She's just bringing me down. I haven't met a person as introverted and someone with so much pent up anger inside yet. I feel like she's just bringing me down. Everything I do seems to disturb her. She doesn't like the music I listen to, doesn't like the athletes I look up to (CT Fletcher for example, who is my idol). Says watching his videos makes me stupid, as well as listening to trance music, which I just love. So instead whenever she's hear we have to listen to jazz or some classical ****, because apparently "music has to be intellectual". She is very pretentious. Yet at the same time I love her to the core. Just wish she wasn't as oppressive as she is.
Whenever I just have enough of her whining, I go quiet and start to ignore her, which makes her soften up all of a sudden and comes back caressing me. I just wish it would never ever come to that. I don't want to always break up with her in my head in order for her to come to her senses.
I am just at a loss here. I would love to stay together with her if it meant no fighting all the time.
11-25-2013, 04:45 AM #1
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11-25-2013, 04:55 AM #2
What the fuk? Are you me OP? I'm not even kidding.
You basically just described everything that I hated about my ex-gf when I finally broke up with her.
You need to get out of that relationship ASAP! In my particular case I put off breaking up with her because a) was oneitis b) I liked the security of being in a relationship and c) like you, I KNEW that beneath everything she did to piss me off or hurt me was the sweet, caring girl that I loved.
A break up like this is one of the hardest things you'll do because you're not breaking up with her because she cheated on you, spent too much of your money, or even because you stopped loving her. You're breaking up with her because you recognize that she is bringing you DOWN. You are not happy - you love this girl, but you are disillusioned with what she used to be. No matter how much longer you stay with her it is not going to get better. This is the real her you are seeing. The honeymoon phase is over, she isn't worried that you'll leave her anytime soon. She's showing you who she really is as a person.
Heed my words OP. We have the same join date.
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11-25-2013, 06:11 AM #5
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Your girlfriend sounds very.. controlling and insecure :/ not a good thing at all.. If you really want to be with her, I think you should give her a final warning.. like tell her how you feel and that what she does is very disrespectful and make her understand that this is her last chance.
If she continues to put you down, leave her. A relationship is suppose to help you, she should be the one who's accepting you, encouraging you, and making you feel better. & if she feels like she's not being disrespectful or doesn't see how what she's doing is wrong.. then she is a very immature and selfish person. Simply not a good person to be with.
Idk she sounds really poisonous. People who are angry and have issues take it out on people they know they can take it out on. I think she knows she has a lot of power in the relationship.. because otherwise you would've left her already but instead you're still with her.
One last chance (if you feel like she deserves it) and that's it. Hope you feel better!
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11-25-2013, 06:24 AM #7
To me, it sounds like you two are moving in separate directions. As much as you love her, you need to have common interests or things like this will happen. By the end of my last relationship, my ex and I just didn't mesh. Two separate paths and as much as I loved her I needed to let her go because if we kept going we would end up hating each other. The best thing you can do is end it now and deal with the break up and post break up questioning yourself.
In a way I think you have sort of found what is important to you in a relationship, so when you do find a future partner, you sort of know what things you can live with and what things you can't.
Also, when you break up with her, do it like a man and tell her exactly what you told us (besides the bringing you down part). Tell her you love her but you can't deal with how she is and how you have zero common interests. Nobody like pretentious.b0yer- Monster By May Log- http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=159121171&p=1183014941#post1183014941
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Your going to break up with someone for not liking the same music and athletes as you? Really I think you need to be a bit more flexible. Nothing a matter with your girl having her own tastes and preferences.Disabled Combat Veteran (11B)
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11-25-2013, 08:26 AM #15
leaving someone you love is beyond brutal, but staying and being miserable every damn day is worse. it's no way to live; eventually it begins to feel as if you're just watching life pass you by, and wondering when you'll be able to get up from the sidelines, and be apart of things again...enjoy things again.
there's a feeling of helplessness involved in being trapped in a rela like this, and it's up to you to free yourself.
bad relationships drain you of so much livelihood, and if you're not careful, by the time you leave this rela, you'll be a shell of the man you were when you first began it.
don't let her do that to you, OP. get out ASAP.7:1
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11-25-2013, 09:53 AM #17
If you're considering it, it's already over. When things are "right" with someone, leaving isn't an option. End it.
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11-25-2013, 10:14 AM #18
Break up right NOW. You're just gonna feel ****tier and ****tier if you continue having this relationship. Break up, hang out with your bros, get back into the social life. Find someone who'll respect you and your opinions, and not treat you like her biatch and then go crawling back and saying things like I'm sorry. Fuk that.
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Wut is the problem?
Not happy = bye bye gf! Simple! Unless you are in a shared living situation/kids/whatever else. Either way, drop her, I just hope you have the independance to do it easily.*LEO crew*
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