I'm not very up on social media, but I just saw that my girlfriend's ex bf is #1 in the "Best Friends" section of snapchat, and I am number 2. After a quick search, snapchat best friends are based on the most recent interactions, which is obviously concerning. I also read that I shouldn't be "insecure" and leave it be as it doesn't mean anything is going on, which seems like bs. I do however find it extremely odd that she would be this dense to have something like that open to the world to see.
Curious as what some of you think I should do. Do I call her out? In what way can I do it so that she doesn't come up with some nonsense excuse? This girl was very adamant about trust and not lying at the onset of the relationship, so this is a bit of a major red flag. We've been official for 3 months, whats my next move?
02-16-2014, 08:00 PM #1
Girlfriend's Ex is #1 in Snapchat. What is my next move?
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If they snapped back and forth a **** ton in the past it takes awhile to knock him out as her best friend. Obviously she could still be snapping him, but if you pass him then you're good.*****Phillies/Eagles/Flyers*****
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02-16-2014, 11:15 PM #4
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There are women out there who move on from ex's. In the words of my ex girlfriend "An ex is an ex for a reason, no point being friends. Everyone should move on". She sticks to that **** as well because she never replies if i ever ask how she's getting on hahaha. Good girl.
I started having a relationship with a girl and she uploaded a pic to facebook of me and her cuddling in a bar and her friend commented that we looked like a lovely couple. She then took the picture down because she was worried it would hurt her ex from 2 years ago (who i believed she still had feelings for). I ended it with her there and then.
Find a girl who has moved on and one that doesn' fanny around with things like snapchat."You want science and studies? F*** you, I've got scars and blood and vomit." - Jim Wendler.
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It's your insecurities that lead you to rummage through your GF's phone looking at all this pointless chit, srs bro have you nothing better to do than consume yourself with this rubbish, get some ambition, some goals and some direction, you'd be amazed how quickly your GF will stop all of this because her respect for you trumps here loser ex BFs. Be the strong confident man she's looking for, not the one that snoops through her phone.
02-17-2014, 01:39 AM #8
For me it would be an instant KO for her, slam her one more time and then peace forever.
The reserved conservative girl that's ideal for me doesn't attention whore on snapchat and hit up her ex bf without me knowing rofl the audacity of this bitch.
If you're still on the fence bring up your ex girlfriend, say she's trying to reconnect with you and ask if she thinks it's weird to stay in contact with her.
Dependent on what she says call her out and then dump
What a joke, but your life cuz.
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agh this situation. I personally wouldn't say anything about it, wait a couple weeks and see if her ex still pops up in the best friends. Then you could say something. The best friend feature on snapchat is pretty dumb, like I'll exchange 3 back and forths with a friend then next thing you know they are in my best friends. It could be harmless and I wouldn't attack her character just yet but keep an eye open.
Edit: hahah just checked my best friends, and lo and behold my ex is one of them...Boston
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She still has feelings for her ex. People will tell you to give her time, don't be an insecure douchebag, respect her privacy etc. Bull**** lol. If she is constantly chatting/flirting back and forth with an ex you two are not official. She says trust is number one...well she needs to get her ex out of her head or the two of you need to see other people.
I say this with lots of experience in the matter. Do not trust a woman who keeps frequent, near-daily contact with her ex.
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Bring it up in a calm way and ask her if u can snapchat him on her phone or call him and ask him whats up with it...If she lets you and is okay with u calling him then your good...BUT if she gets mad and offended then chances are shes sending "your nudes" in a group snapchat.Goodluck man.Love sucks.
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Needs qualifying - you have to gauge the level of contact (one word texts vs dates & phone chats) and the attraction she felt for him vs what she has for you.
Doesn't meet up 1-on-1, doesn't encourage contact but is still civil = OK
Bffs forevs, always dragging up old memories = hell no
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