Wow my Mom is living such a meaningless life

[dmotivation]

-54yrs old
-been working same job for 30 years, hasn't even tried to change it (answers a phone at a hospital) basically a slave.
-never has money to do anything, always looks for sales on food.
-comes home from work, sits on couch all day doing nothing but looking at dumb tv programs.
-has a man who is also doing nothing with his life, sit on couch with my mom staring at tv like a zombie.
-never exercises.
-never does anything with her life, basically lives in isolation. work then home, repeat.
-seems unhappy or stressed all the time
-smokes cigarettes, had breastcancer and survived, still smokes.

And the thing is that my mom isn't dumb, which you would assume reading those things above.

so my question really is that what makes a person live a life like that? simply just a 'low-watt'' brain? can't figure it out..

I've tried to give advice to her but she doesn't listen.

[Retoaded]

she is dmotivated

[Broteins]

Her life was going great until you showed up OP...

[ManeDasIt]

sorry to hear that OP. my mom doesn't exercise, my dad and I are always urging her to start.

it comes down to them actually wanting it, unfortunately.

[m0nst3rb1c3ps]

shes your mom brah, no matter what never give up.

[dmotivation]

she is dmotivated

i think shes not

[Dhboy]

Help her doing something about it then.

[AcE831]

Some people just don't give a fukk to have the shiit you dream about.

[MiamiKid3]

It would kill me to see my mom like that. Have you tried doing things with her? Even something small could help her out, srs. When my mom was going through rough time I used to go for walks with her, I never really thought much of it but she later told me how much she appreciated it and how it helped get through that particular time.

[RimmyJustlerr]

bro...i feel like



srs though, that is sad, i really hope something someday will help bring your mom out of this state and she can live a hapy fulfilling life.

Have you discussed this with your mom that you want better for her...try taking her out for a good time, go bowling or something that shows that you care. buy her flowers and tell her that she is beautiful and that you want her to be happy in life.

Good luck OP

**Positive crew**

[LtGoose]

Stay strong for your mom OP,

motivate her to change her routine with little steps.

[blade83336]

that's what the average population does, they are afraid to try and do different things out of there comfort zone. just curious, out of those 30yrs workin how much of a raise have she had?

[OniichanJoe]

plan a vacation with her

[Lukerus]

Not sure if srs that's what the majority of people do mon - fri then do their own thing / hobbies at the weekend lol

[rnod]

ur mom could be worse.

my mom has paranoia schizophrenia.
brb cant work
brb constantly asking me and my sister if we're ok
brb fat as fuk
brb doesnt exercise
brb both parents dead
brb cries about her position
brb i try to tell her that the way to fix things is to start exercising
brb she doesnt listen
brb stays at home all day while my dad works
brb social anxiety
brb couldnt even hit the gym when she tried to because of non-sense bullchit she makes up

chit fukken blows (srs).

im surprised my dad hasnt divorced her. but then again, wtf is she gonna do? she cant work. she could move back to brazil but then whos gonna support her?

its a fukken mess. im so glad im far away from her here in cali so i dont have to deal with her bullchit but i feel bad about my dad tho. fuk.

sounds exactly like my situation and it is incredibly tough to deal with and makes everything I want to do a challenge because I am afraid of leaving her behind to be miserable. I don't know what she would do if I didn't live here

[Boffothe]

Your mom is in the vast, vast, vast majority of folks in 1st world countries

Stay hungry, gentlemen.

[FunkDaddy]

Did you actually TALK to her or just "hey have you thought about like getting a hobby or something". She might be depressed. It's your fukking mom bruh, have a sit down with her. This is what I'm scared will happen with my mom when she retires, she basically made her life all about us (her 3 sons) which made a great life for us and still makes a great life for her, but she doesn't really have much in the way of a social circle except those friends she'll maybe go out to dinner with once a year to catch up with. I'm hoping she at the very least finds a nice guy to spend some time with. I'm just scared she'll get depressed and lonely as fuk when my youngest brother moves out.

[jleeiscool]

ur mom could be worse.

my mom has paranoia schizophrenia.
brb cant work
brb constantly asking me and my sister if we're ok
brb fat as fuk
brb doesnt exercise
brb both parents dead
brb cries about her position
brb i try to tell her that the way to fix things is to start exercising
brb she doesnt listen
brb stays at home all day while my dad works
brb social anxiety
brb couldnt even hit the gym when she tried to because of non-sense bullchit she makes up

chit fukken blows (srs).

im surprised my dad hasnt divorced her. but then again, wtf is she gonna do? she cant work. she could move back to brazil but then whos gonna support her?

its a fukken mess. im so glad im far away from her here in cali so i dont have to deal with her bullchit but i feel bad about my dad tho. fuk.

Wow really dude? your glad that your away from your ill-mother so you dont have to do with anything with her? man **** people say these days man un****ing believable. shes glad she doesnt have a son like you anymore

[SICKK]

get her an e-cig/personal vaporizer so she can get off the smokes.

[GJB9]

Order her one of those male stripper escorts. they'll bang some life back into her.

[Strengthbrah93]

you do realise your mum is just a sloot who is old.

look at girls around you. do you see them going places in life?

real talk. im sure she's really nice, but women aren't exactly known for their ambition to succeed in all parts of life and better themselves.

Did you actually TALK to her or just "hey have you thought about like getting a hobby or something".

i once had your mindset. then i realised 'women and hobbies/most productive things' don't really fit.

[ArthurAardvark]

Your mom is in the vast, vast, vast majority of folks in 1st world countries

Stay hungry, gentlemen.

thiis.

unfortunately, many people are just almost satisfied just living out life. kind of depressing really. actually, a very small amount of people want success and to be the best they can be. people talk all this chit about "oh i'm gonna work hard" but it's all empty words.

my moms the same way with fitness. she needs to get working out. she knows a ton about fitness, but just doesn't actually do it. really hard to light a fire under someone's ass though who doesn't have the internal drive.

[H1imhzq]

and what are you doing?

[ErnieMccracken]

Has she always been like that? What's the husband's story?

[jro9999]

i know those feels bro

my mom is the sweetest woman in the world but over the last couple years shes really taken a turn for the worst. shes had a lot of health problems from smoking cigarettes and living unhealthy. she doesnt work anymore and basically just watches tv all day. it eats me up inside knowing shes living like that. my brothers and i tried to help her and when i lived at home with her i'd try and help her with bills, cleaning, food, etc. but shes too subborn to really change her ways. as morbid as it sounds it seems like she's just given up completely. she made her life all about me and my brothers but when my mom and dad divorced and my older brother and i moved out it seems like she has nothing left. one of my brothers still lives at home but he has a weird relationship with my mom and is dependent on her for almost everything (hes 27 years old) so it doesnt help the situation at all

[dmotivation]

that's what the average population does, they are afraid to try and do different things out of there comfort zone. just curious, out of those 30yrs workin how much of a raise have she had?

NONE thats the shocking part

[MrVeggie]

get an active pet dog if she likes them. Will make her go on walks, meet other people in classes, go on hikes, and etc.

[DiegooSantos]

know that feel OP

Mom has a brain desease and was forced because of it to stop working 15 years ago
her husband(my father) died of cancer
one sister and one brother have the same brain desease
one sister has another rare brain desease
her niece is autistic
one brother died of cancer
her best friend died of cancer
her dad died by the same brain desease she has
father in law died of cancer

And yet she still takes care of me and my brother. Best mom in the world.

[dmotivation]

and what are you doing?

I'm going to high school, reading great books, meeting friends, meditating, learning, not wasting time.

[PrimeraRS]

Take her on a cruise bro.