i lost 63 lbs and now really getting into fitness and health. im considering even becoming a fitness instructor. but my husband is just gaining more and more weight never wants to work out and wont even act like he is interested in what i have to say about it. i drive. him crazy and if i become a fitness instructor going to even get more into it. i feel like our lives are heading diff directions but i dont want to stop being this way and just be avg weight because he doesnt like it. has anyone seen this happen or have the same problem. honestly ive just gotten less attracted to him because he eats so much and what not.
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Thread: husband is driving me nuts
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03-26-2013, 10:06 PM #1
husband is driving me nuts
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03-26-2013, 10:39 PM #2
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Is there any way you can encourage him to participate in things without it coming across as "you need to do this to lose weight"? He could be the type of guy where the more you push the more stubborn he becomes (I'm similar). Who cooks? Can you change any meals you cook to healthy meals so you are indirectly helping him? He could just be jealous of your drive & attitude and wishes he had it too so being all snarky about it
ps congrats on the 63!
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03-26-2013, 11:24 PM #3
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03-26-2013, 11:31 PM #4
^^lol'd at sig
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You know your going to cheat on him, if you haven't already, with some better looking/in shape guy so why delay the inevitable?
Since he isn't giving you what you want, get it from somewhere else or stop complaining like a whiny little bitch.**Mod Negg'd Crew** KyleAaron why u mad tho lol
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03-26-2013, 11:32 PM #5
such a tough situation to be in. i've been in it before, but with other things like life goals instead of fitness. my situation didnt work out, but it was just a relationship not a marriage. he probably feels threatened and like you may be wanting to upgrade or something. men dont like to talk about stuff like that, but i know women do stuff like what youre describing when their man gets in good shape because my ex wife did that to me many years ago. anyway good luck
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03-28-2013, 09:54 PM #6
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03-28-2013, 09:57 PM #7
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03-28-2013, 09:59 PM #8
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03-28-2013, 10:31 PM #9
first off i never said i wanted to bounce.. if i did i wouldnt have asked for advice i love my hubby and wish he would realize how much better and energetic he would.feel. second of all i use to be in great shape but gained weight with four pregnancys and then lost it all again.. ive already been helping people with weightloss and enjoy it throughly.. Its a passion of mine so yes i would love to make a career out of it! unlike people who have just been in shape the whole time i have been their and understand where they are coming from
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03-28-2013, 10:38 PM #10
Read: Sloot code for I am doing better all of the sudden and thus my life deserves to be instantly better in all regards. (Read: D)
Tell him, "Honestly Pops, I've squirted out 4 babies for you but that is just going to mean a bigger child support check (Read: Not just bigger Vag) if you don't start working up a sweat outside of shoving Lays in your mouth".
Or; be a ****ing human being and be patient with him, using the gentle nagging only a true wimmenz could provide, rather than the degrading absolutism of sloot logic.
Give him ~1 year to realize he must do it for his own health and not because you're just ego tripping and see if he comes around, if he does then it is true love!!!
If he doesn't, divorce + self-righteousness = Profit???
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03-28-2013, 10:39 PM #11
Good luck with the career change, keep in mind though you will be dealing with people with your husband's attitude a lot though. Speaking from experience a lot of the people who get a personal trainer do not want to be there but are there because they either feel guilty or because someone else told them they need to, most aren't willing or ready to put in the hard work to change their lifestyle and to be quite honest it can start to drag you down because they are so negative. I only train friends or friends of friends now that are clearly committed as I couldn't handle dealing with those people anymore and keep my cool.
As for your husband. He either wants to change or he doesn't. If he doesn't the relationship is headed towards it's end point because you can't make him change, he has to want to and if you try he will just resent you and you will resent him.Bench: 572lbs (https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9RrAfn0TfkY&feature=youtu.be)
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Over Head Press: 405lbs (https://youtu.be/h3o4jOBa8IM)
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03-28-2013, 10:39 PM #12
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03-28-2013, 10:47 PM #13
OP wants to upgrade. Ain't nobody got time for slobs
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03-28-2013, 10:52 PM #14
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03-29-2013, 06:03 AM #19
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If this thread was made by a guy whose gf was fat, the responses would be entirely different and you all know it.
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03-29-2013, 06:14 AM #20
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03-29-2013, 07:56 AM #21
And your point is?
This all stands to reason.Men are visually stimulated by the opposite sex.Looks=Everything.Women are more holistic when it comes to attraction of the opposite sex.The majority of women place very little value Ina mans physical appearance.Thats why most men can't understand when they see hot chicks with average looking guys.Men also have a lot more to offer as a partner apart from good looks
Edit:I'm not making excuses for the fat slob husbandI just came here on the internet to lie
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03-29-2013, 07:58 AM #22
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03-29-2013, 08:01 AM #23
That's how I was with my ex. I got big into lifting and bodybuilding (she encouraged it at first), she kept partying and getting bigger (doesnt bother me that she gained weight, cuz she was already bigger). It was frustrating to see the lack of attention or respect I would get after a while about working out.
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03-29-2013, 08:14 AM #24
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03-29-2013, 08:33 AM #25
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What the fuk ever happened to marriage being for better or for worse? Homeboy isn't cheating on you or beating the fuk out of you is he? Just love him and be positive. He needs to want to change. Just because you ALL OF SUDDEN change doesn't mean he has to. Talk to him, share your concerns, and work through them.
I would give this same advice to a married man who's wife is getting fat. You need to EXHAUST all efforts before you go and throw in the towel.LOGIC / emotion = CONTROL
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03-29-2013, 08:47 AM #26
Stop having sex with him and tell him you feel less attracted to him because he is gaining weight. Will be an argument but at least he will know he needs to get in shape
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03-29-2013, 08:54 AM #27
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03-29-2013, 09:32 AM #29
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Maybe I didn't communicate my concern correctly. My grief with this thread and the way it is presented is in the fact that she is already talking about leaving her husband. For that to even be an option this soon after her transformation shows where her priorities are. I am a huge advocate for changing/growing with your significant other, but one must understand that it is not that simple. She became passionate about something and is now making threats based on her change. All I'm saying is she needs to have a talk with her husband and make a decent attempt at being a positive spouse before threats start flying.
I know she didn't mention giving her husband an ultimatum (yet). But her responses definitely show that to be an option.Last edited by BIGrob84; 03-29-2013 at 09:45 AM.
LOGIC / emotion = CONTROL
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03-29-2013, 09:47 AM #30
So you basically saying you have 4 kids together. You're married.
But you're willing to divorce him, break a family in pieces, ruin 4 children having a normal life with 2 parents,
just because your husband is gaining weight?
You're willing to do all of this so you can suck on another guys dick who isn't overweight?
Another dick is worth breaking up your family?
This is exactly why people on here are against marriages.
Ever think that your husband is tired after working all day?
Ever think your husband loves you for who you are, being his wife and the mother of his children?
Ever think you should love your husband no matter what till death parts you, like you said in your wedding vows?
Or are you so shallow that you're willing to ruin your husbands life and those of your kids, just because you want to fuk some fit dude?
You shouldn't even suggest leaving him.
What if he gets sick, do you leave him then too?
Fukking sloots gonna sloot.
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Ps: I don't get mad often, but you're a fukking kunt.
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