Well I'm into four months now guys. But I don't have a good post, I ****ed up just now. I'll still post it because maybe some of you are going through the same thing.
I spent probably 15 minutes ogling girls on the internet. Like non-nude pornography (a distinction without a difference for me). I shouldn't say girls, they're f'in pixels. I clicked to some stupid French music video of girls walking around the streets of a city naked (well their naughty bits were blocked out). My addict brain knows I'm vulnerable, so a bunch of stupid excuses go through my head to just keep on looking, and to start looking at other "non-nude" pictures and gifs on 4chan. There were many, and obviously a part of me wants to look at these pixels, but the worst was that I was too proud too look away. I think I'm weak if I can't simply see naked women on the internet without getting all titillated, so I try to overcome this without success of course. Well I'm weak. I've just got to accept that. I got all these ideas about what sexual ethics should be, but if I get myself in the wrong situation, I will get titillated easily, and pride is just edging me on to go against my conscience. I'm weak and I know I have to run.
There was a recent post over at heartiste's blog (which I stopped reading regularly because it just depresses me, but this one was really popular so I found my way to it), it was an invective about how men are wimpier today. And he ended it with a rap about what this wimpy man does, and it described me to a t. And it has stuck with me for the past few days, and instead of trying to get away from being this wimpy man, an anxious pansy coward really, I just got sad and started to look at porn today. Porn is like comfort food and I'm a compulsive eater.
I really should get to reading some psychology, because I'm not having any success in dealing with these negative thoughts. I'm sure a part of me simply likes these negative thoughts and feeling sorry for myself though. I know I should try to think positively, but when I do it just comes across as hollow, and it doesn't change my mood. And when I bring up psychology, I've heard that religion is the poor man's psychology, and the fact that I haven't been praying much lately has contributed to this slip up here.
Anyways I just have to be extra extra extra careful for the next few days. In the past 2 and some years that I tried no fap, every time I got like this and started to look at porn, my streak ended soon after. I CANNOT BE LOOKING AT PORN. I get a few months and I am still just as vulnerable. At least I'm not trapped in the habit of fapping and porn, but I'm not immune. Even though it's been four months, right now it feels like it's only been two or three days.
tl;dr I am 120+ days in and I still have to learn to be careful with what I do on the internet.
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05-20-2013, 10:40 PM #4141
Last edited by Adrogeus; 05-20-2013 at 10:47 PM.
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05-21-2013, 12:30 AM #4142
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I have my settings set to 50 posts per page. This entire page in a nutshell:
I'm going to make a "stahp" image when I get back from work, lol.Into- Mountaineering, running & Djent/Progressive music.
Anti- Lack of accountability. Censorship, fat acceptance, & current wave feminism. That's why I left the UK.
PRs: Highest mt. - 2962m (Zugspitze), Longest day hike - 70km.
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05-21-2013, 12:59 AM #4143
day 3
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05-21-2013, 06:16 AM #4144
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05-21-2013, 07:31 AM #4145
Day 10 checking in. Theres been moments where iv nearly slipped up. Iv watched non-nude women on the net but instantly pushed myself off it knowing that the only reason im doing this is because my brain is trying to make me vunerable. Wierdly enough though ive had 2 wet dreams within these 10 days . I mean it feels great i felt alpha after experiencing them as i have never really had a wet dream.
So far so good wish me luck reading these posts really helps as today i was feeling vulnerable but thankfully i picked myself up.
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05-21-2013, 11:02 AM #4146
Day whatever, maybe it's week 2? dont really care. keeping track of days makes me feel like i'm focusing too much on that. i'm a lot more aggressive now, more "alpha" if you can put it that way. but i'm also becoming more antisocial. people piss me off easier, and i'm thinking about moving away to a place where i know no one after i graduate. i kind of like it. brain fog is dissipating as well, so that's a plus
edit: still no wet dream. sigh.Too weak to post stats crew
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05-21-2013, 11:37 AM #4147
Day 31. On night 29-30 i had my first wet dream. not sure tho(lol).
is it good to have wet dreams?
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05-21-2013, 03:16 PM #4148
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05-21-2013, 03:50 PM #4149
Day 5
Im ze fuhkin king from MONGOLIA !!
I rape your mother and sister you foohkin arsehol *******z !!!
noticed increased aggressssivness
noticed urge to RAPE !!
RAPE
punch sum fuhkin faces in their arsehole !!
rape
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05-21-2013, 06:46 PM #4150
Anyway...
Day 21 here. Feeling good. Really haven't felt any sort of difference until recently Didn't feel like doing chit all day (as well as the day before). I almost didn't go to the gym. Finally forced myself out of my seat and lifted. Had a fuarking awesome workout and have felt super motivated since then. More motivated than usual. Feeling awesome today, still on that motivational high. I am typically a motivated person already, but not always toward things I don't have too much of an interest in (cleaning, for one...). Said cleaning of my apartment is happening. I guess we shall see if this keeps up or if I just bumped my head yesterday and forgot about it!
Stay strong brahs.My last.fm accnt = http://www.last.fm/user/Headshot7
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05-21-2013, 07:24 PM #4151
- Join Date: Feb 2012
- Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
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Back in on this
Have no self control, gonna stop jerking it. Wanna be a good employee, get better gf, better lifts at gym and intensity while playing sports
Also must stop smoking weed and cigs
After every srs streak of nofap my life changes a bit... Hard to describe, could just be my perception changing
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05-21-2013, 08:20 PM #4152
I forgot how much bb.com sucks outside of this thread. For a few months now I was literally coming onto the site just to check this thread. I posted outside of this thread for the first time in a while today and man, people are *******s on here.
I really appreciate the No Fap brotherhood. Keep improving yourselves, you cheeky kunts.
Going into Day 22!"All I wanna be known as is the greatest, is that too much?"
- BJ Penn
The unfocused mind is the vulnerable mind.
May peace favor your sword.
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05-21-2013, 08:47 PM #4153
8 days down tomorrow morning, so far so good, going strong.
In these 9 days I've had 3 wet dreams, so it isn't that bad for me right now. I was really surprised that I've made it this far already. Not to say I wasn't confident that I could do it. Time just seems to have blown by without thinking about it too much.
Something over the past few weeks that has really gotten me thinking is about legacies, and how what we do now affects the legacy we leave. My great-grandmother passed almost 2 weeks ago, and she built one heck of a legacy with 30 descendants. Then I got to watching this video and it made me realize how important that legacy is. No fap is just a bigger part of this, by choosing to better ourselves we more equipped to deal with things in our lives. We can become better men (or women) and create something bigger than ourselves. So for ya'll who are looking for motivation, simply look at it one of two ways. If you fail now, you are burying yourself more and more into mediocrity and a life that creates nothing good. If you choose to abstain, to continue the reboot, then you can spend that time in the gym, reading more, meeting someone new and great in your life, repairing relationships that have dwindled over the years. Use your time to do great things!
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05-21-2013, 08:52 PM #4154
Passed the one month mark a few days ago
Second week was terrible, I posted ITT, blue balls were giving me hell but got it taken care of after a few days of pain. Since then I've learnt my lesson and don't engage in sexting or fantasizing about my FWB unless I know I'm seeing her within the next 24 hours.
Although I think I might be entering that zone where u lose horniness. I still walk through streets or sit in classes staring at girls tits thinking "hnngg!" but i find myself laying in bed thinking about sex almost never lately. I know with just a few clicks I could be seeing girls get naked but my willpower to keep the streak going is easily winning that battle. I think because I have a FWB I know that a release is on the weekend or something and so it's not as hard for me. She's heading interstate soon for a few months and apparently i'm not even allowed sexy skype chats so i'm pretty much ****ed in 8 weeks time
I'm still not entirely clear on what I should or shouldn't be doing in terms of getting aroused. I read a few posts every time I come in here from guys who say they failed cause they stalked some chicks pics on FB, or like the dude above who was looking at non-nude stuff. Am I not allowed to look at non-nude photos of girls? What about chit like sex scenes in movies? If I know there's a sex scene coming up I'm still like "yehh can't wait to see this bishes teds". Haha I don't go looking for this stuff, but if a girl pops up on FB or someone posts pics in a thread on here etc. am I not supposed to look?
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05-21-2013, 09:11 PM #4155
Day #23 done. I am in full-on God mode. I have lost count of how many days I have lifted consecutively. I think it has been either 9 or 10 so far. I heal so quickly now.
I'm not sure if it is the 10g of Creapure I am mixing with my OG Formula Jack3d and Vitamin Water PWO + Intra-workout, or if it's the facts that my diet has also been spot on and I have added in body weight squats until I feel quad tightness at any random time to avoid fapping. I do something like 20 - 100 ATG squats in my room each day.
I murdered my legs today. F**king quads and glutes were hit with so much volume, I could feel the tightness of my muscles squeezing around my knees and lower back. I love this constant and subtle pain. Broads are mirin' hard. Feels great, man. Good night, sweet Misc.
>tfw your heart is beating harder than a white-trash stepfather...
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05-21-2013, 09:19 PM #4156
^ Glutes for the sloots, phuckin' lol
"All I wanna be known as is the greatest, is that too much?"
- BJ Penn
The unfocused mind is the vulnerable mind.
May peace favor your sword.
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05-21-2013, 11:17 PM #4157
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05-21-2013, 11:27 PM #4158
Day 24, I was very, very close to wanting to relapse tonight. It felt like my mind was telling me to go all out on a fapping spree one more time and then I would be good for eternity, but this is not the first time I have heard this voice. The days have not been too bad lately, but today it started getting to me; I need more motivation. If anyone has tips/motivational words I would appreciate it. By the way I want to branch out on the idea of the dopamine, perhaps it might be extreme but I guess if that's what it takes to become the greatest then so be it. Anyway I am looking to cut out television, video gaming (a bit of a problem at times and in the past would lead to fapping after), music...and whatever else involves the same idea. Is anyone else trying to follow a lifestyle similar to this? If so please let me know how it has been/is for you.
As I think about it, it seems that with the presence of no-fap I replace a bad habit with a habit perhaps not as bad but still not beneficial for me, such as watching television or gaming; even when I know it's a waste of time. I must remove all of these time-wasters and poor habits if I am ever going to become great.
I am not much of a social person and even typing this out is unusual for me (I think the first time really that I have been "a part" of a thread) but if you all would like to know more about me just let me know, I think it will help me stay more accountable to the no-fap challenge and to self-improvement as a whole.Last edited by MyAllForGOD; 05-22-2013 at 04:14 PM.
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05-22-2013, 12:04 AM #4159
day 4
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05-22-2013, 01:34 AM #4160
This would be Day 3 for me. Personally I've curbed my porn consumption a long time ago, and I fap maybe once a week, if that. I've hit my 90 day mark years ago. This time I'm doing it to see if it would have any effect on my sexual performance, because I can't cum with condoms on, and it takes waaaay too long for me to cum while fcuking. It's nice that I can go for so long, but at the same time I kinda hate how I can't cum without resorting to jerking it off at the end.
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05-22-2013, 02:33 AM #4161
On day 12 I think. I'll keep it real for any brahs out there who glance at this thread and read my post. I haven't experienced any of the chit these others guys talk about. HOWEVER, I HAVE NEVER BEEN MORE MOTIVATED TO SMASH. I've spent 10 phucking hours the last two days messaging probably over 100 broads on hookup/dating sites. I have like 100 more to go before I've scoured all my small town has to offer. This is just one part of my plan. Will be scouting irl bishes on the weekends as well.
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05-22-2013, 03:07 AM #4162
Day 53. I had a wet dream about a week ago involving me watching porn and rationalised in the dream that it was ‘ok’ by convincing myself I’ll just delete it afterwards. Feltbadman.jpg
I know I’m being tested just as I was before I fell from my last streak of 93 days. I’ve caught myself thinking about random porn scenes that I haven’t seen since last year and realise I just have to push on. Just have to keep focusing on what’s important and that’s self-improvement. Fuark bishes for now.
Staying strong and won’t give in. Need to get a full reboot this time around.
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05-22-2013, 04:50 AM #4163
Day 50 in 2 hours brahs!!
"That's gon' be a hell of a story to tell when we passin' the blunt."
RIP in peace Big Smoke
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05-22-2013, 04:56 AM #4164
I had this exact problem before no fap brah, and I had sex on about day 13 and finished in <2 mins. feltgoodman
This fwb knew it normally takes me a while and a lulzy convo ensued:
Me: Fuuuuck that was fast!
Her: Oh it's ok I don't mind..
Me: *lol* no I'm not sorry, I'm glad. It was ****ing great
Her: oh..."That's gon' be a hell of a story to tell when we passin' the blunt."
RIP in peace Big Smoke
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05-22-2013, 05:54 AM #4165
on day 8. feelsgoodman fuarrrrk
i forgot that i was on nofap in the last 2 days. im studying for my finals, going to college, working out, going out, etc i got no time to fap or even think about it. lol
im definitely gonna make it this time!
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05-22-2013, 06:36 AM #4166
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Highest streak was 34 days. Fapped 4 times in 2 days, then once 4 days after. Felt like chit. Incase anyone is in 2 minds IT IS NOT WORTH IT AND YOU WILL INSTANTLY REGRET FAPPING.............FACT. day 14 today and will try and be an active member in this thread. My own reasons for doing this is to reduce anxiety, increase focus, interact with people more confidently and to not give a fuark. I am addicted and i can admit this but it will not conquer me!
WE ARE ALL BETTER THAN THIS!Modern Manners and Casual Etiquette
If you do what you say you are going to do, you are on your way to becoming a very powerful dude.
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05-22-2013, 06:38 AM #4167
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05-22-2013, 07:11 AM #4168
Day 32. last night saw my (maybe) first sex dream ever. i smashed 10/10 but in that dream, my dck was saggy for some reason lol.
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05-22-2013, 07:35 AM #4169
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Day 22
Wife has given it up 4 times and got a killer hummer last night.
I am not even trying, she is just attacking me.
Can't believe the difference in my life.**Viking Crew**
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05-22-2013, 08:38 AM #4170
day 77 no PMOE no speed
this is going to be a long post but i would appreciate feedback so if you have the time give it a read and tell me what you think
had a pretty ****ed up weekend
trying to think of a good way to word this...
got three numbers from 3 different girls last week, one of them called me back and suggested we hang out at her place...i got there she was wearing nothing but panties and a t-shirt, she wasn't bad either at least a 7...we talked for a couple hours...she was texting another girl i had banged and that girl told her not to sleep with me haha... i asked her to ask the girl why not and she said "because he will sleep with anything" then i find out this other girl i slept with has an std...nice...even before that she told me i looked like a man whore...she was asking me all kinds of questions like if i ever had a 3 some, how man girls i slept with, if i had a car or what, she took me into her bedroom to show me her and her room mates beds and asked which one was hers i guessed right and she seemed mad or something...for most of the time we were sitting on her couch talking and i would have my arm around her or on her leg or something...i told her about my history with drugs and she asked me about my relationship with my mom and told me i should go visit my grandmother who happens to be in a home where she works...and the night ended with her texting some guy to come pick her up from her place and i walked home at 3:00am a very pissed off man.
i got like 2 hours sleep that night and woke up the next morning strangely full of energy and feeling motivated/angry, i did a bunch of sprints and jogged like 6 km, then that night i crashed and slept for like 16 hrs
maybe its the hangover from that or something else but i feel pretty ****ty right now
the 2 other girls were high school girls that go to the same school as me, i met them on a bench outside my classroom (i do machining at a voc ed center thats connected to the high school) and one of them said hi to me so i started talking to her and her friend, one of them asked me to flex and wanted to feel my arms so i let her and they got all giggly the way high school girls do...i got both their numbers but nothing has come of that so far...i added them both on ******** but have since gotten rid of ******** cuz its bull****...i might call one of them but i dunno
anyway thats just a few things that have happened to me in the last couple weeks, there's plenty more but not really worth writing about
some other points or things i've noticed
-HOCD pretty bad right now, maybe because my luck with women has been so bad lately...
-skin and physique are quite a bit better
-get along with guys really well but horrible with women, they dont mind looking at me but as soon as i open my mouth its game over
-got rid of all supps, been on paxil 20 mg/day for 2 months, trying to stop ****** down to 7.5 mg/day which is less than i was taking this time last year and is a pretty small dose
-trying to stop chewing tobacco and drinking
-diet pretty good, training is going well
-school is coming along
-things are still **** with my family
-mood is very volatile, one day good the next crap
-morning wood every day but no wet dreams
so i dunno, hoping this works, i'm 2 weeks from finishing the 90 day challenge, i can feel changes but i was hoping for more at this point.
regardless i will not be stoping at 90 days, i'm never fapping or watching porn again
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