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12-30-2013, 09:24 PM #61
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12-30-2013, 09:29 PM #62
Bro, you settled. You weighed the pros and cons of settling when you married, you said it yourself by coming to terms with the fact that your wife was frigid. So far you've enjoyed the pros of having done so, now you don't want to live with the cons of the situation. My first bit of advice is don't listen to some of the women on this. Most women in this thread seem vindictive more than helpful. If EVERYTHING is green with your wife don't compromise it for another women. As some other people have mentioned, keep in mind Megan wants to be with a married man. Her morals can't be that great if she's willing to do this, not someone you wanna wife.
Also, there's a huge point to this that everyone's ignored and that's:
You deffo need to go into more detail about this. This to me would be a HUGE red light. Weak sex life, long term friends before getting married, early marriage, and not establishing boundaries to prevent stuff like this? Sounds like there's more to this story of being unhappy than what you're telling OP
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12-30-2013, 09:33 PM #63
I thought she's the one that confessed love to you? You can cut contact without admitting anything, you have a wife and Megan should understand and be sorry!!!! I'll tell you more, if she's really in love with you, you NEED to cut contact with her for her own good if you are to stay with your wife.
Have you tried talking to your wife, working things out? Aren't there some ways to increase libido in women, Tribulus?
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12-30-2013, 09:34 PM #64
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12-30-2013, 09:35 PM #65
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12-30-2013, 09:37 PM #66
I noticed this as well. I'm imagining him tearfully confessing his indiscretions to his wife, and her responding "oh well nobody's perfect honey we all make mistakes it could happen to anyone!" while sweating furiously and trying to hide her hickies.
For the love of god, people, don't get married unless you are absolutely head over heels passionately in love with the woman. Do not ever settle.~Misc BJJ Crew: Crawl Atop Me and Meet Your Doom~
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12-30-2013, 09:40 PM #67
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12-30-2013, 09:52 PM #68
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12-30-2013, 10:04 PM #69
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12-30-2013, 10:05 PM #70
What it sounds like to me, as you have already clearly mentioned, is that the relationship is lacking. She sounds like a great wife. You didn't mention fighting or anything that could lead to potential problems except the sex life. My opinion, I would talk to your wife about how you feel and try to restart your relationship with her by taking her out on dates, make her feel like a women and give her loads of attention. Ask other women on here for tips on how to manage a lacking relationship. She doesn't like sex or being on top? Do something different, please the women! No harm in trying before maybe making the worse decision that is hard to take back. This Megan girl, i say loose all contact.
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12-30-2013, 10:05 PM #71
OP I'm not going to call you a selfish kunt as I've counseled many women in your situation.
Raising children is tough and there is a lot of repetitive tasks. That and the passion has worn off. And you got married too young.
99% of affairs do not lead to marriage because of the trust issue.
You feel like you love Meghan but she's an escape from your mundane life. Many people get depressed and think another person will make them feel better.
Get a marriage counselor and some individual counseling so a 3rd party can tell you that an affair is not reality.
And in order to repair your marriage you will need to quit your job and go no contact with Meghan if needed. Otherwise you're doomed.
One woman I know felt this was too drastic and she kept getting sucked back into the emotions every time she saw the man at work.
It's a tough position to be in, especially with a child.
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12-30-2013, 11:54 PM #72
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12-31-2013, 12:40 AM #73
Be a Man and work on your marriage. State what your non-negotiable needs are to your wife. If it is so important, give her an ultimatum, and be prepared to stick to it.
If your wife doesn't care enough about you to figure herself out enough to be able to meet your perfectly normal needs as a Man, then it is time for you to to seperate, staying together for the kids just isn't a good enough excuse. It isn't. I should know.
Should you then seperate/divorce, THEN you are free to pursue new women for a normal relationship.
Don't just "give in" to chemical tingles, throwing your family away, and crushing your spouse, like a woman would do.
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12-31-2013, 01:09 AM #74
Honestly it sounds like your wife just kinda let her self go after marriage. Also her not doing certain sexual things wtf sounds like she is not being a good wife either . Good sex is honestly half the relationship for any committed couples even biologically speaking because certain pair bonding chemicals are only released during sex. You should be talking about that with her I personally would never wife a women thats not much into sex.
The other part is that anytime a girl isn't much into sex its because they are getting it from somewhere else or plan on ending it. Don't think she is innocent too because she might be taking it on the side but, staying in a relationship with you for the "family".
Whatever you do don't get rid of Megan because you always need a plan B you should do some more private eye work into the issue of her not wanting sex because that by far is the biggest red flag from women that are cheating in a relationship and she might not be cheating on you with a man it could be a woman.Last edited by shegotmass; 12-31-2013 at 01:23 AM.
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12-31-2013, 02:04 AM #75
If your wife knows you are spending a lot of time with Megan and leaving her to do the parenting then she vould be witholding sex.
I was in this situatiin as the wife part.
My ex was in your part. Let me tell you something. The other girl was so paranoid. My son was meeting her family members as an 8 month old (killed my heart... will kill your wifes).
Her family were charmed by my son... but then they couldnt really ask much about our son as that would bring up topics about me the mother which put 'other girl' in discomfort.
They felt uncomfortable commenting on her 'parenting' since she wasnt a parent.
His family made her welcome but remained in contact with me which made her feel like an outcast.
She put a lot of pressure on my ex because she felt overwhelmed with guilt.
He was turning to her for an ego stroke, and she stroked it.
He was with her for a year. In that year I made it difficult for him. Of course I let him see his son and be 'family' with the new girl, bUt it was horrific having to let my baby son be a 'family' with these two. He was a baby and SHE was eating at my precious time with my baby. These early years are when all the big changes start.
I wanted to outrage them as much as they had and were outraging me.
I made impossible demands. Pestered them. There relatiinship in hindsight was based on bitching about me. One day I just stopped and started a business and it was at this time, they fell apart.
My ex tried to come back since he was consumed with guilt but i didnt want him and i didnt need him.
I want to tell my son his daddy left for some poosy but can't. Got to keep it civil. Now he is four and his Friends notice and mentiin how he daddy isnt around. He sure as hell he has noticed this but wont ask about it.
Its so dufficult watching your nephews/nieces question where my sons dad is and watch my son leave the room like he is in denial about it and ashamed and doesnt want to hear about it. But then why would he. He already knows he is different.
If he is like this at 4, i hate to think how he is when he is older.
Work it out with wife OP. Your daughter Will withdraw. It Will impact on her loads.I don't have problems, I have situations.
Situations, you can get out of!
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12-31-2013, 02:05 AM #76
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12-31-2013, 02:38 AM #77
Do you honestly need an answer to this? You are married and on top of that you have a child. Do you not realize that deciding to cheat/leave will not only effect you but your child? Or does your apparent family mean so little to you that you are actually considering this? I am not saying you can't be attracted to someone else but you are blowing this way out of proportion.
You basically stated your main reason you are considering cheating/leaving is because the sex is not what you would like it to be. If that is good enough for you then you should not have gotten married let alone have a child. Get relationship counseling, have more conversations with your wife regarding this major issue. But don't be so excited to get your D wet that you disregard all the other important issues at hand.
Judging by your responses you sound like you partly already have your mind made up. But at the end of the day, you knew how she was and indirectly what to expect, it's up to you if you want to deal with your choices in life or not.
I kind of hope this thread is one big troll.Last edited by Konrai; 12-31-2013 at 02:44 AM.
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12-31-2013, 02:49 AM #78anonymousGuest
I would say to convey these feelings to your wife. Serious. All of it. Let her know that you do want to fix this. Number one reason for divorce is lack of communication. Just communicate with your wife. Ask her what she feels. Obviously, convey these feelings in good order. First, tell her that you love her, love your child, and want to continue being married to her, but I feel...
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12-31-2013, 02:56 AM #79
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12-31-2013, 03:20 AM #80
You've dun goofed OP.
Think about how your kid would possibly feel. What would happen if you got a divorce and you didn't get custody of your kid? Do you understand that your kid would be growing up calling another man "dad" if your wife got custody? You want to get with this other woman because she does kore activities? Do you understand what all the possible out comes could be with this chitty decision? Use your brain OP. Think about your child.
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12-31-2013, 03:34 AM #81
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12-31-2013, 03:50 AM #82
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12-31-2013, 05:26 AM #83
Yes but a lot of people can't handle that the new love stage ends and end up drinking their troubles away, it's not like a parent who is a miserable alcoholic or a serial cheater is much better.
Today's society promotes that you should be in love and have sex 10 times a day, and when that ends you are "unhappy". Our grandparents did not feel that way as often.
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12-31-2013, 05:39 AM #84
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12-31-2013, 06:31 AM #85
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Apparently you do not know what the value of marriage is. If you are married there's no "assigning" the situation with someone else. If you feel that there are issues with your marriage you talk with your wife and seek help if that is what is needed. Marriage isn't a 2 week, 2 month or 2 year commitment......its supposed to be for life. At 23 this is probably hard for you to understand. I'm not saying this in a bad way....this is the reason why people should not get married so young.
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12-31-2013, 06:34 AM #86
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12-31-2013, 06:59 AM #87
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12-31-2013, 07:21 AM #88
You can't help who you fall for? Bull ****! You choose to spend time with her, you have invested and stolen time away from your wife to peruse this new woman. When you are home with your wife you think about this new woman steeling more time from your wife. These are all choices you have made.
Invest that stolen time back in your wife and your marriage or leave but don't say you didn't have a choice in who you fell in love with. You chose where and with whom you spent your time.
You can't help who you fall for!?! What a ****ty cop out excuse! If you want to "love" this other woman, at least own up to the fact that you made this choice!The above post may or may not be my personal opinion, views, or thoughts.
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12-31-2013, 08:51 AM #89
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12-31-2013, 08:59 AM #90
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