Can ugly guys still be charming/charismatic/confident--how to do this?

[s1ckpsycho]

I am not confident at all. In fact, everytime I try to speak up or something, I get very nervous/scared of what people will think of me/say about me, etc. I hardly look anyone in the eyes when speaking either.

I want to change though. How can I become more confident and charismatic so that I can essentially be good in any social setting, etc?

[liftin4gainz]

By putting yourself in more of those uncomfortable situations

[dnoland93]

stop miscing and start socializing. no one is actually judging or gives a fux tbh. fake it til you make it.

[silverrush]

relax when you're in those situations

[Helenthor]

i AM IN YOUR SITUATION. I forced myself to talk to people and brother took me out with his friends today and i kept asking them good questions, based on their replies and one girl, his friend wants to hangout on sunday ;D

Force yourself in social situation, doesn't matter, if awkward, it will make you stronger.

[vwnj136]

Increase test levels.

[Dominantape]

Keep lifting. Get a stronger jaw/chin also. Once I achieved what I wanted I don't give a chit about anything. Your confidence goes thru the roof. It's like once you approach a chick you don't even care anymore if she rejects you cause you know it's her loss and you're aesthetic af. Srs oh so srs

[Ampedlift]

I am not confident at all. In fact, everytime I try to speak up or something, I get very nervous/scared of what people will think of me/say about me, etc. I hardly look anyone in the eyes when speaking either.

I want to change though. How can I become more confident and charismatic so that I can essentially be good in any social setting, etc?

What good is this doing you? Man you've only got one life (****in yolo lol) you gotta live it to your fullest. be the best you can be.


Nobody likes people who TRY to fit in either, you know what I mean?


Ive had experiences at parties where I don't know anybody and I go and try to fit in, feel like a fkin outcast and doesnt seem like any of em like me. I realize this then I think to myself "man... fk that.. why the fk do I give a chit what these random ppl think of me anyway" and started just being myself not giving a phuck. I met a group of cool ass people later and if anyone else didnt like me fk em know what I'm saying, I ended up having a good time though .

I'm a bit baked so I might have been rambling

[AlphaRayAllen]

Dress better and groom well.

People will give you compliments and you will feel nice as fuark

[QuickTimee]

By putting yourself in more of those uncomfortable situations

stop miscing and start socializing. no one is actually judging or gives a fux tbh. fake it til you make it.

relax when you're in those situations

don't listen to these idiots

you either have it or you don't.

[TheSuperAmadeus]

focus on being a kind person. find good in everyone you meet. focus on others and youll stop worrying so much about yourself

[NoisyPenguin]

You are giving him advice while in the same situation...

i AM IN YOUR SITUATION. I forced myself to talk to people and brother took me out with his friends today and i kept asking them good questions, based on their replies and one girl, his friend wants to hangout on sunday ;D

Force yourself in social situation, doesn't matter, if awkward, it will make you stronger.

[locoloco22]

go out talk with ppl hold eye contact and you're good dgf what they think just speak up your mind
das it mane

[Bongos]

don't listen to these idiots

you either have it or you don't.

true, but not entirely true.

think of it like lifting - you might not never look like a pro, but you can be much better than the average man with effort.

just keep practicing and be yourself

[Dominantape]

go out talk with ppl hold eye contact and you're good dgf what they think just speak up your mind
das it mane

This. Maintain eye contact is a big key factor.

[southernbull]

Take an interest in other people OP. Ask them how they are, what their hobbies and passions are, or whatever. It's really not hard to talk to people, everyone loves talking about themselves. Just be confident and dont give a **** about what other people think of you, because I guarantee they dont sit there and obsess over every little thing you do or say.

[AlphaRayAllen]

don't listen to these idiots

you either have it or you don't.

You're half right.

People with no confidence can gain it, not by training themselves to fake it, but by having a reason to be confident.

Confidence arises from improving yourself and eliminating the weaknesses that make you insecure.

[mchabs]

alcohol

[dnoland93]

don't listen to these idiots

you either have it or you don't.

don't listen to this idiot. you can gain confidence..dis kinda negativity is why i suggest taking a break from the misc

[HugheMaudboro]

Have a role model that is a badass. Srs. Learn to stop caring.

My old aspiration was House MD. I learned to stop caring and learned to be blunt honest, only the truth mattered to me.

Being honest is also why I'm red, You will be disliked, but you will not care, as long as you say speak truth.

[Bulktillyoked]

not give a single fuk about anything

[Helenthor]

You are giving him advice while in the same situation...

but i am telling from the change i made, and have acquired 4 numbers in a week...

putting yourself in the situations you hate=stronger

[JChippy]

view yourself as better/more aesthetic than everyone, lift, and charismatic comes with practice, at least for me it did.

[cgress1]

I was like that at the beginning of college. I was always the guy that people would forget my name. I unfortunately there's no real easy way to get better. First step for me was to stop the games, excessive internet use, etc. Start seeing your friends more. Go out more. If you think that your friends are holding you back, find new friends. You're not gonna meet girls hanging out with dudes that just want to stay in and play video games. Address your insecurities. Fix what you can, learn to accept what you can't. The only way to get better is practice. There'll be a lot of awkward moments, that's part of the process.

I can't really describe how, but eventually you start to figure out who you are and what you're about. Once you realize that you don't need to the acceptance of others, that's when the confidence comes.

I'm just an average looking dude but lately I've been getting with all the women I used to think I didn't have a chance with. Just gotta put yourself out there dude.

[demonizerwarden]

bump

[r3pme]

I was like that at the beginning of college. I was always the guy that people would forget my name. I unfortunately there's no real easy way to get better. First step for me was to stop the games, excessive internet use, etc. Start seeing your friends more. Go out more. If you think that your friends are holding you back, find new friends. You're not gonna meet girls hanging out with dudes that just want to stay in and play video games. Address your insecurities. Fix what you can, learn to accept what you can't. The only way to get better is practice. There'll be a lot of awkward moments, that's part of the process.

I can't really describe how, but eventually you start to figure out who you are and what you're about. Once you realize that you don't need to the acceptance of others, that's when the confidence comes.

I'm just an average looking dude but lately I've been getting with all the women I used to think I didn't have a chance with. Just gotta put yourself out there dude.

coming from someone in a similar situation, i think this key.

problem is when you don't socialize much, you want to be accepted by the few people you actually do talk to. instead of being yourself, you try to act in a way that would please them. in the end, you make yourself look bad and you become boring.

just gotta be yourself and think to yourself, "**** what others think about me"

srs

[RocknRollMuscle]

hang out with confident and charismatic people.

If you're a nerd and hang out with nerds - you'll always be a nerd.

[s1ckpsycho]

thanks for replies guys.

so basically its just a mindset then? If I can convince myself that nobody will care what I do/say and convince myself that its nessecary to put myself out there, then I can be confident?

Charisma would be what then, just appealing to people? Making them talk about themselves, etc?

[BeefyMcNasty]

We are what we pretend to be.

[superamped]

if u jerk off in the mornings and shoot a bit of cum on ur own lips then ur day is golden and r ready to be alpha cuz u r a man now and no one can stop u