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05-22-2016, 01:15 AM #571It is a shame for a woman to grow old without ever seeing the strength and beauty of which her body is capable. Socrates
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05-22-2016, 02:28 AM #572
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05-22-2016, 04:57 AM #573
Broski,
Been a while since I have seen you around. Your are typically one of the guys giving advice, not asking. I read through your post and deff have some points to make in an effort to assist keeping your logic train on it's tracks.
Just about to clock in for my 16 hour shift. This should serve me well in burning some time
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05-22-2016, 05:02 AM #574
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Personally I would not be in a relationship with a guy who has double standards; as soon as it became clear, the relationship would be over or on the wind-down.
I feel that someone with double standards like this is essentially a hypocrite and doesn't consider you equal to them; and I couldn't have a relationship with a hypocrite who doesn't see me as their equal.
Some females may put up with it (also aware that some are never going to be honest about their real number) .... that's entirely up to them, 'to each their own'.
(Should add that I'd consider high numbers a red flag in both in both males & females for relationship/marriage material).Last edited by Maatkarah; 05-22-2016 at 05:33 AM.
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05-22-2016, 07:48 AM #575
Okay
First off
-You know guys and girls can't be "just friends", I know you know this. So if you were legit non interested in her, it's safe to assume she perhaps had feelings and downplayed her history because she was interested (her reason to lie)
-"experimenting with girls"...meh whatever, not a HUGE deal to me but surely activates my radar *I prefer no history like that myself* (whether she was in a 3-some or in a relationship with someone else is something I would dig for)
-"last gf's were virgins", even I understand that at my age...virgins are non existent, but PLENTY of women who are very close and own desirable traits like self respect etc. ("virgins" are a lucky bonus but not mandatory)
-"serial monogamist" is also a red flag broseph.
If "wary", you need to settle it and inquire. Your "instincts" could be your own infatuation blinding you from looking further into it. Again you of all people already know this. I think you are falling head over heels here, and forgetting about listening to your gut, logic, protecting yourself. *a common mistake for men*
-"makes me think she's good at hiding things", this is your gut telling you something.
-a girl with a repressed sexuality or past does NOT openly discuss sex with "guy friends"/10
-she's a fan of 50 shades. Is it possible that she is "playing the role" as the nice sweet innocent girl to play out her own fantasy? Meanwhile manipulating the fuk outta you as a side effect...
-possible you were involved with or in ear shot of these convos and she "liked" you even back then, therefore doing her best to keep her mouth shut in order to come off as a "good girl"?
-On a side note, I have yet to meet a woman who even entertains reading 50 shades to have a "limited sexual history". It's a book created to entertain the typical westernized female.
Dude...she uses "sloot logic"...I think you already know she isn't worth the commitment. Again you are simply infatuated at best. Once your little honeymoon faze start to fade, your good old self, the logical Broski will do what it does best.
I wish you the best of luck brah, enjoy having fun. Just remember what's what mmmkay?
***finally, I want to add that the Broski that I know...would NOT find himself in such a bind over some white western sloot logic female****LEO crew*
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05-22-2016, 08:05 AM #576
This is some of the same old silliness that belongs in female misc.
This "hypocritical" stance is only based on false logic that men and women are the same and equal in all regards. Even the most retarded westernized female can see that double standards exist and go way beyond past sex partners. The typical majority of "double standards" are greatly weighed in favor of women. Past sex partners is simply a biological and age old textbook method of determining a womans value for commitment (it's why girls under estimate and guys over estimate *real tea*). "double standards" regarding the ability to lay down and get fukked are greatly in favor of females too.
So...
Fem/whiteknight misc ------>Last edited by FitnessBlue; 05-22-2016 at 08:30 AM.
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05-22-2016, 08:54 AM #577
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Response I expected.
Didn't say double standards don't exist - of course they do (and I understand some of the reasons behind them) - but you have a choice as to whether you accept them in your relationships or not; I happen not to and it's worked out for me so far ... but everyone's different.
Also, for the sake of argument; past sexual partners & behaviour is also a benchmark for determining a man's suitability for commitment - women don't want their partner's resources going to support other women & children any more than men want their resources supporting children who aren't theirs.
All we can do is decide on our 'standards' and try to make a relationship work with someone around that.Last edited by Maatkarah; 05-22-2016 at 09:00 AM.
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05-22-2016, 09:53 AM #578
Yes but I know women who had horrible abusive childhoods, slooty/partying pasts and realized that their behavior was going to make them dead/miserable by the age of 30 so they joined a church or some sort of religious group/AA, something to make up for the lack of stability they had in childhood.
We didn't ask to have abusive background and be sexually abused as children. I have compassion for these people because no child should have to go through this.
I myself am going through a religious transformation. I REALLY disliked evangelical churches, and went to a mellow church that was open to gays/lesbians but still got obsessed with younger men, used sex to try to get relationships, and I'm not proud of my sexual past to say the least, like you.
So I swallowed my pride, I really dislike that this church is against gays and lesbian and believes that women shouldn't be in positions of power in the church over men, as the Episcopalian church allows women to be ministers, but I need something to kick me in the ass before I become STD-ridden/pregnant/living on the streets because I'm a slave to my high sex drive and love for hot muscular young men.
Good for you for making efforts to better yourself. What type of efforts are you doing? I'm just curious as I'm doing the same.
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05-22-2016, 10:11 AM #579
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05-22-2016, 07:43 PM #580
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05-24-2016, 07:00 AM #581
Lol 7. A girl I used to mess with was 18 and had like 17 bodies..lil juicebox was good though. My girl now has less than 4. I'm wiring this one up. Be lucky she only has 7. Most women numbers are high.
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10-02-2016, 03:25 PM #582
Interestingly, I find myself in a similar boat right now. This has nothing to do with trust in my case. My woman is trustworthy. Maybe I'm on too much test hahaha. Mine is more of a I want to possess her and have her all to myself and she never had anybody else. Totally primal and selfish. We just hit two years and I wasn't feeling this way before. I guess I had a protective skin on me. My feelings strengthened and with that came these feelings. I'm not worried about cheating or trust. Instead, I fantasize about finding her before she was anybody else's and making her mine. I realize I'm being stupid. I can intellectually understand what is wrong with what I'm thinking/feeling. What I can't figure out is why I can't shake the feelings. I'm not insecure. If I am then it is in sprinkles and also related to just wanting her for myself. I feel like a lion that wants to kill all the lions before me.... not that there were many. But to me atm even one is too many and I want to destroy! Raaaaawwwwwwwrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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10-02-2016, 04:58 PM #583
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01-04-2017, 11:04 AM #585
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01-04-2017, 07:50 PM #589
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My bf and I haven't discussed the specifics of our sexual past, but he does know I've had previous relationships and ONS before we started dating seriously (funnily enough, he was my first ever ONS five years ago lol). And I know the basics of his past. But we don't know numbers and I don't think we ever will. I just don't think there's a need when all that matters we are together now and committed/trust one another.
Funnily enough, my bf seems more put off by my past relationships than my ONS, given I had feels in those relationships, whereas ONS were just physical fun, no strings attached.
Anyway, I don't think the number of partners matters too much, as long as each person was safe during those encounters. And I honestly think it's a good thing my fella has probably banged lots of chicks before me. Means he's had a lot of practice and I get to reap the rewards nowNot all those who wander are lost.
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01-04-2017, 08:49 PM #590
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01-04-2017, 09:15 PM #592
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01-04-2017, 11:01 PM #593
Deez hoz will lie to you anyway. In my experience, most women say fewer than 10. FOH. You'll never know so dont waste ur time inquiring. U can be a good girl whose smashed a lot. Some women DO grow out of it. I did have one fwb admit to over 40 at age 24. I was smashing raw too eeeeeeek...im good doe
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01-04-2017, 11:45 PM #594
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01-05-2017, 10:36 AM #596
You're 16 and she's 17... There's no future there whether she's ridden 2 or 200 cawks.
You're too young and she's too young and neither of you will be the same person in 5 or 10 years.
Have fun. When it ends - and it will end - just move on. At your age, dating is about gaining experiences and learning what you like and don't like in a girl. Don't even think about getting serious about a sloot until you're at least 25. That's not because you're not ready... it's because those sloots aren't ready at that age and they will break your heart (see hypergamy)."Buy a man eat fish, the day, teach man, to lifetime." - Joe Biden
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01-05-2017, 08:18 PM #597
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10-18-2017, 09:22 PM #598
I agree.
I ended a 5 year relationship. Met her when she was 32...online,
I could not shake off of the feeling that something bad was going to happen despite all the mental gymnastics I tried.
My little radars increased my anxiety throughout the relationship :
- I sensed she was not totally honest with me about her past (found and heard many red flags). She had a very introverted personality. Yet she would get extroverted when she was stimulated...
- She had wandering eyes and for some reason would connect better with strangers than with me.
- There was a constant feeling of being rejected by her. I guess this was the lack of pair bonding.
I suspect from all my snooping (caused by the anxiety) that she slept at least with 20 men...but the number could be much higher.
I have myself to blame as well. Attachment trauma from childhood coupled with a promiscuous woman (that lack bonding capacity) is a recipe for hurt.
The past is not always the past. If you feel it is bothering you. You have to end it because it will eat you alive. Trust me the feeling does not go away,
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12-05-2017, 01:25 PM #599
Interesting
Some interesting information here, especially from FitnessBlue.
I'm a mid 40's male, and I can tell you this... it don't get easier as you get older, I have dated women that probably quarter their exploits, when women get older they get more desperate, many do anal and even deep throat, but how many guys did it take to learn that ****?
I'd give anything for a woman who just had 7 guys, I think last time a girl who had a low count was my ex wife who had 3 guys, yet you know what, she turned out to be a total **** and took me for a house and kids, so maybe I should have gone with the girl who had more experience at that time.
As an older guy we were programmed to believe women are gentle, nicer and not sluts apart from the odd few... unfortunately after years of being out there, I pretty much hate to say I have found most women are sluts when the mood takes them, as a dater now of divorced women, I have yet to meet one who hasn't ****ed around on their married husband, they seem to like to tell you this as it is getting back at there ex, although it kinda disgusts me.
The thought of a woman ****ing lots of guys before yourself, is not nice at all, but unfortunately the way it has become nowadays. Whats kinda odd is I used to go to Thailand and bang lots of hookers and even took some out for dates (not to marry up lol) and it never bothered me at all that they had probably screwed hundreds of guys... you know why? cos at least they were honest and they were what they were a hooker... now to me I would give many hookers more respect than a girl who ****s guys for free all day long.
My advice to you would be, never marry regardless as that **** is done nowadays, its just too risky financially... maybe get yourself out to Thailand and bang a load of whores then see how you feel when you get back, odds are when you stacked your numbers up you probably won't care as much.
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12-05-2017, 01:28 PM #600
Probably not man, i'll be honest I don't think most girls are ready to settle down until at least mid 20's, I had a beautiful girl at 17 she was a virgin, I kept her til she was 25 then found she was screwing around, it broke me and I never recovered knowing a girl I trusted that much and was mine and only mine could have done that to me. Her reason was she hadn't been with any other guys, and yet we had a great sex life... but the same person gets old fast.
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