Got rejected again? Honestly, is it because I am ugly? (pic)

[DidNotReadL0L]

your face is chubby and your haircut is trash but besides that i dont think you are ugly. get a nice wardrobe, lose 15 pounds and get a better haircut. i'm not saying you will pull models but IMo you deserve a decent GF. but lifes rough bro best of luck.

[theprodigyx]

yea man. get on a diet plan. lift 4x a week. take a multi... youll look better.

[Cynic09]

You look stereotypical indian to me, no hate. In terms of looks, you are average at best to ugly.

Lose some fat and buff up and that should better the odds.

[DenD359]

I hear a lot of "lose weight" (which the will help your looks even more OP) but I highly suggest getting designers glasses. Your currently one looks a bit nerdy/unstylish.

Also, the hairdo can use some work. But other than that, you're not ugly, just need some improvements here and there.

Oh, and I applaud your rejection. Why? Because that tells me you have an experience under your belt, e.g; you manned up for those quick seconds and asked her out.

[dylanrpxxx]

I'd shave bro. Or change your hair style. Your hair style and your beard don't go together.

[kenadams720]

Actually you are a good looking guy. No homo. Maybe you can couple of weight but it is not a must.

Keep hitting on girls. Rejection has nothing to do with your appearance. Just work on your game brah.

[larsfromfaraway]

You're not ugly. Contacts and changing hairstyle would be huge. Don't slick your hair back, I don't see many girls going for that. Most girls I know like a more rugged look, so the facial hair is fine. I think glasses convey a bit of a geekiness which isn't always bad, but it has to be offset by other features.

[NBSprinter]

OP you're not ugly, you have a nice face but lose the weight seriously man

[Dreamer889]

I KNOW THIS GUY CUZ.


This is the guy who moved da bish into his apartment, and she wouldn't let him smash, and then dumped him for another guy. LMAO.


But yea bro you ugly. Srs. Not even trying to disrespect you but you're like a 5. Lose some weight and maybe your face will cutup a lil bit. Dress with style. And drip confidence. And as someone else said shoot for girls in your league. Go for 6's. 5's. Girls who look a little socially awkward. Fat chicks. Indian chicks. Etc. You gotta play where you can play at brah. No shame in that.

[Studi0sity]

OP, I have a question. Were you born in Canada or Pakistan? If you were not born in Canada, how old were you when you moved to Canada?

Three things you should improve on.

(1) Have a clean shave. Your beard might come in the way of making out.
(2) Hit the gym hard, drop some weight, and look lean.
(3) Lower your standards; don't go for girls/women who are 8s and 9s, go for 5s or 6s.
(4) I have been told that white girls/women don't fall for Asian men unless they have great/good aesthetics. So, why don't you find a girl/women within Pakistani community? Why don't you go to Pakistan and look for educated women/girl from your ethnicity? I have seen a lot of pretty Pakistani women/girls from Islamabad, Karachi, Lahore etc. Why don't you ask your family(ies) to hook you up with family-oriented girls/women from Pakistan? Are you not attracted to girls/women within your community/ethnicity?

[RCAK]

Pros:
-you're well educated

-decent job that pays well (assuming)

-good self-awareness and willingness to change

-good facial structure, can grow beards with relative ease

-you approach, so keep doing it. This is half the battle already. You'd be suprised at how many guys don't approach and expect pussy to fall on their lap



I won't give you any advice since i'll just be reiterating whats already been said. But i will say this:

Be patient- change is hard, so u gotta do it in baby steps, write down short term goals, weekly goals...make small changes to ur lifestyle, wardrobe etc...we are creatures of habit, and abrupt change triggers defence mechanisms to return us to default asap..but small changes here n there will add up..


But keep approaching and being social. Don't be those guys who expects to go thru a transformation in isolation then expects to be a social butterfly right out of the gate, doesn't work that way..keep approaching and interacting with lots of people! Good luck mayne

[LiftsHeavy31]

Hey OP I have facial features and skin tone similar to yours (Bangladeshi/Romani Gypsy descent). I looked exactly like you once. Only my hair is a bit curly. Honest no kidding. I don't consider myself ugly and neither should you. I can't even see that your hair is thinning. I do think you should grow it out a bit. I don't mean like a heavy metal rocker but where it can fall around your face when uncombed. Also as you and others here have already said lose the blubber. When I lost the weight and put on the muscle my face changed so much some people who had not seen me in a long time thought it was a different person. I also lost my coke bottle glasses and starting wearing contacts. That drew attention from the girls as well. Also don't wear loud or gay colors like purple, yellow, or red. Black baby. I wear only black and it is badass. You do look nice in the leather jacket. Wear that more.
Don't feel bad about the rejection. Even after I changed my appearance I won some and got rejected alot. It happens to the best of us. Even celebrities from other celebrities.
Quarter you are dead wrong! Most girls do not hate non-white guys. Every girl has their preference. I do find women in America are actually less selective in that department than men. What about Latino men who are always viewed as "sex symbols" by the media. They are not white. They get plenty of a*s and so can us desi guys.

[Matt B]

Go for girls within your race, or maybe even Asians. Your looks are definitely not a problem if you go for the right type of girls, but I'm going to be honest with you, most attractive white girls won't go for you and will see you as a creep.

[NBSprinter]

get some good old raybans and you'll look hipster too

[tekno17]

1. Lose weight till your in the 12 - 15% bf and dont have face pudge.
2. Find a good hairstylist (gay preferably, because they know their ****), ask them what would suit your face. (I personally reckon you should grow hair out a bit and not have it gelled back.)
3. You can definitly dress better. I reccomend you look up the Dressing Guide for Guys , (Its in the misc somewhere, search for it). Once u drop weight, some nice plain v necks that fit well, with a slim cut jeans, with dress shoes would look great
4. Is its possibly for u to where contacts? I think you would look better without glasses. If you cant however, you will need to find more stylish ones that are in the trend.

5 - This the hard one. Learn how to be rejected. Plain and simple. (No e boast, but i have had multiple girls from university compliment me on my looks, however I still get rejected alot when I go out to pick up. So no matter what u look like, u will get rejected. Yes, i do have success eventually, and the more i do it, the more frequently success is.) Just pick yourself up, and go at it again.

[MeFromG]

Lose weight, about at least 20kg I'd suggest. That's all. Your face is good, btw. nice hands . In the past I met two very handsome men, but wow, they were very obese - the first one looked desperately for a gf while not working to lose weight. And the second one stayed in an abusive relationship with a crazy woman who even forbade him to talk to or befriend other women on campus or in daily life. We did some music together and we had to stop after a while and cut all contact because of her tantrums and his submissiveness to her. But apart from that - both had 10/10 faces and really nice personalities, they were intelligent etc. - except that very excessive fat on their bodies.

[RyanLeee]

Didnt read the whole thread, not ugly. Shave your beard and that will be a big factor.

[elterrible987]

Hey, just got rejected again. Feel really down right now. I think that it's because I'm ugly. It always been at the back of my head because I've been called ugly in my teenage years. When people see my picture when I was a young kid, they are like, what happened?

Please be honest. I know that I can lose some weight. But I want to know whether I should just accept the fact that I am ugly and try to improve.

Youre focusing on the wrong things. You didnt even tell us how it went or how you asked her ect. Youre all worried about your looks but post up a thread on how you asked her out and how it went so the bros can look at it and help you out. You think the broncos just went back into their room and cried and said we must have lost the super bowl cause we're ugly? Or do you think they went in there with their coach and analyzed what when wrong and how they can get better?

[corpsedub]

your frames are very important to your facial asthetics. you want an edgy, thick frame which is more rigid and chisled. your face is too round to go frameless. women love me in frames like these

[locoloco22]

maybe in another life brah

[JUSA]

Not ugly but not remarkable, either. You definitely look ethnic, ME? That might turn off some chicks.

If you're worried about your looks, if you dropped some weight it'd help your facial aesthetics and overall appearance.

[Pock0]

lose the glasses and drop bf%. maybe get a new hairstyle too

[anonymous]

Brah go for girls in your range and fucq your way up. Noamisaying? As for your face, you could and should more weight. And it'll make your face leaner. And change your hairstyle.

lol, the thing is, I won't accept that. I want a pretty girl. If I get a girl that I am not attracted to, there is no drive to be with her. srs.

i have found that, when you're rejected it has to do a lot with the other person and not so much you

a lot of women now a days try to punch above their own weight from their 20s to late 30s.. that is why you see so many single women on these dating sites because they have literally unreachable standards and they themselves arent that great to begin with

i mean it stings and theres no way around that because it is a blow to your ego. you really need to have the type of personality where you can laugh things like this off. you're biggest critic will always be yourself and know that some random girls' opinion of you can never determine your self worth or value

you need to not get down on yourself because a few women dont see the beauty that is you..

Yes, seriously. I tried internet dating too. I think that I have a record of having the worst ratio of not receiving a positive response by all the messages that I've send on POF, OKCupid. I was on POF for years and send messages of all types and never received a positive response. This issue however, doesn't bother me. POF are low trashy girls, imo.

Cut 15 lbs brehh. Still good enough as you are right now though. But you will go +1 or +2 with -15lbs i'm sure. Bishes are super shallow like that. The ones that wouldn't even give you a single look will be looking twice in a month or so.

Take solace in the fact that those girls who rejected you have impossible standards and therefore no one is ever good enough for them except for their old oneitis college crush that showed her the time of day to secretly just smash her, but she thought it was real, and thus a lifetime of entitlement ensues because she assumes she had the best so therefore she deserves only the best. But she never had the best, the best had her -- for just a pump and dump because the top guy knows that he can get anyone too so why settle for that sloot.

Yea, this latest girl that I've asked out wasn't even that hot. She wore too much makeup to cover her pimples but she had a nice ass. We used to talk for like 20min daily at lunch.

[anonymous]

i have found that, when you're rejected it has to do a lot with the other person and not so much you

a lot of women now a days try to punch above their own weight from their 20s to late 30s.. that is why you see so many single women on these dating sites because they have literally unreachable standards and they themselves arent that great to begin with

i mean it stings and theres no way around that because it is a blow to your ego. you really need to have the type of personality where you can laugh things like this off. you're biggest critic will always be yourself and know that some random girls' opinion of you can never determine your self worth or value

you need to not get down on yourself because a few women dont see the beauty that is you..

Thanks man. I really appreciate it. I read somewhere that high testosterone men tend to high resilience to negative emotions and that always helps me feel better.

I'll be honest bro. Based off those last 2 pics, you don't really look all that bad. I think the main thing is to drop some pounds and you'll look fine. You're not even really fat from what I can tell. Just hit the weights and the treadmill and you'll be juicy in no time

I don't know, for me. All the fats resides on my upper body. I actually get abscess like 6x a year because my neck is too fat (dermatologist told me). I have fit legs. srs. Everyone remarks about it. I started off at 230lbs. Size 40 to Size 34.

[Django]

Free yourself of limiting beliefs.
Insecurity is self manufactured.
It doesn't matter how you look, if you approach a girl and you're focused on expectation of outcome, being hindered by your own insecurities, it's going to show. You are only going to look ugly if you actually feel ugly, unless you look like kuato from total recall, then you're ****ed. "Start the reactor, quaid!".

Not everyone is going to like you. Do you like everyone? Probably not. So don't let rejection destroy your ego.

[socrates07]

I see chicks with ugly @ss dudes all the time even if it was that

get some kinda crew cut imo, I do a 4 across everything and it looks fine even with me cutting my own hair

[JayLuong91011]

You are honest and are willing to learn. This will make you successful in the future. You aren't willing to hide the results even if they are painful, and you want to change. I have faith that you'll find the answers you are looking for, and you'll eventually get with the women that you want.

1) lose weight
2) don't stop approaching
3) lower your standards

You can raise your standards higher when you improve your game. People start from the bottom, and they climb to the top. In my situation I have to admit that the girl im with right now, isn't what I would normally be attracted, but she improves my game. She tests my wit. She tests my ability to understand women. And I'm using what I'm learning, to flirt and tease other girls. I used to never get any girls. But now, I have 1 FWB and 1 Girl, that I never thought I could get, to want me. Good Luck and Get Dirty.

[Danakind]

Bad height
Good frame
Average horizontal power
No severe flaws on lower third or elsewhere
nw1 hairline
Compact midface and high FWHR (good combo)
Beta eye area/high trust face

You're above average about 6/10, but not good looking enough for cold approach. You need status. It also depends what type of girls you're shooting for, particularly race.

[sixstarchlo]

not sure if anyone has mentioned this yet.. but you live in toronto, and youre pakistani

if you're approaching white girls, 99% of the time they will reject you if you're not white.

go for brown girls

srs

[tom11]

Honestly man, I don't know if I would call you "ugly" but you are definitely below 5/10. Just so you know, there are tons of men better looking and leaner than you that struggle to get laid so they resort to plowing 3-4/10s . I am trying to keep this thread real, this is why I am saying this, no hate or anything. I would say you are a 4.5 at best, you have a lot of work to do that could get you to 5.5-6.