Girlfriend dumped me for getting so fat

[ryanharvey]

Iv gained almost 50lbs in a year, my girlfriend has finally dumped me for being too fat. Entirely my own fault. I hope this is enough motivation for me to get rid of this sack of lard. 209lbs starting weight.

[vikingquest4]

If you want spite to be your motivation then fine but that'll fade - do it for YOU because you want to better yourself

[CagedLion012]

If you want spite to be your motivation then fine but that'll fade - do it for YOU because you want to better yourself

Agree^^
Im sure once you see progress, you won't want to stop

[nickbook]

From the looks of it she got you pregnant brah

[Iceman1800]

From the looks of it she got you pregnant brah

I can see why you're red

[GONZO613]

You can do it bud! Get a calorie tracker app like Lose it! or myfitnesspal

[Tonkin]

Pm me if you ever need help where to start. Don't let it get you down but restart your mindset of a better positive outlook now.

[Silentpoet]

Do it for yourself, but whatever gets you going use it. Don't pay attention to the dicks of the world. Keep going forward.

[AlwaysBeShepard]

That's pretty much what got me started OP. (well she didn't outright say she was dumping me for getting fat, there were a ton of reasons it was doomed but I'm sure me putting on weight didn't help).
For me, it was a great starting motivator, but then as soon as I started seeing results it had absolutely nothing to do with her, I was doing it for myself.
Things like breakups can be great motivation at first but it won't last, you gotta get hooked and make it a battle between you and you.

I wish you the best of luck becoming the person you know you can be.

[ryanharvey]

Thanks for the support guys. What bmi, would you say I was? I'm 5,8 209lbs. But iv heard bmi calculators aren't that accurate. I tried calipers but apparently they also don't work once you get too fat.

[ChangeOfStyle]

You can have this as your secondary motivation source but the primary should always reside in your heart mate. You need to be doing this for yourself - not in spite or to make her jealous.

During this process - you will face a ton of challenges therefore assure yourself that you have confidence and that you trust yourself so you know and you will overcome these challenges. You and I know that you can do it mate but you need to be confident in yourself and never give up, that's also another thing you must show - perseverance. No matter how much times failure appears or you get knocked down, get your ass back up and try again because that is a quality of an individual that is always considered to be part of their strength.

You may also be facing alot of people talking negative towards you - putting you down and saying you won't make it. *You are stronger by how your view yourself as, not by heeding to the doubt of others*. Put this statement into your mind - absorb it and replay it over and over because it's the absolute truth. Don't care for what anyone says or thinks about you because they aren't going to help you accomplish your goals - only you can do that. Stay committed, stay firm and stay strong.

Results will definitely show if you are consistent and motivated to continue day to day.

Best of luck to you OP.

[poker123]

Your mind is a powerful tool op

Learn to control it...hold it..gripe it, and tame it

There will be cravings but you control that. If u want it bad enough, you can do it. Only you can!!!

Don't think of it as a diet. From this day, think of changing your lifestyle for the better, not for her, but for your health and future.
Shes just a shadow now, but use her as a jumpstart motivator.
Like I say, relapse are easy, but only you can set your limits.


Are u ready op? Are u ready to turn your life around?

We all believe in you manggggg......das it mane




Bring the beast out

[Baylorballs]

OP , to be honest you are pretty bold to post them big ole belly pics up . You've Pinpointed the problem for sure.... Take the steps, one at a time for improvement!

do you have a top 3 goals ? Foods you put into your body needs to be near the top ! GL

[loseitall90210]

From the looks of it she got you pregnant brah

ROFL

either that or he ate his girlfriend....

[Hass008]

ROFL

either that or he ate his girlfriend....

Can always tell when a miscer creeps out of misc


OP, Do it because you want to. If you don't, you most likely won't succeed.

It can be overwhelming at first.
Baby steps....



Figure out a good diet, stick with it for 2-3 months... Add in some cardio, later add in some light resistance with your cardio, then drop your cardio all together and lift big and turn in to the hulk + get any girl. (Well, let's be honest not any girl but only the good looking ones)
There's 3532532 different ways to approach it. Do it with whatever you believe you will STAY WITH. Don't do the fastest program, but do the one you will be able to do constantly over the long haul. If you fall off the wagon, you are going backwards. Difficult programs are difficult, so you're more likely to cheat/fail.

[ryanharvey]

ROFL

either that or he ate his girlfriend....

funny man.

[chanceburger]

I have a fitness channel on youtube... Freaks of Fitness.. follow us if you wanna watch my journey on my way to strength and we can help along the way. you can message me for assistance or ask for my help. we post helpful videos here and there on common fitness topics. Now.. all that aside.. Keep doing this for you. its good having a reason to start up. But once you start falling in love with fitness and all the benefits that come with it you will forget about the girl that dumped you.. shell see you one day on the cover of a magazine or walking around or hear about how far youve come... it is a long process and your probably gonna doubt yourself along the way. But you have to just push through that moment and get through that self doubt and once you establish the mental toughness youll become physically tougher and stronger than you could have possibly imagined at the point your at now. Dont worry how tough it is. Show yourself you can do this man. No one and nothing can stop you besides you. Good luck. I am cheering for you. We all have a story.. the prologue for yours is emotional but itll be a worth while read. Stay at it. work hard.

[NattyRex]

Brah if she broke up with you for being too fat and nothing else she didnt really love you. You'll find someone 100x better

[hema94x]

Iv gained almost 50lbs in a year, my girlfriend has finally dumped me for being too fat. Entirely my own fault. I hope this is enough motivation for me to get rid of this sack of lard. 209lbs starting weight.

well sry but if she dumped u for being fat....shes a slut.
and it's a good thing that she left.....now start making good things happen...get in shape!

[Silentpoet]

You sometimes it takes ****ty things happening to make us change our lives. And it may take a while, but you can damn sure do better than a girl who will dump you because of your weight.

[facracr]

Beginning to work out just because of that won't last. If you don't want it for you when it'll fail. If you stick with it the gym will become your home and sanctuary. Good food, good music, a few friends to train with and you'll do fine.
BTW it is allot of fun when you are ripped to go back and see all your ex's, just to watch their jaws drop.

[McAngus]

Sorry to hear that, but I am glad you are using this experience to turn your life around. At least she was honest, I bet some girls make up some bs when dumping a fat boyfriend, like I need space or I am not ready for a long term relationship.

Remember your pain and anger, control it, lift heavy, eat smart, get ripped, bang her best friend and sister. Hell go for everyone she knows, even the ugly chicks.

Best of luck to you. And yeah, 50lbs is quite a bit for a year. What happened man? Stress? Injury?

[ryanharvey]

Sorry to hear that, but I am glad you are using this experience to turn your life around. At least she was honest, I bet some girls make up some bs when dumping a fat boyfriend, like I need space or I am not ready for a long term relationship.

Remember your pain and anger, control it, lift heavy, eat smart, get ripped, bang her best friend and sister. Hell go for everyone she knows, even the ugly chicks.

Best of luck to you. And yeah, 50lbs is quite a bit for a year. What happened man? Stress? Injury?

thanks man. I got a new job. Had less time to workout and it's a desk job so I just grazed with food more :/

[Jsf721]

Do yourself a favor and start today. Not tomorrow. It's too easy to put off getting on the track for better health. Take it from a master procrastinator that you need to start right now.

[Rychilol]

Good luck.

[McAngus]

thanks man. I got a new job. Had less time to workout and it's a desk job so I just grazed with food more :/

Common excuse, but as you probably know, a terrible excuse. If possible, bring protein powder to make a shake during the day or bring some homemade protein bars. Also bring your own lunch unless there are some good healthy choices around work.

As for time, you just need to make time. Gonna have to skip out on American idol or say goodbye to pizza and beer Wednesdays with the homies. Or wake up earlier or go to bed later. I know most people don't get enough sleep, but you probably will get better quality sleep as a result.

50lbs in a year is dangerous in my opinion. You need to get things going now and go hard!

[mckoyD]

i just lost 40 pounds last year in one year.

1.A new start.
make sure the past is behind so it doesn't get you out of your focus on the new you.

2. get informed
alot of bro science out there reading on nutrition will help you get on a good start.

3.Get the right tools
track it all and get the right tools to help you in your journey

4.Drink and sleep
Drinking a gallon of water per day and sleeping 7 hours per day are the two most underrated fat burner.
i drink 16 oz of water before every meal help me avoiding the overeating and helps flushing the bad stuff out.

[skiier54]

Just tell yourself that if you don't improve your health and body composure, not only will you likely suffer from confidence issues but also are at risk for multiple diseases. This will effectively reduce your quality of life and/or lifespan, so it should be enough motivation.

[GoatNapper]

If you do it for anything but yourself it will inevitably turn into disaster down the road. get back to good health, get a good girl, and enjoy life! if she cant have you at your worst then she sure as hell doesnt deserve you at your best. look at it as a positive and not negative. also enjoy yourself and be happ cause you only have one life.

[ghettocandyman]

Meh, im sure she wasn't very aesthetic or "slim and trim" herself, sounds shallow as fuk, I think you are better off without her and her dumping you just showed her tru colors srs


Anyway, use your hatred or whatever feels you have to ignite your motivation to be aesthetic, u can do it brah, were all gunna fukin make it but most importantly......

























YOUR GUNNA FUKIN MAKE IT