also get 100X the attention as guys do. Just had a breakup? No problem for a girl. Just get on social media, post a selfie, rip some pseudo-philosophical quote about love off the internet and post it to make people think that you are a logical, deep person. This prompts about 1000 likes, comments, ect… to stroke her ego to take her mind off of the guy she just fuked over after YEARS.

Live. Laugh. Love. <3

[40ozDrank]

Wish I had the misc to support my breakup. Misc is my monkey branch srs

[dtugg]

Because any decent looking girl can easily get a new boyfriend.