Random Female Comments Thread II

[flyfreefit]

Thanks guise <3

[AnnalisaLynn]

^ was thinking of you when I was doing my measly 1 plate deadlifts today. Hahaha

*sigh*

Sometimes like I feel like throwing a hissy fit is the only way I can get my husband to do anything. I'll ask him nicely once...twice..three times. Space it out to once a week so I'm not constantly nagging. I will sit him down and talk about it...plead with him even. Leave gentle reminders. Give to-do lists. Nothing works. It's only when I break down and go ballistic that he actually takes initiative. I hate it because now blow ups are starting to become my go to reaction...and that is not who I am.

[penny0527]

^ was thinking of you when I was doing my measly 1 plate deadlifts today. Hahaha

*sigh*

Sometimes like I feel like throwing a hissy fit is the only way I can get my husband to do anything. I'll ask him nicely once...twice..three times. Space it out to once a week so I'm not constantly nagging. I will sit him down and talk about it...plead with him even. Leave gentle reminders. Give to-do lists. Nothing works. It's only when I break down and go ballistic that he actually takes initiative. I hate it because now blow ups are starting to become my go to reaction...and that is not who I am.

When he does do something what is your reaction?

[AnnalisaLynn]

Good question. I always thank him. I try to remember to tell him that it's a big help and it really takes a load off and it means a lot when he helps. I mean I don't throw confetti or bake a cake but I don't think it is necessary when he was just doing regular things that need to be done around the house.

Do I need to be more...celebratory?

[penny0527]

Good question. I always thank him. I try to remember to tell him that it's a big help and it really takes a load off and it means a lot when he helps. I mean I don't throw confetti or bake a cake but I don't think it is necessary when he was just doing regular things that need to be done around the house.

Do I need to be more...celebratory?

If you want the behavior to continue yes. No one wants to do things just because it's their job to do it. My husband is a do-er. He likes the satisfaction he gets from a job well done. He loves the satisfaction of having someone else acknowledge it. I play on that by making a big deal of everything. If I come home and he's cleaned the kitchen I will acknowledge it immediately when I walk through the door. I don't say "hi, honey. How was your day?" I immediately say "Wow! The kitchen is clean! It sparkles! You even scrubbed the sink. And the stove. You normally forget to clean the stove. It looks great." This goes so much farther than "Thank you." It's like when I cook. If he says "dinner was good" big deal right? "If he says "That was the best thing you've ever cooked hands down" guess what I'm going to do more of?

[MilaGroski]

If you want the behavior to continue yes. No one wants to do things just because it's their job to do it. My husband is a do-er. He likes the satisfaction he gets from a job well done. He loves the satisfaction of having someone else acknowledge it. I play on that by making a big deal of everything. If I come home and he's cleaned the kitchen I will acknowledge it immediately when I walk through the door. I don't say "hi, honey. How was your day?" I immediately say "Wow! The kitchen is clean! It sparkles! You even scrubbed the sink. And the stove. You normally forget to clean the stove. It looks great." This goes so much farther than "Thank you." It's like when I cook. If he says "dinner was good" big deal right? "If he says "That was the best thing you've ever cooked hands down" guess what I'm going to do more of?

One thing I learned is comment on the good, not the bad (unless its a huge issue). People respond better to positive reinforcement than negatives which just get your guard up.

[Big_Sky_Guy]

Nice work FFF!


I will second what penny said. I am in the opposite boat. She is fine with a pile of dishes and laundry if that means we go skiing. I am the one who is not Ok with it and have had to learn to ease up.

She is not going to change, so I do my part to notice and acknowledge when she does help out.

[AnnalisaLynn]

Thanks ladies and gentleman...yes you're probably right. I do thank him and I try to elaborate but I know I can be a little dry sometimes. I'll do my best to be more empathic when he gets the job done. I know part of it is that I am just very tired and I don't feel enthusiastic about much when I get home but I can't really complain about the situation if my own response isn't helping. Thanks again. Sorry for being a glum chum.

[penny0527]

Thanks ladies and gentleman...yes you're probably right. I do thank him and I try to elaborate but I know I can be a little dry sometimes. I'll do my best to be more empathic when he gets the job done. I know part of it is that I am just very tired and I don't feel enthusiastic about much when I get home but I can't really complain about the situation if my own response isn't helping. Thanks again. Sorry for being a glum chum.

It's worth a shot. I wouldn't so much say it helps you out. That only goes so far. Go for praising how well the job was done.

[Big_Sky_Guy]

Thanks ladies and gentleman...yes you're probably right. I do thank him and I try to elaborate but I know I can be a little dry sometimes. I'll do my best to be more empathic when he gets the job done. I know part of it is that I am just very tired and I don't feel enthusiastic about much when I get home but I can't really complain about the situation if my own response isn't helping. Thanks again. Sorry for being a glum chum.

Trust me, I have been where you are a time or two. Just worn down and needing some help/support to get back on top of things.

I typically rant for 5 minutes that x,y,z needs done over the next couple weeks so we can enjoy our downtime and we find some sort of compromise to get us both where we need to be. Just real world stuff,

[bigfish18q]

I know if I got a to do list from my significant other, I wouldn't be very happy. I can understand the frustration though.

[penny0527]

I know if I got a to do list from my significant other, I wouldn't be very happy. I can understand the frustration though.

My husband LOVES to do lists. It gives him something to do when he's off. I don't preface it with "this needs to be done by end of day" though. It just things I would like done at some point.

[AnnalisaLynn]

Thanks again everyone I feel a bit more optimistic about the situation now!
Oh and he was the one that asked for the to-do list because he said I was not specific when I asked for help which is fair enough. I didn't realize how specific I had to be...like wash ALL the dishes and not just the plates and leave all the knives, forks, pots and pans for me. :P

It will get better though. Thanks for all of your realistic and no-nonsense answers. You guys rock.

[littleshark]

Hi guise.


Finally hit 300+ on my squat. Sho happy <3

This is so awesome.

[littleshark]

My husband LOVES to do lists. It gives him something to do when he's off. I don't preface it with "this needs to be done by end of day" though. It just things I would like done at some point.

I second this. My bf and I have a running list on the fridge of things that need to get done around the house. I think he feels way more productive when he sees things being crossed off on a regular basis.

[CaliSun]

anyone here use lifting gloves? I've tried to tough it out, but my callouses are getting pretty ridiculous. Advice? Opinions?

[bigfish18q]

I second this. My bf and I have a running list on the fridge of things that need to get done around the house. I think he feels way more productive when he sees things being crossed off on a regular basis.

Now, if it's a joint list of things you both need to get done then that's cool. I just don't like the idea of being given a list of chores lol. Everyone's different I suppose.

[Richy P]

I used to use cycling gloves as lifting gloves. They were good for when the bar 'felt' too thin kind of like a cheese grater trying to slice through your hands whilst doing bench work.

They also weren't too bad on pull exercises - no loss of grip, in some cases I would say they allowed me to hold on for longer. Only trouble is, if you have sweaty hands when doing exercise, they may slip over your palms and reduce grip.

[penny0527]

Now, if it's a joint list of things you both need to get done then that's cool. I just don't like the idea of being given a list of chores lol. Everyone's different I suppose.

Mine isn't joint. It doesn't say things like "the dishes." If there are dishes we do them. Don't need a list for that. My list is things I cannot do or won't do like "replace glass on china cabinet door" or "fix bathroom faucet." Like I said my husband is a do-er. The basic stuff is unwritten that everyone does it.

[Ma110W]

anyone here use lifting gloves? I've tried to tough it out, but my callouses are getting pretty ridiculous. Advice? Opinions?

I use versa gripps for back day and deadlifts (which is where the majority of my calluses come from.) I still get a few rough spots, but they have helped a lot.

[ChelaBella]

anyone here use lifting gloves? I've tried to tough it out, but my callouses are getting pretty ridiculous. Advice? Opinions?

My boy told me about Liquid grip u can get it here on BB.com and he swears by it. I actually looked it up and has some good reviews here. Here's a thread a guy is raving about it. Might try it out too...my callouses peels and comes back peels and comes back and getting bigger.

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=143330903

[mhockey9090]

anyone here use lifting gloves? I've tried to tough it out, but my callouses are getting pretty ridiculous. Advice? Opinions?

Try using straps as well. It will take away from you having to grip as hard with your hands.

My boy told me about Liquid grip u can get it here on BB.com and he swears by it. I actually looked it up and has some good reviews here. Here's a thread a guy is raving about it. Might try it out too...my callouses peels and comes back peels and comes back and getting bigger.

http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showth...hp?t=143330903

I've used liquid chalk before and it works great. But for me it kind of came off easily and needed to re apply it quite often.

[IronCharles]

I wear lifting gloves. It's been my experience that women prefer a softer, smoother touch. I like being encouraged to touch.

[cowboybiker]

[flyfreefit]

Nice work FFF!

You negged me =*(

[MrJuZhong]

I wear lifting gloves. It's been my experience that women prefer a softer, smoother touch. I like being encouraged to touch.

acquire wife, you hands can be sandpaper and you get twice the touching.

[littleshark]

Now, if it's a joint list of things you both need to get done then that's cool. I just don't like the idea of being given a list of chores lol. Everyone's different I suppose.

Joint list all the way. He'd be annoyed if I handed him a list and vice versa so it's a good compromise and we argue way less.

[cowboybiker]

You negged me =*(

I just white knighted you

[discdoggie]

Some people just read text and don't COMPREHEND, and re-parrot the info and it's quite obvious they Should just STFU because they sound retarded.

[AnnalisaLynn]

I only just learned how to check my recent reputation and I'm actually choked up. I had so many lovely messages in the comments that I didn't even know were there. There are so many kind and wonderful people on this forum!!!