My father (RIP) was always harsh towards her, telling her from a young age she wanted her to be a boy. She was always kind of mannish and never really fit the role of a traditional woman. A few years back she came out to her husband that she was a lesbian, which was not a shock to any of us. Now she is marrying an AWESOME girl who the entire family adores beyond measure. For the past few years shes been super butch, chopping all of her hair off and refusing to shave her armpits and legs (which is fuking disgusting to look at). Now she has told us that she wishes for us to refer to her as our brother, and use the various iterations of the pronoun "he" when referring to her. She also let us know that she will be starting Testosterone Replacement Therapy to begin her transformation in to a man. Her fiance is NOT ok with it and she will most likely lose her as she is a lesbian and has no interest in men.
I want to support her, however this is where Im losing it....
Since she is diabetic and will be undergoing this process (which could have adverse effects on her health), she has decided that society owes her disability for the ridicule that she received from early childhood based on her appearance and lifestyle. Shes beginning the application process soon and due to her various health conditions and weight, will mostly likely receive it.
Any advice brahs? Please respect the srs tag.
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- Sister has always been mannish
- Came out as gay to her husband then family
- Became butch and stopped shaving
- Decided she is a man in a womans body
- Has fiance who is awesome, but NOT ok with it
- Wants to draw disability because she thinks society owes it to her
- Wut do?
Also, correct me if I got the terminology wrong. I know nothing about this chit.
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04-23-2013, 04:24 PM #1
My sister has decided she is a man, starting testosterone replacement soon. (srs)
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What I find interesting is that one very emotional comment from her dad at a young age made such a huge impact and most likely caused all of this conviction she now has on the subject.
Really gotta be careful what you say to your kids when young..Facial aesthetics determine attractiveness, all other attributes are just minor perks.
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Unfortunate, the gender identity was lost during her development as a child. In school we learned about why people go through this. Gender identity as in "we know we're boys" & "we know we're girls" has long been thought that boys and girls wake up one day - look at their anatomy and realize the gender they are. It's actually far from that, but rather it's the social interactions that child has growing up, in addition to those parental guidance. Gender identity is usually locked into place by 3 or 4, and once it's set - there's not reversal to the system. Hence, why once it's locked - it's easier to help the person transition into the gender they want to be (ie hrt, sex change operations, etc etc)
Good luck to your sister. I hope that you help her out with everything...
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Your sister sounds like a jackass. Brb I'm not interested in men nor attracted to them, only females. Brb become a man myself while losing my current GF because of it. Sounds like a cry for attention. Tell her to shut the **** up and live her life rather than begging for people to notice her. Let her doctor know that she is basically wanting there to be complications from the test and diabetes, and she is fine with this as long as she collects disability. Don't let her **** over hardworking people and people that are actually disabled. That way if she pulls this ****, not only is she on the line for fraud, but he would pretty much be an accomplice.
I support L/G/Bi/TG, not a dumb miscer who thinks it's the end of the world when it comes to stuff like this, but your sister clearly has some issues and is doing this for all the wrong reasons.
And if she honestly believes she'll get less chit for becoming a man, rather than just being a lesbian, she has another thing coming and LOL. Gay is pretty accepted everywhere despite some parts of the MW, and the South. Gender changing on the other hand, not many people support that at all.Last edited by KC2892; 04-23-2013 at 04:42 PM.
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She has a therapist that shes loves due to her feminist views. Im sure this lady only fuels the fire =/ She definitely has DEEP psychological issues that go beyond anything I can personally understand. My family has a bad problem of being immensely stubborn and argumentative, so getting her to even rationalize a simple concept is beyond the amount of work any individual would want to put in.
It definitely wasnt one comment, it was more like her entire childhood until she disowned him when she left for college. My father was definitely no saint. I still firmly believe that despite her extreme insecurity a great deal of her problems lie within her endless want for attention. She will do ANYTHING to draw a persons attention.
Correct me if Im misunderstanding, but her fiance is the one who stated she is a lesbian and has no interest in men. This is causing my sister to throw away the only positive relationship she has had in her life.############################
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I'm sure as a brother in this situation it is much more difficult to hear and deal with. But what really rustled my jimmies is that she expects to get disability for it? lolwut? Disability is for people who have disabilities, not for people who have been "ridiculed". That sort of entitlement really gives people with disabilities a bad name and I do not like that.
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