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04-03-2014, 07:31 AM #121
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04-04-2014, 06:07 AM #126
By making a collage of their love for each other and then going to all the trouble of taking it to her house.
You either do two things, if you want closure, you do what op did, take an item which belongs to her...... Not your memories. And go over to her place, let her know she cheated and gtfo.
Or you just drop off, don't say anything just no contact. She will be even more confused lol... I find this funnier and more alpha. Just ignore all calls remove from ********, she will wreck her brain trying to figure out why you,dropped,offThe'll never get huge arms with crossfit! ~ Clive
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04-04-2014, 07:38 AM #127
Brother once piece of advice I want to give you is don't wait for an apology. You will never get one. You will never have any closure in this unless you just let it go.
She may never show to you that she is hurting, she will never admit she did anything wrong and she sure as hell will be telling people it was somehow your fault.
I say this because you've essentially described my ex.
-Ex and I were good friends
-We got together
-She treated me like a king, genuinely cared about me
-Found out she got with her ex
-She never admitted it, I went N/C until a text 4 months later asking to be friends
-Never got an apology or anything, she got mad at ME for leaving her and told everyone I had trust issues.I like my women how I like my coffee crew
I hate coffee crew
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04-04-2014, 08:03 AM #128
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04-04-2014, 08:39 AM #130
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Already repped OP and off-topic. Yes nice guys do finish last, stop being nice to this girl and stop giving her all the power. If you didn't do that she would respect you and be attracted to you. Going round to her house was weak, you gave in. If you want this girl then just act like you do not give a single ****, that's all you have to do. In any given situation, act like you don't give a single **** what the outcome is. Man up and stop being nice. It annoys me because I've done the same thing in the past, learned from it, and now I'm 10x the person I was.
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04-04-2014, 10:12 AM #131
OP, i think you would be doing yourself a favor if you stopped posting in this thread, even stopped visiting the MISC altogether for awhile. you need to get your mind OFF of your failed relationship and your whore of an ex girlfriend. coming in here and posting every day about your feelings....it becomes a cycle where you unconsciously convince yourself you have some kind of emotional illness you're trying to get over. the bottom line is: the longer this girl stays on your mind, the longer it's going to take you to get over her and your depression. the only way to get better is to distract yourself completely. in the end how you feel is what's important though so if coming here and letting it all out is what truly helps you then don't let me stop you. nobody is judging you. just know that nobody but yourself can really help you get over how you're feeling, and you need to be doing the right things to ensure that happens.
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04-04-2014, 11:22 AM #132
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04-13-2014, 03:43 PM #138
Quick update for those who posted in here and helped me. Stayed in touch with Nick through all this, talking to him once in a while. Ex started talking to him again after a week and a half and he came up to the university for the weekend so they could hang out/catch up/whatever. He picked up all her stuff minus the dresser, including her valentines card to me. He didn't know where to go on campus, so I rode my Harley up and let him follow. Went to shake his hand before I left and saw her coming through the doors of the dorm; shook his hand, put my glove back on, clicked into first and took off. Apparently she left him in the dorm last night while she went out partying with some really nasty looking people (saw snapchat story).
According to Nick she has wanted to text me and talk but wanted to give me time to think. I let Nick know I've thought about it all by now so we'll see if she tries to contact me. Meanwhile, I've stayed NC the whole time. She started liking all my posts on social media again, including a status that was basically a big F-U to her. If she wants to talk, I'm gonna break NC and talk to her. I feel a lot was left unsaid, and I know full well this could hurt like hell talking to her, but all the questions/wondering has been crushing me just as badly lately. Basically just plan to ask her "was it worth it" and if she says no, then simply ask why and play it by ear from then. Gonna stay strong and constantly question her statements, referencing back to how I can't trust her due to her lying to my face for a month, etc. Been thinking it through a lot and consulting friends on it, so I think I have a pretty good grasp on how to handle it. Still have a pounding in the back of my head reminding me of what she did so I doubt it's gonna be hard to lose sight of that, but who knows what could happen.
Honestly even an apology at this point from her could make me feel better.He that lives upon hope will die fasting. -Benjamin Franklin
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04-13-2014, 03:51 PM #139
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04-13-2014, 03:51 PM #140
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04-13-2014, 03:56 PM #141
Haven't done a thing yet. Just what's been going through my mind. Not a chance in hell we'll get back together, but just a lingering thought in the back of my mind that if she thinks what she did was ok and justified it, she needs to be reminded it wasn't and what she lost because of it. Again, haven't made any final decisions of if I'll actually talk to her or not, just what I've been thinking for a few days.
He that lives upon hope will die fasting. -Benjamin Franklin
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04-13-2014, 04:10 PM #142
LOL, you shouldn't talk to her, what do you think you'll get out of that anyway? You're going to do what you want, so when you do talk to her and don't magically feel better and it takes longer to get over her, remember my post and think "yep Mr Beer was right".
"A stupid man's report of what a clever man says can never be accurate, because he unconsciously translates what he hears into something he can understand."
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04-13-2014, 04:12 PM #143
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04-13-2014, 05:54 PM #148
Carson92: NO closure, satisfaction, happiness or peace will come by you interacting with her in any way. No words this cheating sloot can possibly utter have any value to you anymore! Your closure, peace and happiness will come as a result of overcoming the demons you are facing right now of loneliness, betrayal, etc. You ONLY want to break NC because you "miss her or what you had", don't do it.
Do you understand my son? Please do not talk to her, and continue NC, and overcome your demons, and you will, I am in the process of overcoming them as well, we all are.Last edited by kjoel007; 04-13-2014 at 05:56 PM.
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04-13-2014, 09:32 PM #149
Just saw OP's update. Do NOT break NC! Everything you said about trying to get her to realize her mistake is just justification for talking to her because you miss her whether you realize it or not. You've done great up until this point and after reading 5 pages of this thread I've been super proud, but cringed and that latest update. We know how hard it is to move on and you can act like you're doing well and everything, but keep it real bro. You miss her and have an illogical hope that SOMEHOW talking to her will make the pain go away. We've all been there. But listen to a clear-minded outsider point of view. This whole keeping her # thing and wanting to talk to her again is just you not wanting to 100% move on.
We are not your mom and you can do whatever you want but just know that the clear-cut answer is to NOT break NC in this situation.
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04-16-2014, 10:03 AM #150
Done a lot better the past few days. Just forming the argument in my head, thinking of how I could pick her apart helped me realize she isn't even worth the breath I'd use to tell her all this. I sure as hell won't reach out to her, if she reaches out to me I may just one word respond a few times if that.
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