My dad just dropped a major feel bombshell on me... please respond, 4.8k reps

[philosobrah]

just got home from work, he's pissed off for some reason so I just say hi and mind my own business.. Sitting on the couch relaxing after being on my feet for 9 hours, he asks me "Let me ask you something, do you have any friends?" I'm thinking what the fuk, so I just replied yeah, a few. He goes on to say" Who? what are their names" I start listing a few (I'm actually forever alone introvert) and I actually name one of my step bros on my stepdads side and he says "He's your step brother..." and all I could say was yeah we can still be friends... Then he shoots back, what really got my feels, "Well it just seems you don't have a social life, all you do is sit in your room and when you're not doing that, your hanging with your siblings" I just stayed quit and shedded a mental tear because it's true...

But the thing is, that's WHAT I WANT TO DO, I prefer to build bonds with my siblings and be alone.. If I didn't, I would have 100 meaningless friends who wouldn't be there for you later on down the road.. I rather build strong bonds with my blood and be alone then deal with fake fuking friends.

After he got done destroying me on an emotional level, I called up a friend whom I haven't spoken to in a while and to go hang out, just to get out of the situation... **** my life, I.hate myself even.more now. Thanks dad

What do? I am saving desperately to move out but it's hard with a part time job and full time school

Feeling like **** right now bros

[LuckyDean]

ill b ur friend

[jasonjb]

do what makes you happy not what makes your dad happy

[AimHighWillis]

Did you tell him about your misc friends?

[butwhowasfeel]

i feel like ur dad is just lookin out for you and doesnt want you to be an FA *******.

but that's just me. i wasnt there and i didnt hear the tone of his voice so i dunno m8

[WSG1]

Atleast your mom isnt starting to question if youre gay

[GixxerSixxer]

Damn brah.. some serious feels right there

*holding you* no homo

[philosobrah]

Serious thread please guys

[PeenutButtah]

Your dad seems like he was being a kunt, just do whatever makes you happy OP.

[iwillloseweight]

My arms are open op

[philosobrah]

i feel like ur dad is just lookin out for you and doesnt want you to be an FA *******.

but that's just me. i wasnt there and i didnt hear the tone of his voice so i dunno m8

The tone was very judgmental and arrogant. ..

[Aymen123]

add my name to the list op, i'll be your friend

we can skype

[Dysfunqtional]

on a serious note brah your dad is a fuking prick

do what makes you happy not him, it's not his life

[Zwicker]

Honestly, it sucks that he implied that you are antisocial, but it's his house, his rules. Just suck it up and do whatever makes you happy. You don't have to agree with him, but at the moment you're living in his house on his dime at 24.

[FourZeroZed]

dear diary,

[novawildcat25]

he's just worried about you OP

[purpletentacle]

If you didn't care about having friends outside of your family what your dad said wouldn't have bothered you.
It sounds like your dad is concerned for your wellbeing rather than just being needlessly harsh or something like that.
I'm a bit like you OP, I'm definitely an introvert and find socialising quite tiring.
But when I haven't seen friends for a long time or left the house in like 2 days I do start to get lonely. If I then hang out with some friends I usually feels better as a result. Humans are social creatures naturally.

[713stunner]

Mane.


;(

[Incitatus37AD]

Did you used to go out allot?

[LiftBig315]

Askl him where all his friends are. Maybe he doesn't want you to end up like him. Pissed off at your **** head kid someday

[accounts]

just got home from work, he's pissed off for some reason so I just say hi and mind my own business.. Sitting on the couch relaxing after being on my feet for 9 hours, he asks me "Let me ask you something, do you have any friends?" I'm thinking what the fuk, so I just replied yeah, a few. He goes on to say" Who? what are their names" I start listing a few (I'm actually forever alone introvert) and I actually name one of my step bros on my stepdads side and he says "He's your step brother..." and all I could say was yeah we can still be friends... Then he shoots back, what really got my feels, "Well it just seems you don't have a social life, all you do is sit in your room and when you're not doing that, your hanging with your siblings" I just stayed quit and shedded a mental tear because it's true...

But the thing is, that's WHAT I WANT TO DO, I prefer to build bonds with my siblings and be alone.. If I didn't, I would have 100 meaningless friends who wouldn't be there for you later on down the road.. I rather build strong bonds with my blood and be alone then deal with fake fuking friends.

After he got done destroying me on an emotional level, I called up a friend whom I haven't spoken to in a while and to go hang out, just to get out of the situation... **** my life, I.hate myself even.more now. Thanks dad

What do? I am saving desperately to move out but it's hard with a part time job and full time school

Feeling like **** right now bros

move out dude srs

[newkindofarmy421]

Ignore that type of negativity OP. This is your life and you have a right to live it how ever you want it with whom ever you want.

Don't let it bring you down, be thankful for having a few close pals.

We're here for you and got your back fellow brother in iron.

[larrybobby]

just got home from work, he's pissed off for some reason so I just say hi and mind my own business.. Sitting on the couch relaxing after being on my feet for 9 hours, he asks me "Let me ask you something, do you have any friends?" I'm thinking what the fuk, so I just replied yeah, a few. He goes on to say" Who? what are their names" I start listing a few (I'm actually forever alone introvert) and I actually name one of my step bros on my stepdads side and he says "He's your step brother..." and all I could say was yeah we can still be friends... Then he shoots back, what really got my feels, "Well it just seems you don't have a social life, all you do is sit in your room and when you're not doing that, your hanging with your siblings" I just stayed quit and shedded a mental tear because it's true...

But the thing is, that's WHAT I WANT TO DO, I prefer to build bonds with my siblings and be alone.. If I didn't, I would have 100 meaningless friends who wouldn't be there for you later on down the road.. I rather build strong bonds with my blood and be alone then deal with fake fuking friends.

After he got done destroying me on an emotional level, I called up a friend whom I haven't spoken to in a while and to go hang out, just to get out of the situation... **** my life, I.hate myself even.more now. Thanks dad

What do? I am saving desperately to move out but it's hard with a part time job and full time school

Feeling like **** right now bros

lol who gives a ****? you're 24 you still listen to mommy and daddy?

my parents dont really bother me and i dont bother them at all even if my dad did say that i wouldnt even care and just laugh it off

[superamped]

suck his dink

[rcdudegermy10]

We're your friends op

who cares, don't sweat it and do what you want. Lift make money/grades and you're golden

[philosobrah]

Did you used to go out allot?

Yeah, all the dam time when I was a drughead, I had A LOT of other drughead friends. Would sometimes party for days and not come home. Since I became sober 7 months ago, I've dropped nearly all my druggie friends, it was my only social circle. I really don't know how to be social when drugs aren't involved...

[BorrachoDamor]

Should've blurted out all the misc usernames you know, would've been lulzy af

[ScubaStevo]

Does anyone over 24 have a lot of friends?

I mean going out once a week is a chore anymore.

[vnwng]

sounds like he was using you as a source of his own venting, for whatever was bothering him. that said, you know what makes you happy. continue to do just that. it isn't easy to disregard others' negativity, especially the case being your dad and you living at home, but in the end this is your life. how you shape your outlook and what perspectives you choose to abide by are ultimately of your decision. don't let him get you down. good of you to want to stay well-connected with your siblings, really. there is also a very real reality of people who choose to estrange themselves from their families entirely.

someone above already mentioned this, but perhaps this is your dad's ill-thought of way of looking out for you, or expressing some concern. if I were you, I'd tell him just what you told us: "But the thing is, that's WHAT I WANT TO DO, I prefer to build bonds with my siblings and be alone.. If I didn't, I would have 100 meaningless friends who wouldn't be there for you later on down the road.. I rather build strong bonds with my blood and be alone then deal with fake fuking friends."

my guess is he is expecting to see or hear something adamant out of you, something that speaks with passion, when all he really sees on the surface is you sitting around at home.

[Lysergic92]

there's nothing wrong with living your life in a way that makes you happy. tell your dad to shut his fuking face next time, srs