That definitely seems to be true for some people who are into fitness/bodybuilding. Personally, I would NEVER insult or comment upon someone who is thin, and I admire many body types [well, I guess in this thread I happened to mention that I am not attracted to skinny men, but I still respect them if they are, for example, marathon runners; I just wouldn't date them?]. I obviously have a site of myself that would prefer to be skinny--heck, I was anorexic for awhile though my body frame never appeared waifish because it's just not how my bones are constructed (I.e. I still had wide shoulders and hips at 85 lbs).
However, as I have grown up I have come to believe that everyone may be admirable for what they do with the body structure they were given... that's why I enjoy bodybuilding. Muscle development doesn't really depend just on genetics. It's what you do with your genetics that fascinates me.
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07-09-2013, 04:27 PM #31
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07-09-2013, 04:46 PM #32
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again, i never denied the existence hating on thin women, in fact the whole point of my posts has been to differentiate (but also relate) thin-shaming and fat-shaming. feel free to scour my previous posts. but just because thin women get comments too doesn't mean the culture overall shames thin women. thin bodies are not systematically "hated on" for lack of a better phrase. women's bodies are, however, which is again why in each posts i've tried to incorporate the parallels and overlaps that come with being a woman with a body in general. saying thin women can't possibly feel any insecurity due to being thin is an erasure of their experiences as women within a society who thinks any comment positive or negative about a woman's body is warranted and appropriate.
but it's true that thin women can at least find some sort validation in a magazine that represents their body type; i don't think that's contradictory to say in conjunction with pointing out that thin women aren't necessarily happy about their body. but poor self image within a culture that implicitly (and explicitly to say the truth) praises your body type is still different from poor self image within a culture that also denigrates people who look like you on a daily basis.
and i do want to repeat that none of the shaming is okay. it's just different to be shamed or hated on as someone being within what society considers an acceptable body size range, versus not
(tbh i haven't thought too much about where the whole muscular bit comes into it, despite that being the original topic of this thread; it varies wildly i suppose since it's entirely possible to be a muscular size 0-6 or a muscular size 16 depending on how much actual body fat goes along with it)
but the problems you mention with thin shaming on these boards is one of the reasons why i have adjusted my posting style a bit over the past few years (or at least have been trying too, hopefully nothing has slipped the cracks lately). one of the ways of encouraging people to bulk on these forums is to talk about how thin and emaciated they look... well, is that really necessary? or if a poster thinks they're hot **** it's common to call out their stats (LOL 5'9 XXX pounds!) as a way of shutting them up. well that's body shaming too and people should quit it.
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I hear what you're saying here, and agree. It's just the way you originally phrased it, it sounded like you were saying that if a thin girl turns to the media, the high representation of thin girls would tell her that she's valuable and acceptable for also being skinny, which I strongly disagree with.
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07-10-2013, 02:04 AM #36
I'd even say these are spreaded constructs of society, things everybody should believe in in spite of listening to their own voice; meaning e.g. women have to be weak (in spirit and body) and guys protective (controlling them). Women have been powerful and protected themselves very often on their own. In ancient times they contributed to the survival of the whole family by providing ca. 80% of the daily food, they went for hunting too and collected plenty of food.
Him being taller or being protective otherwise unattractive, her being weak, thin, soft otherwise unattractive - this are artificial constructs of people, the wish for it it's not "genetically" put into them - there are just artificial thoughts / standards made by society .
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07-10-2013, 03:11 AM #37
ya that was what i was getting at. strength or muscularity doesn't absolutely correlate with body size or proportions. it does sometimes . . . but not always. it irks me when people gloat about how strong they are to 'someone who's skinny and [therefore must be] weak'.
imo it's projecting your own deep lying [body] dissatisfaction onto a generalised/imagined person. it doesn't matter whether that person (or group) is fat/weak/thin/muscular/tall and so forth.
it's slightly related to when women do their damnedest to sht on aerobic exercise on this board. who cares? i suppose it's to build a badass weightlifting chick image lest someone think they are the lowest of the low on the fitness ladder . . . a cardio queen
a lot of these 'women with muscle' threads are quite funny anyway. not many women who resistance train are so muscular as to stand out in public fully clothed. i don't see where the problem lies, really.
yeah, you may not look 'thin' but there are more options in the shove-yourself-in box than 'thin', 'fat' or 'muscular'. sort of like 'normal'. just a normal-looking woman who thinks she's the shiz because she lifts weights and then puts them down again.Last edited by Miranda; 07-10-2013 at 04:05 AM.
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07-11-2013, 10:57 AM #38
The only hate I see muscular women get is from some overweight people and really scrawny or insecure dudes. Personally, I admire muscular woman, there are a few that are really muscular with low BF(maybe at or under 10) that I don't find attractive but overall I have respect for how hard they work like I would have for anyone in good/great shape..
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07-11-2013, 08:04 PM #39
Because modern women lump men into some homogenous clump and hyper-react to anything done by any man these days. If they get a compliment they race here and compain that they got called 'toned' when they wanted to be called "muscular" (real post). If one guy hates on a woman for anything then it's all guys hating on them. Because women alternate between seeking men's approval while pretending they don't care or man bashing the crap out of them as some way to empower themselves. Because fit and (often) thereby attractive women are pampered by the world 24/7 and for the 19 guys/day that fawn over them and are kind, get mad at something guy #20 said for whatever reason.
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07-12-2013, 04:06 AM #41
attractive is just attractive. frankly I've given up on having a "type" or figure I like. a little on the thick side or ripped and lean. doesn't really matter, I don't care. I can't really explain it either. like there should be a common factor that I find universally appealing but the girls I've been with over recent years are all so different.
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07-12-2013, 06:35 AM #42
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Because modern men lump women into some homogenous clump and hyper-react to anything done by any woman these days. If they get laid they race here and complain that she must be a sloot when they wanted someone who was magically both virginal and easy. If one woman hates on a man for anything then it's all women hating on them ("sloots gonna sloot!"). Because men alternate between seeking women's approval ("hey bby wanna fuk?") while pretending they don't care what women think of them or woman bashing the crap out of them ("u fukking sloot") as some way to empower themselves. Because fit and (often) thereby attractive men are treated with respect by the world 24/7 and for the 19 women/day that give them the once-over and are kind, insult women # 20 for being fat/slooty/unladylike/not returning texts/not having sex for whatever reason.
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Everything is just personal perception and preferences. You will never find something that everyone feels the EXACT same about. People's opinions will differ, but I do agree, I hate when people give their unasked for opinion about something when their unasked for opinion is negative and critical. I suppose we just have to do what we want and know that at least we're good enough for ourselves. You can't/won't please everyone.
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07-15-2013, 06:13 AM #46
I have twice last week been told I was "too thin" by women who frankly are not at a healthy weight and one I know for a fact is trying to lose weight. The difference between me and them is body confidence, I have it and thus wouldn't ever feel any need to try and tell somebody I have negative opinion of their body, they however do not and thus feel a little bit better about the vast difference between their bodies and mine if they can try to affirm that mine is too thin anyway. They're just trying to justify moving the goal posts a little closer by putting me down. I find it quite amusing but it is true that they'd never tell somebody bigger than them that they're a bit fat would they? No but it's somehow completely acceptable to tell somebody that's slim and fit, that they're too thin. It's quite ridiculous but it says more about them than me.
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07-25-2013, 10:10 AM #51
Some men **** talk women with muscles, and will not date a woman who is muscular, because they are insecure. Psychologists have found that some men who are insecure about their own body and personal attributes want a body in a partner that reflects their own teenage body. These same men not only go for non-athletic looking women, but women with less curves as well. This is the body they've had the most experience with and feel the safest around. Yep, really.
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07-25-2013, 10:36 AM #53
It applies to both. Insecure women will probably go for the "big bad guy" because they feel he can defend them or look after them. Insecure guys go for the weak looking woman so they feel big and bad compared to her. There's insecurity on both sides, they just express it differently.
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07-25-2013, 04:02 PM #55
Well ... I'm pretty damn skinny and I find fit/muscular women really attractive. I admire a great physique and would like to have one myself ... seems perfectly consistent to me?
Being attracted to fitness and health makes perfect sense .... why in the world would anyone be attracted to skinny and weak. THAT would be the odd part.
What's going on with men who don't like fit women is almost certainly insecurities. I'm pretty comfortable with myself ... I am what I am ... so why sweat it.
Having said that ... fit women at the gym ARE a bit intimidating in the same way drop dead gorgeous women are intimidating. (God save me from drop dead gorgeous women with a bit of muscle ... I'll pass out). It's the exact same emotion/mentality at work IMO.
I've posted elsewhere on bb.com about whether to utilize a female trainer ... seems to be a lot of them at my gym and would make sense and I think I would enjoy it more (LOL) but I think it might be awkward if the trainer is THAT much in better shape than me ... just distracting for her I think.
Like it or not the traditional gender roles are ingrained in most of us. She will think I'm a wimp ... I'll think she's thinking I'm a wimp ... etc etc
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07-25-2013, 06:30 PM #57
not to get way too deep into this topic .... but it makes a huge difference if you ask someone vs showing them.
If I asked my friends if they like "muscular" women ... 75% would say NO reflexively. But if we saw a girl with tanned muscular legs jog by the same guys would make no bones drooling over her. Its the reference to the word "muscle" that elicits the knee-jerk response.
Makes me think of the seinfeld episode where elaine is describing a guy from the gym to jerry and george. She says hes the "really good lucking guy" and they refuse to acknowledge her description even though they both know who shes talking about ... and she says "you know, George, simply acknowledging that a man is attractive doesnt NECESSARILY make you a homosexual." And he says "it doesnt help."
Thats like this ... guys dont want to go anywhere near that because if they yes theres the possibility it will be thought they like women with 20 inch arms and mustaches ...
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This sounds right...
Any man who goes out of his way to hate something or someone has some kind of personal issues and anger that he's trying to cope with.
I don't find overweight women attractive but I don't hate them. It must take a lot of effort to hate someone who hasn't done you any harm.
Naturally muscular women are attractive. The ones that take drugs and look like they're morphing into Jay Cutler do not look attractive but if that's what makes them happy, then more power to them.
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