How to change your life (legit) (srs)

[BigNerist]

These come from personal experience, so obviously take them with a grain of salt. That said, they always worked for me.

This year marked a change in my life, finally. Things changed fundamentally when I was past thinking they ever would, and now I can't believe I was ever stupid enough to think that my time had already passed or that I was never going to make it. At the age of 21, that's a horrible way to think.

I haven't made it yet obviously, whatever "making it" means, but I did find a level of happiness and fulfillment I thought was beyond me. It also unlocked the years in my future and opened them to potential whereas before they had felt like a wall of sludge I had to muck my way through for some existential reason.

So here are my tips on making more out of life.

1. CUT OUT THE BULL****

This is both the hardest and the easiest step - if you've never managed to cold turkey a lot of things at once, then it is the hardest, and if you manage to get through it, you will realise it was the easiest.

I'm talking everything. Drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, porn, useless websites and wastes of time, food, soft drinks and so on. Don't give up yet - hear me out. Simply put, until you have control over all your addictions, you will never make it. Don't think of famous crackheads, they're addicts who got lucky, if it hasn't worked for you yet it probably never will. Don't think about successful people in general, you will need all your mental effort to pull this one off properly. And don't go along this line of thinking either "well what the **** is the point to life if I can't smoke / drink / jack off / insert addiction here." That's just addiction speaking. Once you truly let it go you won't ever need it again. Also, tell yourself that you're not quitting permanently, but you are doing it STRICTLY for about 3 months or so. No contact. After that you can allow yourself your old addictions in small doses again, but never be their slave again.

The first couple of days will probably be hard, but outlast it if you want to earn some self-respect at last. Doesn't matter how difficult it is, or if everyone at your workplace smokes, or if everyone in your family smokes, just don't do it. After a while your brain WILL rewire but only if you stick with it.

Benefits

You won't know what to do with your sudden time / money. You make a lot of time by quitting an internet addiction, and you make a lot of money through quitting a substance addiction. Put the money away and it will build up unexpectedly quickly (if you're employed obviously). Also, other little benefits and perks will pop up everywhere - when you wake up in the morning and you don't feel like ****, when you wake up and your lungs are cleaner (you will go through about a month of coughing up disgusting **** but it will clear out eventually), you will experience better sleep patterns. You will find yourself suddenly so bored by not having your old go-to activities that you will invent new ones and find yourself enjoying them. You will also experience a surprising strength of will, which will translate well into your future endeavours.

2. KILL ALL CYNICISM INSIDE YOU

Cynicism is the ****ing worst thing to happen to a human. It happens because we want to act like we've seen life, "I've already been through that, man". Cynicism is the rolling of eyes, you rolling your eyes at reading yet another motivational post you know will do nothing for you, your parents rolling their eyes at yet another promise you make which will come to nothing, and so on. Cynicism is a fat useless tumour of a human watching young people having fun somewhere and seething "****ing retards ****ing kids pretending to have fun but they all are as depressed as me they just pretend theyre not coz theyre fake i hate them all" then he goes somewhere afterwards and drinks alone.

Cynicism leeches all the wonder out of life. It stops you from seeing the beauty of nature because you've seen it before, nothing new, nothing special. Cynicism kills your day before it even begins. It's the little evil voice which taunts you from morning to night, befouling your achievements and overemphasizing your failures. "Yeah buddy, set your alarm for 6am again, we both know you're just gonna fap then snooze then fap again, you useless pile of ****, remember how you stuttered during that speech? You awkward ****, you loser, remember when you kissed that girl and you were proud for a whole week? Newsflash, dickhead, she was ugly as ****, uglier than you, people laughed at you for it and you should actually kill yourself but you don't even have the balls for that" and so on. It stops you from writing a story / making music / doing anything because it tells you billions of people already do this and are better than you and there is no point in you even trying.

Kill the cynicism by force. Go out on your balcony and breathe in the air of a day which has never before come on this earth. Stop reading critic reviews of books and movies and read books and watch movies instead. Do something you failed at repeatedly, show the gods that you are more stubborn than them.

Killing cynicism will actually probably benefit your life more than you know. It is a necessary precursor for step 3 -

3. Hit the productivity HARD

The productivity thing is a hard hustle. When you first come on the idea of self improvement, sometime maybe in your late teens, it seems like an awesome idea. Before you were aimless, but now you have a legit goal - become a ripped, tanned, rich unstoppable mother****er. You watch motivational videos and the energy rubs off on you and you feel euphoric - for a short time, and then it fades like the end of any externally influenced high. Chasing the high which motivation gives you, you keep watching these videos and reading the posts, and with every single one the effect grows weaker and weaker, while cynicism kicks in and tells you that no matter how many motivationals you watch, you will still always be a loser.

This is why you have to change your attitude to the hard things in your life (even though gym addicts may disagree with me, for most people going to the gym and doing a LEGIT workout isn't easy). Most people will watch something which gives them a little fuel to go to the gym, and then it runs out, and they half-ass a workout and go home. Self-improvement isn't the big game, the big event you WIN and then live off the spoils. It's a constant hard grind which you need to understand you need to do FOR LIFE. During the last few reps of heavy squat, when you can't wait for it to end, you need to convince yourself that you would be comfortable if you had to do this for the rest of your life. This IS your life. During the last few minutes of an endurance run, when your thighs are chafing and your lungs hurt and your sweat is making your shirt stick to you uncomfortably and everything hurts so bad, you need to convince yourself that you are comfortable doing this forever - if you were sentenced to a life of hard running, you'd be fine with it. If you do actually make the click, you'll stop counting reps, counting minutes, and you will become the activity you are doing. Then you become superhuman (srs). For a short while. You may need to do this every time you run but it helps. Waiting for the hell to finish is the worst way to approach difficulty. Accepting the pain and letting it pass over you is in my opinion the best. Don't fight the circumstances. Practise this in cold showers - when the freeze hits you and you want to run, tell yourself that this is how the world always was and the world always will be, that you're some organism which exists under a freezing shower, and your body will begin to adapt to it instead of resisting it.

With your mind on your side - get to work. Kill yourself in the gym, instead of just putting in the hours. I know it's hard. Do 2 reps past what you thought was your max. (don't injure yourself, always proper form) Run 5 laps more than what you thought was your max.

Read philosophy, not so you can influence your own life and mind by the words of someone else who lived under different circumstances, but to learn more about your species and to see the different ways in which humans approach the problem of existence and their place on the planet. Soon your subconscious will start pondering this too. Find something you are good at and work on it. Alternatively, be the best at whatever job you do now. You can always be better and it will also make going to work more bearable. Imagine you're a waiter - you hate your job, hours, annoying customers and ****ty boss and so on. Now that you no longer drink or smoke or go out, you can spend some time at night reading the menu and doing some practise. (This might seem like a lame ass way to spend an hour or two but so is miscing). This results in you getting better and more prepared at your job, which means the boss will suddenly be nicer, the customers seem better, the coworkers more respectable. It will be just another thing you are suddenly good at. But if you do have your own thing on the side, work on it tirelessly.

4. Change your mentality with everything

I already mentioned changing mentality for gym exercises. You also need to work on your mentality in life which will help you to get more out of it.

a) Time and its passage

The future is unscripted. The enormity of this statement might not hit you at first but it might be better if it sneaks its way into your subconscious.

The future is unscripted. Understanding this changes the entire ballgame. It doesn't matter if you pussied out every single day in your life, you still haven't pussied out tomorrow - because tomorrow hasn't happened yet. You can only pussy out in the present. If you don't do it in the present, you won't do it tomorrow - force yourself to understand that.

We are like the tip of a comet. Its tail is the past, swirling behind and disappearing slowly behind the raging inferno of the present, and us at its glowing tip. In front of the comet there is only empty space, and the comet blazes it's way through the empty space, leaving a trail of the past behind it. There is nothing in front of us, however.

No other human's lifeline means ****. It does not matter if every person who went to high school with you is a doctor or a lawyer already and you still kill hours on a PC. No human's lifeline can be judged from the perspective of another human's lifeline. If people look down on you for anything, stop caring, it just means they are weaker than you. People who look down for any reason are people who aren't satisfied with their own lives and need external reasons to feel happy and they find this happiness in feeling better than other people.

In ten years time you might produce a masterpiece which changes the world. The future is unscripted. In ten years time the college graduate high flyer might have AIDS and be homeless, or might be a billionaire - it's up to him and his luck, it's his timeline. But unless you stop caring about other people's opinion, you will never experience real freedom.

Therefore, don't look at the future as a bleak wall created by your poor life decisions, look at it as a completely blank canvas, your own symphony to orchestrate.

[BigNerist]

More will come if people are interested.

[uscbrah2626]

good stuff op. Thanks.

[CoonTrap]

Subbed. Good read, srs.

[BigNerist]

http:/ /forum.bodybuilding .com/showthread.php?t=142948251

My thread from my old account for anyone who wants more walls of text.

Thanks for the comments.

[Aryansthetics]

Enjoyed it OP keep it going.

[LurkersPls]

great thread OP. I game everyday, take it that is my 'addiction' even though I don't do it in excess?

[srets]

Nice work OP, keep em coming brah, subbed

[BigNerist]

great thread OP. I game everyday, take it that is my 'addiction' even though I don't do it in excess?

I'd say it depends on whether you know you have a problem with it. The moment a person has tried to quit something and couldn't, is I think the moment the alarm bells should go off. By game I guess you mean video games? I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it's good for the imagination.. as long as it's not keeping you from doing things you actually like then it's just an enjoyable pastime.

[Uwotm8brah]

I was already aware of all of this stuff OP (no cynical)

Keep it coming tho, repped

[iwant2beswole]

so quit the misc?

[bally18]

Enjoyed the read OP.
Repped.

[epixs]

This is how I live life, makes you appreciate life and so disciplined / motivated .


Good read , reminds me of boldanddeterminned blog.

[bob2439]

ill try OP , Im currently feeling really low.

[polkster84]

Subbed and will rep off recharge. Misc needs more positive and self improvement type threads.

[BBLuder]

Thanks OP for #2, repped.

Cynicism has consumed me for quite some time I just realized...and I admit it now that I'm aware of it. Best way to explain is I hate everything in life and I'm constantly analyzing things like a movie/car critic.

Fight Club reference but "Tomorrow's breakfast will taste better than any meal I've ever had."

[traxtar]

in for later

[Augi247]

Thank you OP I need the extra drive to change my life srsly

Repped

[drock2190]

No thanks I'm fine with my CEO'ing 10k per day

[Croatbrah]

go on

[liftheavy211]

great read

[trueem]

good read OP repped, and subbed

[ItsBenBrah]

really needed this OP, thanks

[BigNerist]

so quit the misc?

I control my misc use. It's difficult to say, if you're caught in it's negativity and judgement vortex it can be very damaging to your psyche, but if you view it externally, then it is also a goldmine of information about the world and the way people similar to me perceive it. Also, as depressing as it can be, it gives me some hope that not everyone buys into a clear-cut liberal feminist perspective, which is something I honestly wouldn't know if I wasn't aware of the misc.

The misc is also what prompted me to start writing these posts in order to help people in the first place. It was terrifying to see so much wasted potential growing more and more insecure and bitter with every passing year. So if I ever make it as a writer, which I now plan on doing, the misc would have been instrumental in making this come about, so I can't really talk too much **** about it..

That said, if it's a discernibly bad influence in your life, you should at least quit it for a length of time (couple of months), clear your head and then come back to it with a new perspective.

[floridabrah05]

Great read. Repped. Keep it coming

[golvmopp]

Intredasted. Gief moar post nao.

[Polaris]

Decent OP. There is always a huge gap between knowing what to do intellectually... and actually doing it.

[nn586]

why does every miscer just want to be a tanned, ripped, rich mother ****er?

there's more to life than that.










































































































just kidding there's not LOL

[Nitrogenetic]

preach brah, PREACH!!!1!!

[ichristian16]

I like the part about how the future is unscripted