Found out gf was texting someobody. She said "hes gay"..found out hes an exbf(GTFIH)

[randombrah1]

well how do I start this m8's. See, my gf has an smart phone who links her to her "fav" contacts on the main screen. Me along some friends of hers show up there, and this was this other dude... This happened a few weeks ago, but she knew Ive seen it, though in the moment she didnt said anything, neither did I.

Lemme add some background before, when we first started dating she asked me about my ex, and I told her "I broke up with her cause she was flirting with other dudes", so she said "I will never do that". And well she talked about her ex bfs too, and the last one, according to her was the fav of her grandma cause he knew how to cook and shiet, it seemed like regular stuff.

Ok, moving forward to the next day after Ive seen her contacts list.

I get to her house, were chilling and out of nowhere she says, "I was thinking, damn! I have too many gay friends. See" and she gets out her phone and goes through her contact list, and she points out the guy that was marked as fav as a "gay friend". It was weird the way this was approached by her but I ignored it and went about my day.

And here we are, today I was miring her profile pics on fb and I got to a pic where she was smiling (pic from a year ago and she was talking about who was the reason of her smile, have in mind we werent dating at the time). Here is where it gets sketchy... cause guess who was the reason of her smile? yes, the "gay friend" she pointed out a few weeks ago, turned out to be her ex bf, the one who cooked for her grandma.

It gets me mad brahs cause this points that she is still in contact with an ex bf and basically lied to my fukin face.

what you guys think?

Edit: Ive never seen the text or anything.

[accounts]

how do you feel about dishonesty

[randombrah1]

How do you feel about dishonesty

Im srsly mad as fuk cuz, thinking about screenshooting the convo she had back then and ask her "so, turns out your gay friend is your ex bf uh"

[Ethanolbrah]

It's over, brah. Look:

-She texts with other men behind your back
-She thinks you're dumb enough to believe her alibi (he's a *******)
-It turns out, said guy is an ex-bf.

Alpha the **** up and dump her. You probably deserve better.

[shyeabrah]

Dude, "he's gay" is a common excuse to cover things up. I've had it used before by a girl who was fooling around with another guy right behind my back. She had even obviously rehearsed her "blurting out" in front of all three of us that she thought he was gay ahead of time and with him, so I'd buy it.

Get a clue man. This is a major, major red flag.

[Cadet4life]

confront her. analyze her reaction. then decide what to do, prolly dumb her. kind of odd she's texting her ex bf behind your back. prolly monkey branching lolol

[7rmr]

So she lied about not contacting ex's.

Then she realized she had been caught, so she created a BS story to throw you off the trail simply so she could continue talking to her ex

Yea, sorry brah but its time to move on. She has clearly demonstrated she has no problem lying, and creating stories to cover her lies.

[CowardBrah]

I'd say she's trying to cover her ass since she took out her phone, showed you the contact and lied without you providing any cause to do so. Probably has something to hide.


Then again what the fuk do I know

[7rmr]

confront her. analyze her reaction. then decide what to do, prolly dumb her. kind of odd she's texting her ex bf behind your back. prolly monkey branching lolol

Don't even bother with this. She already made up one story to cover her lying, she'll just make up another

[Bettabez]

I ****ing hate liars man. Biggest pet peeve. I'd dump her on principle without being interested in hearing justification etc. if you're positive he's an ex.

[randombrah1]

It's over, brah. Look:

-She texts with other men behind your back
-She thinks you're dumb enough to believe her alibi (he's a *******)
-It turns out, said guy is an ex-bf.

Alpha the **** up and dump her. You probably deserve better.

a weir, thanks brah

Dude, "he's gay" is a common excuse to cover things up. I've had it used before by a girl who was fooling around with another guy right behind my back. She had even obviously rehearsed her "blurting out" in front of all three of us that she thought he was gay ahead of time and with him, so I'd buy it.

Get a clue man. This is a major, major red flag.

hold me brah, the feels are hitting hard

confront her. analyze her reaction. then decide what to do, prolly dumb her. kind of odd she's texting her ex bf behind your back. prolly monkey branching lolol

lol at her if shes monkey branching. Dude isnt even from home town

So she lied about not contacting ex's.

Then she realized she had been caught, so she created a BS story to throw you off the trail simply so she could continue talking to her ex

Yea, sorry brah but its time to move on. She has clearly demonstrated she has no problem lying, and creating stories to cover her lies.

truth about the lies, I recall hearing from her "im such a good liar"
it seems like jakes on her

I'd say she's trying to cover her ass since she took out her phone, showed you the contact and lied without you providing any cause to do so. Probably has something to hide.


Then again what the fuk do I know

I agree brah. Im pretty sure that shes scared of me dumping her... maybe wouldnt have given a fuk about it if she was real tea, but instead goes and creates a bs story about the "gay friend"
f

[Prim3]

I'd be more pissed about her lying than her talking to her ex (srs).

Either way, I'd bring it up with her. Give her a warning that you are NOT okay with this kind of behaviour. Don't be demanding 'cause she'll turn that around on you and say you're insecure/controlling. Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't accept it, then you have to move on.

[aintevenmad]

Don't ever talk to her again. Srs.

I don't mind if my guy goes out to dinner 1 on 1 with ex's but lying is unacceptable.

edit: ^wizard

[Bigcarllittlewi]

Bro she played u like an idiot. Confront her and give us an update plz

[randombrah1]

I ****ing hate liars man. Biggest pet peeve. I'd dump her on principle without being interested in hearing justification etc. if you're positive he's an ex.

100% positive.
Same pic in contacts, same pic on fb.
She even tagged him in the comments

But thats not what gives it away, I recall her telling me "I had a bf who was loved by my grandma cause he cooked for her, she even wanted him to marry me"
And in said pics you can read comments from her saying "my grandma loves you forever <3" and he agrees along with her family members (cousins).

[ACSZZ1988]

Leave her alone bro. Liars are the worst it will never stop she will just keep lying. Move on srs

[Cadet4life]

yeah dump her.

[Solomonlike]

LOL! Just in case you missed the reoccurring message from the previous posts OP, she blatantly lied to you. End it NOW! Like AEM said, don't ever talk to her again. Srs

[Bettabez]

I'd be more pissed about her lying than her talking to her ex (srs).

Either way, I'd bring it up with her. Give her a warning that you are NOT okay with this kind of behaviour. Don't be demanding 'cause she'll turn that around on you and say you're insecure/controlling. Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't accept it, then you have to move on.

A warning dude... rly. Tempted to neg.

OP: You lied bish, I caught you red handed, don't do it again or else
Sloot: OP I promise I won't, I don't know what I was thinking...

[randombrah1]

I'd be more pissed about her lying than her talking to her ex (srs).

Either way, I'd bring it up with her. Give her a warning that you are NOT okay with this kind of behaviour. Don't be demanding 'cause she'll turn that around on you and say you're insecure/controlling. Tell her how you feel. If she doesn't accept it, then you have to move on.

Yeah, like I said, couldnt have given two shiets, but she lied... this is red flag city

Don't ever talk to her again. Srs.

I don't mind if my guy goes out to dinner 1 on 1 with ex's but lying is unacceptable.

edit: ^wizard

fuark

Bro she played u like an idiot. Confront her and give us an update plz

Fuk, will send her screenshoot and watch her crumble.
The building of lies she created is about to crush her hard, while I feel bad man, dafuq

[aintevenmad]

Yeah, like I said, couldnt have given two shiets, but she lied... this is red flag city




fuark



Fuk, will send her screenshoot and watch her crumble.
The building of lies she created is about to crush her hard, while I feel bad man, dafuq

You feeling bad is just your body preparing for the post-breakup bad feels.

but they will be nothing compared to the anxiety and insecurity you would feel if you stayed with her and saw her constantly texting, smirking at her phone, and then stuttering when you asked why she was smiling.

[tnelson1134]

Drop the bitch for lying if anything.. because he's obviously not gay and she only said that so you wouldn't trip about her talking to him.

[aintevenmad]

Drop the bitch for lying if anything.. because he's obviously not gay and she only said that so you wouldn't trip about her talking to him.

which indicates she knows what she was doing is wrong by her own standards and that if OP was doing the same thing, she would flip her chit.

[aj0538]

I get to her house, were chilling and out of nowhere she says, "I was thinking, damn! I have too many gay friends. See" and she gets out her phone and goes through her contact list, and she points out the guy that was marked as fav as a "gay friend". It was weird the way this was approached by her but I ignored it and went about my day.

This is BS right here. She is a scheming manipulative person. She was setting up the groundwork to cover up her contact with her ex. This is pissing me off more then it should but I had a girl do the same thing to me a few years back. This is some deep rooted underhanded pre meditated lying.


And here we are, today I was miring her profile pics on fb and I got to a pic where she was smiling (pic from a year ago and she was talking about who was the reason of her smile, have in mind we werent dating at the time). Here is where it gets sketchy... cause guess who was the reason of her smile? yes, the "gay friend" she pointed out a few weeks ago, turned out to be her ex bf, the one who cooked for her grandma.

I'd leave. Without a doubt. This isn't a mistake or misunderstanding. She was putting her ex ahead of you by covering up her continued relationship with him. Run op, run

Run now

[randombrah1]

just sent her the msg with proof...

[Countrygal99]

Surprise, surprise. I've heard of women saying this, you have to always do your research.

[Bettabez]

just sent her the msg with proof...

Only msg you should send her is that she needs to pick up her **** which is waiting outside.

You have females ITT telling you to run... what more you need bro? See above post. What is there to talk about?

[randombrah1]

Surprise, surprise. I've heard of women saying this, you have to always do your research.

research on what?

its pretty clear, and everyone in here kicked the sense back in me. Fuk. Told her its over, she hasnt seen it.

[Xndndn]

So she randomly brought up a conversation about having to many gay friends...

alarm bells are ringing willie!

[randombrah1]

it also indicates she was planning on continuing the contact, so on the off chance OP saw his name in her texts again, he wouldn't think anything of it

oh lawd