my wife is leaving me, fuark haven't eaten in like 3 days. srs please help!(UPDATED)

[Gimme1More]

i'm literally just sitting around thinking and feeling sick to my stomach and shaking here and there. I've never felt physically sick about anything like that always would've told girls to get lost. This all seems to have come out of the blue, i mean yea we've fought but no huge blow ups really maybe one. Last week we were planning a vacation for spring break when our kids are out of school. This past weekend we went out and got new phones on our plan together again, things were great. Went to dinner after she didn't feel well went home things were fine the next day i planned a nice surprise dinner for her and made reservations. After her daughter had cheer leading that day. Arranged baby sitter all that. Well my grandfather fell that day and got her and i told her that i didn't know if i could get her daughter to the cheerleading class she got mad because my son always got to go to football,bball, etc. and said it wasn't fair. She was right so i made sure that i got her daugther there. Then she tells me she's fed up and want to go blow off steam after work with her coworker(woman) and get some drinks. of course i told her i had made plans and that it was messed up she wasn't going to come and she said sorry she needed to vent to her friend. That night she comes home we go to bed without saying much. both woke up around 5 am and i just asked her what was going on. She tells me that she's done and wants to leave me. She has zero feelings for me and no emotional attachment to me what so ever. Together we have 3 kids each one from a previous relationship and one together. I told her it would tear the kids apart and I hated it. We talked and talked for the past 3 days. (mostly me just asking her not to leave an asking for us to work it out) She's apparently not having any of that, but at one point offered to stay for the next 17 years till all the kids are 18 and then get a divorce but during that time we were to never kiss,hug,touch,have sex anything.




fuark my life is a mess right now...


what's worse is back in december she got a huge promotion at work and asked me to stay at home with kids due to the fact that daycare cost were almost as much as i made a month(daycare was over 2k a month i only brought home about 2600) So i did and no i have no job and my 9 year old son that will stay with me when she leaves. She says she'll stay till around august so that we can both get comfortable and on our feet but after that she's gone..




sorry for wall of text but seriously fukin hate life right now need some help asap.



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[ProvidenceBrah]

due fuk dat hoe then. why are women so selfish

and wtf at "venting" with coworker. girls like that are always so damn selfish.

[MrBlack500]

Man that sucks, I'll pray for u man and keep your head up. There's a light at the end of the tunnel, it's a long tunnel but once you reach it you'll feel a lot better.

[WaistDownAfrica]

At least you can keep your son man, positive.

[skel1977]

sucks bro, youll make it though

[BrbGettingSwole]

Sounds like your a good case to receive spousal support. As for the relationship issue, sorry to hear that, that's terrible. I hope it all works out for you.

[k1ckstand]

there's got to be somewhere/someone else to talk to about it instead of the misc

go see a shrink or something

[Me2014]

she cheated.

[tbrilliantt]

Damn brah, I remember reading the thread about you leaving your job. I hope you can find a way to rekindle the flame and get the old spark back between you two.

Chin up brah, at the end of the day you're still alive and you've still got your kids, there's a little light in every situation.

[dougefresh93]

saded to read this, i remember your post about staying home with the kids. good luck my friend.

[Shakes14]

Life will go on man, you need to look after yourself first and foremost, eat and keep working out. This should spur you on if anything, she sounds like she isn't worth your time and you're better off without her. The kids will be fine, seriously.

[memcop]

Get a divorce attorney now!!!

Looks like you can keep the kids, house and a little alimony. You are accustomed to the life she provided you as it was the role you assumed as a stay at home dad. I hate she doesnt feel for you anymore, pull the band-aid off now instead of making everyone involved miserable.

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[Gimme1More]

she cheated.

sadly this is what i've been thinking more than anything for her to act this way all of a sudden, out of no where and to have no feelings just all of a sudden.

[Sinix]

what's worse is back in december she got a huge promotion at work and asked me to stay at home with kids due to the fact that daycare cost were almost as much as i made a month(daycare was over 2k a month i only brought home about 2600)..

This is where you went wrong. Never let a sloot have the role reversal, you cannot respect a man in that position.

[BaronLemon]

you came to the right place brah.

Misc will get you back on your feet.

Take things one day at a time. Its gonna be hard, no doubt. But if she has no feelings for you its for the best in the long term. The kids will understand it was her who left you and one day they will accept it.

The best piece of advice I can give is never use the kids as a weapon EVER. Worst thing people do during/after a break up.

Stay classy and keep your chin up bro.

[Gatamane]

Best of luck, OP. Here's to hoping she realizes what she is doing and not acting on pure emotion. Then again, she is a woman... (no woman hate)

[white_pele]

Sorry to hear,I'm in a very similar spot to you atm, probably getting divorced soon, we have 2 kids, also I stayed with our son at home for the past year. Remember, whatever you do, respect yourself, don't beg etc.

[MrVeggie]

sorry to hear that brah. But women usually only act like this when they've found someone else.

"Then she tells me she's fed up and want to go blow off steam after work with her coworker(woman) and get some drinks"

Pretty sure she saw a guy right then. I know cuz i have 3 sisters and know how they all act

[Proscar]

damn this story genuinely makes me sad. Wish you the best of luck man.

It's crazy how common women do this though. They are always looking for something more or something better, it's just in their nature. Never fulfilled.

[BenGetReal]

#PrayForJaneFrantzen

Aslo, if this doesnt motivate you, then nothing will. Put a picture of that bitch next to your bed. Spend every day improving yourself. Becoming the best man you ever could. Make her regret this for the rest of her life. You are a freaking stay at home dad? Where the **** is your self respect brah? Jesus. Get the **** out of bed, and do something with your life. Two kids with two different chicks.. Its time you stop being a failure.

[Suprabuc]

Sorry to hear it man. Try to get some alimony and child support. We need a man to receive this crap for once. Keep your head up.

[poopman123]

Time to grind OP.. Make her regret it.

[Mankix]

Get attorney

Get house, son and alimony.


Try to eat even if you don't feel like it

[hggnz]

Lawyer up today. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and man the **** up.

You are only 28. Plenty of time to find another sloot.

[OnedayHEHE]

If she some what good looking, theres a chance she cheated on you brah...

[gonmakeit]

wow brah…. hopefully she's just going through some mental sht and will come to her senses but if she does leave, don't get too crazy over it. even when life seems like it can't get any worse, things always seem to work themselves out for the best
good luck brah

[Procta]

you're going to make it

[Gimme1More]

If she some what good looking, theres a chance she cheated on you brah...

let's be real after she had our 1 year old she blew up. She's a pretty girl but way overweight. Then again even if a whale is throwing the pussy at you, chances are you might take it.

[vvvaaa]

Knowing how divorces happen in the United States: Get a lawyer today, someone to advise and represent you, don't put it off at all, don't think you will work it out, even if you do, you still need to get a lawyer and be ready for the worst things possible, keep tabs on everything you do and say and on everything she does and says. Remember that this is something she has thought about for a long time, she has a plan in her head, she just decided to start executing it now, it's not something sudden.

[Uptown83]

Sad story. Hang in there. I think I agree with most. If there is 100% no shot to fix this get a divorce right away so you can move on with life instead of letting it bring you down for years.