Explain please. lol
It's happened to me twice. Hindsight hindsight! I feel disgusted I dated those two! AH. They turned out to be everything I DON'T want. Thank goodness they didn't last too long. I'll take these relationships (as with all failed ones) as a learning experience.
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05-01-2014, 04:38 PM #1
Have you ever dated someone and then later thought "wtf was I thinking?!"
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05-01-2014, 05:13 PM #2
I started shaking my head just reading this question. so... yes.
part of it is the initial intrigue for new people/experiences... then I think a bit of it is seeing what they do through a positive lens because you are trying to affirm that you fall for/are attracted to "good" people... and then comes the chemical trickery of oxytocin and whatnot.
more cats, please.ت
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05-01-2014, 05:22 PM #3
Yeah, I was young and stupid. I think I only dated them because they were "nice" at first and REALLY persistent. I never want to settle again.
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05-02-2014, 09:49 AM #4
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05-02-2014, 10:11 AM #6
Little self-loathing teenage Annie didn't think she deserved better. For two years.
I'd call it a mistake, but the experience taught me what all my "red flags" were, in relationships, friendships, and even at work.Pictures of my cat (and my fat loss log) can be found at: http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=170164831&p=1419715931
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05-05-2014, 04:11 PM #10
Dated? I married 2 of em :/
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05-06-2014, 04:10 AM #12
when I first went to college I would call home a couple times a week telling mom what my major was
"english" "no you will not get a job in that"
"childcare" "that is a glorified babysitter"
"ummmm...teacher?" " do you even like kids?"
dating is kind of like that for awhile..
you take all those things that did not work last time around
and go out and try something new and different
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05-18-2014, 12:58 PM #16
YES.
Going through it now. Just got out of my first serious relationship, and was caught up in the whirlwind of the first relationship excitement I guess so I didn't really see how weird he was. Now that I broke up with him he won't leave me alone. He's so weird.
When I broke up with him I told him that I didn't have the time to put into the relationship. He said, "So you're saying that you have all this time for the gym, but not for me?"
hahaha. too funny. But yes I'm still kicking myself.
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05-21-2014, 12:37 PM #17
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Who hasn't?!
Mine- I dated a guy for 3 years and in this time he- 1. faked an injury to be discharged from the reserves and avoid going to Afghanistan; 2. I found out he had a MAJOR spandex fetish and it was just weird; 3. he liked to knock me around quite a bit. It was so bad that after we broke up, his mother called me and said, "Oh, did he hit you? Is that why?" If your mother thinks your an *******, you're probably an *******.Professional rabble rouser.
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05-21-2014, 01:30 PM #18
Yep. That was my first serious relationship. 3 and a half years of being tore down by someone and minipulated into thinking he was the victim. He broke up with me through text and I later found out he was getting some on the side. Everyone told me I could do better but I didn't listen. I learned a lot thanks to him but once in a while I do think WTF was I thinking lol.
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05-22-2014, 04:41 PM #20
Oh wow! One of my "wtf was I thinking" guys didn't ever physically abuse me but he would criticize me and bring me down all the time. He was very manipulative and controlling. He had extrememly low selfesteem. I can't believe I dated that weirdo! It's embarrassing! Violettt was a stupid 19 year old! Lol
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08-06-2014, 06:42 AM #27
IN . I don't think there has ever been a woman in her life who hasn't looked back and seriously question her dating standards with that previous guy . took my current boyfriend to make me realize that everything I thought I wanted in a guy was the exact opposite ... like my ex bf ... cant believe I put up with the hairy chest and back! urgh
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08-06-2014, 11:17 AM #29
Yes. Except I took it a whole step further and married him! Yuck! The worst decision ever of my life
Sure he had some redeeming qualities, but looking back I can't believe I ever lived that way! I will now only date men who make financially wise decisions, aren't dependent on their mothers and who clean up after themselves. I also only date men who strive to improve different areas of their life instead of just living day to day. Unfortunately it took this experience to learn this but after some shiz hit the fan and he was taking me down financially by defaulting on his student loans enough was enough!
Usually you see red flags but we were both in school so I thought things would change and he would grow up. Now if I don't like something about a guy I realize nothing will change that-- not even marriage.
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08-06-2014, 11:25 AM #30
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Strong this. Goes for both genders. You can't change a person, they can only change themselves. That's why life is so much less a hassle to just go for someone who already has most of the qualities you deem necessary. Some may call me picky, I'm just being realistic and know what I want. Until then, I will continue to strive to improve myself for when I do meet someone, which will in turn make it more likely that I will in fact find someone who has their stuff together in all areas of life.
I had a female friend some time back that was extremely unfit/obese/unhealthy. I made it clear that I'm not interested in dating someone not interested in improving their health. Took a long time for her to take no for an answer. Is wanting a partner to be healthy and at least reasonably fit so much to ask for? Constantly got the guilt trip treatment for it. No thank you.Gym best lifts
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