Okay, so I am new to the misc, but I have lurked around the forums before to know that some of you guys here can give me good advice. Sorry about my vent on my life, but I don't have anyone I can trust to say this to, so ****it, the internet it is. As the title suggests, how do I stop being such a little beta pssy around girls I like? I am 16 years old, never had a girlfriend, but I talk to girls enough to know that they see me as some "nice guy". It was not until recently that I went through some threads and saw how much of a littlebitch I was being and how "scared" I was. I am antisocial, but I can talk with people whom I partly know and can talk with people a lot when i get to know them, but the issue is breaking the ice with people whom I never even talked with before, especially girls. there have been a good number of girls that I like/ would date etc., but I am too beta to even say hi to them, even when they look at me a lot! i don't fcking know what happened to me as a kid, but I was never a social guy myself, even way back into elementary school. I can blame it on the fact that none of the male role models in my household are exactly alpha in any sense, or that I was deprived of female interaction in my life (only have a brother, all my cousins except one are guys), but that is a excuse. I was overweight until 6th - 7th grade, where I actually started to exercise and lose weight, and I gained confidence in my looks... but I am not confident in myself overall.
It was not even a week ago where I decided that I cannot live this pitiful life as a "nice guy" or as an insecure beta**** that folds up whenever I see a girl I like. I took some initiative in improving my posture and my demeanor when i approach people. I am practicing to make eye contact with everyone I see/meet, whether of not they are a guy or a girl. Also, I used to be so down on myself for not being this or not being that (eg too short, not buff enough, not good looking enough) and throwing that out the window. Fck what I am not, I fcking here and I am here to fcking stay. It is still a long process for me, but I have to gain this self confidence in myself that I am the motherfcker, whether or not others see it that way. I can't feel sorry about myself and what I am not, and focus on the things important in life, but of course, it's easier to say this than to do it.
essentially, I want to know what you guys did to become the kind of person you are? Some of you alphas out there getting pssy every other hour, how do you guys build, if not, acquire this sense of power and confidence? to be honest, I am lost with my life, and really no sense of purpose in it. my grades in high school sucks and the only thing I can focus on is girls, but I am not having much luck in that department. I want to be able to talk to girls decently enough so that it does not hinder my growth in the future.
Looking at my life in perspective, I admit that what I fear most is rejection, and I know that personally. There have been two girls so far in my life that have in a way rejected me and saw me only as a "friend". The first girl I admitted to her that I have liked her for 3 years, but she only wanted to be my friend. In reponse to her, I just said fckthat and stopped being her friend. the second girl was similar to the first, but I guess I responded like a beta by just not talking to her for like almost 1 year now. I stopped talking to these girls and I refused to be a friend to girls that i wanted to date. Is this the right course of action? one of the girls called me insecure and a jerk for only wanted to date them and not being a friend to them? I mean, wtf, I don't want to just be a friend to girls. Girls I talk to now are the ones I wanna date, but I have troubles talking to them a lot. I lose my mind and start ****tingbricks whenever I talk to them, yet I noticed that there are guys around them that could talk to them just like that. Easy. I believe i keep a good distance of girls I wanna date and those I don't ever want to be in the same bed with. With girls I never want to bed, I can be whatever to them and not care what I say. girls I want to date are ones where I am the most careful... I just don't want to be rejected like before. However, I know you guys out there cannot find it in your mind to give a single, don't mention one half, of a **** about rejection. How do you guys deal with rejection?? whenever I get rejected, I just stop talking to them, but other people seem to be completely unphased by it..
and one last thing. So there is this girl in my class that i like a lot, but I am obviously too pssy to really be that assertive guy. I sit next to her, and I have talked to her a lot and made her laugh and flirt (kinda) wwith her, but I don't want to end up as a good "friend" like before. the guy that sits behind her can talk to her so easily and could even talk to the girl behind me as well (which is hot as fck). I am just there fishing for things to say... the best is when we have to work together on an assignment where I can talk more easily, but straight up I fck up. So if you stayed this long to read, sorry for taking up your time, but give this beta phaggot some advice/criticism/life lessons that I can go by.
Cliffs: Living as a beta phaggot whenever with girls I like
Tired of being "nice guy" or friend"
fears rejection: 2 girls rejected me before, so ended up not being their friend, cause fckthat
how do you deal with rejection?
talking to the girl I like, but too much of betabitch to make a strong move at her, decent relationship