GF of 7 1/2 years just ended it with me

[banemayne]

Interesting read, misc is full of experts. I have taken much life advice from here.

[Ama311518]

Morning everyone,

Over the last week or so, my girlfriend (now ex) has been distancing herself from me. We have been together for 7 and a half years, and within the last 2 years everything was perfect. Our relationship was going from strength to strength and I was ready to propose to her as I wanted a life with her.

Then last Friday she sent me a text saying she thinks she has outgrown me and doesn't love me any more. I was kind of shell-shocked, as I had absolutely no idea what to say to her. To cut a long story short, she told me after 7 years that she no longer loves me and that she has grown apart from me.

As I said, our relationship was great, and I really felt she was the girl I wanted to spend my life with. My family absolutely loved her, her family loved me, she was faithful to me and I was to her.

After a few more texts, she told she it was unfair of her to do this to me and drag me along while "thinking" about whether she wanted to continue on with me, so she broke it off with me. She said the usual "i really care for you, and i don't want to hurt you etc". She's good friends with my best-mates gf, and my mates gf has been talking to me saying that my ex is really sad and upset and bla bla bla.

This happened Friday just gone, and it's starting to sink in that we are actually broken up. What makes it worse, I am house-sitting my brothers place while he is in New York for 3weeks, so I'm lonely.

It's the first time for me being single in a long farkin time - what do you guys suggest? I'm at work at the moment, just went to subway for lunch and got the number of the brunette bird who served me. I know a lot of you guys will say to go out and just root, and I will (considering I have my brothers house for 3 weeks), but how can I try and overcome the feeling of loneliness as quick as possible.

I have absolutely no intentions of getting back with my ex. As much as I miss her right now and still think about her, I do not want to get back together with her.

Any suggestions?

Funnily enough, after 7 years, I am still head over heels in love with her and care about her immensely....

What do brahs?

Lift heavy ass weight and rail big booty bitches? haha it sucks breaking up after such a long relationship im sure, just do all the things you couldn't do when you were with her. Sorry that happened to you man, try to make the best of it!

[All-Star11]

Shoulda put a ring on it

[lolbits]

Do you think that maybe she is afraid of commiting? Maybe she wasnt ready for the "big" next step. But again, 7 years of being together is a long long time. I believe that she texting you instead of meeting you upfront could be a sign of shame. Maybe she feels like being "stupid" breaking off after so many years. Peer pressure maybe? You said her family, your family etc were happy, but that doesnt mean she is.
Good thing you didnt put a ring on it. If she just broke it off without any reason what so ever, she shows signs of immaturity and no responsebility. How would it have been if you had been married?
srs respons guys...

[Rockman]

You got monkey branched son. It happens to the best of us.

All I can say is no contact. Do not reply to any bait texts she throws out there. It will be hilarious to you when she comes crawling back. However, realize that when she comes crawling back that she still does not want you. She just wants to confirm you are beta and would still take her back. When you don't respond, it will be the first time she feels pain from the break up.

[Syfon]

fuk man, sorry to hear this. I'm going through the same thing and it's fuking tough.

I just found out on Tuesday that my ex is already seeing someone else. It's unbelievable. So fuking depressed

Sorry to hear that bro. I'm sure my ex will be seeing someone in no time as well

[AMERICAN_BEAST]

Sorry to hear man

With that said time heals everything. I know everyonr says it but its true

It has been 1 1/2 years since I broke up with my ex and now it is not a single **** is given. You will start to feel better everyday. Cut contact and move on

[Syfon]

Sorry to hear man

With that said time heals everything. I know everyonr says it but its true

It has been 1 1/2 years since I broke up with my ex and now it is not a single **** is given. You will start to feel better everyday. Cut contact and move on

Yeah, I know it will get better with time!

Speaking of that, she texted me late last night saying "Hey, how are you doing? I would like to meet and chat sometime soon. Thinking of you XX"

I didn't respond....was soo hard not to respond, but I didn't.

[Mr Beer]

I didn't respond....was soo hard not to respond, but I didn't.

Well done. It will be easier next time. Stay strong.

[trwilli24]

Sorry to hear that bro. I'm sure my ex will be seeing someone in no time as well

She already is Brah, girls don't leave relationships unless they have another guy to fall back on. Don't worry tho, she'll come crawling back when she realizes the grass isn't greener on the other side. Happens all the time

[NYY]

Yeah, I know it will get better with time!

Speaking of that, she texted me late last night saying "Hey, how are you doing? I would like to meet and chat sometime soon. Thinking of you XX"

I didn't respond....was soo hard not to respond, but I didn't.

Talk about trying to have your cake and eat it too.

[Danny1990Sco]

Yeah, I know it will get better with time!

Speaking of that, she texted me late last night saying "Hey, how are you doing? I would like to meet and chat sometime soon. Thinking of you XX"

I didn't respond....was soo hard not to respond, but I didn't.

Repped keep at it bro it will make it easier so much faster.

[shoelaces]

7.5 years is more than half of marriages last.

[Syfon]

Morning all.

Have been lifting solid since last Thursday night. Feeling good. Crank some music and just get in the zone to lift. Don't even think of my ex when I'm lifting.

Feels like it is getting easier as the days go past brahs.

[bassprocamaro97]

Sorry to here it bro. Same exact thing happened to me 3 years ago (also just found out she's engaged to the dude who took my place, so many feels).

Only thing I can tell you is I wish I would have gone no contact right away but I didn't. I learned from that mistake.

Some of the best things in my life have come since the break and I know they wouldn't have happened had she still been in the picture. Count your blessings, stay strong and start pushing for your goals.

Also, stay away from the booze. It doesn't help. I know first hand.

Best of luck,

[LittleBigMike28]

Fart on her hair

[Al Shades]

ITT: TONS of emotional mangina's. Pathetic.

Some of the best things in my life have come since the break and I know they wouldn't have happened had she still been in the picture.

Oh yeah, like what? 3 somes and ass to mouth, one would hope.,

[IFART]

The part that bother me is the way she said she has outgrown you. I would burn a bish for that. She definitely seeing someone else. Find another chick start banging, you will get over her fast.

[yankee05]

Being that it was such a long relationship the only thing I could recommend is that you focus on you and let all the negative emotion slowly leave your system before you take the nesscary steps. Females check out months in advance leavin you with the burden of trying to move on. No contact.

[heretomorrow]

Dumped via text after 7 years. fuark.

[Al Shades]

Dumped via text after 7 years. fuark.

Anyone who gets into an LTR while younger than 25 is a fool who deserves to be dumped as bad as OP. And statistics show it is likely that this will be the case.

[bassprocamaro97]

ITT: TONS of emotional mangina's. Pathetic.



Oh yeah, like what? 3 somes and ass to mouth, one would hope.,

There's more to life than sex dude. If that's how you measure success then I pity you.

I was speaking of finacial, physical and social improvements that had been suffering.

[Al Shades]

There's more to life than sex dude. If that's how you measure success then I pity you.

I was speaking of finacial, physical and social improvements that had been suffering.

Yeah, you're right. There's also makin' money, acquiring toys and gettin' aesthetic. Oh, and conquering/destroying your enemies. That's it. What else am I missing?

I love all these fools who get into LTRs or even marriages at an early age and then when it predictably falls apart a few years later, they're all like "Why me oh whyyyy whyyyy me". People never learn. Everyone thinks they're the exception 'till they find out they're not. OP could have come on here at any time during the past 7 years to read the threads made by all the other young idjits who got married/dated too soon and paid the price for it with "painful" breakups. Still, they never learn. Next month there will be a new batch of idjits singing the same old sob stories. It's like a factory assembly line churnin' out mangina's.

But lettuce be srs, anyone who says things like "there's more to life than sex" is probably a guy who has never done ass to mouth or anal with a young, hot-bodied girl weighing under 125 lbs. Because if you got that once you'd spend all of your time trying to get more. And if you got it on a regular basis, as male pornstars do, sex would be your entire life and you'd love it.

[Al Shades]

Once upon a time, I was in an LTR...

Then I did ass-to-mouth, and quit that **** immediately!

Mmm, ain't nothin' like AssTeenMouth (google it!).

[bassprocamaro97]

Once upon a time, I was in an LTR...

Then I did ass-to-mouth, and quit that **** immediately!

Mmm, ain't nothin' like AssTeenMouth (google it!).

Haha I love this place

[Terv]

I kinda get it though, since im a forever alone ill use WoW as an example, I spent so many years playin it and loved it and deep down I still do noamsaiyan but theirs just nothing in it right now that keeps me playing, my interest etc... have completely vanished, and as much as I wish I could keep on playing it and feel about it as I did before I simply dont and its not up to me.

[trwilli24]

Any updates OP?

[Syfon]

Any updates OP?

Not a whole lot. Pretty down right now - sitting at my work desk trying to keep a clear mind and focus on my work, but I can't help but think about her

She actually just texted me saying, "I still want to meet up and talk with you as I want to be friends. I am not seeing or involved with any other guys, and I'm simply not interested at this stage. You just need to understand we are 100% over and not getting back together."

I am yet to respond.

Thanks guys for being supportive, it is helping me through this fuked up time.

[JungleJenetics]

Not a whole lot. Pretty down right now - sitting at my work desk trying to keep a clear mind and focus on my work, but I can't help but think about her

She actually just texted me saying, "I still want to meet up and talk with you as I want to be friends. I am not seeing or involved with any other guys, and I'm simply not interested at this stage. You just need to understand we are 100% over and not getting back together."

I am yet to respond.

Thanks guys for being supportive, it is helping me through this fuked up time.

Dont you fuking give into her bro

[Mr Beer]

Not a whole lot. Pretty down right now - sitting at my work desk trying to keep a clear mind and focus on my work, but I can't help but think about her

She actually just texted me saying, "I still want to meet up and talk with you as I want to be friends. I am not seeing or involved with any other guys, and I'm simply not interested at this stage. You just need to understand we are 100% over and not getting back together."

I am yet to respond.

There is absolutely no reason to respond or meet with her. All she wants you is for you to make her feel better, which is some bull**** because you're the one who's having to deal with this situation. Given how she's 'outgrown you' and couldn't be bothered to even phone you to dump you after 7 years, she's got some phucking nerve trying to organise a meet now. IGNORE!

EDIT

She's got every right to decide she's basically better than you and tell you to get lost, what she doesn't have the right to do is jerk you around like some kind of puppet. Unless of course you feel like dancing to her tune, then it's on you.