RANT! Do Any Other Women Get Pissed When...

[CashmereNCamo]

...well intentioned or not, some guy comments on your "nice tone" when you worked your a$$ off to build MUSCLE? Save the "tone" comments for ballet dancers, I have MUSCLE, dammit! OK, rant over. Anyone else????

[kimm4]

No, because most people in the real world aren't familiar with bb lingo. It's like when dieting down for a show and someone comments on you looking thin/skinny instead of saying lean.

I smile, take my compliment and move along...

[CashmereNCamo]

No, because most people in the real world aren't familiar with bb lingo. It's like when dieting down for a show and someone comments on you looking thin/skinny instead of saying lean.

I smile, take my compliment and move along...

lol... Can't help but smile at your reference to "the real world." Our lifestyle is surreal, isn't it? Yeah, I ultimately come to that same conclusion, but sometimes I just want to rant (and I'm too old for PMS! lol)

[DaniGrrl]

No, because most people in the real world aren't familiar with bb lingo. It's like when dieting down for a show and someone comments on you looking thin/skinny instead of saying lean.

I smile, take my compliment and move along...

^^this.

It doesn't bother me because to most people, "toned" is a complement. Some guy told me I looked like a gymnast, and another asked if I was a dancer. I'd rather be told I look jacked but I know they were giving me a complement and just said "thanks."

[thepowerwithin]

I was in the produce section of my local grocery store yesterday and had a gentleman come up to me and ask if I was a swimmer. He said I looked 'in shape.' I simply said I don't swim and left it at that. Even if he didn't say muscular, I still took it as a compliment.

[NatAlt]

Had a similar experience with a PT at my gym who I haven't run in to for a couple of months, he asked me how training was going and joyfully remarked "Yeah your shoulders are looking really big!" before panicking, bless him, and looking for more 'female friendly' terminology, "I mean.... toned...?", and we both laughed.

Kimm's exactly right; we live in a world where most ladies would probably be offended to be told they're looking big, thick or even muscular. People close to you will probably come around to using your terminology to comment but, if a randomer pays you a compliment, take it and run - at least that's what I do!

[LyssieDoll88]

The Other Day I Got SOOO Excited Brcause I Am Atarting To See Veins In My Arms! My Sorority Sister Was In Horror/Shock ThatThS Is A Quality I Pray To The Bodybuilding Gods For! ! !

[heidismommy]

I get the "you look so toned" comment a lot, but I know what people mean so I consider it a compliment. Many people assume I'm a runner too and although that isn't the look I'm going for, I am flattered by the insinuation because it means I look fit. I look like I "play sport", but bodybuilding is the last thing that pops into most people's minds because it isn't particularly common, especially among women.

[CashmereNCamo]

The Other Day I Got SOOO Excited Brcause I Am Atarting To See Veins In My Arms! My Sorority Sister Was In Horror/Shock ThatThS Is A Quality I Pray To The Bodybuilding Gods For! ! !

lol... This is SOOOO my daughter!!!! She wants to be more vascular in an almost obsessive way. I used to laugh at her, but I understand what it means to her.

[CashmereNCamo]

Yes, I've gotten "tone", "in shape", "Zumba instructor", "fit" and the like over the years. I realize it's a compliment and I can totally relate to NatAlt's comment about men looking for a "female friendly" term. It's like the inner struggle they go through trying to figure out whether or not to open a door for a woman in these days and times. *sigh* I was actually responding to a comment I got here (sent with a friend request) and thought "Shouldn't he know better?" But he's likely a newbie and it's harmless, if not heartwarming. What I did was accept, of course... then send him a private message and very nicely said that women who train hard to build muscle don't mind hearing terms like "build", "muscle", "physique", etc. Hell, someone recently said my legs look "beast" and I was overjoyed. (Of course THAT "someone" was a female!) lol.

[anonymous]

At this point in my life, I appreciate any compliment I get, especially when it DOESN'T include "for your age....." At the end, lol!!

[DaniGrrl]

I get the "you look so toned" comment a lot, but I know what people mean so I consider it a compliment. Many people assume I'm a runner too and although that isn't the look I'm going for, I am flattered by the insinuation because it means I look fit. I look like I "play sport", but bodybuilding is the last thing that pops into most people's minds because it isn't particularly common, especially among women.

I had a guy I know also ask me if I've been running marathons. Most people don't understand the difference in all the looks for any given sport. But you said it well - people think we just look fit and that's a good thing.

[shesprints]

Haha. I've never gotten 'toned.' My dad does this thing, though, when he sees me after I've been lifting: he goes "HNGH!" and does gorilla arms (you know, arms out from body, shoulders up, fists clenched to make the traps pop). It is sufficiently evocative of my ripped-ness to feel like a compliment and yet hilarious enough that I can accept it from my father.

[dreahere]

I had a guy I know also ask me if I've been running marathons. Most people don't understand the difference in all the looks for any given sport. But you said it well - people think we just look fit and that's a good thing.

This is very true. I had a woman in the gym locker room the other day ask me what I do (in the gym, to get the body I have)--yoga? When I told her no, mostly I lift weights, I could just see the look of confusion come over her face. To her, any small, fit-looking woman must do lots of yoga!

[CashmereNCamo]

At this point in my life, I appreciate any compliment I get, especially when it DOESN'T include "for your age....." At the end, lol!!

Where's the "LIKE" button? lol

[Ralikar]

As women, you should understand most guys are terrified/intimidated/scared to approach a fit/attractive woman and they're just trying not to pee their pants, babble out something stupid they saw on Youtube, praying their Big Bang Theory geeky ringtone doesn't go off and hoping they zipped up cause it's too late to check... What they really mean to say is: "Hi, my name's Chad, and you seem to be a really empowered, strong, independent woman with solid character and intellect who clearly deads, squats and has probably done some GVT, clearly on top of your macros"... But it just doesn't come out that way... We mean well, we're just more timid and stupid than you suspect...

[CashmereNCamo]

As women, you should understand most guys are terrified/intimidated/scared to approach a fit/attractive woman and they're just trying not to pee their pants, babble out something stupid they saw on Youtube, praying their Big Bang Theory geeky ringtone doesn't go off and hoping they zipped up cause it's too late to check now... What they really mean to say is: "Hi, my name's Chad, and you seem to be a really empowered, strong, independent woman with solid character and intellect who clearly deads, squats and has probably done some GVT, clearly on top of your macros"... But it just doesn't come out that way... We mean well, we're just more timid and stupid than you suspect...

If some guy walked up to me and spit that out (coherently or otherwise), I'd be speechless (impressed, smitten, intrigued... ) I'd be thinking "Where has THIS been all my life?" ROFLMAO

[thepowerwithin]

As women, you should understand most guys are terrified/intimidated/scared to approach a fit/attractive woman and they're just trying not to pee their pants, babble out something stupid they saw on Youtube, praying their Big Bang Theory geeky ringtone doesn't go off and hoping they zipped up cause it's too late to check... What they really mean to say is: "Hi, my name's Chad, and you seem to be a really empowered, strong, independent woman with solid character and intellect who clearly deads, squats and has probably done some GVT, clearly on top of your macros"... But it just doesn't come out that way... We mean well, we're just more timid and stupid than you suspect...

Lol!

[anonymous]

As women, you should understand most guys are terrified/intimidated/scared to approach a fit/attractive woman and they're just trying not to pee their pants, babble out something stupid they saw on Youtube, praying their Big Bang Theory geeky ringtone doesn't go off and hoping they zipped up cause it's too late to check... What they really mean to say is: "Hi, my name's Chad, and you seem to be a really empowered, strong, independent woman with solid character and intellect who clearly deads, squats and has probably done some GVT, clearly on top of your macros"... But it just doesn't come out that way... We mean well, we're just more timid and stupid than you suspect...

love!

[QueenD562]

May not be relevant but the other day I posted something about cable attachments and replied to someone about a link he posted saying it might be a good investment (they were infastraps) I could find good use for them anywho an idiot replied saying that its a solution to a problem that doesn't exist. Thats not what pissed me off what did was his signature I guess thats what you would call it? It said "a recent survey showed that 1 in 3 woman are just as stupid as the other 2" I guess I shouldn't bother with it but I just wanted to vent, what an ass!

[sarah30]

LoL. . . .

So toned is bad? I knew I never said it for a reason.

What would you prefer? Muscular - Doesn't sound right, Fit - Maybe

You could say "fit" or "in good/great shape." Those are universal compliments. Another safe thing to say is that you appreciate or admire someone's work ethic. I had someone at my gym tell me they admired my work ethic and it felt good to hear. It's a good way to acknowledge someone's dedication without explicitly commenting on their physical appearance.

[Ralikar]

Maybe guys should admire/compliment women more for their personality, character, intellect because that's more important than 18% bf vs. 19%.

[meimonsta]

May not be relevant but the other day I posted something about cable attachments and replied to someone about a link he posted saying it might be a good investment (they were infastraps) I could find good use for them anywho an idiot replied saying that its a solution to a problem that doesn't exist. Thats not what pissed me off what did was his signature I guess thats what you would call it? It said "a recent survey showed that 1 in 3 woman are just as stupid as the other 2" I guess I shouldn't bother with it but I just wanted to vent, what an ass!

Haha putting other groups down to mask his own insecurity/incompetence...classic move.

And if I ever see any of you ladies on the streets, I'll be sure to note to you how awesomely muscular you are. Cause let's be real :-)

[CashmereNCamo]

Haha putting other groups down to mask his own insecurity/incompetence...classic move.

And if I ever see any of you ladies on the streets, I'll be sure to note to you how awesomely muscular you are. Cause let's be real :-)

YOU, my dear, are QUITE awesome! Nice post!

[CashmereNCamo]

Maybe guys should admire/compliment women more for their personality, character, intellect because that's more important than 18% bf vs. 19%.

There's a thought...

[CashmereNCamo]

LoL. . . .

So toned is bad? I knew I never said it for a reason.

What would you prefer? Muscular - Doesn't sound right, Fit - Maybe

You could say "fit" or "in good/great shape." Those are universal compliments. Another safe thing to say is that you appreciate or admire someone's work ethic. I had someone at my gym tell me they admired my work ethic and it felt good to hear. It's a good way to acknowledge someone's dedication without explicitly commenting on their physical appearance.

Personally, I shine when I hear "solid", "nice physique", "good build", "in shape", "fit"... I'll also take "awesome" graciously. Just sayin'. lol

[EvinHoll]

Maybe guys should admire/compliment women more for their personality, character, intellect because that's more important than 18% bf vs. 19%.

This is true, however...
When we're having dinner conversation or exchanging casualties, please compliment me on my charming personality and quick wit. When I'm in class, in the lab, giving a presentation or participating in a discussion, please compliment me on my dedication and thorough understanding of my field of work.

When I'm walking around town on a Hades hot day in a shirt with the sleeves ripped off or if I'm in the gym picking up heavy things with the force of Thor's hammer and putting them down with the smoothness of Michael Jackson's last moonwalk... Tell me I look jacked as phuk and fist pound me.

Wouldhusbandorwifewhoeverdoesthis/10

[Artemis00]

This is true, however...
When we're having dinner conversation or exchanging casualties, please compliment me on my charming personality and quick wit. When I'm in class, in the lab, giving a presentation or participating in a discussion, please compliment me on my dedication and thorough understanding of my field of work.

When I'm walking around town on a Hades hot day in a shirt with the sleeves ripped off or if I'm in the gym picking up heavy things with the force of Thor's hammer and putting them down with the smoothness of Michael Jackson's last moonwalk... Tell me I look jacked as phuk and fist pound me.

Wouldhusbandorwifewhoeverdoesthis/10

Well said...very well said.

There is a time and a place regarding complimenting. If a person doesn't know my personality, intelligence or character...I can certainly understand complimenting me on what is immediately apparent which is the physique and I appreciate that since it has taken a lot of hard work. But if that is all the person focuses on, even after getting to know me...can be quite off putting.

As for comments about my physical appearance...it really depends on the intent regarding how I receive them. Being called skinny can be both a compliment or an insult.

[EvinHoll]

Well said...very well said.

There is a time and a place regarding complimenting. If a person doesn't know my personality, intelligence or character...I can certainly understand complimenting me on what is immediately apparent which is the physique and I appreciate that since it has taken a lot of hard work. But if that is all the person focuses on, even after getting to know me...can be quite off putting.

As for comments about my physical appearance...it really depends on the intent regarding how I receive them. Being called skinny can be both a compliment or an insult.

So true. When someone calls me skinny I immediately put on more layers of clothes and start eating cheeseburgers. Not even joking, serious muscle dysmorphia aka bigorexia

[thepowerwithin]

Maybe guys should admire/compliment women more for their personality, character, intellect because that's more important than 18% bf vs. 19%.

I like you